- 19/07/2016courage and strength ! she is amazing! what do you think ?Una Magnífica Mujer Sacude Su Cuerpo En El Escenario... Y La Multitud Se Vuelve Loca
- 18/07/2016I wanted to take a moment to Welcome all the new QUEEN BEES in the Breakout Women Hive. GREAT TO BUZZ WITH YOU!
I've followed all of you so that I can welcome you personally. Unfortunately, I can't message you unless you follow me back. So please do that as you can...I'd appreciate it!
Also - for the gentlemen, aka workers bees, appearing in the hive. This is a hive for women to discuss women's issues. I am not banning any bees for now. I have requested that the worker bees allow the queens to discuss among themselves. Nothing against you but this Hive is about women and women's issues...
If any Queen bees have an issue with a small number of well behaved workers being in the hive, let me know. We'll adjust accordingly.
Welcome to a new and Kick Ass week! Go be Unstoppable!
Comments19/07/2016 #28 Joanna Hofman#21 @Rebel Brown, Dear Rebel, there is no need to say: thank you. My apologies for suggestion. I want to share my experiences with other women and hear their experiences, problems etc. I would like to find answers to many questions. But many questions are related to our personal relationships, professional life etc. Any problem, case, challenge has two sides : male point of view and woman's point of view . If you learn only an one side - you learn only "half- a true", if you let yourself to know a second side, you can reflect fully the problem or case.19/07/2016 #27 Randy Keho#26 I understand your concerns, Jennifer. My first buzz was in response to comments made about middle-aged, white men. I simply put a face to that category of men, which I am among. We are often bashed for various shortcomings, including a tradition of holding woman back. No category of people should be generalized. We have our share of faults. but we have become the punching bags for every minority in the book. We're despised by each and every one. They all think we've got it made. We don't and we're not all alike. The amazing young woman who wrote the buzz I responded to, thanked me for providing a perspective she hadn't thought about. I have a tongue-in-cheek writing style, but there's always a point to it. I encourage you to read it.19/07/2016 #26 Jennifer SchultzHi @Rebel Brown - I joined this hive as a way to share & hear about women's issues, challenges, achievements and concerns in a comfortable way. While I may not fully understand why men want to join this hive, as long as those that become members do not try to diminish, belittle or devalue what all the women in this group are saying or sharing, I don't see that to be a problem. I think it's clear that you have the best interests at heart in your efforts to make it a worthy hive and I look forward to seeing what Breakout Women has to offer.19/07/2016 #24 Anonymous#23 I've recently had to accept and face my own issues with men, a survivor of an abusive relationship, I thought were gone @Randy Keho. And you know what? Without a male perspective to challenge and reflect myself back at me, I may not have even realized that unconscious pain still lingered, so we all need each other to grow further. Always. Simple as that! :)19/07/2016 #23 Randy Keho#19 Anybody who has read the buzzes I've sent to this hive knows I have the utmost respect for women and I was inspired to respond to the issues they presented. If you decide to limit it to women, I'll respect that. Nonetheless, I don't think there's a way to prevent anybody from reading its contents, anyway. It's a public forum. If someone's not comfortable with others reading what they write, then this isn't the place for them. I never asked to join nor was I invited. I simply submitted a couple of buzzes.I, personally, would not want to be banned from exchanges with the likes of those I've had the pleasure to have met in this hive. Banning men from the discourse is not going to do anything to promote women's issues. It will act to further divide. Women's issues are men's issues, too. We are often the target. Nonetheless, I will accept whatever the hive decides. @Rebel Brown19/07/2016 #21 Rebel Brown#17 ANYWAY I hit return and that was the end of that message - and no way to edit it either:) Anyway - thanks for your feedback. I hear your position completely. I don't want to be the one to influence about this - I want the group to decide. Which means no matter what happens, some folks will not feel they got what they wanted. Isnt that the joys of managing a hive???? HA THANKS AGAIN @Joanna Hofman !19/07/2016 #19 Rebel Brown#17 @Joanna Hofman I didnt say you accused.. although everyone seems to use the word Exclusionary to define this simple request post... and I'm anything but exclusionary. When I started Breakout Women I was focused on a women only hive. But then a few men bees asked to join so I said yes. Wasn't comfortable with it but I allowed it. And then I had complaints from others who don't want men in a group where they might share their private thoughts. Everyone has an opinion and I respect them all. But now Im in a pinch... uninvite the men to please members? Dont allow more to please members? Asking the questions and putting it out there doesn't make me the bad exclusionary one.. At least I didnt think it did til I started reading the comments here. Sigh. What I dont understand is why it's seen as wrong or exclusionary to have a hive focused on women? I have one on Facebook and no one cares...nor do guys make comments about my being exclusionary. So here's a question for you and @Randy Keho Ive had a number of men bees join Breakout Women and I've moved them out. 1) I do not know them and 2) when I looked at their history on bebee, they appear to be spammers looking for people to get to help them with their Millions in offshore accounts. So maybe I should allow them too? Just curious what everyone thinks of that??? Where is the line and who decides? It's an interesting dichotomy to figure out, now isnt it?18/07/2016 #17 Joanna Hofman#15 Dear Rebel , no one accused you of anything. Please, read my and others comments. I said that if man want to join to the discussion - why is it not possible. Some of them declared that they want to learn - what is wrong with that ? Of course, as you said - it is your hive and you will do what you think is the best for other women. I respect your decision and respect your marvelous work. I have never accused anyone about anything. My apologies for suggestion.18/07/2016 #15 Rebel Brown#9 Well darned, @Joanna Hofman I've commented back to you 4 times now and bebee keeps losing the comments. First - i NEVER said I was excluding anyone. If you knew me you'd know that isnt true. 2nd - I created the hive as a place for women to be able to share and grow in a safe and comfortable community. I've had some question about the men in the hive. So I'm following up and attempting to manage in a way that is inclusive but also honors the focus of the hive and its members. 3rd - I cant win here. If I honor those who want privacy, I'm accused of being exclusionary. If I dont try to manage the bee members, I'm not meeting the needs of the members. So - I'll do what i think is the best for all and if people want to throw rocks at me for being something I'm not - fine. I can't please everyone .... which means I will have people making claims that are untrue no matter what I do. I think you and Randy and Jim should create the hives you want - and I wont be accusing you of ANYTHING but love and humor. Thanks much...18/07/2016 #9 Joanna HofmanDear Rebel, I appreciate your idea to open a hive for women to discuss our issues etc. but if some man feels inside him woman, should we excluded him? :-) this is joke of course but seriously : I like such hive but I would not exclude men who want to learn and know about our problems and concerns more. Why we should limited an access to someone who want to discuss with us or learn from us, only because he is a man? I would be happy to know that thanks to our discussions one relationship will survive and be much better because an one man learnt about our women's world and understood his partner better. I experienced the awful segregation in my life - and am allergic to any such limitations.18/07/2016 #8 Rebel Brown#7 Not just here to promote my business @Jim Lenihan I'm a tech exec strategists and turnaround consultant working with VCs.... which I dont promote here at all. I do coach women, but that's to give back to others. Something I knew I was meant to do as I gathered learnings and lessons to move beyond torture and horrors that knocked me down and left me powerless for over 5 years of my life. Blessings to you..18/07/2016 #4 Rebel Brown#1 Im not promoting separation @Jim Lenihan If you knew me at all you;d know thats the farthest thing from my mind. That said, Breakout Women was formed to talk about women's issues with their lives. Their fears, doubts, Bag Lady syndrome and more. Our minds are wired very differently from those of men so the techniques I share for women are often different than what I share for male clients. As you'll note - there are men hovering in the hive and that's fine. but many women are uncomfortable discussing their deep thoughts and emotions with strangers of the opposite sex around. So I'm being cognizant of that. if you'd like to starts a Breakout Men hive tI wont accuse you of anything but focusing and recognizing the differences between us - and honoring them.