- 19/02/2017I proudly call this woman my trainer. In this video shot in LA, she discusses some tools to help down regulate the fight/flight/freeze energy. If you're interested in learning TRE, contact me.HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR IN THE ERA OF DT, With Certified TRE Practitioner Nkem Ndefo Beyond being a socio-political issue, the massive deportation and violence against immigrants are a very serious health issue with profound negative...
- Producer15/02/2017Anger Buddies Does a Body GoodMy dear buddy Cyndi wilkins has really helped me move forward over the last few weeks because she is very good at using her intuition to guide a conversation into the nooks and crannies that typically get overlooked. We all have periods in life when...
Comments18/02/2017 #14 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#13 You've highlighted the very thin line between anger and danger, @debasish majumder. I think that is why we find it easy to want to ignore these feelings, bury them, and pretend everything is fine. It is incredibly hard to express anger in a constructive way, and yet, learning this skill is pretty crucial for living a contented and meaningful life.
Knowing the things that draw our ire - the things we will not tolerate - helps us navigate life in a direction that will ultimately bring us to serenity, while ignoring anger is very likely to dump us right into situations that trigger the emotion in ever-escalating cycles.
Like so many things in life, the way to learn how to deal constructively with anger is to practice and @Cyndi wilkins and I are finding this buddy system to be a fun, fruitful, and sometimes profound way to express feelings, understand life-long patterns, and start to change the way we feel so that we move on, full of hope, curiosity, and delight.18/02/2017 #13 debasish majumderto prefix 'D' to anger i guess, amply clarify the gravity as well demerits of anger @Deb 🐝 Helfrich. yet, anger have positive impact too, as it vent out our suppress emotions, enabling us to understand our constraints and how detrimental our emotions are if we allow them to overrule us. however, lovely insight madam. enjoyed read. thank you for the share.16/02/2017 #6 Cyndi wilkinsAs a manual therapist by training, I am more accustomed to using therapeutic touch to interpret the signals that the physical body communicates to me. In that way I can assist my client in the release of their pain through soft tissue manipulation. This was more of a cerebral experience where I really had to trust my intuition to guide me ...@Deb 🐝 Helfrich and I were both challenged to engage ALL of our senses...particularly sight, sound and body language, in an effort to tap into the "emotion" trying to make its way to the surface. Once we did that, we could have a little "playdate" with it...give it expression in a supportive environment where it can be transformed through the eyes of others as they reflect back to us the lessons to be learned from our collective experiences.
These "patterns of behavior" are inherent within all of us. As society has taught us to bury our emotions like an unnecessary appendage, it is high time we did a little excavating of those old bones and shed new light on how we express ourselves effectively.15/02/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 Of course, you picked out my favorite sentence, @Ali Anani. And added so much more by extending it to the very important concept of SELF-NEGOTIATION. I actually think that is the core of learning to be a happy and well-adjusted human being.
Self-negotiation is learning about ourselves and how we react and questioning which parts of our actions and habits may be due to factors way beyond something as innocuous as a comment by a stranger that causes us to lash out in ways harmful to our own bodily equilibrium and meant to throw someone else off of their balance, regardless of who else might be inflicted unintended damage.
That sort of behavior solves nothing, generates nothing but hostility in return and actually becomes an ever increasing cycle since the actual wrong never had a chance to be rationally discussed.
I think the first step to being able to find the insight in anger is learning how other people process anger in ways that actually allow the emotion to resolve whatever situation first brought the feelings of hostility into focus.15/02/2017 #1 Ali AnaniDear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich- wonderful buzz. You said it in one line "Being able to express ourselves, and all our emotions, with clarity is part of the dance of negotiation that every human needs to learn to live a joyful, productive, and relatively stress-less life". You bring up to my understanding a hugely important point. We need to negotiate with ourselves as we do with others. Self-negotiation is an idea that strikes me powerfully. Great reading and is worthy of sharing.
- 13/02/2017Just saw "Manchester by the Sea." I loved the ending! No spoilers though.
I will say this. The story revolved around one line. If you're trauma informed at all, you'll see it, and if you've seen the movie as well, the more so.
"I just can't beat this."
It's why my colleagues at www.TREWashington.com, www.TRELosAngeles.com, and others across the planet do what we do. It can be beat. Your body has the answer.
- 09/02/2017Congrats!EBay's founder just invested $500,000 in an experiment giving away free moneywww.businessinsider.com GiveDirectly, a charity running a 12-year-long experiment in basic income later this year, has received a sizable investment from eBay's...
- Producer26/01/2017VoiceI like laying outside at times. In the summer, to feel the heat of the mass of fire from 93 million miles away. There can be silence, but eventually, an insect, a bird, a breeze in the trees. The "silence" of life. Other times, late at night after a...
Comments01/02/2017 #7 Steve BradyGreat self-care, Leckey! I often get intuitive urges just to go and lay on our driveway at night. I live in suburbia so we don't see a lot of stars. However, I find there's a refreshing energy outside at night. The weird thing is I never do it. It's like a hidden self-sabotage. Maybe now that I've shared it on BeBee, I'll have helped myself to actually enjoy doing this simple activity.27/01/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI haven't yet felt the call of the asphalt, @Leckey Harrison. I love the silence of a foggy, dewey, rainy 5am - walking with my dog before anyone else gets outside.
I have been pondering the joy of voices myself. And how we underestimate what they are capable of, because we tend to take them for granted.
- 25/01/2017Resistance is not futile:AltUSNatParkService (@AltNatParkSer) | Twittertwitter.com Los Tweets más recientes de AltUSNatParkService (@AltNatParkSer). The Unofficial "Resistance" team of U.S. National Park Service. Not taxpayer subsidised! Come for rugged scenery, fossil beds, 89 million acres of landscape. Washington,...
- 13/01/2017This is about addiction. This is about escaping. This is about not being present. This is about pain, being hurt. We need to heal this hurt. Trauma healing is the answer and TRE® is a phenomenal tool for that. We can also adjunct with societal approaches that don't stigmatize or criminalize the users stuck on drugs, be they prescription drugs or otherwise.GameChangers 2016: Drug Production and Consumption - Patterns and Performancewww.insightcrime.org The drug world in the Americas is undergoing seismic shifts with changing patterns of drug production and consumption that are reshaping organized crime in the...
- 05/01/2017Get out and play, or dance. Climb a mountain, or big hill nearby, or hike a long trail. Sleep outside. Learn something new that requires your body to be involved, and get good at it. Don't watch life, live it.
Comments05/01/2017 #2 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI saw a rather snide comparison of the most popular books 40 years ago to the coloring books of today.
But play - unstructured & joyful being - is one of the keys to what is killing us, in the mental realm.
In the physical realm, we need to do more stuff - and not see movement as what occurs for 45 minutes, 3 times a week.
- Producer30/12/2016Warriors togetherI just saw this story again on LinkedIn, and I replied the truth of it. It’s usually told as a story of Europeans fleeing to the Middle East at the height of WW2. However, that isn’t the case. It’s actually a ship that was made about 15 years after...
- 29/12/2016Some sobering statistics. The body has an innate mechanism to release stress from the body. It won't change your behavior, but will lay the foundation for you to do so. I teach people how to self-induce and self-regulate that mechanism.The United States of Burnoutjournal.thriveglobal.com Current work practices are unproductive, unhealthy and unsustainable. This needs to...
- 22/12/2016Want to Be Mentally Tough? Science Recommends 1 Surprising Daily Habitwww.inc.com Harvard research has revealed a counterintuitive way to develop mental toughness--see how to use it...
- 15/12/20165 things you have to give up to succeed
1. When you try to please everyone you usually end up pleasing no-one especially yourself
2. Change is pretty much the only constant in life so you have to learn to get comfortable with it or life is going to be mighty Uncomfortable
3. Your not going to get ahead looking behind so let it go and move on
4. You've survived everything life has thrown at you so far...you rock!
5. DOING IT Beats THINKING about it EVERY TIME
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- 07/12/2016As I ponder 2017, I am reminded of directing my efforts towards my values, and MY dreams. What are your values, and dreams? What can we do today to direct energy to them; reinforcing our values and making our dreams come true?
- 06/12/2016A great stress reliever (not to be confused with releaser), a great way to get in shape, and great way to learn self-defense. One of the best in fact. Highly recommended, for those who want to "grab" back with more a more neutralizing capability.
- 06/12/2016"Trust in the Universe, but hitch your horse first, because the Universe has no other hands than yours.”
My revision of an old Sufi saying.
- Producer05/12/2016BullyYou know them.They bring you down.They ruin your day.They make the good things bad and the bad things worse.They are awful.I know there is a general sentiment among the older generations that kids today are weak. They can get overwhelmed by...
Comments05/12/2016 #3 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI think it is important to start sharing the 'fix' @Joey Reghitto - "Loved people love other people."
"Confident people don’t need to put people down, or talk themselves up, or redirect negativity. They are confident enough in themselves to let the way they live do all the talking."
It all comes down to offering concern, care, love to everyone so that each person can value themselves, which will allow them to value all the wonderful, diverse people they come into contact with.05/12/2016 #2 Campbell PriceGood buzz that explains modern day bullying. I think the awareness is good but what can we do about the damage the bully causes until they wise up to themselves or are in jail from their anti social behaviour? I have a friend that went to a school where one kid physically bullied and bashed many kids at the school. My friend confronted the bully a few years afterwards working at a retail store ( 18 years old). The bully admitted he was wrong and was apologetic! My friend is a strong personality so there are no long term implications but what about the other bullied victims? It would be good if they could also see the reformed bully grovelling!05/12/2016 #1 Julie Hickman"Bullies are sad people.... because only hurt people hurt people." - Joey Reghitto
I commend you on this powerful message and your appeal to end incessant bullying. By breaking down what really motivates a bully, you help potential victims know who to avoid and how to cope.
- 03/12/2016Good Saturday morning to all! What's on deck today? I'm going to install a window in a windowless door. I see it's Championship Game day in the NCAA? Who's watching? Grab your coffee and let's get it on!
- Producer01/12/2016If You're Stressed at Work, Try A Few of These IdeasStress is a common problem in the modern workplace. It can be harmful to employees and, in turn, the entire business. High levels of stress can lead to poor decision-making, a decrease in accuracy, an increase in staff illness/absence and conflict...
- Producer29/11/2016How do we share happiness?Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. - Buddha... How do we share happiness? I think the first step is to define what happiness is...
- 29/11/2016I did it. It was a LONG 5 minutes of constant defensive and combat techniques non-stop, ended with 2 minutes of attack defenses after 6 months of classes. I am now a Warrior Krav Maga orange belt.
Comments29/11/2016 #1 Leckey HarrisonThis has been so worth it on so many levels. First of course, is learning the self defense. I HEARTILY recommend Warrior Krav for that. Secondly, there is the workout. Later, as this new program grows, my dream is to be adding classes for those who don't think they're in shape, and we will show you how it can be done, I have a video of African women who are all elders and plus size, striking the pads. Third, the personal development: besides the work out, it's the growing friendships, the confidence, the self-esteem, standing taller, having more courage, feeling better, and learning leadership.
- 28/11/2016Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science Says Praise Them Like This. (Most Parents Do the Opposite)www.inc.com Stop praising them for their innate or God-given abilities, and instead focus on their...
- Producer25/11/2016Share With MeOur ability to share with one another is amazing in the modern era . We can communicate instantaneously, anywhere and any time. Yet we are more isolated than ever. We don't share in person, face to face, with eye contact, body language and an...
Comments26/11/2016 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherLove the quote above @Michael D. Davis. This is an important message! Social media and use of our PC's is part of life now but we do need to remember that real life is waiting. It's important to take a step back and focus on what is right there in front of us, those who need us and yes, even pamper ourselves. If we don't do these necessary things, we burn out and are of no good to anyone!
- 24/11/2016Flint, Michigan still doesn't have a clean water system. Standing Rock is still being invaded. We have a President, VP, and minority culture who are all about white male privilege and the oppression it creates.
Today, Thanksgiving Day, I am grateful for the founders who knew far better, and for those who have long fought to achieve the American ideal of "We, the People." I am grateful for those with whom I am shoulder to shoulder to make that happen: be it in healing trauma, calling circles, across both ponds, our 5th Street Commons community, more particularly home D201, and political activism.
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Well being is what everyone strives for....no matter where you're from, what language you speak, man or woman, young or old. Well being can be something to someone and something entirely different to somebody else. Well being allows you to look beyond the petty and inconsequential in order to finally find gratitude for all things that surround you. Everyday is a new opportunity to create your own state of well being.