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Well being is what everyone strives for....no matter where you're from, what language you speak, man or woman, young or old. Well being can be something to someone and something entirely different to somebody else. Well being allows you to look beyond the petty and inconsequential in order to finally find gratitude for all things that surround you. Everyday is a new opportunity to create your own state of well being.
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  1. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    06/05/2017
    Some of my story I shared with an on-line magazine
    Leckey Harrison
    Public Life, Private Pain - Leckey Harrison | At the Ready Magazine - A Magazine for First Responders
    www.atthereadymag.com Calls involving kids are the hardest. The one that brought me to my knees involved the death of Zippy, a nine-year-old girl I knew, on Christmas Day in 2011. I’d been a firefighter and EMT for 11 years and had been to many accident scenes like hers....
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  2. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    02/05/2017
    Not quite what I experienced. We were often the ones that put them in an ambulance for delivery to the hospital.

    I love the juxtaposition. I can feel it to this day. It is why sleep was so hard to come by.
    Leckey Harrison
    A Trauma Nurse Reflects On 'Compassion Fatigue'
    www.npr.org Years of treating grievously injured people starts to wear on a person, a trauma nurse in Minneapolis says. She explores "compassion fatigue" in a semi-autobiographical...
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  3. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    01/05/2017
    New blog post!
    Leckey Harrison
    Ancient brain, modern world
    raiseyourresilience.com We just aren’t fast enough. In terms of evolution, we’re far more like a tortoise—one of those really old ones—than a cheetah. In his book The Perfect Health Diet (pages 5-6), Paul Jannet, PhD, says it would take approximately 200,000 years...
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  4. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    01/05/2017
    A little spot I did for Sheree.
    Leckey Harrison
    Author Sheree Darien
    www.facebook.com Courageous Conversations with Sheree is going LIVE with Special Guest Retired South Whidbey Firefighter/EMT Leckley Harrison and Founder of Raise Your Resilience. Watch and listen as he shares...
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  5. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    28/04/2017
    A couple things we love about TRE:

    1) It's natural. No drugs. No devices. It's built right in to every body.

    2) It's self-healing. It's self-empowering. It is self-discovery.

    Our next workshop on Whidbey Island. It can also be learned via video sessions.
    Leckey Harrison
    Learn natural self-healing for anxiety, stress, and trauma
    www.eventbrite.com Nature provides a powerful resource that enables us to heal our own anxiety, stress, and trauma, but we don't harness it because we don't recognize it. In this workshop, you'll learn to start, stop, and self-regulate a natural healing response that...
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  6. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    25/04/2017
    I was just a volunteer, so the bad stuff wasn't day in day out. I had my share though. Aside from car accidents that killed and maimed people, the host of other carnage calls. My Perfect Storm resulted in the birth of being born, and from that Raise Your Resilience, LLC.

    I was able to cure my PTSD, and now we offer free help to emergency responders where we live. As I've watched since 2013, the numbers of posts about emergency responder and veteran mental health and suicide have increased. That's why we exist.

    If you want to talk about how you can naturally release stress and heal trauma, including secondary trauma (without talking about it), let me know. If you suffer, make the move to get help. I did. Well, that's not true. I broke right on a scene. My choice was to not stuff it. That was my move. I've been helping people save their lives since.
    Leckey Harrison
    Whidbey CareNet
    www.whidbeycarenet.org Helping emergency responders heal body and...
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  7. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    21/04/2017
    Newest post at LinkedIn.
    Leckey Harrison
    Always bring your "A" game
    www.linkedin.com Today I sit here after my krav maga class last night, as usual after a class: still waking up, and sore. It reminds me of my days of being...
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  8. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    16/04/2017
    There is a lot here! I was tracking relative to childhood neglect and trauma: "pain" as Gabor Maté might say it. I look at "numbing" that way, and then the outflow: addiction, medicated (overlap between the two), obese (stress/insulin/inflammation/diet relationship), in debt, and busy. I have lived what she says here: "We keep busy because if we stop we're afraid our lives are going to catch up with us."

    Using TRE I came out of the numbness of freeze and back into myself. Back into that root of joy, and love, back into experiencing incidental disappointment, rather than a lifestyle of it. Incidental anger, sadness, regret. There is great strength in being vulnerable; great freedom.
    The price of invulnerability: Brené Brown at TEDxKC
    The price of invulnerability: Brené Brown at TEDxKC TEDxKC talk synopsis: In our anxious world, we often protect ourselves by closing off parts of our lives that leave us feeling most vulnerable. Yet...
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    Shelley Brown
    16/04/2017 #1 Shelley Brown
    I really loved this ted talk!
  9. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    14/04/2017
    "The quality and stability of a child’s human relationships
    in the early years lay the foundation for a wide
    range of later developmental outcomes that really
    matter – self-confidence and sound mental
    health, motivation to learn, achievement in
    school and later in life, the ability to control aggressive
    impulses and resolve conflicts in nonviolent
    ways, knowing the difference between
    right and wrong, having the capacity to develop
    and sustain casual friendships and intimate relationships,
    and ultimately to be a successful
    parent oneself." -

    What do you suppose the out come is if the quality and stability don't exist?
    Leckey Harrison
    Young Children Develop in an Environment of Relationships
    developingchild.harvard.edu An environment of relationships is crucial for the development of a child’s brain architecture, which lays the foundation for later developmental...
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    Leckey Harrison

    13/04/2017
    "A society that generates pathology."
    Think about that in terms of resistance.
    Gabor Mate – CRAZYWISE Expert Interview
    Gabor Mate – CRAZYWISE Expert Interview Physician Dr. Gabor Mate began his interview by addressing the 'myth of normal' that divides us into the normal and the abnormal with pathological traits....
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  11. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    13/04/2017
    Yea, this has been pretty much silenced. Had he been Muslim? Ironically, he claimed his wife's presence was disarming.

    Beyond all that, is the trauma of this event. They are like ripples on the pond, spreading in circles. I could conservatively estimate that 1000 were directly affected by secondary trauma by this event.

    Hurt people (and hurt doesn't recognize faith), hurt people. It's why I do what I do: teach hurt people how to be healed people.
    Leckey Harrison
    San Bernardino Shooter Was A Christian Pastor
    www.patheos.com The San Bernardino Shooter was an outspoken Christian pastor, but most mainstream media accounts ignore this part of the story because it doesn’t fit the established...
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  12. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    23/03/2017
    To me this means there is a lot of work to be done. Notice the causes primarily: "diseases of despair." I know TRE® is a good tool for this even though we don't market it that way. I'm in that group with the highest death rate. I don't have despair though. I hit my bottom in 2011, didn't learn TRE until fall 2013. I now have purpose, connection, and pleasure. That heart disease that the article mentions? Pin that one on stress. My BP has dropped to within normal ranges and I quit taking the meds for it back in 2014. I found my purpose and connectivity possible because of released trauma. I can live in my own skin (rather nicely, thank you), and my health is improved because I down regulated my nervous system and I'm far more active now. .
    Leckey Harrison
    Death Rates Rise for Wide Swath of White Adults, Study Finds
    www.wsj.com In 2015, two economists published a landmark paper showing that mortality was rising for white middle-aged Americans after decades of decline. Now a new analysis from the same pair paints an even bleaker...
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  13. ProducerLeckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    22/03/2017
    Do not try this on the street
    Do not try this on the streetEver been grabbed suddenly? Experienced a blind side attack? My only experience is in my self-defense class, where we learn to keep our head on a swivel so we can in fact drop the odds of that happening to us. However, I am a white male. At the very...
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    Leckey Harrison
    22/03/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Hi Claire!

    Thanks, and thanks for engaging.

    Unfortunately, it says that for now our world is a dangerous place. My very short answer is this: the world does not yet heal it's trauma effectively, so the world has a lot of hurt people in it. From their childhoods. Hurt people, hurt people, and the cycle continues. I believe that the paradigm shift has begun though, and this sort of readiness is part of that. I could speculate, but that would get into a very long answer....
    Claire L Cardwell
    22/03/2017 #1 Claire L Cardwell
    Leckey - great article. At school we had self defense training. We practiced and practiced until it felt natural. I had first cause to use it about 10 years later. Very effective and it has been ever since. Despite all of this, what does it say about our society when vulnerable people - especially women and girls have to walk down the street on the alert with keys bunched between their fingers?
  14. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    20/03/2017
    My story in short.

    2017/3/6/my-perfect-storm
    Leckey Harrison
    Blog
    raiseyourresilience.com
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    Leckey Harrison

    18/03/2017
    Childhood pain/stress/trauma adaptive behaviors illness later on. TRE® (Tension and trauma releasing exercises) can help. They did for me.
    The Need For Authenticity - Gabor Mate
    The Need For Authenticity - Gabor Mate Original Video Published on scienceandnonduality Youtube Channel. Gabor Maté, When The Body Says No: Mind/Body Unity and the Stress- Disease Connection Non...
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    Leckey Harrison
    20/03/2017 #1 Leckey Harrison
    Posting again with a great synopsis from my friend and colleague in Australia:

    "A great 20 minute talk, outlining how we disconnect from ourselves and our authenticity when young in order to maintain attachment and how this plays out in ill-health and disease later in life . This for me is the real essence of what TRE and our tremor reflex offers us over the long term, the chance to grow more fully connected, embodied and authentic within ourselves. My only addition to this talk would be to emphasize that emotions are literally about movement, not just staying still and allowing in or pushing away but actually moving towards and away. We don't just suppress emotion, we suppress the movement those emotions were fueling and this is why the restoration of our bodies innate neurogenic movement is so beneficial. Thankfully the polyvagal theory, my own personal experience and David Berceli's constant reminder that safety is in the body, underneath our habitual defensive responses helps me to keep tremoring onward and inward."

    I can echo his experience, and the nature of what we teach: the release of TRE that creates the possibility of an embodied fullness.
  16. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    17/03/2017
    A short version of the neurology of how TRE® (the modailty I teach), works.
    TRE: A condensed explanation
    TRE: A condensed explanation This video attempts to explain the hypothetical process of the tremor mechanism in the TRE process. It brings together several complex components into a...
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  17. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    10/03/2017
    There is some interesting aspects brought out early in this video. First, the aspect of movement brought up by Porges. This speaks to the already lost movement of hunter/gatherers that our neural system had for almost 200,000 years. I would say look at these kids. Does this look like a poor school to you? This is the future. Disconnected from themselves in terms of movement and play, and each other because the interaction is with a device. Not to say this is an all day thing. It is however, already manifested in "tech neck." TRE can speak to this by creating the capacity to and restoring the vagal tone that desires face to face connection. It also brings about self-regulation as a way of life, meaning we can gut used to that desire for being outside, being connected, and being able to moderate our activities to meet our own needs.
    Stephen Porges on the Causes of Distorted Social Engagement
    Stephen Porges on the Causes of Distorted Social Engagement In this clip from his Keynote address at the 2016 Networker Symposium, "The Science of Therapeutic Attachment," Stephen Porges explains why the fabric of...
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  18. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    08/03/2017
    An excellent primer. This explains our Krav Maga lesson 6 taught at Armstrong's Taekwondo-Krav Maga. That lesson was on psychological reactions to a violent encounter.

    Notice also that Porges says much of our physical disease is that of the autonomic nervous system, which he touches on at the very end.

    Tremoring corrects a lot of these maladies: it will restore the vagal tone, which in turn restores the "rest and digest" program, which down-regulates the activity above the diaphragm, and up-regulates the the activity below it. It has demonstrated clear effects on those related illnesses.

    I love this stuff!
    Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory: how your body makes the decision
    Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory: how your body makes the decision Im Gespräch mit Dr. Gunther Schmidt erläutert Prof. Stephen Porges, Begründer der polyvagal Theorie, seinen wissenschaftlichen Ansatz. Gemeinsam diskutieren...
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    Leckey Harrison
    08/03/2017 #3 Leckey Harrison
    #1 SYS = SNS
    Leckey Harrison
    08/03/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Very true. If the SYS is on all the time, really the damage done is amazing. The little capillaries at the smallest branches where they branch are damaged, they they scar, and then on the large scale, the blood comes back into your heart slamming into the heart wall that gets thicker, and those little damaged capillaries happen to be the ones that feed the heart muscle itself from the outside and soon enough, they fail, and then it fails. The whole time the person has high blood pressure. Add a crappy diet and.....
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    08/03/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is such a great little talk!

    This fits right in with current research that attributes heart attacks to ANS dysfunction. "a deficiency in the parasympathetic nervous system" If we think about it we are aware of the personality that is prone to having a heart attack - someone in the throes of intense sympathetic responses
  19. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    07/03/2017
    "Trauma is not an external event, it's an internal dynamic - it's what happens inside you as a result of the event. Trauma is the loss of connection to the self - to your body, your emotions, and your essence." - Gabor Maté
    I agree completely. Inside you not meaning inside your brain. It means your body as well. It accumulates, as does chronic stress that becomes traumatizing to the organism, hence, traumatic stress. Trauma can be healed.
    Leckey Harrison
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    Leckey Harrison

    02/03/2017
    It works in Australia, and it works here. This is what I teach, and it is amazingly powerful. It cured my PTSD, and with a little re-patterning, my C-PTSD. That means it released the anxiety, the dissociation, the flashbacks, the hyper-vigilance, the emotional numbness.

    Think of the stress of childhood abuse/neglect, domestic violence, secondary trauma, car accidents war, natural disaster, atrocities, criminal acts. TRE® will help immensely. "no drugs, no hospitals, no positive thinking," and no appointments.
    Leckey Harrison
    Shaking all over - the stress therapy treatment causing tremors
    www.abc.net.au It's a free medical treatment that could revolutionise stress and trauma treatment, and reduce the $7b in annual spending on mental health in Australia. And now one Wollongong GP wants to shake us into thinking about...
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  21. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    27/02/2017
    If trauma or stress are the problem, your body already has the mechanism to release and/or heal it. TRE is a tool you can use to release it, to heal the trauma, and re-organize the body. Stress definitely becomes physical. It indeed, is primarily so.

    https://scienceblog.com/492459/stress-becomes-physical/#a-54db6ca3-b04f-4e9a-b243-35b14c085909
    Leckey Harrison
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  22. ProducerLiesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    Renewed Perception
    Renewed Perception This week I was honored to attend an interesting mindfulness workshop provided by Patrick Poedts. It was a beautiful experience. In every way. Not only because of the gift, expertise and life experience of Patrick to make us feel at ease, and to...
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    Laura Mikolaitis
    08/03/2017 #40 Laura Mikolaitis
    Great blog, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. Thank you for sharing your experience and for drawing me into mindfulness. I don't believe it is a coincidence that I am reading this today after having mindfulness mentioned to me in the past 24 hours after publishing a poem that I wrote. Your post gave me pause to reflect on how and where my best mindfulness occurs. It's usually on my evening workout where I traverse the terrain for about 2 miles. The fresh air is rejuvenating and freeing simultaneously. It enables me to decompress, destress and find a bit of balance. I definitely notice the difference when it is absent from my routine as my mind is more cluttered and my thoughts more anxious. But I also find my zen in writing and in the uninhibited laughter I experience with my friends and family. I get wanting to "empty" your brain. There have been nights where my mind doesn't turn off and it does cause restlessness. That's when I am slowly learning to pick up a book, read, and relax. It seems to be working and I need to practice it more. Thank you for sharing this and for opening your thoughts to us.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    28/02/2017 #39 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #38 thank you @Javier 🐝 beBee, my pleasure! Have a great beBee day!
    Javier 🐝 beBee
    27/02/2017 #38 Javier 🐝 beBee
    @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc., thanks so much for sharing your positive experience ! Your buzzes are always much appreciated !
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    26/02/2017 #37 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #36 thank you @Sara Jacobovici I appreciate you. What a beautiful comment, thank you.
    Sara Jacobovici
    25/02/2017 #36 Sara Jacobovici
    Thank you @Ken Boddie for bringing @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc. buzz to my attention. I appreciate your writing about your experience Liesbeth and most importantly, about your insight into your learning: "This week I learned how each human being has a story to tell. A touching story that can be so different from what we would expect at first glance." A true call to action to be mindful and open to each individual being as unique as their story, one that we need to wait to hear first, before we make up our own about them.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/02/2017 #35 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #27 @David B. Grinberg, thank you for your comments and question. Belgium is my home country, it is a great place with wonderful regions and people, good points and less attractive ones, as everywhere. What currently keeps me here, is my close family. On the other hand as I spend 9 years abroad a part of me would love to continue my career in an English speaking environment. The future is in the making.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/02/2017 #34 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #23 Queen bee @🐝 Fatima G. Williams love your contribution - a beautiful present - thank you.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/02/2017 #33 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #25 @Kevin Baker your comments are always a pleasure to read. Deep and wise. Thank you.
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    25/02/2017 #30 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    #29 helpful comments @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher, we recognise this, it is good to share our experiences and viewpoints.
    Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    25/02/2017 #29 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher
    What a lovely blog @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.. I think it's cool that you were able to attend a seminar on mindfulness. I think for myself, mindfulness comes to me in different forms. Music takes my mind on a journey that is hard to describe, the scents of the woods after the rain, flower gardens, and I can't leave out my photography. Photography takes me away from all of life's stressors and it brings to life different senses when I upload, view and many times edit. As for people, I have to say I really try to keep in mind that everyone has struggles we don't know about. I find it's easier for some to share their struggles and for others- it may be way too painful or they are just that private. I try to remember that say the clerk who is waiting on me in a store and might be cranky towards me really isn't angry with me, maybe someone ahead of me gave her a hard time, maybe she has a sick loved one at home she's worried about and on the list could go. When someone is mean to me (if it's not too crude lol) I honestly try hard to say something nice to them and people would be surprised how many people seem to smile after they realize others do care. It's great to be mindful of others too. Thanks for tagging me @Ken Boddie!
    David B. Grinberg
    25/02/2017 #27 David B. Grinberg
    Another lovely piece of writing, Liesbeth. You know that old saying about not being able to judge a book by its cover. So what's YOUR story? What's it like living in Belgium with all of its international prestige?
    Ken Boddie
    25/02/2017 #26 Ken Boddie
    #9 Your link has the magic words 'Dark Chocolate', @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. Your link is on my Mac reading list for later savouring - yum, yum.
    Kevin Baker
    24/02/2017 #25 Kevin Baker
    Awesome prose. To be in the presence of one who lives in their own skin is the environment to invite others to share it. Listen to your skin, it talks all day.
    🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    24/02/2017 #24 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    #14 @Preston 🐝 Vander Ven Thank you for the tips on biblical mediation. A must try for me.
    🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    24/02/2017 #23 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
    Let's take off and renew our perception. What a lovely buzz @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    The experiences you share are very interesting. Awakening our senses to connect with our thoughts is an art everyone needs to master. When our senses are fully awake ! Perception renewed!
    Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    24/02/2017 #22 Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc.
    @Praveen Raj Gullepalli, that is very insightful, very well elaborated, thank you!
    Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    24/02/2017 #21 Praveen Raj Gullepalli
    @Ken Boddie thanks for the tag. Now I need to get a cat outta the bag;) I have had my share of silence, i must now exercise some poetic licence;)

    Allow me a few words on awareness and mindfulness. Awareness is the door, for perception to receive its guests - the sensations, courtesy the senses. Meditation is the stilling of the senses - in a neutral, quiet environment, that automatically clears the mind of its thoughts. You are then aware of only being aware. An emptied / empty mind is a great medium, primed for the highest perception the moment our senses are deployed through acts of intense concentration. Concentration is often done to visualise something when it is not accompanied by physical action. When you visualise with the greatest of clarity and detail, you create. You enable the thought to become a thing. You materialise that into your life in just a matter of some time. But then again, going back, Awareness is always the first condition. The more aware / mindful you are, the higher the quality of meditation or concentration, and the greater the success. ;)
    Darko Lugonja
    24/02/2017 #20 Darko Lugonja
    Instead od se need it should be we need. Next time my attention will be faster than fingers :-)
    Darko Lugonja
    24/02/2017 #19 Darko Lugonja
    Sorry for Croatian spell check. Similar experiences, not simulator. ☺
  23. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    19/02/2017
    I proudly call this woman my trainer. In this video shot in LA, she discusses some tools to help down regulate the fight/flight/freeze energy. If you're interested in learning TRE, contact me.
    HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR IN THE ERA OF DT, With Certified TRE Practitioner Nkem Ndefo
    HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR IN THE ERA OF DT, With Certified TRE Practitioner Nkem Ndefo Beyond being a socio-political issue, the massive deportation and violence against immigrants are a very serious health issue with profound negative...
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    Leckey Harrison
    19/02/2017 #2 Leckey Harrison
    #1 Thanks, Deb. We discuss this in our workshops a lot because a lot of people live in a freeze state. Coming out of it can be dicey.
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    19/02/2017 #1 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    This is a great share, @Leckey Harrison

    A very succinct talk that brings up the oft forgotten Freeze option that is part of the Fight/Flight/Freeze paradigm.

    Our society conditions us to freeze by wanting us to ignore our bodies right from childhood, when we now mediate kids for fidgeting.....

    I love the way she phrased it: "Fitness for Nervous System" which is essentially come down from the mind and get into the body and move it and notice it.

    Our bodies are correct in constantly asking for movement and our rules of 'order' -stay still - are the problem.
  24. ProducerDeb 🐝 Helfrich
    Anger Buddies Does a Body Good
    Anger Buddies Does a Body GoodMy dear buddy Cyndi wilkins has really helped me move forward over the last few weeks because she is very good at using her intuition to guide a conversation into the nooks and crannies that typically get overlooked. We all have periods in life when...
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    Lyon Brave
    19/04/2017 #18 Lyon Brave
    I am not sure. I just started work and am about to start self defense lessons. Can you inbiox me your Skype @Deb 🐝 Helfrich#17
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    16/04/2017 #17 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #16 I think it would benefit you immensely, @Lyon Brave. You do a very fine job of writing through it, but there is another level of healing when you can have an honest conversation to express it all with an eye towards that deep body sigh that signals it is safe to move on to what is next.

    I identify a lot with where you are right now. I recognize myself in my 20s. No one really told me I could design the perfect life I wanted to live. It won't be easy, but you will have more freedom, even if the financial struggles continue, if you excavate your own path. You've got so much raw talent, but the truth of the world right now is that you need to 'package' yourself with a specific, although in no way standard, job title so that the people and companies with money know what you are capable of doing.

    If you wanna skype, DM me. I have a little time over the next two weeks, and then I'll be pretty occupied as I will 'see' your OH to FL relo and raise you with a WA -> MA drive.
    Lyon Brave
    16/04/2017 #16 Lyon Brave
    I really need an anger buddy 😡😡😡😤😤😤😤💩👺👹👿😈👿👹👺💀👻
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    18/02/2017 #14 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #13 You've highlighted the very thin line between anger and danger, @debasish majumder. I think that is why we find it easy to want to ignore these feelings, bury them, and pretend everything is fine. It is incredibly hard to express anger in a constructive way, and yet, learning this skill is pretty crucial for living a contented and meaningful life.

    Knowing the things that draw our ire - the things we will not tolerate - helps us navigate life in a direction that will ultimately bring us to serenity, while ignoring anger is very likely to dump us right into situations that trigger the emotion in ever-escalating cycles.

    Like so many things in life, the way to learn how to deal constructively with anger is to practice and @Cyndi wilkins and I are finding this buddy system to be a fun, fruitful, and sometimes profound way to express feelings, understand life-long patterns, and start to change the way we feel so that we move on, full of hope, curiosity, and delight.
    debasish majumder
    18/02/2017 #13 debasish majumder
    to prefix 'D' to anger i guess, amply clarify the gravity as well demerits of anger @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. yet, anger have positive impact too, as it vent out our suppress emotions, enabling us to understand our constraints and how detrimental our emotions are if we allow them to overrule us. however, lovely insight madam. enjoyed read. thank you for the share.
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/02/2017 #12 Cyndi wilkins
    #9 "Intention" is the mother of creation;-) Thanks for buzzing in with your support @Savvy Raj...
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/02/2017 #11 Cyndi wilkins
    #7 Thank you @David B. Grinberg...After this session I had with Deb, I was the one "buzzing" all over the office! The fire energy created by the playful release of anger really does fuel those "jet packs" that keep us moving;-)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    16/02/2017 #10 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #9 We really appreciate your support, @Savvy Raj
    Savvy Raj
    16/02/2017 #9 Savvy Raj
    A Great idea with a good intention @Deb 🐝 Helfrich and @Cyndi wilkins I wish you success in this endeavour. Sharing on my hive' Life and Living '
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    16/02/2017 #8 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #7 Much obliged, David!
    David B. Grinberg
    16/02/2017 #7 David B. Grinberg
    Hey Deb, this program sounds super awesome. I wish you and @Cyndi wilkins all the best and much success with it! I'm sharing this on three hives. Keep buzzing!
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/02/2017 #6 Cyndi wilkins
    As a manual therapist by training, I am more accustomed to using therapeutic touch to interpret the signals that the physical body communicates to me. In that way I can assist my client in the release of their pain through soft tissue manipulation. This was more of a cerebral experience where I really had to trust my intuition to guide me ...@Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I were both challenged to engage ALL of our senses...particularly sight, sound and body language, in an effort to tap into the "emotion" trying to make its way to the surface. Once we did that, we could have a little "playdate" with it...give it expression in a supportive environment where it can be transformed through the eyes of others as they reflect back to us the lessons to be learned from our collective experiences.
    These "patterns of behavior" are inherent within all of us. As society has taught us to bury our emotions like an unnecessary appendage, it is high time we did a little excavating of those old bones and shed new light on how we express ourselves effectively.
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/02/2017 #5 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #3 I am so happy that you found my comment useful and I am equally happy that my comment triggered your comprehensive and deep response. You are a great human and writer dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/02/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #2 Scrubbing bubble buddies of mood, I like the image, Pascal. It is all about moving forward, rather than getting stuck and lingering in resentment.

    While trying to avoid getting our mouths washed out with soap... :)
    Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    15/02/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich
    #1 Of course, you picked out my favorite sentence, @Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. And added so much more by extending it to the very important concept of SELF-NEGOTIATION. I actually think that is the core of learning to be a happy and well-adjusted human being.

    Self-negotiation is learning about ourselves and how we react and questioning which parts of our actions and habits may be due to factors way beyond something as innocuous as a comment by a stranger that causes us to lash out in ways harmful to our own bodily equilibrium and meant to throw someone else off of their balance, regardless of who else might be inflicted unintended damage.

    That sort of behavior solves nothing, generates nothing but hostility in return and actually becomes an ever increasing cycle since the actual wrong never had a chance to be rationally discussed.

    I think the first step to being able to find the insight in anger is learning how other people process anger in ways that actually allow the emotion to resolve whatever situation first brought the feelings of hostility into focus.
    Pascal Derrien
    15/02/2017 #2 Pascal Derrien
    Anger buddies are like mood soap cleansers :-)
    Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/02/2017 #1 Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich- wonderful buzz. You said it in one line "Being able to express ourselves, and all our emotions, with clarity is part of the dance of negotiation that every human needs to learn to live a joyful, productive, and relatively stress-less life". You bring up to my understanding a hugely important point. We need to negotiate with ourselves as we do with others. Self-negotiation is an idea that strikes me powerfully. Great reading and is worthy of sharing.
  25. Leckey Harrison

    Leckey Harrison

    13/02/2017
    Just saw "Manchester by the Sea." I loved the ending! No spoilers though.

    I will say this. The story revolved around one line. If you're trauma informed at all, you'll see it, and if you've seen the movie as well, the more so.

    "I just can't beat this."

    It's why my colleagues at www.TREWashington.com, www.TRELosAngeles.com, and others across the planet do what we do. It can be beat. Your body has the answer.
    Leckey Harrison
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