- Producer26/10/20168 ways to improve your well-being at WorkMandy Oaklander is one of my favorite columnists of Time Magazine. Earlier she wrote about resilience and now her latest article on new ways to improve well-being at work is timely and some of the strategies are counter-intuitive.As per this article...
Comments26/10/2016 #1 Robert CormackI was amazed to how counter-productive "open concept" offices really are. After years of working in individual offices, meaning having some privacy to think along with the ability to visit other offices, the "open concept" seemed like a barrage of talking and general noise. I don't know who posited the idea that "open concept" meant greater integration. Maybe it works in the IT industry (I think it started in the San Fernando Valley), but it's anathema to working and thinking, as far as I'm concerned. You need to concentrate to do good work, and I saw nothing even approaching "thinking" in "open concept" environments. It doesn't encourage consensus, more it just creates chatter.
- Producer20/10/2016LoveEverybody, please Listen, for I have had an Insight today. We are seriously endangering ourselves and each other, because in our dogged pursuit of the modern Mundane life, we are forgetting to freely express and feel Love, and it is an...
Comments24/10/2016 #30 Harvey Lloyd"Acts" of love defines love as a verb. Society and the media have transcended this definition to a noun or feeling, @Gary Sharpe. Love seems to be reserved for the carnal act or for those who are within our closest group. Hate is not necessarily what we experience. The word is a catch all phrase that seems to sum the differences in culture or individual. Our true nemesis is right and wrong. Not necessarily in the altruistic sense of values but the belief that being right is measured by how you are wrong. The current USA political debates show this concept at its full potential.
Love in its original form was the strength of interdependence. In that context i would have you succeed through acts of love. Society has been hoodwinked by media, not maliciously but by seeking profits, into a new world of right and wrong. They ask us to chose a side. I chose neither, but rather seek understanding of where i am going, not right and wrong.23/10/2016 #28 Mohammed A. Jawad@Gary Sharpe Reading your post, I recall one of my poems, which is below:
Ah, how dead-hearted is this mankind!
that practices blindly the unfaithful slumbers,
makes no amendment for the veritable truth
and deeply lives to the fashions of the world.
Even for the true necessities of life—
why no soul repents or plead for grace?
Neither there's humble pleading by confessions
nor the marks of tears for realization.22/10/2016 #25 AnonymousI Loved this on LI and I will Love it right now and then I will whistle "more Love, that's what we need" by Rebelution because their love filled sunny music, like your ever evolving story, make me so happy as I read and watch it grow from my tiny corner of The World!! Blessings! 💖21/10/2016 #24 Jared Wiese#2 Sorry, Gary, I had this wrong.
The more complete quote is “Gratitude is the antidote to the two things that stop us: fear and anger. Fear is why we don’t take action and anger is why we get stuck. You can’t be grateful and angry simultaneously. You can’t be fearful and be grateful simultaneously. So it’s really the reset button.”
See http://philosiblog.com/2013/03/08/gratitude-is-the-antidote-to-the-two-things-that-stop-us-fear-and-anger/21/10/2016 #17 Deb LangeThe group began to say, oh once , last year when ..., , on holidays I ..,,
We all stopped and listened to what we just heard. It was so normal to feel stressed, anxious, fearful and protective, that most people rarely felt the peace and joy from a loving state. It is like the state of grace and love is less common than the state of fear and anxiety. Everyone agreed they would be more intentionally create a state of love and grace in their lives daily.21/10/2016 #16 Deb LangeI absolutely agree with you. I remember asking a group to share what it felt like when they were stressed and anxious. We uncovered a lot! Then I asked to share what it felt like when we had the experience of the opposite of what we had just talked about. We had beautiful stories of feeling at peace, ease, kindness, freedom and love. I asked everyone to name the second set of experiences. They came up with a state of grace.
I then asked, how often do you experience the second kind of behaviours. well we were all very surprised!!!20/10/2016 #13 Praveen Raj GullepalliBlessed you are Gary...and connected by Love to all those who believe in it! Many a belief system has love at its core...and the entire human predicament can be resolved if we but believe in one thing, as spoken by Christ and various others, that God is Love. And believe in Love... not in the confusing many Gods or other things that can be bought. But the moment you start living Love, the giving will never stop, until all trappings and possessions are lost. But then again, what goes around comes around! With you, in Love! Let your life be an example!20/10/2016 #11 debasish majumderlovely insightful post sir Gary Sharpe. enjoyed read. thank you very much for sharing the post. only today, i posted a short story, tried to amplify the potentials of love and devoid of which, focusing for mundane gains can only lead to disaster. Great share indeed sir!
- Producer13/10/2016Thursday Thoughts: "We Have Our Hats"Growing up in a family that owned and ran a few small women's clothing stores in the 1950s and '60s, I often wondered why I didn't like shopping too much. I didn't mind it -- nice clothes were and are fun to have -- but I never embraced the "we're...
Comments14/10/2016 #13 Susan Rooks#12 I think many of us are becoming stores' worst nightmares, @Deb Helfrich! We buy much less than we did because of many of the things you wrote about. And for me, in my tiny house, luckily there's NO place to put anything. If I want something new, something old has to go. And I really do love the things I chose to surround myself with here.
Thanks for all your continued support. It means a lot to me.13/10/2016 #12 Deb HelfrichI bought my green pork pie hat around 1988. Cannot say any other hat has ever caught my eye. But living in a place with a view - that's what I collect. I do find myself feeling rather more attached to stuff, I bought my le crueset collection five years ago from amazon and I love the fennel color so much - it makes me happy to think they will be with me until I have a reason to give them away. In some respects, I cherish what I already have, because the world is becoming so much more disposable. Almost everything I have to replace is a shoddier version than the prior one - appliances certainly, but so many things. And the horrific smell that comes with new stuff. I just bought two duffel bags for travel and I had to leave them outside for weeks to air out and ditto for clothes - I have to wash them many times before I can wear them.
Thanks for such an interesting post, @Susan Rooks - it seems many of us are rejecting the overwhelming pressure to keep purchasing, so that we can live according to our own preferences.13/10/2016 #11 Susan Rooks#9 Thanks, Aaron Skogen! I'm glad you and others can relate. And I had a set of cookware much like yours, but it was heavy and many years ago I gave it away. Sigh. You can't know what don't know until you do.
Yes, the view is amazing and so far, after four years (only two as a full-time resident) it hasn't gotten old. I hope it never does! This village was started in the '30s by a woman who owned all 27 acres right on the bay (just think of that!), and she allowed friends to pitch tents when they had nowhere to live. Those tents morphed into rudimentary cabins (no heat or running water), and those cabins morphed into nice cottages, almost none of them more than about 700 s.f.
I meant this to be a summer place, but I fell in love with the location and decided that I couldn't afford two places anyway, so I might as well make a leap of faith and just live here. Sure glad I did! And good for you and your family to figure some of this out while you're young -- the forties are young, at least from my vantage point -- and focus on what's really important.13/10/2016 #10 John RylanceHaving spent a great deal of time over the last few years clearing out the homes of departed relatives. One involved over 30 trips to the dump, plus hiring a firm to clear larger items. Our sons have made us promise to declutter before we "depart" They've even agreed to help. As if we haven't enough to do enjoying our retirement, as T S Eliot said " measuring out our lives in coffee spoons."13/10/2016 #9 Aaron SkogenThe view is amazing Susan. I'm young, fourties, and we are a family of 5 living in a small home by today's standards. Our foundation is about 650 sq ft, but we do have a second story. We brush elbows in the hallway upstairs. Our view is a little like yours, except were on a lake here in Minnesota. I don't shop, I do however simply walk in to a store, grab a pair of jeans (usually after my bride says I cant wear the existing pair in public anymore), pay and walk out. There is no browsing for me. . . Heck, we have a full set of Le Creuset cookware that my Brides parents purchased in France back in the late 60's, they are brown with wooden handles and still used daily. There is something about that cookware, and there is just something comforting in simplicity. . . Nice post!13/10/2016 #8 Susan Rooks#5 I think for many of us it is about getting older and seeing what has given us pleasure all these years, Franci! Who needs to worry about stuff? The things I brought from my 2,500 s.f. house to my interim 1500 s.f. condo to here are the things that I love living with. Yeah, a couple/three things are in the basement because I can't quite decide to let them go . . . but all in all, simple works just fine! Good to know you and your husband are seeing this, too.13/10/2016 #5 Franci Eugenia HoffmanI am no longer a mall person. I am not a shopper for the sake of shopping, only if I have the intent to buy. I buy clothes, etc. online from various retailers and Amazon. My husband and I have condensed our "stuff" quite a bit. IMO, the simpler the better. Perhaps, it is a part of getting older? Your cottage is beautiful.13/10/2016 #4 Susan Rooks#3 Hah, Ken Boddie! Many of my friends are still amused at my reluctance to go to the mall unless I need something. I will admit, though, that a good furniture and/or decorating store will catch my attention, but there aren't that many around.
My new best friend here in the village loves Walmart all out of proportion to what it is, and she and I laugh at her excitement every time she goes there! And she spends an hour or more, just going up and down the ailes to see what she can buy. I just don't get it, but she is a lovely woman anyway.13/10/2016 #3 Ken BoddieI'm delighted to know, Susan, that you are "less than excited" at the prospect of shopping. My wife and daughter are both so enthused by the prospect of a trip to the mall, that I had assumed all womenfolk are indeed born with the shopping gene. There are only two things I enjoy at the mall and that's a good coffee and ..... oh yes ..... a good coffee!
- 12/10/2016The Japanese practice of ‘forest bathing’ is scientifically proven to improve your healthqz.com There’s a chemical trees release that actually improves your immune...
- 11/10/2016This is what we are taught in krav maga. Our saying is, "Lay an unsolicited hand on me, and your first lesson is free." This would just be the beginning....
- Producer09/10/2016Middle AgeI am either having a mid-life crisis or just one of my usual nervous breakdowns or maybe both. It’s been really ugly. I’ve been really ugly. I know the usual nervous breakdown part started with the holidays but the middle-aged crisis started...
Comments15/10/2016 #15 Shelley Brown@Lisa Gallagher Thanks so much for your lovely sentiments. It's funny, I remind myself the same thing. I bought myself a dozen roses the other day. Miss connecting regularly but sucked up by the corporate vortex. Hope you are well. I have never met you and I know you are beautiful because of your spirit.13/10/2016 #14 Lisa Gallagher@Shelley Brown, you are lovely both on the inside and out. I think women really tend to be hard on themselves. I'm sort of going through something similar right now, so I can relate. I keep trying to remind myself that I do not choose friends etc... based on their looks. I'm attracted to others based on how they treat others. I'm attracted to others who accept me for who I am. I think it's good to remind ourselves to accept who we are and where we are in life. Even give ourselves a big high five once in a while!!11/10/2016 #11 Laura Mikolaitis@Shelley Brown, you are beautiful both on the inside and out. It radiated when we first spoke so many months ago and it shines in your writing. Embracing our naked self is challenging, as we've discussed in posts before and we can often get sidelined and side tracked. I struggle with it myself - letting my outside guide my inside. But we are more than what meets the eye - underneath we are strong, intelligent, vulnerable, and caring human beings. We are flawed, but who isn't? I so, so love this post and I love that you've let your vulnerability shine through. You are an amazing person, Shelley and I am glad that we crossed paths. Here's to embracing all that we are!10/10/2016 #8 Praveen Raj GullepalliA beautiful confession! I think the word ACCEPTANCE too belonged in that list at the end ;) Most of us, if not all, would eventually have to look in the mirror and perceive not just one's imagined reflection, but reality - pleasant or not. I think it is the hardest to accepts oneself as we are...as we have been made...and it might take years or even lifetimes! For the real life begins then. When you learn to work within the limitations and strive to overcome them and use the situation to the best advantage. LOL yeah, Madonna sure gave some a boner...but it was a goner for me when i read somewhere (mind you, no way for me to validate!) that when she got started she had noticeable B.O. and B.B. ...underarm hair suspect in the former issue. Still love her heartshaped face...and some of those old numbers...all this reminds me of another contemporary of hers - Cyndi Lauper with her squeaky cuteness fun overload...Time after time...Thanks Shelley Brown, for reminding me of the dark moments in my life that I outgrew only after accepting that though it is inspiring to dream, it is healthy to accept reality.10/10/2016 #7 Chas Wyatt@Shelley Brown, it is all relative. I remember when "Like a Virgin" came on the radio waves, because someone I worked with was enthralled with Madonna, and at the time it made me wince. But, my co-worker thought Marilyn Monroe was still alive and couldn't understand why she dressed like she was living in the 50's- go figure. I couldn't help it; I had to pop her bubble. I eclipsed "middle-age" a long time ago, although I may look a good ten to 15 years younger than most of the people I meet around my age; I still have long dark hair, well, there's some smoke on top of the chimney, but, I certainly don't expect to live to 120 and my body is starting to tell me that I'm not as young as I think I am. Madonna may be one thing, but, how's this?- Gwen Stefani just turned 47. "Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul." ~Samuel Ullman.09/10/2016 #1 Deb HelfrichPerhaps gratitude comes in smelling for rabbits.....inhabiting primal urges can put aside all the layers of accumulated thought. Unfortunately, the honest truth is you will forget to revel in a sunset, but our big brains are there to help us remember to turn them off of societal-based thinking as often as we can remember.
I just saw a video of two vocal geniuses, wearing every bit of the ravages of age they had experienced, throwdown simply for the joy of still being alive.... the year he died - Rick James and Teena Marie. I am moved precisely because of how unpolished the whole proceeding is. Nothing to judge here, just something to experience.
- Producer07/10/2016A Bee Social Moment - Your Happy!Quest for HappinessSometimes, perspective can be the beginning and end of what holds us back from being happy!One Sunday evening, going for a cup of coffee, and minding my own business, and I heard.. Girl Crush by Little Big Town on the radio. Well...
Comments07/10/2016 #16 David B. GrinbergThanks as always, DL, for sharing more words of wisdom and inspiration. I think an important factor contributing to one's happiness, among other factors, is maintaining a positive mindset, counting one's blessings, and trying to see the proverbial glass as half full rather than half empty. I've shared this in the hives, "Inspiration" and "Bee Inspired" and "Leadership". By the way, I assume/hope you made out okay per Hurricane Matthew as it passed over the Caribbean?
- Producer05/10/2016The Power of Believing in YourselfImagine that you have an imaginary friend (maybe you already do!). Let's call this friend "B". What would happen if B continually told you that you're not valuable, that you can't do something or don't have the capacities to achieve your dreams?...
Comments05/10/2016 #4 Renée CormierI always tell people (and myself, sometimes) to change the talk in your head. I agree with you completely. Much of what holds us back in any situation will depend on how we choose to frame things in our own minds. Being your own cheerleader is very important, but I think everyone also needs an external cheerleader in life in order to combat feelings of self-doubt. I am glad you are inclined to encourage others. People who put up emotional road blocks for others are a dime a dozen.05/10/2016 #3 Julie Hickman"Like any good friend, we want him to stop us, slap us in the face and tell us that it’s ok to fall and fail, and that if we do, we will stand up again and continue the journey." - @Enrique Rubio View more"Like any good friend, we want him to stop us, slap us in the face and tell us that it’s ok to fall and fail, and that if we do, we will stand up again and continue the journey." - @Enrique Rubio
We all need to be mindful of what our inner monologue is telling us at any given moment. Wonderfully crafted story with a very important lesson. Close05/10/2016 #2 Tausif MundrawalaBelieving in ourselves is the first step towards success. Well there is lot to learn and do in this world rather than wasting our time behind others by backbiting and gossiping about them.Thanks for this post, @Enrique Rubio View moreBelieving in ourselves is the first step towards success. Well there is lot to learn and do in this world rather than wasting our time behind others by backbiting and gossiping about them.Thanks for this post, @Enrique Rubio. Close05/10/2016 #1 AnonymousTremendo Post, Enrique. If I had to choose a thought, I really agree with that one: "And if what B listens from us is bad things about others, he will eventually use those same messages against us… So, don’t be part of gossiping and avoid talking badly about those around you. Become a positive friend for B as well."
Our unconscious is always listening and has no humor sense.
- Producer30/09/2016Life isn't always sunshine and rainbows! Its finding the light at the end of the tunnel!Our Life is a journey, just like each coin has two sides same way within this journey we experience times with joy and comfort as well as times of discouragement and discomfort.If one has ever pursued a goal to improve their life in any way or say...
Comments01/10/2016 #10 Lisa GallagherExtremely inspiring buzz @Sushmita Thakare Jain. "These are the people who have experienced many ups and downs and have gained an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, understanding and a deep loving wisdom." These are the type of people I love associating with. It seems their knowledge base and compassion/passion for others and life is ten fold.30/09/2016 #6 Sushmita Thakare Jain#4 Yes @Deb Helfrich when it comes to gratitude I remember a quote I would like to share with everyone 'As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciated is not to utter words, but to live by them!' thank you Deb for sharing your views.30/09/2016 #5 Sushmita Thakare Jain#3 @Amina Alami I believe we are the ones who make or brake our lives no one else can do anything about it! Positivity helps us build up and believe in our dreams it is the vital Vitamin which is necessary in our lives, if not it's deficiency will make us fall down. Glad you liked the post, thank you for sharing your views.30/09/2016 #3 Amina AlamiBeautiful post Sushmita Thakare! We all experience some periods when we have the impresion that a funk has descended upon us. Instead of finding the positive and building on what's important, we tend to focus on the negative and make our situation even worse. As long as there's life there's hope . Counting our blessings help us take the best course of action to overcome our challenges. Thank you for sharing your pearls of wisdom.
- 28/09/2016It's become my position that healing trauma is our only sustainable path forward on this planet. I say that because what we need from humans, the ability to relate, is hampered by a nervous system with horrible vagal tone which is our social engagement ability. We are hampered by overactive amygdalas which put the emotions of fight/flight too far forward, and so we shut each other off. Chronic stress atrophies the cortices, and so we shut off creativity for problem solving in the areas of community development, food production, energy development, and so on. We are afraid, and so curiosity is held in check. An oversimplified metaphor is we rely on big corporations to solve our problems while we couch surf to stay away from our pain. We develop all kinds of behavior to hide our pain, and that benefits no one. The real work of moving forward is going to come from the streets, not capital buildings, or corporations. Releasing that trauma will allow us to finally be able to quit handing stress and trauma down to our following generations. Once we learn to work with the body's innate mechanism to release, we can become open, curious, and engaged people, and then the world will change.
- Producer27/09/2016The body does not lie!More efficient than the computer's memory, your body records everything that happened to you from childhood to now. The psychologist and French theologian Jean-Yves Leloup relates archaic symbols with various body parts and explains the physical,...
Comments28/09/2016 #8 David B. GrinbergThanks for another buzz-worthy read, @Flávio Rodrigues Vieira. Yes, the human body is indeed amazing beyond explanation. I like all the interesting information you provided as well as your philosophical analysis. It's always a pleasure to read your posts. Buzz on, my friend!27/09/2016 #5 Flávio Rodrigues Vieira@Jared Wiese once when he felt bad my body and did not know how to have better quality of life, I started to play sports, I remember like it was yesterday an instructor telling me: "Your body is thanking".
it completely changed the way we took care of my health, Thank you for showing me this book, I want to read immediately.
once a lady told me that in life, we have 5 balls, work, health, family, friends, love, work is the only ball that you throw it against the ground, it will come back like a rubber band, the other in However ..27/09/2016 #4 Jared WieseLove this quote: "life teaches us, through a fall, an accident, we must change our way of living."
I also believe we have many connected areas of our bodies.
Man, this makes me think of so many things!
Have you ever heard Pete Egoscue who developed a method for curing and preventing chronic pain? His incredible 1998 book that is perhaps more applicable in today's more sedentary lifestyle. Admitedly, I have had recurring low back pain over the last 10 years - largely due to working at a PC all day. Our bodies were not designed for that!
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- Producer27/09/2016Tips to get fit and stay fit.This was another in a series of exercise related articles for a now defunct, sports website that was subsequently posted to LinkedIn. I am taking the opportunity to revise them as they get transferred over to BeBee. If you have seen it before then...
Comments28/09/2016 #4 Neil Smith#3 Thanks for the encouragement @David B. Grinberg. Running and physical activity is a thing which has brought so much into my life that it tends to bring out the evangelist in me. These articles are probably the only thing keeping me away from doorstepping an unsuspecting public.
- Producer26/09/2016Opposites are Equal“The fact that a great many people believe something is no guarantee of its truth.” ― W. Somerset Maugham We stand on a razor’s edge pretending that to fall one way is better than the other. The only existential threat I see in our political...
Comments27/09/2016 #5 Brian McKenzieIt is not how has been preached and applied to economics, civics nor social movements for over 150 years. It was deigned to have opposites in conflict to produce a 'new' outcome. The Thesis * Anti-Thesis -> Synthesis trype. Marx famously added that violence be the catalyst between those two poles and Lenin was of the mind that in the absence of violence - it should be created, funded, supported and endorsed.......Stalin added bulldozers for covering up the dead bodies.27/09/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#2 Hi @Brian McKenzie. Thanks for bringing up Hegel's dialectics http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/hegel-dialectics/. My interpretation is that Hegel does not state that these opposites exist. He encourages the discussion of the ideas that can be found on "either side" so that they don't stay in that artificial (my word) place. It is a dynamic process of moving stuck ideas. In the link, it talks about Plato using this process not with ideas but with people; by taking people who are identified as being on one side or another and moving them towards a more "sophisticated" (word used in the link) place. I am not saying that ideas or people can not be on either end of a spectrum, I am saying that those ends were created by us. Individuals like Plato and Hegel gave us ways to see that.26/09/2016 #1 Sara Jacobovici"So we defend the indefensible on both sides of an imaginary spectrum." Great line @Phillip Hubbell.
My response will focus on my opinion about opposites and not on my political opinion. As far as I am concerned, opposites do not exist, opposites are created. In both our personal and professional lives, it is more manageable to work with ideas, strategies, plans, goals, relationships, feelings and so on, if we place them in an opposite: Life/Death; Good/Evil; Right/Wrong; Pleasure/Pain; Love/Hate; Beautiful/Ugly; Rich/Poor; Success/Failure; to name just a few.
These states, however useful they are in organizing ourselves, do not exist; they have been created by us to help us make sense of who we are, in relation to others, and our environment.
- Producer26/09/2016Stressed out?From one our recent clients:"TRE is changing my life... now I can live through rain and wind storms and regain my calm... And I am releasing all kinds of trauma without being agitated in any way... letting my body do the work.Leckey Harrison and...
Comments26/09/2016 #2 Leckey Harrison#1 We certainly have. One of the studies we reference found that 76% of doctors don't feel confident addressing stress. Given that some doctors have limitations per patient time wise, if we add the "not confident" factor and the realization that talking about stress (defying the natural brain default path in stress) doesn't happen in 6 to 10 minutes, it's no wonder that unnecessary medications and surgeries are prescribed for the wrong reasons. It is slowly changing....
- Producer25/09/2016When to Give Up on Your Career: My StoryI had been hired as a radio newscaster about to do my very first newscast.I cautiously entered the news booth, my newscast in hand - a collection of 12 stories, each on a separate piece of paper. The booth, a tiny quiet room with a microphone, desk...
Comments27/09/2016 #20 Laura MikolaitisTimely and relevant, thank you for sharing your experience and insight with us @Cory Galbraith. I agree that when it is no longer fun - or fulfilling for that matter - it is time to reassess. I was having a similar conversation earlier today about the fulfillment of work and how sometimes it is simply a job - a means to an end. While it's not optimal to feel that way, it is the reality for some - until we are able to maneuver our way to something else. Points well taken and I appreciate your candor in sharing your experience.26/09/2016 #16 Jena Ball#9 Yes , I'd like to hear more. I'd even like to brainstorm about creating a regular BeBee "Bee The Change - Inspiring Positive Change" podcast with you Cory ( and anyone else who feels inspired to join). What do you think? You've already heard some of where my passions and expertise lie. We should talk :-)26/09/2016 #10 Sara JacoboviciThanks for telling your story @Cory Galbraith. All the power to you that you were able to make the tough decision and make the necessary changes in your work life. The statistics are too familiar and too sad. At times, the reason we "stick it out" is because of the reality of an income, but understanding the why we are doing something doesn't necessarily help unless we look at options. Not an easy situation. Thanks to @Donna-Luisa Eversley fro bringing your story to my attention.26/09/2016 #6 Jena BallI agree about having fun. Now if we would just help kids harness that sense of adventure and fun and support them in figuring out what they love to do, I suspect a lot of the world's problems would get solved quickly. Instead we teach them we're all in competition, that some are more deserving than others, and scold them for wanting to enjoy life. "No pain, no gain', we say, or in my case I was asked, "Who do you think you are? What makes you so special? Nobody likes work."
No one will ever convince me that we are here on earth to suffer, pay for sins, or justify our existence through self-sacrifice. You see I've heard Beethoven's Ninth, stood in front of Van Gogh's sunflowers and swum with whales. I have seen how simple acts of kindness can change the life of a homeless person or an abandoned dog; how a child's eyes light up when she realizes you really DO want to hear her story; and felt all was right with the world when I stayed up all night painting.
I believe we are here to remember who we really are, and a big part of that is allowing fun to guide our days. Thank you for,the great story and reminder @Cory Galbraith26/09/2016 #5 Donna-Luisa Eversley@Cory Galbraith...this is very good advice, and a great photo 😊
Yes it is important to spend each day doing something we like doing. Tommorow is too far away to not enjoy today. Brilliant
Friends I just had to share this amazing gem @John White, MBA Dr @Dr. Corinthia Price @Pamela L. Williams @Kevin Pashuk @Ken Boddie @Ivan Campos @Andrew Porter @Joanna Hofman @Sara Jacobovici @Sarah Elkins @Laura Mikolaitis @Dean Owen @Don Kerr @Teresa Gezze @Cepee Tabibian David @David B. Grinberg26/09/2016 #3 Michael D. DavisThanks for this great personal revelation @Cory Galbraith . I believe that when work starts to be a job and no longer the passionate place you desire to be and to place your energy, skill, talent and time, it's then time to go to seriously work on discovering what it is that genuinely puts a smile on your face and pursue that with renewed passion.26/09/2016 #1 Randy KehoBrings back memories of my first days on the air around the same time. I, too, started on a small station. As my program director was leaving for the day, just before my first on-air shift, he stopped in the studio to tell me I'd probably be getting some calls from bill collectors. The owner was a real shyster.
We played both kinds of music -- country and western. I eventually left the business, too, after realizing that radio was no longer about music. It was about on-air personalities. I couldn't stand my co-workers. They were so full of themselves it made me sick.
- 25/09/2016Yes, it was my birthday yesterday. I spent my day teaching a TRE workshop and this is our setting, right here in Langley. It was a full house, and we saw some profound healing take place. Wow. What a gift!
Comments25/09/2016 #2 Leckey Harrison#1 They did indeed, Deb. Several used the word "profound," and those were involved with other therapies so they felt a definite release ("I never experienced anything close to this is therapy") and the level of trust in the ir bodies was exceptional. Truly a joy to watch people empowering themselves.
- Producer24/09/201620 Ways to Reduce stress, be happy and Enjoy LifeStress is one of the leading causes of depression and considering the pace of our modern lives we should pause and reevaluate our lives on a constant basis. As Mahatma Gandhi said "There is more to life than increasing its speed."Here are some...
- Producer23/09/2016Don't Judge Me You Don't know My StorySo it was a lovely day the other day and I was walking back from shopping in a polo shirt with most of my tattoos showing, a lady approached with her daughter in tow and pushing a pram as she saw me I heard her say" well cross here that man has...
Comments28/09/2016 #12 Graham EdwardsNice story and great message @Darryl John. I have four tattoos... a Scottish unicorn with the words "light and love", a Welsh Dragon (both to mark my heritage), a sun (to remind me to shine) and a moon (to remind me to reflect). I am proud of them all. A fish one is on the way... 'Know thyself". (in the original greek). People can judge me all they want and I will simply smile... I will laugh if they get to "judgy".28/09/2016 #10 Mark AnthonyHi @Darryl John. I didn't think those people still existed, perhaps I'm being naive. Judging anyone for what is on the outside is dodgy ground and, very unattractive. The whole "people getting tattoos because of some Psychological insecurity and the like may hold some truth, for some. But, I would suggest , that in itself is a very judgemental attitude. As you say people get tattoos for a variety of reasons. And, maybe, it is only by knowing many different people, from different walks of life that one gets to realise this. In my experience it is people who stay within their own cliques and groups , know little about the other groups, memes and cliques that make these judgements. I find tattoos attractive, some see it as body art and, nowadays many different people, from different walks of life have them.27/09/2016 #8 Phillip HubbellI was the product of a different time. My father was brought up at the turn of the century…between the 19th and the 20th. He taught us as children that tattoos were for sailors and convicts. It made an impression. However, it is now these times and time changes things. For my wife’s 57th birthday, our daughter took her and got her a tattoo. Says “Let It Be” …from the Beatles song, right there on her ankle. I’ll get over it.27/09/2016 #7 Laura MikolaitisGood post @Darryl John, thank you for sharing it. You speak to some issues that are very prevalent in society and sadly I'm not sure we will ever live in a judgement free zone. Many influences feed into a person's bias and judgement - all leading to perceptions that may or may not be true. However, I do agree with you that everyone has a story and who are we to judge. But reality is that it happens, and at times the fallout from it is downright ugly and cruel. I try to be cognizant that everyone has something that they are going through, but I do forget sometimes. So thank you for posting this - it is a good reminder to be kinder.
As for tattoos, my husband has 5 and I love every single one of them. It's his body, his choice. They are his battle scars, his story. It doesn't mean he's a bad person. We all have ways of expressing ourselves, and this is one example. Some people choose it through fashion, art, writing, singing, dancing and the list goes on. As you have so aptly pointed out, it is our story to write so we might as well enjoy it along the way.24/09/2016 #6 Darryl JohnI can understand some of this but the Don"t mess with me attitude is only with a small section of society and yes some may have them to intimidate others but that is a lesser group than all the others generally they are done as part of a person's journey through life.24/09/2016 #5 Peter van Doornpart 2:
My girlfriend is not a bad person. She just have been raised to trust 'decent' people. Those 'decent' people are able to do a lot of not so decent things, but they will never invade your privacy so obvious. He did, that scared the hell out of her. She complained about it to me and I promised to address him about it. That night she did not sleep at all, convinced he and I would end up in a fight. Hey, he is covered with tattoos after all!
The next morning, at breakfast, the man walked the roof again. She was so scared, she begged me not to go outside.... So scared... I did have a little chat with the neighbor. It was a very nice guy. He just did not realize he needed permission to use my girlfriends garage. He apologized and asked permission, promising he would repair any damage to the roof. End of the story. Okay for me. But he never exchanged any word with my girlfriend.
Why was this guy nice to me and not to my girlfriend? It makes me wonder why he has all those tattoos. I can be totally wrong, but I think he is really a push over. Using the tattoos as an image builder. Strengthening the view of the lady and the view of my girlfriend. I really believe most people have tattoos to radiate a message: 'Do not f*ck with me'. And it seems to work. The insecure people with tattoos overrule the insecure people without tattoos. It seems unavoidable that it fires back on self conscious people with tattoos.
But tell me, what is needed to make people self conscious and secure, free?
https://youtu.be/GC63HGcsfEg24/09/2016 #4 Peter van DoornI understand you, but I also understand that lady.
Why are people judgemental? Why do you scare that lady with your tattoos? And why might she trust any well dressed man?
Appearance seems to be the first thing people base their opinion on.
A little example I experienced a few months ago: My girlfriend lives in a 'better' neighborhood. You know what I mean, big houses, 'civilized' people. New people bought the house at the back of her house. Those new people did not fit the idea of the better neighborhood. Both mom and dad have tattoos, they have three loud children, an eagle and a pitbull. The new neighbor started to build a shed near the garage of my girlfriend. At some point she saw him using the roof of her garage as his base to build his shed. She was terrified of him. There he was, a man, covered with tattoos walking over her roof like it was his. She hardly slept that week.
- Producer21/09/2016Calling all Misfits, Non-Conformists, and Outliers. It's Hip to Bee SquareI’ve had some conversations lately about coolness. Not as in temperature, but rather in terms of ‘hip’-ness. The conversation has stimulated my ‘opinionator’ and I felt I would share my thoughts… Now, I’ve always thought of myself as...
Comments26/09/2016 #139 Praveen Raj GullepalliOn beBee it is hip to be You! Be You-ey Huey! And sure enough there'll be Louie and Dewey too ;) Bee Real. Bee Revealed. Here's one place where our words speak louder than our actions dear Kevin :) May our differences unite us more than our similarities ;)26/09/2016 #138 Sara JacoboviciIn this fast paced, fast moving communications world, I feel like I need to apologize @Kevin Pashuk for not reading your Buzz when it first came out. But I am glad that you shared to my Hive and in this way I get to read it in "Sara time". Loved what you wrote and appreciate the thoughts and feelings behind the message. You are right when you write about community and after the "new" wears out, the "old" familiar returns. "We humans are like that." But, at the same time, what we're doing individually and collectively here on beBee is we're adapting and making choices. Because, "we humans are like that," too. Thanks Kevin and thanks for appropriately posting on Triads!24/09/2016 #130 jesse kaellis#118
@ Phil-I never, ever paid a publisher. Never used a vanity press. Where do you get this stuff from? Did I ever indicate that I had used a vanity publisher? I had a publisher who was stealing my royalties. That's something else altogether. She lost about seven writers and two staff in her first 13 months of operation. That's it. No more advice please.24/09/2016 #126 jesse kaellis#124
I have my book in the New Westminster Public Library and the main branch of the Vancouver Public Library. For that, I receive a little over 80 bucks a year from Canada Council for the Arts. Yes, publishers get grants, and it helps them to operate. I placed those two copies myself. I'm a Canadian author who at the time had a platform. I was published by a start-up publishing house. As far as lightening striking, I'm not holding my breath. That is a sardonic take on the current publishing business, self-publishing in particular. It is not just my experience it is other writers and the stories the heartbreak stories that I hear from them. I'm not on a quest if I ever was.24/09/2016 #124 Phil Friedman#120 Well, Jesse, then I misunderstood you prior remark(s). Clear you been down the path already. Including a tryst with Canada Council subsidized publishing, which during my 15 years in Canada never once ended up in anyone making money on the publishing of a book, except for the publisher who collected the revenue subsidy from Canada Council and the gross profit from library sales. The reason was pretty clear. Unless a publisher puts skin in the game with an advance to the author, or has to go out ahead for editing and publishing costs, the author can be guaranteed exactly Zero marketing and promotion of his or her book. I now understand why you've walked out onto the golf course holding an umbrella, and are waiting for lightning to strike. Or as a chubby friend of mine in a similar location once said, waiting for "lightening" to strike. Best wishes and luck for finding what you're looking for. And cheers!24/09/2016 #123 jesse kaellis#121
Are you familiar with the expression "Too clever by half?" I'm not stupid and if I don't understand your inscrutable posts you're just wasting them. On me at any rate, if that's who you're aiming for. I never made a comment about being cool at all. What's going on here?23/09/2016 #120 jesse kaellis#118
I can proof myself with Grammarly. Changing the font also helps to catch typos. My father uses Lulu. I've used Amazon, including Create Space as well as Smashwords. The publisher I used I didn't pay her. She was not representing herself as a vanity publisher. SubTerrain Magazine is published by Anvil Press a legitimate middle-level lower mainland publisher. Their bottom line is supported by grant money from the Canada Council for the Arts, like a lot of Lower Mainland presses.
To be honest -- I don't perceive that there is any economic sense in self-publishing when you pay for either a proof-reader or editor. It is highly unlikely that I will ever break even. I'm not too concerned about it, though. There are easier dollars than trying to make money off a book that is going up against hundreds of thousands of other titles.23/09/2016 #118 Phil Friedman#103 Okay, so as a former print magazine editor, I know a bit more than I admit to about print publishing... although perhaps not as much as you, who has been through the proverbial mill on this. But, a couple of observations: 1) a proof reader is not the same as a copy editor. If your book script is full of typos then you need a proof reader -- not as hard to come by as a good copy editor. 2) @Jeffrey Strickland touted me on to Lulu, which prints and binds using digital techniques in small run quantities at reasonable prices. You can set your own retail price and keep the gross profit, after deduction of the print run cost. 3) It never makes economic sense to pay someone else (a vanity publisher) to publish a book. Much more cost-effective to self-publish and pay for printing and binding services. 4) I personally would then market by using social media for printing reviews and testimonials from people active on the various platforms. And I would springboard from there to seek attention in the mainstream press -- not easy, but possible with persistence, and if your work is truly good.
I am not sure this is an appropriate discussion for Kevin's thread, but it might be of interest not only to you and me, but to other authors as well. I suggest moving it to the beBee Hive "Writers & Publishers". Cheers!
- 21/09/2016There is a lot of great content out there and here on beBee. But once in a while you come across a true gem. This video is one such gem and I would not be surprised it it went viral. @Cory Galbraith on Mistakes!Mistakes Go out and make mistakes...
- 17/09/2016I love walking. This is good writing, and an important message.Walking While Blacklithub.com “My only sin is my skin. What did I do, to be so black and blue?” –Fats Waller, “(What Did I Do to Be So) Black and Blue?” “Manhattan’s streets I saunter’d, pondering.” –Walt Whitman, “Manhattan’s...
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