- 12/11/2016"Life has many ways of testing a person's will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once." ~Paulo Coelho
- Producer24/10/2016Are our names instrumental in shaping our personality?We all, must, in some way, keep track of people by their names. And that name becomes a short-cut for who they are. Yesterday, in a light-hearted buzz, Ali Anani inquired whether the change of Javier's surname to his business and clear passion...
Comments04/11/2016 #78 Deb Helfrich#77 Most certainly in the observer sense. I notice things. Aesthetics was one of my favorite Philosophy courses. When I respond to Art - I really respond. But I lack any capacity as a maker of visual art. I also know now that I have some degree of Auditory processing dysfunction, which is probably the real source of why my memory is better if I see a name written out when I first meet someone.
This whole online avatar thing really works to my favor.... I can chunk the written name and photo together.04/11/2016 #76 Deb Helfrich#75 Yeah, I know I'd butcher it. I am not one of those people who can easily mimic names (or words) phonetically. I really need to see them spelled out, it assists me in some way. I know I have a better memory of names if I get a business card where I can insert the mental picture of the spelling of the name along with the face. If I just have a face and sounds, that is when I have a chance to categorize a new face with an old face and name. Brains are fascinating!31/10/2016 #71 Sara Jacobovici"The synchronicities of the world are just so juicy!", now I know why I didn't see this when it first came out. I had to spend last Saturday reading as much as I could about naming and meanings of names. So now I was able to connect in a meaningful way with your wonderful writing. Thank you @Deb Helfrich!31/10/2016 #70 Anees ZaidiA very interesting series on 'What's in a name?' dear @Deb Lange and dear brother @Ali Anani. My grand-daughter's name 'Aliza' was selected by my wife. The name has two parts 'Ali' my son-in-law's first name and 'za' the last two alphabets in my daughter's nick name 'Muniza'. Aliza means 'Joy' , 'Joyful' and baby Aliza is true to her name - making our evenings joyful over Facetime everyday.26/10/2016 #69 Lisa Gallagher. #68 Even when I use google translation @Deb Helfrich, "I am ready" still comes up as je suis prêt. Not sure what basque means. I would love to know more about our heritage, because that's a peice that is missing. We were told my grandfather was from the 'dark side of Scotland." I later found out that meant darker skinned people lived in that part of Scotland and they had migrated from somewhere in the Meditteranean. We think we narrowed it down to France but can't be sure. Would be interesting if someone did have further linguistical info!26/10/2016 #68 Deb Helfrich#67 That is some great information, @Lisa Gallagher. I am not one to nit-pick, but I have a special relationship with the French word for ready, it is... prêt prest looks to be Basque. Pretty ironic being from a region between France and Spain.... wonder if anyone has any further linguistical information.26/10/2016 #67 Lisa GallagherOk, this SO wasn't true for me but I thought it was funny. I pulled this from the Urban Dictionary: The name of a girl who is very pretty and is so lovable that boys fall in love with her instantly.
Chick: OMG! DID YOU SEE LISA YESTERDAY?!
Dude: Yeah, I'm like...in love with that chica.
English- The name Lisa is a baby girl name. The name Lisa comes from the English origin. In English The meaning of the name Lisa is: Diminutive of Elizabeth: Oath of God. My God is bountiful. Lisa is often used as an independent first name.
As for my surname Fraser -Origins of the clan- The Frasers are believed to have come from Anjou in France. The name Fraser may be derived from Fredarius, Fresel or Freseau. Another suggestion is that the Frasers were a tribe in Roman Gaul, whose badge was a strawberry plant (fraisier in French). What does Je suis PREST mean in English?
Clan Fraser of Lovat. Friseal. Crest: A buck's head erased Proper. Motto. Je suis prest (I am ready)
So, This "chicas oath," I am ready ;-) LOL26/10/2016 #66 Shawn Quinlivan, C.Ht.#51 I never mind telling people that the Gaelic spelling for Shawn is S-e-a-n and that it is Irish for John. Nor do I mind pronouncing my last name for folks, which is phonetic (and also Irish). These are conversational openings, sometimes into the world of Celtic heritage and wisdom -- King Arthur, Catholic missions, Druids, Stonehenge, wee folk, the Lady of the Lake, alchemy -- mystical and fun!!26/10/2016 #64 Praveen Raj GullepalliWhat's in a name? A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet! Who said that?;) Anyway, that said, any name uttered or heard, or written down or read (mentally) carries an audio signature / vibration to it that affects both the listener and the person uttering. Either positively, or otherwise. Compound that with our association an affinities and you have a persona that springs up in front of your mind's eye :) Whether you like him/her or not! And we react...or respond...accordingly. In our community we are used to naming children after our many deities and scriptural figures. My Dad took a radical departure and called me Praveen (means ''expert'' in our traditional language. And I am humbled by that definition always. He named my two siblings Raghmore (...R.I.P. - after a German name he heard on the radio that sounded like it in 1970...); Arun, the youngest one's name is derived from the Charioteer of the Sun God's name, Aruna). The middle name Raj, Dad edited from his own name RAJESHWAR. The last name or surname - Gullepally - has an interesting explanation to it. Gulle - means an oval basket woven with bamboo strips, sturdy and egg shaped; Pally - means a hamlet. My ancestors used to bury their dead in these baskets, in the foetal-curled up position (minutes before dying the breath pattern changes and you can hear a low growl which is taken as indication of imminent death and the person is brought into a sitting, knees-folded up to the chin position and a fibre rope is used to gently tie up the limbs into that posture. After demise the body is carried in that basket, tethered to a single long wooden stick carried on either ends by family members to the grave. The body is returned to the Earth as a child rests in the mothers womb, basically. Dad took another radical departure and discontinued this ceremonial practice starting with his Grandpa! :)26/10/2016 #60 Lisa Gallagher#55 I can understand protecting your families name. My dad was born to Scottish parents in Scotland. His middle name was his mom's surname and of course last name- his dads :)) I love how you promote beBee with your first name @Javier beBee View more#55 I can understand protecting your families name. My dad was born to Scottish parents in Scotland. His middle name was his mom's surname and of course last name- his dads :)) I love how you promote beBee with your first name @Javier beBee and that's funny about your friend, Daniel. Haha, that would have confused me too. @Ali Anani, I love how you put it about your wife's name.. you didn't say, what do I call her when I'm mad, you said, Shereen when happy and Lana when extremely happy!" That's love!! My sister's name is Deidre, but we call her DeeDee. Close
- Producer18/10/2016From Winnie-the-Pooh to NietzscheImage credit: FamaHaber I cannot express the feelings I have been going through since I found my name on the new ambassadors list and the response I am receiving from you to my having to decline. I feel...
Comments31/10/2016 #24 Fatima WilliamsYou speak out true feelings in words and these quotes are an excellent way of showcasing them.
" The potential of the connections we make with others on beBee is that each connection can be a source of illumination." As everyone rightly said here "You are an enduring source of illumination and your thoughts leave an indelible mark in the reader's mind and that's what matter at the end of the day. #beBeesforever
- 11/10/2016I would like to share the words of Gino Bartali in the following 2 quotes: number 2.
Here I am reminded that it's not whether I can, it's finding my means through which to do it.
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Comments21/10/2016 #1 Claire BridgesBeautiful! Reminds me that in many ways we don't choose it, nor is it necessarily packaged the way we might have chosen for ourselves. I spent so long rejecting my life's purpose. I knew what I excelled at, I knew what I got fired up about, I knew what there was a need for, and I understood the 'sweet spot in the middle' Dharma concept. But I didn't like it. So I back-and-forthed between judging my 'bicycle' either too dull for a rider as special as me, or too special for a rider as dull as me. Arrogance, self-importance, self-loathing and self-doubt, all tangled up in one disabling mess! I'm so grateful I found acceptance (of it and myself) in the end. Thank you for sharing @Sara Jacobovici.
- 11/10/2016I would like to share the words of Gino Bartali in the following 2 quotes: number 1.
Here I am reminded that at times actions are more important than words. It is because of his perspective, that rewards are not external but internal, that allowed him to know the difference of when to speak and when to act.
- 05/10/2016The Trees
by Franz Kafka
"For we are like tree trunks in the snow. In appearance they lie sleekly and a little push should be enough to set them rolling. No, it can't be done, for they are firmly wedded to the ground. But see, even that is only appearance."
Kafka's words are a powerful reminder to me that we live in the tension of strength and vulnerability, perception and reality. We can never rely on our perceptions as we look outward but can access our reality when we reach inward.
- Producer03/10/2016Why Love is the Best MedicineThis is a topic very near and dear to my heart, my daily life, my future, and the change I want to be in the world. I was intending on sharing this to Sara Jacobovici's "What Words Mean to Me" hive just as soon as I saw it on LI via Emilia...
Comments04/10/2016 #8 Emilia M. LudovinoThank you dear @Deb Helfrich for this wonderful post. Just made my day, as I subscribe every word you penned down for us. Being myself a Reiki Karuna Master - Love, Compassion and Kindness are my working tools and my way of living, that I've been using for almost 20 years in all the walks of my life - as a Lawyer, Coach, Volunteer in Prisons and Hospitals - and I already testified some "miracles". Though I 100% agree with @Melissa Hefferman and #@Franci Eugenia Hoffman that we need to be more vocal about the importance of Love, Compassion, and Kindness in our world and to gather the like-minded soul. One Heart at a time and the LOVE REVOLUTION is possible. Much Love dear Deb and a blessed day.
- Producer22/06/2016Irrelativity: Are we being crowdsourced into irrelevance through a war on words and artful use of information?"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the...
Comments05/10/2016 #28 Joel AndersonHere is to all the original, creative maladjusted non-conformist out there. “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” “This hour in history needs a dedicated circle of transformed nonconformists … Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted,” Martin Luther King Jr.03/10/2016 #27 Joel Anderson#24 I just don't want to end up in virtual car, at the grocery store, or at the restaurant and find that I found myself in a location not of my choosing. Finding myself only to be confronted with an unending plethora of overwhelming distractions and choices. Find myself at a place where someone has effectively channeled me into a mindless approach of how to think, how to engage, how to collaborate, and using my intellect to pick and choose.
Whether I can control it or not, I just cannot sit passively in the passenger seat and relinquish its ownership and control if it is in my power to do so. Rather than be a back seat driver, I want to be an active participant; reflecting, engaging and collaborating on the journey.03/10/2016 #26 Joel Anderson#24 How we decide to approach it or not, will prove to be interesting as we decide to retain some modicum of ownership, or relinquish control and influence over the information that is driving us in one direction and/or another. It will be an interesting journey. Whether that journey is complex or simple and we take it standing or sitting, it is my hope that we all actively understand how we leverage the power and use of information to advantage. I fully appreciate that there are times when others will drive a discussion, come up with a new idea, have an opinion on something and will try to influence thoughtful and productive dialogue. I also appreciate that far too often, there is an agenda behind the use of information that just may not be in the best interest of anyone other than those who are trying control information and in such control, have mastered an artful approach to crowdsourcing us into being irrelevant.03/10/2016 #25 Joel Anderson#24 Thanks @Deb Helfrich I agree. Despite the real and potential contradictions of the complex and simplicity driving any topic I am committed to a lifelong approach to learning, reflecting and better understanding the mechanics behind it all. As I thought through the recent comments, I revisited my thesis topic: "Convergence: Information Technology’s Impact and Changes on Organizational and Social Structures" that I wrote back in 2000 and served as a means to distill some of the summary of events in my comment at #23. Much has happened in the past 16 years and much is yet to be seen.02/10/2016 #24 Deb HelfrichYou've summarized this well in the contradiction that "in the messiness of it all," we are "being handed information on a menu that is artfully designed to placate our individual pallets in a world of simplistic snacks that trivializes our intellect, serves to divide and distract us, and in some respects limits our ability to put things in context, see the bigger picture and assess/analyze it all"
It appears complex and therefore factual in a simplistic way, when in effect, we simply have choices from a very limited menu. Take the cereal aisle or dog food bags - my mind boggles at the variety. But there are only a few corporations and very little actual nutrition in all those flashy well-marketed packages.02/10/2016 #23 Joel AndersonThe world of information, knowledge, insight and the resulting convergence of it all over the past 500+ years has had significant impact and change on the world (organizations and social structures) as we know "it." In many respects, the essence of convergence began in 1436 with a technological breakthrough contributed by Gutenberg. That convergence continued and actually accelerated in the 1800's with things like Morse and the telegraph, Bell and his telephone, Babbage and his "difference engine." During the last century there were things like ENIAC, ARPANET and then the exponential growth and impact of the internet and global communication continued to influence the changing landscape of information--its use, ownership and its misuse. My point in this is that as with the likes of Dickens, Santayana, and Wresch I would merely say that in the messiness of it all, the process of and ability to reflect is becoming a lost art. In some respects we are increasingly being handed information on a menu that is artfully designed to placate our individual pallets in a world of simplistic snacks that trivializes our intellect, serves to divide and distract us, and in some respects limits our ability to put things in context, see the bigger picture and assess/analyze it all. Whether by design or just a matter of shere volume, it is troubling to see the trend of marshaling all of us simpletons towards the future. Whatever the construct of the command and control "model" is or will be-- heirarchical/napoleonic, matrixed or hybrid variation still unfolding, we have to do better in educating ourselves, our youth and yes @CityVP Manjit and @Deb Helfrich condition ourselves to be more dynamic, reflective, collaborative, responsive and in control of it all so that we can truly be the "change we want to see" not the change that is foisted upon us.01/10/2016 #21 CityVP Manjit#20 Yes Deb, and that is why the actual practice of Gandhi's popular refrain "be the change you want to see in the world" is such great definer for personal action. I do actually like Margaret Wheatley's way of looking at "what works" because that accords with what I want to do which is to master health rather than illness. If I was able to change one thing from my student days, it would have been to reverse my outlook that was taught to view life from it downside, rather than life from its upside. It is that idea that if we have reached the bottom, the only way left is UP. As for the test culture, yesterday I got involved with a case competition team and so now I am off to the races reflecting about competitions, whether they are case, contests or club competitions https://www.bebee.com/producer/@cityvp/teams-judges-and-industries This is my own disposition, jump into that which I have instant affinity with on experiencing it first hand and then quickly immerse myself in that whole new blue ocean.01/10/2016 #20 Deb HelfrichAs a practitioner of "dynamic pattern recognition of noticing" I find these 3 comments to be compellingly interesting. #19 #18 #16
@CityVP Manjit - you have hit on something important, that we scroll so fast trying to get somewhere, thumbs-uping as our main pastime that we never bother to simply ask "What is Going On?" The liking is so akin to the reliance on our broken educational system which uses automated tests with the answer printed in plain site. In the subtlety of the difference in saying "Stand Up - Do Something" versus "Sit Down - Think Through What Must be Done" we have a reverse metaphor in select an existing answer or write your own thoughts in a blank essay book (or commenting box) Which leads us to an insightful statement by @Joel Anderson:
"Let’s stop allowing symptomatic sensationalism drive the train and take a look at the illness (real or perceived) and come up with logical, long standing, sustainable approaches for a better world." We were taught that we succeed by picking from an existing answer, not by synthesizing many ideas into a new approach.
People who excel at taking tests are often at a loss in real life tests. I feel that in myself sometimes. Can't someone just give me an A,B,C,D option to undo Parkinson's or to create a sustainable livelihood that encompasses the currently invisible skills of listening and observing and synthesizing knowledge to an effective place for the experts to begin their specialization.
Our problems are interrelated and specialized solutions will continue to ultimately lose the plot such that we will no longer have woods or the conception of a path less taken.01/10/2016 #19 CityVP Manjit#18 For a long time Joel human beings have been fighting the barbaric imposition of the industrial age mind, but now as we move into the knowledge age, what is in much shorter supply is reflective experience. I never understood why HR folk are so blinkered to pursue policies of employee engagement initiatives to engage people, when those very policies often end up with the reverse outcome of disengagement. What would happen if they instead focused on employee reflection initiatives, then it is the employee who owns engagement. Command and control was the natural by-product of the industrial revolution, but now the knowledge revolution is a foot, we are no longer operating on the linear model of rote education, but the dynamic pattern recognition of noticing. The irony here being that rote education is not actually an education, employee engagement is not actually engagement and as we move from the industrial age to the knowledge-based age, the proportion of reflective ability must be the new form of initial engagement, for it is far from being the natural disposition of the vast majority. I now do see you are referring to engagement but there needs to be a revolution in how we view engagement, in parallel to the change in times.01/10/2016 #18 Joel AndersonThanks @CityVP Manjit for the thoughtful responses. I dont disagree with your point of difference. I do find it interesting in the world of globalization, perviasive information, social media and the internet of things (IoT) or as I refer to it as the Thing of Things (ToT) information and its use are, or in some respects may be fundamentally challenging the essence of our being.
Whether passive or active, sitting our standing my point in using the the phrase "if we do not stand up" was more of an attempt at a metaphor for engagement rather than the actual act of standing up an in your face stand up and fight perspective. That act may be relevant and germane in some cases, where as you have said, sometimes it is and will be better to sit down. There are some many aspects and nuances to it all, that I truly appreciate you taking the time to read it and whether your sitting or standing, to engage and explore this phenomena.01/10/2016 #17 CityVP ManjitA point of difference I have with Joel are the words "if we do not stand up". I think we have to sit down, even if what bothers us about the information age wants us to stand up, the urge to stand in a crowdsourced world inevitably leads not to standing but grandstanding. To sit and observe is a challenge in a world whizzing with information flows. If we are caught in that information current we are then fighting spin while being spun. This is the age where the Fool on the Hill is the observer that can sit still, at a time when everyone can stand. In that listening and observing, if it fundamentally transforms us, the world is better of with this one addition. The stand and fight mentality worked well in the counter-culture of the 60's but it is impotent in a network. How I individually process diverse views is the basis of a learning politics and not a winner-takes-all politics. How we each learn is our win and as we connect information flow with life flow - then and only then do we begin to take baby steps towards renaissance.01/10/2016 #16 CityVP ManjitThere is a masters degree offered in political science, there is a masters degree offered in public administration, but we don't have that degree that politicians should earn and that is a Masters in Servant Leadership. We carry the entire weight of democracy in the casting of a single vote and we still use archaic forms of democracy to manage 21st Century life. Even a roll call for a vote is a long queue, in an age where digital democracy provides more efficient ways of making the political process more cost effective.
The political process is not cost effective for the same reason that healthcare is not cost effective, or that education is not cost effective, because constituencies of special interest and professional groups continue to add burdens rather than improve service, they look after their own and we become puppets to their theater. The political process itself does not have to be political, it has to be systematic and why is that system broken? Just as are other systems that confuse systemic improvement with political manipulation. We become feed-stock to the political process rather individuals who are seeds of transformation.
The two paragraphs I have written above do nothing to change ANY political system on the Earth and when I now bring all of this down to the unit level of a human being (which is me) what then does this contribute to the power of information? I do like Marshall McLuhan's question about living in the electric age, which is asking a fundamental question "What is Going On?". Yet only a few people like Joel or people who comment on this actually have the desire to explore that question. I am here because that question is very important to me, but not as a political question, but a systematic one - a system whose outputs are wisdom.30/09/2016 #15 Deb Helfrich#14 That video is 9 minutes worth watching, as it illustrates the point that what we considered 'empty' land, is in fact the lungs of the planet and because we have repurposed so much of it, we have stopped the natural carbon exchange from the air down into the soil at the same time we vastly increased industrial carbon exhaust. In addition to setting aside "national" parks that are beautiful, we need to create vast tracts of functional protected land as well. I put national in quotes, as this needs to happen all over the globe. Flatlands with grazing animals and native species of plants will help us out of our current crises.30/09/2016 #14 Joel Anderson#13 @Deb Helfrich Looking forward to reading it. I work with faculty here on a variety of related topics germane to the plains and elsewhere around our globe. A flatlander at heart, albeit the 7th flattest state in the US. One example is related to the Konza Prairie and the last stand f the tall grass prairie. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jy21uSG3ma8 And believe it or not, we actually have hills in Kansas https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flint_Hills30/09/2016 #13 Deb HelfrichAs a resident of the plains, @Joel Anderson, the book will be eye-opening. Apart from the catchy title it is about the soil cycle and where we have went remiss is in the desertification of the world because "The process that actually removes CO2 from atmospheric circulation is photosynthesis" The cows part, as the modern equivalent of savannah animals, is to keep plant material circulating into the soil as they tramp it down when they roam as they should be supported in doing.29/09/2016 #12 Joel Anderson#10 Thanks @Deb Helfrich as usual spot on. Funny you raised the cow farting issue as there was an article earlier on climate change where cow burping and swamp gas was identified as the true and real culprit behind the climate and global warming issue. As with you I will continue to raise my voice and use my intellect to continue on my quest for insight and knowledge on my approach to better understand the world we live in. And one other thank you, I now have another good book to read.29/09/2016 #10 Deb HelfrichHard to believe I missed this back in June, @Joel Anderson. It is a discussion worth initiating again and again. I have one problem and I suspect I am not alone, but with the amount of information one can scroll by, it is very hard indeed to parse out signals from noise.
One of the most memorable books I have read in the last few years is "Cows Save the Planet" by Judith D. Schwartz - and while the title takes a jab at the faction trying to get us to blame cows - COWS?!? - for global warming because of all the methane they fart. She makes a convincing argument as to why this is a faulty argument. As a philosopher, I have no way to verify either way. I do look for the money as that explains much that goes on in America,
We have to open up these discussions so that non-experts have a chance of comprehending via a robust explanation in order to have a chance at seeing how specialized knowledge is manipulating us into arguing for something that ultimately benefits the few with an 'invested' interest.
- 28/09/2016Dedicated to the work of @Ali Anani.
"The tree which moves some to tears of joy is in the eyes of others only a green thing that stands in the way. Some see nature all ridicule and deformity... and some scarce see nature at all. But to the eyes of the man of imagination, nature is imagination itself." William Blake
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Comments29/09/2016 #3 Jared WieseI love this pic! Made me initially think of all that holds up a golf course, yet most never notice. Perhaps it is a view of what supports all green. Let's notice more! Makes me think of noticing nature one of the best ways to practice the Power of Now: https://www.bebee.com/producer/hive/eckhart-tolle so sharing this there!
@Ali Anani, such beautiful views and thoughts. I see those too, thanks to you! Have a BEAUTY-FUL day...
- Producer25/09/2016Communication is a two ways journey.Whenever we try to share a thought, immediately some obstacles use to emerge hindering it to comes out as clearly as we wanted to share it. These obstacles, just mentioning some of them, could be classified into two categories, “talker...
Comments27/09/2016 #15 Ali Anani#13 AMazing, as this is the core message of my buzz of this evening dear @Mohammed Sultan on Ideas Don't Move. Sometimes we need to lose our ability to move and move others. We may lose this ability for many reasons such as getting cold, imprisonment or by intangible negative forces. But it can be rewarding26/09/2016 #12 Ali Anani#10 Good Morning dear @Sara Jacobovici. Yes, it is harsh and I slept very little. However, to wake up to such lovely response is pain-relieving. Yes, emotions is a multi-layered and complex issue and the paradox is your statement "Emotion can change meaning for humans, meaning never changes for devices". This is a solid foundation of Reverse Businesses. This is a great idea for expanding on my previous work. Your words relieve me more than Aspirin.26/09/2016 #10 Sara Jacobovici#6 Under the harshest conditions and you still make "sense" @Ali Anani. I appreciate your comment on many levels but when you write, "It seems communication is a complex issue and more than I imagined...But the emotional part is important... " it reminds me of the difference between human versus technological communication. Development in the technology of Artificial Intelligence can only supply humans "high functioning" tools. Devices "communicate" with each other in a very specific/one dimensional way (still very dependent on human input). There is a difference, however, when devices "communicate" information and it is received by the human eyes and ears that interpret that information on a multi-dimensional level; and emotion is the factor that makes the difference. Emotion can change meaning for humans, meaning never changes for devices. Be well Dr. Ali and hope your cold passes quickly.25/09/2016 #8 Ali Anani#7 Interesting your comment is @Deb Helfrich. I don't need the honey anymore. I remember when I was in Luxembourg staying at the lobby of the hotel because I couldn't sleep. The inhouse magazine was laid on a table and I picked it to read "if you are unable to sleep, drink milk hot milk with one big spoon of honey". I walked in the hotel bar to ask for a sachet of honey and milk. Many eyes steered laughingly at me ordering milk in a bar. I tried and the drink worked like magic. Since then if I have trouble sleeping I do that successfully. Is there a scientific reasoning? I don't know, but I know it works.25/09/2016 #7 Deb Helfrich#6 The cold effect - now that is one major obstacle that cannot be ignored. We've all experienced it. It is like our brain is in quicksand and we are listening via a long, dark tunnel. Get yourself some honey, @Ali Anani View more#6 The cold effect - now that is one major obstacle that cannot be ignored. We've all experienced it. It is like our brain is in quicksand and we are listening via a long, dark tunnel. Get yourself some honey, @Ali Anani, as I simply and clearly wish you better health. Close25/09/2016 #6 Ali AnaniI read this buzz and comments three times before commenting. I have terrible cold all of a sudden, sneezing and coughing and yet I couldn't stop myself reading this buzz or commenting on it. I am in a situation that i harsh for me to listen dear @Deb Helfrich View moreI read this buzz and comments three times before commenting. I have terrible cold all of a sudden, sneezing and coughing and yet I couldn't stop myself reading this buzz or commenting on it. I am in a situation that i harsh for me to listen dear @Deb Helfrich and yet I enjoyed your comment, @Sara Jacobovici and surely @Mohammed Sultan comment. They added fragrance to the already fragrant buzz by @David Navarro López. I am saying if the sender communicates truthfully a message with simplicity and clarity then the listener shall listen without undue effort even if health conditions are not welcoming. Is the communication balance tilted more to the sender more than the receiver? This reminds me of changing TV channels and then one channel attracts my eye and senses even though the topic isn't my favorite. It seems communication is a complex issue and more than I imagined. I like the simple rules that David suggests. But the emotional part is important and I agree with @Mohammed Sultan on this issue. Close25/09/2016 #5 Deb HelfrichI am very compelled to comment on this tremendously pertinent buzz on how very, very difficult communication really is, @David Navarro López I find it really ironic that 2/3's of the burden is identical for the listener. Listening is not a passive activity.
One of the things I have learned the hard way is to distinguish from someone nodding and saying 'yes' as a way to encourage a speaker to continue versus actually agreeing to do a task.
I feel that we must always be aware of working to communicate effectively, as the moment we take these skills for granted, we are guaranteed to be misunderstood frequently. Each conversation is unique and we need to be willing to invest a little effort to make sure we ultimately convey or receive what is intended.25/09/2016 #3 Mohammed SultanDavid Navaro Lopez.Thanks for sharing your thoughtful post.The emotional culture is an integration of thinking and feeling and is often seen in people's eyes and in the way they behave .We all have strong feelings about different issues or about things that matter to us ,when these feelings are suppressed communication can't take place.The overwhelming communication messages and the narrower space of people's attention have made it difficult for any message to get through to the audience mind.So,adjusting the tone and wave length of our communication affect positively or negatively the behavior patterns and people perceptions.When communicating with others use simple words because they go unnoticed and can get agreement easily.Big words mean little things,and all big things have little names.25/09/2016 #2 Anonymous#1 Dear Sara, it is always rewarding sharing things with you, because you always bring to it further thoughts and enlightening.
Fortunately, there are some so-called-misunderstandings which can be positive too. Some expressed ideas from a talker can light a different line of thinking on the listener, which can cause consequently another spark reverted to the original talker. Could it be named as "bubbling effect"?. In that case, your quoting "This situation is inevitable, and it should be accepted rather than fought" is most valuable.25/09/2016 #1 Sara JacoboviciImportant discussion @David Navarro López. Good insights. I am always tempted to post my favorite quote when it comes to communication.
"We express ourselves all the time, in all sorts of ways. And we listen to one another. But we do not simply, passively receive a communication. We construct the message (and even the sender!) for ourselves, using a mix of what we have heard, what we hope we did not hear, who we are, who we think the message sender is, what our values and expectations are, what our moods and contexts are, our memories of previous interactions, etc. So, misunderstanding between two people is inevitable, no matter how much they try to communicate, no matter who they are, no matter what their relationship. This situation is inevitable, and it should be accepted rather than fought."
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- 23/09/2016Dedicated to @Chas Wyatt.Neil Young - Words (Between The Lines Of Age) Neil Young Words between the lines of age Harvest...
- 23/09/2016Words and meaning of words IN ACTION. An exchange of the use of a word leading to learning a new meaning and expanding on that meaning with finding the words of others
@Fatima Williams writes on her share: "A fantabulous panegyric by CityVP Manjit on Sarah and her words/work."
@CityVP Manjit replies: "Thank you Fatima for introducing me to the word "panegyric". This article about John Dryden http://publishing.cdlib.org/ucpressebooks/view?docId=ft4g5006bf&chunk.id=d0e368 has taught me more about this word. Where it states "encomium" meaning praise, but why panegyric means more than that. I then discovered that this is great speech in a public address, which led me to learn about the Agora of Athens - the first place where democracy began to flourish in Ancient Greece. I congratulate you Fatima for a well chosen word and in that word "panegyric", you have encapsulated an appreciation and admiration of Sara, a very well chosen word indeed."
This example "speaks for itself".
- Producer22/09/2016Be Mindful of the Pain You ChoseJohn White shared this last week - Sept 14th based on the date I saved it to my desktop. It is funny, I can't remember what was happening on that day that was the impetus for me to find this so poignant that I wanted it front and center. But I see...
Comments23/09/2016 #10 Deb Helfrich#9 #8 Really important point - physical pain is how our body talks to us. I know for a fact that my sensitivity to bodily pain is why I am so healthy. I feel it acutely, which makes me highly curious, which drives me to find a solution quickly.
But mental pain - that is a little complex. And I might be unique, but I cause myself pain that exists solely in my own thought processes. Because of lingering over the past - wanting to change something OR dwelling in the future - trying to predict what may happen so I can struggle today to avoid potential future pain.
This quote speaks to me as a way to evaluate whether the mental pain is part of growing or part of spinning my own wheels way past the point when the oil has broken down23/09/2016 #8 Sara JacoboviciPS @Deb Helfrich. In the discussion of pain, from my perspective, I see pain as a communication, our body or psyche is letting us know something is happening, alerting us, bringing our attention to something. It may not feel good, or we may not like it but, in many ways, thank goodness for it.23/09/2016 #7 Lisa GallagherI missed this poster by @John White, MBA @Deb Helfrich. Im glad you reposted it with a buzz. Pain will either hold some people back or ignite them to break free from the pain in order to find peace and hopefully a life that is filled with more pleasures, love, prosperity and good health. Great poster John, great buzz Deb!23/09/2016 #5 Sara JacoboviciFirst, as I try to gather my thoughts @Deb Helfrich, I will echo @Melissa Hefferman's "words", "...there's a message from the Heavens and a kindred Soul writing hello to my heart without even knowing it. So I'll say THANK YOU! Happy Thursday Deb!"
If (not if, once) I finish my synchronicity article, it will include this kind of "connection" or openness to receiving, seeing or hearing, a message or response to a thought, question or feeling. While you were writing about your experience with this quote from @John White, MBA, I was having the same experience with your post. That is why, when I read Melisa's comment, I knew I needed to echo her words.
So, it's the meaning and timing of words that is significant. We could be reading the same words at different times and pull from them a different meaning each time. I guess Einstein was right after all, time is relative.
As always, Deb, thank YOU for your contribution.23/09/2016 #2 Deb HelfrichGinger bowling... Shut up, Donnie! That might really mess with the Jesus.... Thanks for dropping in to check what condition my condition was in. I'll stop being a little Lebowski urban achiever.....
Always a sincere pleasure to bump into you, @Melissa Hefferman, being exactly who you are.
- 22/09/2016An informative and insightful perspective about words. A good read.Where do words come from? Do they really mean anything? | Dictionary.com Blogblog.dictionary.com How do we use language? We use it to express ourselves through speech, to record our experiences or to invent and tell stories in writing. But before all that begins, before a word leaves our lips or a pen hits the page, we use language in our...
- Producer22/09/2016What Words Mean to Me: a new HiveI have just recently been trying to make “sense” of how words have taken on a significant difference when they are part of social media and then I read @Auroras Sima say in her interview with @Don Kerr: “It´s a paradox: The technical ability to...
Comments23/09/2016 #22 Sara Jacobovici#20 It's perfectly OK @Randy Keho to "just say" and that's one of the points of this discussion; what we say and what words we use to say it. Using quotes that inspire us to develop our original ideas or support or reinforce our original perspectives is one way to just say it. Always glad to see your contributions to the discussion Randy.23/09/2016 #19 Sara Jacobovici#18 I would venture to say @Pascal Derrien, that it's about 50% of all. I can not deny that we started our life relating and communicating non-verbally. We then developed the words to utter and put down on stone, paper, screens, that would communicate and express our thoughts and feelings. I think without our non-verbal maternal language, we wouldn't be able to interpret words. What do you think?23/09/2016 #16 Chas Wyatt#15 @Sara Jacobovici, I thank you for tagging me, and although I love the song by Neil Young, "Words", I am actually more interested in the hive you started, "Tree of Life", and the reasons for that will become apparent at a later date. I was going to try and limit the hives I belong to, but, everytime I turn around there is some new hive that piques my interest for some reason, or another and I have already exceeded my self-imposed hive limitation. I have a lot on my plate right now with several unfinished projects, but, I appreciate your mention.22/09/2016 #10 Deb HelfrichPerhaps the real saying needs to be that CONTEXT is King. The internet is a virtual smorgasbord and it is up to each of us to be the curator of our own experiences and that starts with being aware of the nutrients of meaning and significance within what we partake of.
A fantastic idea, @Sara Jacobovici, to share what speaks to us and to contextualize why it does so in order to dive deeper into meaning.22/09/2016 #9 David B. GrinbergKudos on the new hive, Sara (which I've shared on three other hives). You cited one of my favorite Einstein quotes @Sara Jacobovici. The full quote reads (for those unfamiliar with it):
"Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord, find harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity."
cc: @Franci Eugenia Hoffman: a good feature for "Hive Talk"22/09/2016 #6 Aurorasa SimaI joined. Not having read the other comments yet a quick comment: I believe memes and to parts also quotes without self-written text, for instance on a site like twitter, have the meaning of the person who sees them only. The simplest example would be tweeting (when Bernie was still in the race) a critical meme of Clinton and winning 12 new Republican "friends". So I believe, yes, depending on the site or even on any site a quote or meme shared without context (supposed we say nobody analyzes the whole timeline) will be understood at the viewer´s discretion.
I just saw a SpongeBob identity theft 1-liner meme. A security expert will see a warning about identity theft, someone else will see a joke, a third might see a message that the poster is poor.22/09/2016 #4 Sara Jacobovici#2 Very thought provoking comment @Phillip Hubbell. I need to think about a couple of things. First, although I agree about the art of saying a great deal in a few words, I'm not sure that many words is necessarily a bad thing. Second, I think there is a distinction between complicating matters and complexities. Like I said, lots to think about. Thank you for your comment.