- Producer05/12/2016BullyYou know them.They bring you down.They ruin your day.They make the good things bad and the bad things worse.They are awful.I know there is a general sentiment among the older generations that kids today are weak. They can get overwhelmed by...
Comments05/12/2016 #1 Julie Hickman"Bullies are sad people.... because only hurt people hurt people." - Joey Reghitto
I commend you on this powerful message and your appeal to end incessant bullying. By breaking down what really motivates a bully, you help potential victims know who to avoid and how to cope.
- 03/12/2016Good Saturday morning to all! What's on deck today? I'm going to install a window in a windowless door. I see it's Championship Game day in the NCAA? Who's watching? Grab your coffee and let's get it on!
- Producer01/12/2016If You're Stressed at Work, Try A Few of These IdeasStress is a common problem in the modern workplace. It can be harmful to employees and, in turn, the entire business. High levels of stress can lead to poor decision-making, a decrease in accuracy, an increase in staff illness/absence and conflict...
- Producer29/11/2016How do we share happiness?Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. - Buddha... How do we share happiness? I think the first step is to define what happiness is...
- 29/11/2016I did it. It was a LONG 5 minutes of constant defensive and combat techniques non-stop, ended with 2 minutes of attack defenses after 6 months of classes. I am now a Warrior Krav Maga orange belt.
Comments29/11/2016 #1 Leckey HarrisonThis has been so worth it on so many levels. First of course, is learning the self defense. I HEARTILY recommend Warrior Krav for that. Secondly, there is the workout. Later, as this new program grows, my dream is to be adding classes for those who don't think they're in shape, and we will show you how it can be done, I have a video of African women who are all elders and plus size, striking the pads. Third, the personal development: besides the work out, it's the growing friendships, the confidence, the self-esteem, standing taller, having more courage, feeling better, and learning leadership.
- 28/11/2016Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science Says Praise Them Like This. (Most Parents Do the Opposite)www.inc.com Stop praising them for their innate or God-given abilities, and instead focus on their...
- Producer25/11/2016Share With MeOur ability to share with one another is amazing in the modern era . We can communicate instantaneously, anywhere and any time. Yet we are more isolated than ever. We don't share in person, face to face, with eye contact, body language and an...
Comments26/11/2016 #1 Lisa GallagherLove the quote above @Michael D. Davis. This is an important message! Social media and use of our PC's is part of life now but we do need to remember that real life is waiting. It's important to take a step back and focus on what is right there in front of us, those who need us and yes, even pamper ourselves. If we don't do these necessary things, we burn out and are of no good to anyone!
- 24/11/2016Flint, Michigan still doesn't have a clean water system. Standing Rock is still being invaded. We have a President, VP, and minority culture who are all about white male privilege and the oppression it creates.
Today, Thanksgiving Day, I am grateful for the founders who knew far better, and for those who have long fought to achieve the American ideal of "We, the People." I am grateful for those with whom I am shoulder to shoulder to make that happen: be it in healing trauma, calling circles, across both ponds, our 5th Street Commons community, more particularly home D201, and political activism.
- Producer21/11/2016Life Hacks That Promote HappinessThe FasterEFT life hacks to build happiness within your mind and lives, are a combination of some of the most advantageous processes in ancient and modern times. That is why, Robert G. Smith’s work is backed with so many scientifically proven...
- 19/11/2016Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. — William Arthur Ward
I wonder how much our days would change as the result of being grateful?
- Producer12/11/2016Life and Simple Agreements with YourselfWe are what our thoughts have made us; so take care of what you think and say. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far. 1. Don't make assumptions A. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you want. B....
- 08/11/2016There is even a more powerful mechanism to generate relaxation already in the body of every mammal. Combining that with meditation? FAR better than a vacation in terms of long term nervous system health. Would I turn down time away? No. But I'm an adventurer, historian, and learner at heart.Regular meditation more beneficial than vacation - Harvard Health Blogwww.health.harvard.edu A study found that the benefits of meditation and yoga are as significant as the relaxation benefit of taking a vacation, and are more...
- 08/11/201650 Ways to Relax Without Spending a Dimelifehacker.com If you’re on a budget and you’re looking for some great ways to relax and unwind beyond just going for a walk or taking a nap, this graphic has about fifty of them, all of which may take a little time, but never any money. Best of all, it’s...
- 07/11/2016How about a backyard garden office? The owners wanted a backyard office and the shed was renovated into an art studio. - Scott Lewis Landscape Architecture, San Francisico, USA - to read more go to :- http://inhabitat.com/this-lush-green-cube-is-a-dream-artists-studio-hidden-in-a-san-francisco-garden/
Comments07/11/2016 #4 Ken BoddieI just can't stop the geotechnical engineer in me getting in the way of my aesthetic appreciation, Claire. Ivy on walls can be so destructive due to root jacking in existing cracks in the bricks and mortar, and can also damage the fabric of timber, not to mention housing unwanted pesky inspects. As for garden beds close to foundations, the intensive watering required and/or the root suction can cause structural damage, particularly when the house is built on reactive clays prone to seasonal shrink-swell movement. Looks great but looks can deceive. 😟
- Producer05/11/2016Thoughts under a May Full MoonA celebration of life!You are all that you are, a child with a history not of your making. And so you enter the next moment of your life, warts and all – A moment that has never been lived before. For in that moment lies pure potential...
- Producer26/10/20168 ways to improve your well-being at WorkMandy Oaklander is one of my favorite columnists of Time Magazine. Earlier she wrote about resilience and now her latest article on new ways to improve well-being at work is timely and some of the strategies are counter-intuitive.As per this article...
Comments26/10/2016 #1 Robert CormackI was amazed to how counter-productive "open concept" offices really are. After years of working in individual offices, meaning having some privacy to think along with the ability to visit other offices, the "open concept" seemed like a barrage of talking and general noise. I don't know who posited the idea that "open concept" meant greater integration. Maybe it works in the IT industry (I think it started in the San Fernando Valley), but it's anathema to working and thinking, as far as I'm concerned. You need to concentrate to do good work, and I saw nothing even approaching "thinking" in "open concept" environments. It doesn't encourage consensus, more it just creates chatter.
- Producer20/10/2016LoveEverybody, please Listen, for I have had an Insight today. We are seriously endangering ourselves and each other, because in our dogged pursuit of the modern Mundane life, we are forgetting to freely express and feel Love, and it is an...
Comments24/10/2016 #30 Harvey Lloyd"Acts" of love defines love as a verb. Society and the media have transcended this definition to a noun or feeling, @Gary Sharpe. Love seems to be reserved for the carnal act or for those who are within our closest group. Hate is not necessarily what we experience. The word is a catch all phrase that seems to sum the differences in culture or individual. Our true nemesis is right and wrong. Not necessarily in the altruistic sense of values but the belief that being right is measured by how you are wrong. The current USA political debates show this concept at its full potential.
Love in its original form was the strength of interdependence. In that context i would have you succeed through acts of love. Society has been hoodwinked by media, not maliciously but by seeking profits, into a new world of right and wrong. They ask us to chose a side. I chose neither, but rather seek understanding of where i am going, not right and wrong.23/10/2016 #28 Mohammed A. Jawad@Gary Sharpe Reading your post, I recall one of my poems, which is below:
Ah, how dead-hearted is this mankind!
that practices blindly the unfaithful slumbers,
makes no amendment for the veritable truth
and deeply lives to the fashions of the world.
Even for the true necessities of life—
why no soul repents or plead for grace?
Neither there's humble pleading by confessions
nor the marks of tears for realization.21/10/2016 #24 Jared Wiese 🐝#2 Sorry, Gary, I had this wrong.
The more complete quote is “Gratitude is the antidote to the two things that stop us: fear and anger. Fear is why we don’t take action and anger is why we get stuck. You can’t be grateful and angry simultaneously. You can’t be fearful and be grateful simultaneously. So it’s really the reset button.”
See http://philosiblog.com/2013/03/08/gratitude-is-the-antidote-to-the-two-things-that-stop-us-fear-and-anger/21/10/2016 #17 Deb LangeThe group began to say, oh once , last year when ..., , on holidays I ..,,
We all stopped and listened to what we just heard. It was so normal to feel stressed, anxious, fearful and protective, that most people rarely felt the peace and joy from a loving state. It is like the state of grace and love is less common than the state of fear and anxiety. Everyone agreed they would be more intentionally create a state of love and grace in their lives daily.21/10/2016 #16 Deb LangeI absolutely agree with you. I remember asking a group to share what it felt like when they were stressed and anxious. We uncovered a lot! Then I asked to share what it felt like when we had the experience of the opposite of what we had just talked about. We had beautiful stories of feeling at peace, ease, kindness, freedom and love. I asked everyone to name the second set of experiences. They came up with a state of grace.
I then asked, how often do you experience the second kind of behaviours. well we were all very surprised!!!20/10/2016 #13 Praveen Raj GullepalliBlessed you are Gary...and connected by Love to all those who believe in it! Many a belief system has love at its core...and the entire human predicament can be resolved if we but believe in one thing, as spoken by Christ and various others, that God is Love. And believe in Love... not in the confusing many Gods or other things that can be bought. But the moment you start living Love, the giving will never stop, until all trappings and possessions are lost. But then again, what goes around comes around! With you, in Love! Let your life be an example!20/10/2016 #11 debasish majumderlovely insightful post sir Gary Sharpe. enjoyed read. thank you very much for sharing the post. only today, i posted a short story, tried to amplify the potentials of love and devoid of which, focusing for mundane gains can only lead to disaster. Great share indeed sir!20/10/2016 #9 Robert CormackGood piece, Gary. Nicely expressed and absolutely true. Our "hate" state or "fear" state is responsible for more illness than anything else. When studies are done showing great sickness in lower societies, they blame it on diet, they blame it on people not taking care of themselves. This is essentially nonsense. Lower classes constantly live with the continuous fear of losing what little they have. This causes "stress" state with resulting illness.
- Producer13/10/2016Thursday Thoughts: "We Have Our Hats"Growing up in a family that owned and ran a few small women's clothing stores in the 1950s and '60s, I often wondered why I didn't like shopping too much. I didn't mind it -- nice clothes were and are fun to have -- but I never embraced the "we're...
Comments14/10/2016 #13 Susan Rooks#12 I think many of us are becoming stores' worst nightmares, @Deb Helfrich! We buy much less than we did because of many of the things you wrote about. And for me, in my tiny house, luckily there's NO place to put anything. If I want something new, something old has to go. And I really do love the things I chose to surround myself with here.
Thanks for all your continued support. It means a lot to me.13/10/2016 #12 Deb HelfrichI bought my green pork pie hat around 1988. Cannot say any other hat has ever caught my eye. But living in a place with a view - that's what I collect. I do find myself feeling rather more attached to stuff, I bought my le crueset collection five years ago from amazon and I love the fennel color so much - it makes me happy to think they will be with me until I have a reason to give them away. In some respects, I cherish what I already have, because the world is becoming so much more disposable. Almost everything I have to replace is a shoddier version than the prior one - appliances certainly, but so many things. And the horrific smell that comes with new stuff. I just bought two duffel bags for travel and I had to leave them outside for weeks to air out and ditto for clothes - I have to wash them many times before I can wear them.
Thanks for such an interesting post, @Susan Rooks - it seems many of us are rejecting the overwhelming pressure to keep purchasing, so that we can live according to our own preferences.13/10/2016 #11 Susan Rooks#9 Thanks, Aaron Skogen! I'm glad you and others can relate. And I had a set of cookware much like yours, but it was heavy and many years ago I gave it away. Sigh. You can't know what don't know until you do.
Yes, the view is amazing and so far, after four years (only two as a full-time resident) it hasn't gotten old. I hope it never does! This village was started in the '30s by a woman who owned all 27 acres right on the bay (just think of that!), and she allowed friends to pitch tents when they had nowhere to live. Those tents morphed into rudimentary cabins (no heat or running water), and those cabins morphed into nice cottages, almost none of them more than about 700 s.f.
I meant this to be a summer place, but I fell in love with the location and decided that I couldn't afford two places anyway, so I might as well make a leap of faith and just live here. Sure glad I did! And good for you and your family to figure some of this out while you're young -- the forties are young, at least from my vantage point -- and focus on what's really important.13/10/2016 #10 John RylanceHaving spent a great deal of time over the last few years clearing out the homes of departed relatives. One involved over 30 trips to the dump, plus hiring a firm to clear larger items. Our sons have made us promise to declutter before we "depart" They've even agreed to help. As if we haven't enough to do enjoying our retirement, as T S Eliot said " measuring out our lives in coffee spoons."13/10/2016 #9 Aaron SkogenThe view is amazing Susan. I'm young, fourties, and we are a family of 5 living in a small home by today's standards. Our foundation is about 650 sq ft, but we do have a second story. We brush elbows in the hallway upstairs. Our view is a little like yours, except were on a lake here in Minnesota. I don't shop, I do however simply walk in to a store, grab a pair of jeans (usually after my bride says I cant wear the existing pair in public anymore), pay and walk out. There is no browsing for me. . . Heck, we have a full set of Le Creuset cookware that my Brides parents purchased in France back in the late 60's, they are brown with wooden handles and still used daily. There is something about that cookware, and there is just something comforting in simplicity. . . Nice post!13/10/2016 #8 Susan Rooks#5 I think for many of us it is about getting older and seeing what has given us pleasure all these years, Franci! Who needs to worry about stuff? The things I brought from my 2,500 s.f. house to my interim 1500 s.f. condo to here are the things that I love living with. Yeah, a couple/three things are in the basement because I can't quite decide to let them go . . . but all in all, simple works just fine! Good to know you and your husband are seeing this, too.13/10/2016 #5 Franci Eugenia HoffmanI am no longer a mall person. I am not a shopper for the sake of shopping, only if I have the intent to buy. I buy clothes, etc. online from various retailers and Amazon. My husband and I have condensed our "stuff" quite a bit. IMO, the simpler the better. Perhaps, it is a part of getting older? Your cottage is beautiful.13/10/2016 #4 Susan Rooks#3 Hah, Ken Boddie! Many of my friends are still amused at my reluctance to go to the mall unless I need something. I will admit, though, that a good furniture and/or decorating store will catch my attention, but there aren't that many around.
My new best friend here in the village loves Walmart all out of proportion to what it is, and she and I laugh at her excitement every time she goes there! And she spends an hour or more, just going up and down the ailes to see what she can buy. I just don't get it, but she is a lovely woman anyway.13/10/2016 #3 Ken BoddieI'm delighted to know, Susan, that you are "less than excited" at the prospect of shopping. My wife and daughter are both so enthused by the prospect of a trip to the mall, that I had assumed all womenfolk are indeed born with the shopping gene. There are only two things I enjoy at the mall and that's a good coffee and ..... oh yes ..... a good coffee!
- 12/10/2016The Japanese practice of ‘forest bathing’ is scientifically proven to improve your healthqz.com There’s a chemical trees release that actually improves your immune...
- 11/10/2016This is what we are taught in krav maga. Our saying is, "Lay an unsolicited hand on me, and your first lesson is free." This would just be the beginning....
- Producer09/10/2016Middle AgeI am either having a mid-life crisis or just one of my usual nervous breakdowns or maybe both. It’s been really ugly. I’ve been really ugly. I know the usual nervous breakdown part started with the holidays but the middle-aged crisis started...
Comments15/10/2016 #15 Shelley Brown@Lisa Gallagher Thanks so much for your lovely sentiments. It's funny, I remind myself the same thing. I bought myself a dozen roses the other day. Miss connecting regularly but sucked up by the corporate vortex. Hope you are well. I have never met you and I know you are beautiful because of your spirit.13/10/2016 #14 Lisa Gallagher@Shelley Brown, you are lovely both on the inside and out. I think women really tend to be hard on themselves. I'm sort of going through something similar right now, so I can relate. I keep trying to remind myself that I do not choose friends etc... based on their looks. I'm attracted to others based on how they treat others. I'm attracted to others who accept me for who I am. I think it's good to remind ourselves to accept who we are and where we are in life. Even give ourselves a big high five once in a while!!11/10/2016 #11 Laura Mikolaitis@Shelley Brown, you are beautiful both on the inside and out. It radiated when we first spoke so many months ago and it shines in your writing. Embracing our naked self is challenging, as we've discussed in posts before and we can often get sidelined and side tracked. I struggle with it myself - letting my outside guide my inside. But we are more than what meets the eye - underneath we are strong, intelligent, vulnerable, and caring human beings. We are flawed, but who isn't? I so, so love this post and I love that you've let your vulnerability shine through. You are an amazing person, Shelley and I am glad that we crossed paths. Here's to embracing all that we are!10/10/2016 #8 Praveen Raj GullepalliA beautiful confession! I think the word ACCEPTANCE too belonged in that list at the end ;) Most of us, if not all, would eventually have to look in the mirror and perceive not just one's imagined reflection, but reality - pleasant or not. I think it is the hardest to accepts oneself as we are...as we have been made...and it might take years or even lifetimes! For the real life begins then. When you learn to work within the limitations and strive to overcome them and use the situation to the best advantage. LOL yeah, Madonna sure gave some a boner...but it was a goner for me when i read somewhere (mind you, no way for me to validate!) that when she got started she had noticeable B.O. and B.B. ...underarm hair suspect in the former issue. Still love her heartshaped face...and some of those old numbers...all this reminds me of another contemporary of hers - Cyndi Lauper with her squeaky cuteness fun overload...Time after time...Thanks Shelley Brown, for reminding me of the dark moments in my life that I outgrew only after accepting that though it is inspiring to dream, it is healthy to accept reality.10/10/2016 #7 Chas Wyatt@Shelley Brown, it is all relative. I remember when "Like a Virgin" came on the radio waves, because someone I worked with was enthralled with Madonna, and at the time it made me wince. But, my co-worker thought Marilyn Monroe was still alive and couldn't understand why she dressed like she was living in the 50's- go figure. I couldn't help it; I had to pop her bubble. I eclipsed "middle-age" a long time ago, although I may look a good ten to 15 years younger than most of the people I meet around my age; I still have long dark hair, well, there's some smoke on top of the chimney, but, I certainly don't expect to live to 120 and my body is starting to tell me that I'm not as young as I think I am. Madonna may be one thing, but, how's this?- Gwen Stefani just turned 47. "Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul." ~Samuel Ullman.09/10/2016 #1 Deb HelfrichPerhaps gratitude comes in smelling for rabbits.....inhabiting primal urges can put aside all the layers of accumulated thought. Unfortunately, the honest truth is you will forget to revel in a sunset, but our big brains are there to help us remember to turn them off of societal-based thinking as often as we can remember.
I just saw a video of two vocal geniuses, wearing every bit of the ravages of age they had experienced, throwdown simply for the joy of still being alive.... the year he died - Rick James and Teena Marie. I am moved precisely because of how unpolished the whole proceeding is. Nothing to judge here, just something to experience.
- Producer07/10/2016A Bee Social Moment - Your Happy!Quest for HappinessSometimes, perspective can be the beginning and end of what holds us back from being happy!One Sunday evening, going for a cup of coffee, and minding my own business, and I heard.. Girl Crush by Little Big Town on the radio. Well...
Comments07/10/2016 #16 David B. GrinbergThanks as always, DL, for sharing more words of wisdom and inspiration. I think an important factor contributing to one's happiness, among other factors, is maintaining a positive mindset, counting one's blessings, and trying to see the proverbial glass as half full rather than half empty. I've shared this in the hives, "Inspiration" and "Bee Inspired" and "Leadership". By the way, I assume/hope you made out okay per Hurricane Matthew as it passed over the Caribbean?
- Producer05/10/2016The Power of Believing in YourselfImagine that you have an imaginary friend (maybe you already do!). Let's call this friend "B". What would happen if B continually told you that you're not valuable, that you can't do something or don't have the capacities to achieve your dreams?...
Comments05/10/2016 #4 Renée CormierI always tell people (and myself, sometimes) to change the talk in your head. I agree with you completely. Much of what holds us back in any situation will depend on how we choose to frame things in our own minds. Being your own cheerleader is very important, but I think everyone also needs an external cheerleader in life in order to combat feelings of self-doubt. I am glad you are inclined to encourage others. People who put up emotional road blocks for others are a dime a dozen.05/10/2016 #3 Julie Hickman"Like any good friend, we want him to stop us, slap us in the face and tell us that it’s ok to fall and fail, and that if we do, we will stand up again and continue the journey." - @Enrique Rubio View more"Like any good friend, we want him to stop us, slap us in the face and tell us that it’s ok to fall and fail, and that if we do, we will stand up again and continue the journey." - @Enrique Rubio
We all need to be mindful of what our inner monologue is telling us at any given moment. Wonderfully crafted story with a very important lesson. Close05/10/2016 #2 Tausif MundrawalaBelieving in ourselves is the first step towards success. Well there is lot to learn and do in this world rather than wasting our time behind others by backbiting and gossiping about them.Thanks for this post, @Enrique Rubio View moreBelieving in ourselves is the first step towards success. Well there is lot to learn and do in this world rather than wasting our time behind others by backbiting and gossiping about them.Thanks for this post, @Enrique Rubio. Close05/10/2016 #1 AnonymousTremendo Post, Enrique. If I had to choose a thought, I really agree with that one: "And if what B listens from us is bad things about others, he will eventually use those same messages against us… So, don’t be part of gossiping and avoid talking badly about those around you. Become a positive friend for B as well."
Our unconscious is always listening and has no humor sense.
well being+ 100 buzzes
Well being is what everyone strives for....no matter where you're from, what language you speak, man or woman, young or old. Well being can be something to someone and something entirely different to somebody else. Well being allows you to look beyond the petty and inconsequential in order to finally find gratitude for all things that surround you. Everyday is a new opportunity to create your own state of well being.