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  1. ProducerRandall Burns

    Randall Burns

    17/11/2017
    "Love Mussel"
    "Love Mussel"My hand plunges into the frigid ice water causing goosebumps to erupt over my arm; I grasp a handful of the precious mollusks and place them into the large bowl next to me. The glistening shells are deceptively heavy with the promise of...
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    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #37 Randall Burns
    #36 Oh My! @Nicole Chardenet I love eliciting that kind of response. :-) Thanks for the great feedback, (pun intended) Last photo suggestive? oh, I never noticed...
    Nicole Chardenet
    19/11/2017 #36 Nicole Chardenet
    Yes! Yes! YES! YES!! YES YES YES YES YES YES YES OH GOD IT'S SO GOOD!!!

    I love cooked mussels. Can you tell? :)

    Not a big fan of 'moules marinieres' but I do love them cooked :) BTW loved that last shot with the mussel and the fork. Not TOO suggestive, is it??? LOL
    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #35 Randall Burns
    #33 Oh and @Charlene Norman You have to thank @Jim Murray for me for his sage advice about,

    "Write about what you know"
    and
    "Write for yourself, don't write for other people"
    (actually I think it's his "I don't give a shit" attitude about what other people think that's wearing off on me. I like it!)
    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #34 Randall Burns
    Well @Charlene Norman I think that's the best response I could've hoped for, Thank You so much. i must admit that the creative juices have been flowing for the past couple of days since writing this, I have several more articles/installments already almost finished in my head and a concept based on this post, and YES, as @Godfrey Hebert has suggested possibly a book, but let's not get ahead of ourselves. Control, patience, (foreplay), romance, :-)

    I will be sure to keep you posted. Thanks again. :-)
    Charlene Norman
    19/11/2017 #33 Charlene Norman
    OMG ...... You have awakened a burning desire deep inside of me to experiment ...... never in my life have I wanted to dabble on the wild side. Mussels ..... I have such a longing to try thee now ... I hope this is just the first of many of your food porn editions. Hugely enjoyable!
    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #32 Randall Burns
    Yes indeed @Godfrey Hebert, the start of ANOTHER one!
    Godfrey Hebert
    18/11/2017 #31 Godfrey Hebert
    Yes, cooking with passion can be as uplifting (keeping it clean, Randy) as any creative activity such as performing music, painting, etc.
    Maybe this is to be a start to that book, Chef!
    Randall Burns
    18/11/2017 #29 Randall Burns
    #28 Thank You Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams for the vote of confidence, I did have some other ideas floating around as I wrote this, maybe I'll pursue them...
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    18/11/2017 #28 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    #9 departure it may have been but I agree it's a new genre and absolutely enticing in so many ways ๐Ÿ˜…
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    18/11/2017 #27 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    #6 Nigella is one of my favorites!! Her 'love' of good food can be felt even if you just watching via TV.
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    18/11/2017 #26 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    Don't like oysters or clams but I can eat mussels unendingly. Into son in law is the cook in the family and I think I just found the opening dish for Thanksgiving!!
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    18/11/2017 #25 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    #11 Yeah. I'll have what you're having!
    Randall Burns
    18/11/2017 #24 Randall Burns
    #23 Well actually @Gert Scholtz Everyone does call me Randy :-)
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #23 Gert Scholtz
    @Randall Burns. A raunchy, rollicking recipe from Randall! (Or is that Randy :)
    Randall Burns
    18/11/2017 #22 Randall Burns
    #20 HaHa! Thank You so much @Paul Walters Glad you appreciate it. Were or are you a fan of Mel Brooks? Your comment reminded me of line from "Blazing Saddles".
    Randall Burns
    18/11/2017 #21 Randall Burns
    #19 Thank You @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador great to hear from you!
    Paul Walters
    18/11/2017 #20 Paul Walters
    @Randall Burns . A dish made all the more erotic by your sensuous text... you saucy man. I have been tempted to linger in counties such as Scilly and yup even Belgium just because of the quality and preparation of their mussels. As @Don ๐Ÿ Kerr so rightly put it...its pure food porn!
    Phil Friedman
    17/11/2017 #18 Phil Friedman
    #16 @Randall Burns, did I ever tell you the story of the chef who cooked with one hand whilst keeping the other in his front pocket... Oh wait! Better not in polite company. Good fun. Cheers!
    Cyndi wilkins
    17/11/2017 #17 Cyndi wilkins
    #16 See how quickly things manifest when you're on the same wave length;-) Doing anything with love is 'cosmic.'
  2. ProducerGeoff Hudson-Searle
    Can you really fall in love with a robot?
    Can you really fall in love with a robot?Our company has just started to work with a new client who has developed a humanised robot, which they describe as a โ€˜social robotโ€™. It is clear by my work to date with this company that advances in robotics and AI are starting to gain some real...
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    Brian McKenzie
    20/11/2017 #3 Brian McKenzie
    "Samantha" from 'HER' Cheated on Theodore with a big University mainframe . Technology is apparently not an answer, but it will be fun to watch the chaos AI Lovebots create.
    Randall Burns
    20/11/2017 #2 Randall Burns
    Interesting read @Geoff Hudson-Searle but I am skeptical as to the time frame that you discuss. @Phil Friedman posted an article almost a week ago, https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/artificial-un-intelligence along these lines but from a very different perspective. granted it's ALL conjecture at this point but it does make one think...
    Debasish Majumder
    20/11/2017 #1 Debasish Majumder
    lovely buzz @Geoff Hudson-Searle! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for such relevant buzz.
  3. ProducerDebasish Majumder
    SPIN, THE TRUE ARCHITECT OF LIVING!
    SPIN, THE TRUE ARCHITECT OF LIVING!Spin is a lovely process Alone it makes huge progress Accelerate with amazing blow Forcing many to toe Extreme energy it generates Apparently it appears in a stationary state Lovely rendition you adhere Spin you are...
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    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #5 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    You spinned my head with your poem dear @Debasish Majumder.
    "Spin is having two motions
    Clockwise and anti-clockwise in expression".
    I promise to put you on a spinner:)))
    Debasish Majumder
    19/11/2017 #4 Debasish Majumder
    #3 thank you very much @Geoff Hudson-Searle for your continuous support and appreciation. i am privileged and honored.
    Geoff Hudson-Searle
    19/11/2017 #3 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    Great Buzz @Debasish Majumder your words remind me of a quote by Daryn Kagan 'Times might be tough, your head and thoughts might be spinning, but I find it's physically impossible to do that spiral thing when your mind is focused on giving and creating opportunity.'
  4. ProducerPaul Walters

    Paul Walters

    18/11/2017
       Living In A Smoker's Paradise.
    Living In A Smoker's Paradise.Ok, Iโ€™m a smoker! There, I said it! I can almost hear the rustle of bees wings as they rush to the keyboard and frantically press the orange button, unfollow, unfollow, unfollow! Beware, a smoker is amongst us! I am not...
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    Lisa Vanderburg
    20/11/2017 #32 Lisa Vanderburg
    #31 Lord, @Robert Cormack...I've more bad habits than a nunnery of drag-queens :)
    Robert Cormack
    19/11/2017 #31 Robert Cormack
    Seems like you're in good company, @Paul Walters, or bad company, depending on what sort of positive reinforcement you want. Sounds like your bank manager is the "good guy" right now. I never had a habit as much as a strategy. For years, I only smoked when I reached an impasse in my writing (you know how that happens in advertising). With books, the impasses were further apart, so it might only constitute 8 cigarettes a day. Once I stopped writing for the day, I never even thought about cigarettes. Last week, I stopped for good (shouldn't say that, should I?). What I was dealing with wasn't nicotine cravings. I simply didn't know how else to "take that break." I was used to going outside, lighting up, simplifying the problem and..bingo, bango, THE ANSWER!!! Check your habits. For many people that's what they have to traverse, not nicotine cravings. Oh, and I launched The Last Pack, smoking cessation system in 1990. We were all still smokingโ€”including the client. I loved the Age of Hypocrites.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    19/11/2017 #30 Lisa Vanderburg
    #28 Great advise @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher 'dont admit youve quit until a good month or so passes because the pressure is that much stronger..'
    Like you, I vape with 0 nicotine now. But on my last (and bleedin' FINAL) quit I said to my hubby who stopped cold turkey 10 years prior, 'I'm NOT saying I quit for good again...I'm quitting TODAY'. That ball-busting 'promise' will not help you at all @Paul Walters! IMHO you sorta have to sneak up on that puppy.........
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    19/11/2017 #29 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #3 I agree, e cigs are great and they dont burn so a person isnt in the habit of chronic puffing either. I get 0 nicotine, started much higher. Need to find a flavor that works for you too. I always keep it with me in case I get the strong urge to smoke and I still do get urges after 5 years!
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    19/11/2017 #28 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Oh, I really wish you luck @Paul Walters! I smoked for years. I began when there were no stigmas or major warnings. More people smoked tham didnt. I really wanted to quit in the worst way when I hit my 40's, but the addiction is much stronger than common sense. My Dr. compares a smoking addiction to crack. 5 years ago I developed pneumonia and I didnt crave or pick up a cigarette for over 2 weeks because I was so sick. I purchased vaping products, and began using them. It will be 5 years for me in December since I smoked. You've got this! One suggestion, dont admit youve quit until a good month or so passes because the pressure is that much stronger when you admit knowing it will please those you love. Once I was sure I wasnt going back to them I told my family. I really do wish you the best, I understand how hard it is!
    Gloria ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿพ ๐Ÿ’ซ โ˜• (Glo) Ochoa
    19/11/2017 #27 Anonymous
    beBee support for a fellow Bee... You can Do it @Paul Walters !
    Gloria ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿพ ๐Ÿ’ซ โ˜• (Glo) Ochoa
    19/11/2017 #26 Anonymous
    I know how hard it is for someone to quit smoking (not me..#asthmaGirl) but both my parents were smokers. I wish you much luck and send you lots of positive thoughts that the treatment works for you!
    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #25 Randall Burns
    #22 Great perspective @Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #24 Randall Burns
    @Paul Walters there is a book by Allen Carr called "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking", (reminds me I need to pull it off the bookshelf), that actually helped me a couple of years ago and of all the books I've read on the subject , (yes there's been a few), I think this one is the best. Easy, straightforward read, try it in conjunction with anything else that you do.

    Good Luck Buddy, keep us posted
    Ken Boddie
    19/11/2017 #23 Ken Boddie
    Thank you, Pak Paul, for your years of smokerโ€™s contribution to our roads, infrastructure and hospitals here in Oz. Now, if you really must quit, then why not try pipe tobacco, but not in a pipe. If you roll your own with Dunhill 965 either your lungs will turn into a steamship or youโ€™ll be cured for life. And there again thereโ€™s always the local Indo rokok kretek (clove cigarettes), affectionately called โ€œgoddam garamโ€ by non-smoking foreigners ..... almost guaranteed to have the same effect.
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    18/11/2017 #22 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    Dear Paul,

    My friend, you need to get a job in Canada. Like Australia, smoking is banned pretty well everywhere. The best part, is that in the winter, when it is -20 degrees Celsius, and the wind is cutting your forehead in half, your craving subsides considerably. :)

    Alternatively, perhaps you need to make a mental shift. Try not thinking about quitting smoking because that implies that you are giving up something important to you. Re-position your thinking so that you identify yourself as a non-smoker rather than a person who is trying to quit. Trying? There's no commitment to change when you are "trying". @Paul Walters, as soon as you decide that you are a non smoker, you will become one.

    Best of luck,

    Your friend, Pollyanna
    Debasish Majumder
    18/11/2017 #21 Debasish Majumder
    Great buzz @Paul Walters! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.
    Harvey Lloyd
    18/11/2017 #20 Harvey Lloyd
    If you are referring to Chantix have someone watch your behavior. I did this in one of my attempts and had very stressful dreams. Along with almost what u would call roid rage, much milder, but was easily provoked

    My wife bought me a cartoon

    Follow the instructions
    Phil Friedman
    18/11/2017 #19 Phil Friedman
    Good for you, Paul, and good luck. How about a follow-up article on the growing danger of vape oils that are laced with nicotine, one of the most addictive substances known? Out children are being attacked by those selling this next global scourge.
    Jerry Fletcher
    18/11/2017 #18 Jerry Fletcher
    Paul, I've got my fingers crossed for you. It took me years to quit and now, 30 years later I still get the urge. Good luck on a very difficult mission.
    Randall Burns
    18/11/2017 #17 Randall Burns
    Well Bravo to you @Paul Walters for "coming out of the closet", it is a tough one that I'm dealing with as well. Believe it or not I'm on Champix right now, (@Paul "Pablo" Croubalian will be interested in this), the first thing your doctor is going to ask you is, "are you depressed? do you have suicidal tendencies? etc." Why? Because the Champix will give you the most intense, vivid dreams, absolutely wild which are very disconcerting for some people and if you're in a "negative" state of mind can make things worse. I have no problems with it and find it actually quite entertaining.
    I notice a decrease in craving as well but the bottom line is it's the psychological factor that will dictate whether you quit or not, yes "willpower", Champix is not "The silver bullet" but it can help, (I'm still smoking but less, I'm in a "re-group and re-organize" phase and will try again in earnest in a few weeks)

    Good luck Buddy! keep us posted
    Cyndi wilkins
    18/11/2017 #16 Cyndi wilkins
    I'm rootin' for ya @Paul Walters...Brutal habit to quit...I was a smoker for well over 30 years and quit cold turkey when my daughter was born...But that addictive behavior, like all others, never completely leaves you...I fell right back into it while dealing with the recent loss of my dad...a coping mechanism I had employed for many years to calm my nerves...

    Try as I might to stop the cravings...my inner 'voldemort' kept hissing at me with a big 'F Off' every time I tried to reason with it...It took getting violently ill recently to kick the habit once again...I hope you don't have to go there;-)
    Jim Cody ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    18/11/2017 #15 Jim Cody ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    Itโ€™s sad but true. The only way anyone can kick the habit is to have the willpower. Otherwise all you do by trying all the standard means to quit is wasting your money. Until one decideds they want to quit it is a lost cause.
    Nicotine, the primary psychoactive chemical in tobacco and therefore cigarettes, is very addictive.About half of cigarette smokers die of tobacco-related disease and lose on average 14 years of life.
    But all of that said doesnโ€™t sole anything.
    I occasionally enjoy a good cigar.
    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    18/11/2017 #14 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    Would never unfollow you. I'm off again, on again myself. Right now I'm on. A sibling stopped with Chantix and said it was easier but still took willpower as the whole hand to mouth actions were as much of an addiction. She tended to replace it with a fork and gained 10 lbs quickly. Lollipops were my replacement but in a professional setting you looked a bit silly! ๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“๐Ÿ“
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #13 Lisa Vanderburg
    Dang, @Paul Walters...I'm with @Ian Weinberg; hate to tell ya we're all gonna die!! Puff away - I do, on my vape - no nicotine now. My sister & BFF died from it 2005; not from her terminal NSCLC which was only diagnosed at stage 4, but because she fell asleep outside in the cold (having a fag; oxygen inside) during the night on my watch - I got to her 45 mins after, she got the final infection. After that I finally quit. We'd both done the Champix thing - it really works!
    Unless you start again.
    People judge on what they see (or smell). They should get the plank outta their own eye because we all fall short :)
  5. ProducerAli ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Emerging Tensions and Creativity
    Emerging Tensions and CreativityI write on my profile that the more I know, the less I know for I realize how more I need to know. This is an emerging paradox in a way because I didnโ€™t expect that the more I know, the less I realize I know. Do I stop trying to know more so as...
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    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2017 #49 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #46 as if we were born to have inner tension @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams. It depends on us to make the tension creative
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2017 #48 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #44 absolutely and I conchur with your comment @Lisa Vanderburg
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2017 #47 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #43 I never thought that we share so many ideas till I read your comment @Cyndi wilkins. Yes and your high school quote fits so well with my own.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    20/11/2017 #46 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    #43 We all get there at one point in our life don't we :) @Cyndi wilkins The left says yes and the right says no...I'm in between...and the more I learn, well, the less I know." -Styx
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    20/11/2017 #45 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    @Lisa Vanderburg I loved childbirth too! I have a story in a social media site on birthing! @Lisa Vanderburg#34
    Lisa Vanderburg
    20/11/2017 #44 Lisa Vanderburg
    #43 lol @Cyndi wilkins..knock the Profs' out! :)
    #37 Love that @Randall Burns!
    #36 You're so smart, it...smarts @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams!
    I know that moment of frozen indecision. That taste of urgent ambiguity..is that the onus of emerging tension @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee et al? The nanosecond that drives......
    Cyndi wilkins
    19/11/2017 #43 Cyndi wilkins
    @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...Interesting that this was exactly the meaning behind the quote I put in my high school yearbook...

    "I'm so confused by the things I read...I need the truth...But the truth is, I don't know who to believe.
    The left says yes and the right says no...I'm in between...and the more I learn, well, the less I know." -Styx-

    Funny, because everyone that signed it said..."What the hell does that mean?"

    Well, now you know;-)
    Yogesh Sukal
    19/11/2017 #42 Yogesh Sukal
    As i just read quote in comment mentioned by @Laurent Boscherini on @Gert Scholtz recent buzz about uncertainty.

    "Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security." - John Allen Paulos

    I think it is aligned with this post as well.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #41 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #40 thank you for sharing the buzz @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams. Greatly appreciated
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    19/11/2017 #40 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    "The more I know, the less I know for I realize how more I need to know" #MustRead @Savvy Raj
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #39 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #37 thank you @Randall Burns. Your quotes are great and adds clarity to the buzz. It is a great purpose to know so as to passour knowledge to others. But do we pass knowledge or less knowledge?
    This topic intrigues me. I therefore look very much to reading your nrxt comment with anticipation.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #38 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #36 thank you @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    . oone objective of a paradox is to grab our attention like your comment grabbed mine.
    A purpose has a value proportional to the value it extends to others. When we find a paradox in our purpose then we have an opportunity to come up with creative solutions.
    This is a balancing act. It reminds me of the balance metaphor @harvey lloyd uded in his last buzz. We balance the purpose by balancing it. So much to think about.
    Randall Burns
    19/11/2017 #37 Randall Burns
    Great post @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! I'm just going through and contemplating the insightful comments but wanted to say that you're "Spot on" with;
    "the more I know, the less I know for I realize how more I need to know"

    One of my favorite sentiments is "The older I get the more I realize what I don't know", and a favorite quote that I use by Confucius;

    "Real knowledge is knowing the extent of one's ignorance"

    It's upon accepting these premises that we can truly begin learning...

    I will be back to respond with some more thoughts,

    Fantastic insights!
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    19/11/2017 #36 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Dear @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thank you for yet another intriguing buzz. Ah, the paradox of purpose. Digging deep down into this paradox I see the light wonders sheds here. Like Harvey said "Purpose/values at this level help us navigate through win-win and make the tough call of no deal, if we can't get past the paradox" Value-driven purpose is a win-win because apart from finding satisfaction within the self, we are simultaneously giving satisfaction to the ones around us. I read somewhere about an organism in which both the host and the virus survives, it must be from one of your buzzes.

    I would like to call this the magical purpose paradox of life. The Why validates and gives our reasoning an answer, for the human mind is fickle!

    The answer to our fickle mind "Creative tensions provide us with great opportunities to come up with noble solutions. We need to look for not only our purpose, but also for the competing tensions within that provoke innovation, grow revenues and inspire us for more strive to find more tensions.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    19/11/2017 #34 Lisa Vanderburg
    #6 Wonderful @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee! 'in the tension is an opening', like a runner's start-mark. It is anticipation: we hold still for that moment, minute, year...awaiting the revelation. It's an essential precursor to a new level!
    I LOVED childbirth - nothing like it EVER; that said, Westminster Hospital London had bars on the windows for good reason :)
    Phillip Louis D 'Amato
    19/11/2017 #33 Phillip Louis D 'Amato
    Great post Ali Anani.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    19/11/2017 #32 Lisa Vanderburg
    #30 haha....'Grinnin' like a possum eatin' a sweet tater.'
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #31 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #30 and you spinned my head with your comment @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador. I am anxiously waiting for the pie
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    19/11/2017 #30 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Without a big spin, thereโ€™s nothing to win. We must make the best of a given situation โ€œLifeโ€™s lemons are sometimes little blessings, you just have to wait for the pie.โ€ With that said, don't dip your toe until you know.
  6. ProducerDebasish Majumder
    SYMPHONY IN LIFE AND DEATH!
    SYMPHONY IN LIFE AND DEATH!Life itself an enigma Nobody knows when it will conclude its charisma How many can realize it is a continuation Having the constituents promoting impetus to acceleration Human civilization thus proceeds with a never ending flow...
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    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #7 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #6 Yes, sadly very true what you wrote dear @Debasish Majumder. Time the awaken up
    Debasish Majumder
    19/11/2017 #6 Debasish Majumder
    #5 yes sir @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, this issue is haunting me for a fairly long time that apart from people who are in miserable state out of poverty and debt, opting for suicide. but, now people who are educated and well to do also opting for suicide unable to cope up with the pressure and lifestyle. even in our country brilliant students from engineering, medical and management faculty too are succumbing and this trend at rise. i wonder, what education we are dispensing with what ambition!
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #5 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    A genuine cry dear @Debasish Majumder. You wrote "
    I wonder how this suicidal trend
    Creeping and influencing people with adequate name and fame
    The same issue was hanging in my head as I keep reading about suicidal attempts of young people. have we reached this stage of helplessness? Is it a state of total chaos and self-emptiness and bankruptcy?
    "
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #4 Gert Scholtz
    @Debasish Majumder A multi-faceted poem Debasish - it left my head spinning - in a good way. This I like most: "When we stare at dark deep sky, Beauty of stellar appears like twinkling eye, Some are luminous and boisterous, Some are falling in despair....Death and life makes a unique stew".
  7. ProducerDeb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Learning from our Experience
    Learning from our ExperienceFrom babies to old age, ย life is a continual choice. One choice after another every day.With each choice is an experience of life.With each choice and experience, we create the opportunity to be conscious, learn, adapt and change moment by moment,...
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    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #19 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #10 thank you for engaging your passions @Debasish Majumder you are such a prolific learner and sharer.
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #18 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #9 yes @Laurent Boscherini a gift, priceless - there is so much to be grateful for - thanks for connecting.
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #17 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    @Yogesh Sukal loved your post about life and libraries and our stories #8
    There is so much we can learn from each of our stories when we stop and listen and we make it safe for each of us to share.
    Randall Burns
    18/11/2017 #16 Randall Burns
    #12 It's always great to read your stuff @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee And I don't really have any input at this point due to the fact that it is a complete post, and I'm still absorbing and digesting. I will get back to it though. ;-)
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #15 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #7 dear @Lisa Vanderburg yes I hear you , I see you, I sense you are a great at learning at about your life and uncovering your gifts.
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #14 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #6 thank you for engaging @Carl E Reid - it all sounds so easy but is so hard to do.
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #13 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #5 @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee thank you for engaging. I agree with you it is not just about having information available but doing something with it to make a difference to our lives and others. There is so much information out there - how do we engage with that information to make a difference to our lives.
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #11 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    @Mohammed A. Jawad #3 - loved your comment about righteous living. I wateched a video this morning about being aware enough to notice what is going on around us, and then energised enough to take care and do something about it if something needs doing- righteous living. Thanks for your interest.
    Debasish Majumder
    18/11/2017 #10 Debasish Majumder
    lovely insight @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz madam.
    Laurent Boscherini
    18/11/2017 #9 Anonymous
    #1 @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee, learning is still recreational for me, even if sometimes it has been less easy to be understood like that. It is a priceless and permanent gift from and to people and life.
    Yogesh Sukal
    18/11/2017 #8 Yogesh Sukal
    Learning is never ending autocyclic process but one has to stop and rethink the direction of learning,

    As life itself is library within a library

    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@yogesh-sukal/the-life-library-within-a-library View more
    Learning is never ending autocyclic process but one has to stop and rethink the direction of learning,

    As life itself is library within a library

    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@yogesh-sukal/the-life-library-within-a-library

    Hope you like it :) Close
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #7 Lisa Vanderburg
    It is indeed perfect for fractals forever, serene @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee! Loved the buzz...it has a calming lilt to it that is most soothing for my life; watch, wait, react. That's what I do, but you help me to think I can do it from better place; thank you!
    Carl E Reid
    18/11/2017 #6 Carl E Reid
    Excellent article Deb. You're so right . . . Life is about choices and maximizing the learning experience from each choice.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #5 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    "If we choose to engage and learn from our experience, we create opportunities for rich learning that can make a difference to our lives and the lives of others at any age".
    Great message. Rich learning by livjing our experiences fully with our senses and brains.
    It is not only the availavbility of information; it is also living the experience of ennoying it. Thank you @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    18/11/2017 #3 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Good insights to dig our conscience, aim for appropriate actions and gauge our performance.

    Life with all goodness turns into righteous living!
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #2 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Thanks for sharing in fractals forever @Milos Djukic - learning from our experience, can be an ongoing fractal in motion.
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #1 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Thanks for reading and sharing @Laurent Boscherini - love to hear your stories about learning from your experience.
  8. ProducerLisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    Hashtag, MeToo!  A Letter To My Former Boss
    Hashtag, MeToo! A Letter To My Former BossImage Source:ย https://www.dreamstime.comI was so excited when I accepted the position you offered me. You 'appeared' to be professional and quite friendly, that is, until you began to show your true colors.I'm guessing that your own job title (THE...
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    Ken Boddie
    19/11/2017 #18 Ken Boddie
    Hey, Lisa .....
    I can easily tell,
    This boss from hell,
    Was an unruly bully,
    And a creep as well.
    It appears to me,
    We can all agree,
    This bottom feeder,
    Sure ainโ€™t no leader.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    19/11/2017 #17 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    I don't understand how few men degrade themselves to this level. If they can not manage their "hands" touching others how they could even manage themselves?!!!
    You went through a hard experience @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher View more
    I don't understand how few men degrade themselves to this level. If they can not manage their "hands" touching others how they could even manage themselves?!!!
    You went through a hard experience @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher and emerged as victorious. Only if the battle was with a worthy man Close
    Cyndi wilkins
    19/11/2017 #16 Cyndi wilkins
    Rock on @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher...Me Too...I was eleven...Not an age where standing up for yourself is an option:-(
    Joel Anderson
    19/11/2017 #15 Joel Anderson
    Bravo.
    Pascal Derrien
    19/11/2017 #14 Pascal Derrien
    I am quite perturbed by the behaviours of many reps from my gender, I am sorry this has happened to you and other ladies :-(
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    19/11/2017 #13 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #10 Hi @Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, don't feel sad (easy to say eh?) But, honestly, I'm not sad anymore. I think a bit angry that I never told anyone and held it in for so long. I'm just happy that it wasn't worse, it sure could have been, considering all the stories we hear. Even with the 18 year old that pinned me down.. he weighed like 200 lbs, all muscle and was about 6'1. I was scared shitless when that happened. Thank God for my good male friend who hid in the bushes that night.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    19/11/2017 #12 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #9 David B. Grinberg, thank you for your input, you made a lot of valid points. I want to believe that if this had happened to me today, I would have reported him. Amazing what fear can do- I think many women feel in a situation like mine, that they can deal with it. Also, I truly believe that many women feel others won't believe them. In the case of my ex-boss,he was very good friends with the Director of Human Resources.

    David, than you for being such a strong voice for women and others, you are a champion my friend.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    19/11/2017 #11 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #7 I think women are finally feeling they can speak out loud. I think there are many, many women who were touched inappropriately or worse and kept it in like I did. I really am over it, I just get a bit angry when I think of the 'shoulda, woulda, could'ves ' Thanks for your kind response @Debasish Majumder!
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    19/11/2017 #10 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    I commend you for sharing this post-@Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher! I feel sad because of what you went through but I am so proud of you for writing about your horrible experience. Brava!
    David B. Grinberg
    18/11/2017 #9 David B. Grinberg
    Lisa, I commend you for writing so eloquently about such a personal and daunting experience. Speaking out about sexual harassment is critically important to raising awareness and revealing the colossal extent of this inexcusably persistent problem, which has too often been swept under the rug by harassers and their cowardly cohorts. That's why I strongly encourage all men to likewise speak out and take a public stand against sexual harassment, which is never permissible in the workplace or any place.
    More men need to let harassers know that their sordid behavior towards women is never acceptable -- period! Moreover, harassers need to know there will be harsh repercussions for the outrageous and reprehensible actions. Further, I think sexual harassers need to be called out by name and publicly shamed by women and men alike -- in addition to facing the full extent of the law for their illegal conduct. Thanks again for sharing your story. This brutish behavior must end ASAP.
    Debasish Majumder
    18/11/2017 #7 Debasish Majumder
    this post of yours drawn me till the final full stop madam @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher! i felt utterly sad at the same time your self-esteem is of great pride to me. i enjoyed read and shared. thank you very much for the post madam.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    18/11/2017 #6 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #4 Brutal brains, I like that term @Mohammed A. Jawad. Yes, women do need empowered. So many are abused in much more extreme ways, it's horrible to even hear of. When they report their abuse, the system needs to treat them as victims not liars (which happens in a lot of cases). If they are lying, it will come out in a court of law, until then, they are the victim. It's rare a woman would report false sexual abuse or harassment because they have to then share what happened to strangers (as in the law, a jury, lawyers and even health care). They feel violated all over again.
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    18/11/2017 #5 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #3 Thank you, I think this was one of the toughest I've written.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    18/11/2017 #4 Mohammed A. Jawad
    Ah, mad men berserk with brutal brains need lashing lessons. @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher it's a great exposure with bravery to empower oppressed women who silently suffer the pangs of parasitic people.
    Kazi Najib Ashraf
    18/11/2017 #3 Kazi Najib Ashraf
    A really brave article
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    18/11/2017 #2 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    #1 Exactly, it is never okay for a man to touch or grope a woman. I'm glad you were able to nip what happened before he thought it was okay to touch more. And, I'm glad he understood your gesture & you are both still friends :) I wish my Ex Boss would have apologized instead of getting his ego so bruised because he then took it out on me in a passive aggressive manner. I loved what I did, hated him back then.
    Lupita ๐Ÿ Reyes
    18/11/2017 #1 Lupita ๐Ÿ Reyes
    Spot on @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher!!

    โ€œItโ€™s never okay for a man to touch you without your permissionโ€ yes!!! And not only in the workplace, but in any other place and any other kind of relationship! Once I was talking with a good friend in a coffe shop and he was so enthusiastic ystarted touching my knee with some โ€œfamiliarityโ€. Then, after a minute or two, I touched his fingers that, by the way weโ€™re very close to my shoulders, (we were sitting in a booth) and he was surprised!!! I just asked him: Are they real? While I was staring at my knee, then his fingers and then his eyes. He didnโ€™t do that again. And yes, weโ€™re still friends! Thank you Lisa!!
  9. ProducerGert Scholtz

    Gert Scholtz

    18/11/2017
    Bertrand Russell on Uncertainty
    Bertrand Russell on UncertaintyIs there virtue in uncertainty?Bertrand Russell was a British philosopher, logician, mathematician, historian, writer, social critic, political activist and Nobel laureate. He campaigned against the wars of his time, and he was an eccentric and...
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    Phil Friedman
    20/11/2017 #45 Phil Friedman
    I believe, @Gert Scholtz, that uncertainty is an existential state that does not preclude action. In that state, we recognize that action carries with it the risk of being wrong, but that we can see the need to act on the best of the alternatives as we perceive them... I think. The only certainty is that we live constantly and inescapably with uncertainty. And we are better for it. Cheers!
    Milos Djukic
    20/11/2017 #44 Anonymous
    A great testimony about uncertainty.
    Luke: โ€œI donโ€™t believe it.โ€
    Yoda: โ€œThat is why you fail.โ€
    Thanks @Gert Scholtz.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    20/11/2017 #43 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Uncertainty is the first step toward certainty. Nice post @Gert Scholtz.
    Phil Friedman
    19/11/2017 #42 Phil Friedman
    #31 @Gert Scholtz, the following is my list of top ten. It is purely idiosyncratic, but based on what I deem to be level of original insight, lack of obscurity (save, perhaps for Wittgenstein), and contribution to reason and rationality. Plato, Aristotle, John Locke, David Hume, A.J. Ayer, Bertrand Russell, Ludwig Wittgenstein, Karl Popper, Noam Chomsky, Ian Hacking. Cheers!
    Ian Weinberg
    19/11/2017 #41 Ian Weinberg
    Howsit @Gert Scholtz Just flew in from Knysna. Scanned current posts and happpened upon your refreshing and inspirational contribution. I was beginning to get a little despondent with current posts - either just can't get my head around them or can't join the dots. But this is a great piece about a remarkable chap with IQ and EQ to boot! Just unfortunate that as a species we don't really get wiser with time - those Russel pearls apply more now to us than ever before. Mooi bly and have a great Jozie week!
    Robert Cormack
    19/11/2017 #40 Robert Cormack
    Thanks, @Gert Scholtz. I'm already thinking of an article around "I would never die for my beliefs because I might be wrong.
    Gert Scholtz
    19/11/2017 #39 Gert Scholtz
    #37 @Savvy Raj I think you strike at the heart of it Savvy, when you refer to "spaces in between of what is, was and the might be." A short and accurate description of uncertainty. Many thanks for reading and adding your good prose to the comments.
    Gert Scholtz
    19/11/2017 #38 Gert Scholtz
    #36 @Edward Lewellen What you highlight is the necessary tension between certainty of our core and adaptation to our roles. Once the dynamic tension is lost, adaptability reduces. Thanks reading and for a great comment Lewellen - one that made me think again.
    Savvy Raj
    19/11/2017 #37 Savvy Raj
    Quirky truths of certainity in the uncertainity! Is wisdom certain in itself ... or is it wise to be uncertain... of spaces in between of what is, was and the might be ? A very contempletive collection of Russell's reflections.... @Gert Scholtz View more
    Quirky truths of certainity in the uncertainity! Is wisdom certain in itself ... or is it wise to be uncertain... of spaces in between of what is, was and the might be ? A very contempletive collection of Russell's reflections.... @Gert Scholtz And great inspiration there in your conclusion with the benefit of doubt. Close
    Edward Lewellen
    19/11/2017 #36 Edward Lewellen
    @Gert Scholtz, I present regularly on the human mind and what I share is that we need Certainty to fulfill the stable part of ourselves, our Core Identity, the person we are when we strip away all the roles we play. We need Uncertainty for the constantly changing roles we play outside our Core Identity.
    Our roles thrive on Uncertainty because they are fluid. Yet, most people try to treat their roles as if they are stable and permanent. As soon as they believe a role to be stable, it changes. This, I believe, is the reason so many people can't find happiness and satisfaction; they are trying to fulfill roles that are constantly changing, instead of their Core Identity, which they have lost in the roles they play.
    Ken Boddie
    19/11/2017 #35 Ken Boddie
    I guess it all falls back on death and taxes, Gert ๐Ÿค—
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #34 Gert Scholtz
    @Nick Mlatchkov I didn't notice Nick - but I will watch for the honey on the "Espinoza guy". Thanks.
    Nick Mlatchkov
    18/11/2017 #33 Anonymous
    Gert, did u notice the next honey is from a guy named Espinoza, which is also the name of another philosopher! lol
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #32 Gert Scholtz
    #16 @Lisa Vanderburg Very happy to see that you enjoyed the post Lisa! And what is better than once in a while, to laugh at the uncertainty, truths and half-truths around us - whatever we perceive them to be. Special thanks for reading, sharing and commenting.
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #31 Gert Scholtz
    #11 @Phil Friedman I guess that is part of what makes the man such a great thinker - as you say his writing is completely free of obscurity and pretension. I would be very interested to know who is on your list of ten greatest philosophers and social commentators in Western history. Glad to see it might have brought back some remembrances of your days studying and teaching philosophy. Thank you for commenting and reading Phil - most appreciated.
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #30 Gert Scholtz
    #17 @Randall Burns I am very, very sure - in fact absolutely certain that "The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts" :) Thanks Randall - appreciate your reading the post.
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #29 Gert Scholtz
    #15 @Debasish Majumder Why am I not surprised that you have read Russell's writing. Thank you for your kind comment Debasish, and for sharing the post.
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #28 Gert Scholtz
    #12 @Zacharias ๐Ÿ Voulgaris I am not 100% certain - but I really like your comment :) Thanks Zacharias.
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #27 Gert Scholtz
    #10 @Yogesh Sukal Absolute truth is a tricky subject - at least to me it is. I did read your post on singularity and absolutism - and I am still trying to fully understand it :) Thank you for commenting Yogesh.
    Gert Scholtz
    18/11/2017 #26 Gert Scholtz
    #9 @Deb ๐Ÿ Helfrich "Truly innovative thought pierces deep into the complexities of the things about the world that frighten our sensible & sensical minds" - you do have a way with words Deb - and with thought - thanks for the extensive comment and telling about your (rebellious) reading of Russell at a young age.
  10. ProducerNeto Montana

    Neto Montana

    18/11/2017
    Resisting and persisting
    Resisting and persistingIt takes a lot of mental work to walk in instability on a road full of uncertainties, some of them catch us off guard, others ... in time, gradually show the signs, to the culminating and unpleasant surprise. In the moment of instability, the...
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    Kevin Baker
    18/11/2017 #2 Kevin Baker
    Well said. Enjoyed this very much. Wish you well
    Geoff Hudson-Searle
    18/11/2017 #1 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    Great Buzz @Neto Montana I resonate with the words only too well, we all have a story to tell in our lives, personal or professional setbacks, you need to develop the determination, drive and skills to create a successful business and happy life. You should read my first book 'Freedom after the Sharks' you will enjoy the book based on the words in your buzz. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Freedom-After-Sharks-Geoffrey-Hudson-Searle-ebook/dp/B00IK00GJM
  11. ProducerGraham๐Ÿ Edwards
    Moments โ€” startups are not just for Ys and Zs anymore.
    Moments โ€” startups are not just for Ys and Zs anymore."What's really bothering you?""Don't get me started โ€” not taking advice and living in a fantasyland are the 2 that immediately come to mind.""Sounds like that other startup we were dealing with a while ago."ย  ย "Yeahย  โ€”ย it's the 'I'm the entrepreneur...
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    Jerry Fletcher
    17/11/2017 #8 Jerry Fletcher
    Graham, The fact that experience can make a difference as you and @Phil Friedman point out is never more prevalent than when the new organization begins to seek funding. The order in which folks I know in the investing arena read a business plan is 1. Title page (your positioning statement should be there) 2. CVs of the company's officers, 3. Overview and then the rest. In my experience 80% of the decisions to fund are made on those few pages. Experience, market knowledge and proven capabilities count more than just about anything else.
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    17/11/2017 #7 Mohammed A. Jawad
    It's nasty when egoistic entrepreneurs who by their infant ideas coupled with measurable monies think that they can march forth, capture markets and pocket profits. But, without censure and counsel, they decide and demand campaigns from consultants and simply ignore their wise strategies.
    Phil Friedman
    17/11/2017 #5 Phil Friedman
    I am sympathetic, @Graham๐Ÿ Edwardss, to what you're saying here. My trademark tagline for two decades has been, "... because experience always matters."

    I strongly believe in the truth of that because I've found that half the battle is knowing what NOT to do. Only experience can train you to recognize potential paths of action that will ultimately lead nowhere or to a dead end -- thereby enabling you to avoid wasting valuable and limited resources pursuing those paths.

    Another verity which I cite often -- for example, in my book "Ten Golden Rules for Successful New Build Projects" is that much of the time solid experience trumps "creative brilliance" when the goal is to produce a product or run a profitable business.

    http://www.yachtbuildadvisor.com

    Good piece. Solid advice. Cheers!
    Brian McKenzie
    17/11/2017 #2 Brian McKenzie
    I quit trying to convince people in the star up realm, found a company overseas that was doing the channel and alignment that I was pushing. Much happier - P.S. I do know what I am doing - I open the next country in January ~ it won't be America.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #1 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    NIce. I'm living proof that fifty-somethings can function in a start-up environment. I actually have another in the works and my wife thinks I've gone off the deep end.

    I do not believe I know everything! I know a lot of stuff a lot, and a lot of other stuff a little. Luckily, I have a varied advisor group and a wide selection of experts as myTweetPack members who aren't shy about sharing their wish lists, thoughts, and suggestions.
  12. ProducerNicole Chardenet
    Adventures In Mid-Life Dating, Part 1: I Wish I Was A Lesbian
    Adventures In Mid-Life Dating, Part 1: I Wish I Was A LesbianQ: What do lesbians do on the second date? A: Rent a U-Haul! This is the first of what will probably be an ongoing series on....how the human race is doomed :) I detailed in my previous post about men who self-select out of the pool on...
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    Nicole Chardenet
    18/11/2017 #19 Nicole Chardenet
    #15 Well, it's not all doom & gloom. In my next post I'll be detailing a bit some of the men I've met up with (no names, and no desire to socially shame anyone). I did talk briefly to one guy online a few weeks ago who looks like a cool guy, but he's not sure if he wants to explore polyamory - multiple lovers - or not. I've already tried that and wasn't into it, so I'm a little leery of getting involved with someone who's into that or thinking of it. But, he's also into Buddhism and sometimes goes to the meditation group here in town I'm also in even though we've never run into each other there (he hasn't gone in awhile apparently). I keep thinking I should reach out to him and become friends with him in case he decides *not* to explore polyamory. Plus, he seems like a really bright cool dude so having a new friend can't be a bad thing, y'know?

    I still have faith that a decent one will cross my path some day!
    Nicole Chardenet
    18/11/2017 #18 Nicole Chardenet
    #16 Yes, I think men are being judged more closely (harshly?) on their looks now too. Being really overweight isn't helping them any more than it is women...and the dirty little secret of large people of both genders is *they* don't want to be with large people either. Women are financially and economically successful enough now that we don't have to 'settle'...which I suspect a LOT of these guys are looking to do...to settle, and be settled for.

    I'm not interested in "settling". If I can't find someone who can keep up with me then I will end up alone, and that's okay. At least I'll know I did everything I could.
    Nicole Chardenet
    18/11/2017 #17 Nicole Chardenet
    #14 Okay, I laughed at that...but I know it's not completely true either! Maybe on Spinal Tap & other similar services, I don't know. People on online services do seem to meet their partners offline, but I have a few friends who are married to people they met online. Hell, my ex and I did it back in the day before it was cool...we met over a computer BBS.
    Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    17/11/2017 #16 Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    #10 Love the "used husband in fair condition," @Nicole Chardenet! That is wonderful! I guess we all know that over the millenia, women have been prized for their looks; men, not so much. They were the ones who went out and found the food for the family, fought the wars, fought to keep what was theirs safe. Looks likely were irrelevant.

    Now? Well, yes. Women are still judged more harshly in terms of looks as we age, but I firmly believe that we mostly also take much better care of ourselves, and I know we look damn fine!

    Waiting for the next installment . . . :-)
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    17/11/2017 #15 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    You can always change your mind (of course I'm just kidding). It has to be hard to be on these dating sites. I keep seeing a commercial in the US for one of the dating sites and of course it showcases 2 young and beautiful females and one hot guy who looks like he's a lot of fun but too young if someone in our age group were looking. That is unless the young guy is looking for a MILF- or should I just say, sex?! I once had someone tell me on Social Media that I was a MILF. I was so naive and had to ask what that meant... I asked the guy, no less! I was really embarrassed and felt like I appeared to be a piece of meat rather than a female who wasn't even using social media looking for guys. It has to be tough as a single woman looking for a decent man. Don't give up, I think you are figuring this out.. methodology does come in handy. ;-)
    Randall Burns
    17/11/2017 #14 Randall Burns
    #10 Men are like parking spots, all the good ones are taken and the only ones left are handicapped.
    Randall Burns
    17/11/2017 #13 Randall Burns
    #4 LMAO!! I lived in Toronto for 4 years, in the 80's and I can vouch for what you say @Nicole Chardenet, (and here I thought that the high gay population was due to the fact that they were all models/actors/artists/musicians) My life did "loosen" up after I left Toronto. :-)
    Nicole Chardenet
    17/11/2017 #12 Nicole Chardenet
    #7 I think you've found your side gig, Renee :) I actually have a friend in Toronto who's a dating & relationship coach...we have had many conversations on how men work so hard to keep themselves single on singles sites
    Nicole Chardenet
    17/11/2017 #11 Nicole Chardenet
    #9 Thanks, Franci-Eugenia! I hope to have it out in the next week. It was actually one fairly long post that I cut into two so part of the next is already written. Interestingly, I have a suitor I only just recently met, not through Spinal Tap, who came over to pick up some winter coats from me for charity and I invited him to a dinner party I was holding that night. He is extremely interesting and bright and has one hell of a backstory to tell...some of it tragic, some of it happy, but he's indicated interest. We are talking about hanging out as friends for now but maybe seeing where it goes. I don't know him that well for now and I *do* need to get to know a person before I warm up to them. We'll see how it goes...
    Nicole Chardenet
    17/11/2017 #10 Nicole Chardenet
    #5 @Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess I keep thinking about The Toothpicker...I think I mentioned him in my previous post and he'll get a brief mention in my next one...and the reason I keep thinking about him is because he is is just the epitome of what I wanted to avoid and the giant red flag that I needed to qualify candidates better. (And as soon as I thought of it as 'qualifying candidates' I knew my Inner Salescritter had kicked in to point out that hey, there were some real similarities to trying to close a sales deal and dating!) The Toothpicker was a good, basic, decent guy....whose life was over. Who was never going to look good again *because he chose not to* even though you could see he used to be a really great-looking guy. He was, essentially, a Used Husband in Fair Condition who screamed, "I was married for thirty years and I treat you and other women the way I treated my wife...as though we have all this established familiarity between us so I didn't have to try hard anymore." I think a lot of the guys are like that, unfortunately. I should probably make more of an effort to get on every night and just see if there's anyone new, because I'm sure the 'good ones' get snapped up fairly quickly, and I want to submit by bid before it's too late :)
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    17/11/2017 #9 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Great buzz, @Nicole Chardenet. I never liked the dating scene but when I was single looked for sincerity, manners, intelligence, physically fit and nicely dressed. I look forward to the next installment.
    Renรฉe  ๐Ÿ Cormier
    17/11/2017 #7 Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier
    Ugh! Guys who post pictures of themselves without a shirt on make me barf. I also hate guys who pose next to their Porsche, their yacht or some other woman. Geeze! Sometimes, I just want to do their marketing.
    Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    16/11/2017 #6 Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    Ladies and Gents -- step right up and sound off! What do you think about @Nicole Chardenet's ideas here?
    Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    16/11/2017 #5 Susan ๐Ÿ Rooks, the Grammar Goddess
    "What a contrast to the middle-aged menโ€™s photos - out-of-focus, schlumpy, badly-dressed, and often scowling or unsmiling. I sift through, knowing looks arenโ€™t everything and in all honesty, I really am more interested in how closely we match."

    Once I catch my breath from laughing, @Nicole Chardenet ... yes. Absolutely right! I spent a few years (a few years ago) going through the usual sites -- most of them decent enough -- to find very few men who took took care of themselves. Really. Men don't have to be handsome -- especially at this age although the ones that do take care of themselves sure do look goooooooood -- but 75 lbs overweight? No exercise? No interest in anything? Watch TV all day, go out for a few beers at night?

    I found a few nice men -- they do exist -- but several wanted to travel all the time, and I have put down some nice roots where I am.

    One of my "problems" is that I could be retired -- according to the statistics -- but what the heck would I do with myself? I don't have a lot of hobbies. I'm pretty much an introvert, except when I can't be. I love my work! I love gardening. I love reading. I love walking my dogs 4-5 miles in decent weather most days! I love living my life -- my way.

    What I've decided is simple: I like living alone. Simple. Easy. Fun.

    Cue Sinatra: My Way.
    Nicole Chardenet
    16/11/2017 #4 Nicole Chardenet
    #3 Hi David, thanks for stopping by and casting your lot in on the dating scene. I'm quite curious as to what it's like on the other side. I'm not surprised you got ignored or just not much responded to, I've heard that a lot from guys. And it occurred to me later that all those great gals might be closet crazies...I've also heard about 'the crazies' from my male friends. Getting to know people in real life is probably way better than doing it online, but it's harder to do in Toronto where the men live in abject fear that if they're not very, very careful they might get laid :) I'm not sure why Toronto men are so frigid but I suspect 'the crazies' - uber-feminists - are behind it, as a Millennial friend of mine found a photo of some graffiti someone wrote on a wall somewhere that said, "Toronto women turn men gay!" And I know the feminists here have brought new dimension to the word 'crazy'!

    I'm finding that doing the research as one goes along brings expectations into line and makes you waaaaay better at screening out the inappropriate candidates (meaning inappropriate for *you*, not that she sends you dick pics, LOL). I'm sorry you got dumped by your ex. I hope you finally meet the right person and remember, *learn* all you can about dating, women, emotions, all that stuff...it really does make a difference and the more you know, the less powerless and out of control you'll feel. Most people, both genders, don't do this and we should. We research the hell out of just buying a simple mobile, why do we keep spinning our wheels in the dating scene and then withdraw like angry kittens spitting, "All wo/men are assholes!"?
    David Disney
    15/11/2017 #3 David Disney
    Fantastic article!! I was thrown into the depths of single hood after my wife of 7 years and together for more then 11 years (High School Sweetheart) cheated on me. Split ways, and I was not excited. Both from a heartbreak side, and also a "Crap what do I do now" I hadn't dated since High School!! I'm 30 and my last date with someone other than my ex wife consisted something like an awkward A&W cruise night date in 2004 (or close to that time frame). I did think that the dating apps made it simple so of course I tried all the standard ones and spent hours updating my profiles, including all about myself, and really wanting to connect with someone on a meaningful level. I guess I spent far too much time listing the books I love, favorite Hobbies, and what not, because in the end when I finally got to the searching portion, and swiping a certain direction, or winking at, or heart, or whatever the apps needed, I found quickly that the attractive girls didn't need any form of bio, just hot pictures. I guess that works for the majority of my Gender base, however I wanted to connect deeper then that, I wanted to TALK to these girls, not take them to a bar and slither my way back home to bed them.Well I spent awhile searching, and it just was awful, so i went back to the old school way, and just talked to people in or around my circle of friends. Worked a lot better for me! I think your article can work for both sides depending on what you're looking for. I never found all of those amazing women you were speaking of. Hopefully the men you are looking for will shape up a bit and post who they are, not what they look like!!
    Nicole Chardenet
    14/11/2017 #2 Nicole Chardenet
    #1 Should be coming up in a few days, Randall! Thanks for stopping by :)
    Randall Burns
    13/11/2017 #1 Randall Burns
    LMFAO! @Nicole Chardenet Great post, thoroughly enjoyed it and the video was good too. looking forward to the next installment. ;-)
  13. ProducerPaul "Pablo" Croubalian
    Nobody Cares about Your Feelings. Deal with it
    Nobody Cares about Your Feelings. Deal with itRANT MODE ONMaybe it's my inner Grouchy-Old-Man talking.ย Maybe my points are silly.ย Maybe they're profound.ย Whatever, this is how I feel.ย Yes, I see the irony in writing a post titled, "Nobody cares about your feelings," that is really my feelings...
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    Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    19/11/2017 #47 Pamela ๐Ÿ Williams
    LMAO Paul, love it when they push Paul to rant!
    You were so right to enter that conversation. Chick 2 had issues. Many many many long term relationships have occurred between co-workers, nothing wrong with that! The only times it pissed me off was when married men came on to me, but I never ran to HR, I figured if it got too bad I'd use my knee in strategic spots or call their damn wife and ask her to stop her husband from making my life hell.
    Bet you look adorable with a beard! :-) Oh wait...Am I sexually harassing you with that statement?
    Speaking of which, let's turn this around; As a single woman for the majority of my life I'm sick and tired of men AND women assuming my friendliness is a come-on and I'm out to steal someone else's man. I have been publicly called out (in church for christ's sake) for talking to the father of my daughter's best friend, about our children!!!. Excuse me; I don't want you ugly ass husband!
    It needed to be said Paul and you did so very very well!! As someone who has been harassed but also dated colleagues; I applaud you! Chick #1 apparently has problems dealing with uncomfortable social situations...Like no one has ever before in the history of man has ever had to deal with a bit of awkwardness. PaLEASE!
    Childish Girl needs to grow up and Get the F*** over it, the poor guy's ego took a bruising with the turn down and now the B**** was advising to turn him into HR...Really
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    18/11/2017 #46 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #45 LOL, another "Modern Family" fan!
    Wayne Yoshida
    18/11/2017 #45 Wayne Yoshida
    BTW -- Doesn't Santa Claus have a beard? Christmas must be very sad for that person. Maybe something bad happened in her childhood at Christmas? WTF, Why The Face indeed....
    Brian McKenzie
    18/11/2017 #44 Brian McKenzie
    Here in Bishkek, girls & women ask permission to speak to me.
    I see no reason to ever darken the western mindset again.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #43 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #42 You're very welcome, @Jerry Fletcher
    Jerry Fletcher
    17/11/2017 #42 Jerry Fletcher
    Paul, Thank you! You made my day. Although there was a laugh in there I can say that there is more than a grain of truth on what the world has come to. As a speaker who can get passionate about Networking and Brand and Trust Based business development I often warn audiences that, "I've been told by some folks that I'm not socially correct. Some of what I have to say may offend some of you. But it will be the truth as I see it. If I piss you off, so be it. If I make some of you laugh with my observations that is okay by me. No matter what reaction you have you'll come out of here better off if you own your feelings. Ain't it great to get to the age where you really don't give damn what others think of you!
    Robert Cormack
    17/11/2017 #41 Robert Cormack
    Ah, well, @Kevin Pashuk, I had a sneaking suspicion nobody was thinking about me at all when I was constantly asked who I was and why was I hanging around the halls. Once they discovered I'd been working there 3 years, I ceased being a topic of conversation entirelyโ€”until it was decided I could be bluffing. When they found out I wasn't bluffing, I ceased being a topic of conversation entirely because I was boring. I've since told everyone I'm bluffing.#38
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #40 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #36 LOL, that reminds of the old joke about a woman who called the police because her male neighbor walked around in the nude.

    When the Cops came, all they saw was a waist-up view. When questioned, the woman answered, "Yes, but if you stand on the kitchen counter, lean out holding the light fixture for balance, while holding this mirror over your head, you can see his junk!"
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #39 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #37 LMAO
    Kevin Pashuk
    17/11/2017 #38 Kevin Pashuk
    #34 Robert... so you reached the age where you don't care what people think about you anymore. I hear the next milestone is when you realize they were never thinking about you at all. I have hit that milestone.
    Kevin Pashuk
    17/11/2017 #37 Kevin Pashuk
    #33 It's a good thing that this wasn't on the menu with the chicken breasts... https://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/spotted-dick-103210
    Wayne Yoshida
    17/11/2017 #36 Wayne Yoshida
    #32 #33 -- This is a very touchy area in our post Anita Hill era. Many years ago, three of us guys in the sales dept were called into HR one day. We were being accused for harassment because of our "locker room" jokes and stories. The accuser was in a cubicle adjacent to mine.

    We immediately changed our location for these discussions. . . . and the accuser **followed** us and reported us again, saying she could still hear our stories and jokes.

    I caught her one day standing on her chair so she could eavesdrop. . . and then reported her to HR. All charges in our files were removed. She was sent to therapy and anger management sessions.

    Geeze.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #35 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #34 Thanks, @Robert Cormack, that's high praise coming from you. . . Your posts are often funny as all get out
    Robert Cormack
    17/11/2017 #34 Robert Cormack
    Good one, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, lay your "grouch" out there, tackle those "feelings of awkwardness" and grow your beard. You and I are of that age when we really don't have to care anymore (although we do, or we wouldn't be writing about it). Thanks for the post.
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #33 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #32 You said, "Good Morning?" How dare you, you PERVERT!!! LMFAO

    Sometimes, conversations can be taken out of context. In the restaurant, I once tossed 10kg of chicken breasts that were delivered that same day. I confronted the employee who signed for them telling her, "Check your breasts, please. Before you take anything in the back (I meant the fridge), make sure your breasts are clean and firm (chicken breasts). There should be no sliminess or any smell at all. Take one out (chicken again) and check if you have to. If you're not sure, come show them to me."

    An intern who overheard this freaked out. A good rule of thumb would be if the person spoken to doesn't seem threatened or harassed, you probably misunderstood.
    Brian McKenzie
    17/11/2017 #32 Brian McKenzie
    I worked at a large insurance company for 90 days, I got picked up as a permanent after that. Every day as a temp - I had to sign in with the receptionist and said "Good Morning" everyday. As a company employee - I didn't have to sign in, but still said " Good Morning" Two weeks in, I get called in for an HR 'sit down' because Good Morning was being presented as Sexual Harassment. I stayed two more weeks, took the Broker Test and moved from claims to sales. The move was more money and a new floor.
    I found out that the receptionist had filed several other complaints against others - I recommended they upgrade their security to include audio. All charges were subsequently dropped and she was fired.
    This was the shit in 1992 - it has only moved exponentially worse.
    You interact at your own risk and folly.
    #MGTOW ๐Ÿ˜’
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    17/11/2017 #31 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I love your rants @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian! You brought up a good point about the woman using the term "sexual harassment" & told her friend to "report him to HR" with the culture we are facing today. No, he should not be reported and NO that is not harassment! I had a boss once who used to come into my office and he would start trying to rub my back and shoulders. I wasn't comfortable with that and would say, "Knock it off Bryan!" He would back up, and say to me... what.. whaaa, you don't like that?" My reply, NO, I don't want your grubby hands on me. He did this more than once and the more I spoke out to him, the worse he treated me as an employee. I never once thought of reporting him, I felt I was able to stand my ground. I would just categorize him as a womanizer back then and a creep lol. Oddly, his wife divorced him, I wonder why?? I wasn't the only one he did that to.

    I did have a point to make above, I fear women may report every incident as sexual harassment if they feel they can. Yes, report if if you've truly been sexually harassed but don't cry wolf.

    As for Movember, Ok, looking to see if your fly was down, I literally laughed. People can be so anal... seriously, not comfortable with a beard? My husband and son are both participating in Movember too.. this is my son's third year, husbands first year. Kudos to you for participating too. My husband looks like a grubby mountain man right now haha. But, it's for a very good cause. For those that aren't aware, Movember is to raise awareness for suicide prevention and mental health issues in men. They grow mustaches and beards. Mustache in particular but many grow beards along with the mustache. KUDOS Men!!
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    17/11/2017 #30 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    #28 Don't get me started on gender agnostic pronouns. They are probably the silliest idea I ever heard, and I've heard some doozies.

    Bizarre Ideas are like hemorrhoids. Sooner or later every asshole gets one.
    Nicole Chardenet
    17/11/2017 #29 Nicole Chardenet
    I'm in favour of having feelings, but I agree with Paul that they're *yours* to manage. Own them and deal with them, and try not to whinge so much!
    Nicole Chardenet
    17/11/2017 #28 Nicole Chardenet
    Killer post, Paul!!! I was just having a similar conversation tonight with a couple of gal pals, one of whom's my age and the other of whom is twenty years older. I was arguing that making a fuss over 'gender pronouns' is a sign that you have First World Problems. That 'safe spaces' primarily spring from the very real need to provide truly safe spaces for certain people, primarily abuse victims, to speak freely, but that it has since become an excuse to shield one's self from any inconvenient opinions someone else cares to yell down your echo chamber. That some people seriously need to just Suck It Up, Buttercup. Too much victimhood going around. I hope you talked that ditz bomb out of reporting that guy to HR. If that's the worst thing that happened to her all year, she leads a very charmed life indeed...
  14. ProducerDeborah Levine

    Deborah Levine

    15/11/2017
    Going Southern - Regional Diversity
    Going Southern - Regional DiversityWe often think of diversity as race, ethnicity, gender, and religion. Sometimes we add generational diversity, but rarely do add our diverse geography. Yet, our regional differences account for much of the controversies, culture clashes, and...
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    Deborah Levine
    17/11/2017 #19 Deborah Levine
    #17 Yes, @Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher our history is full of immigrant stories that need to be told and retold. I didn't know about the Finnish contribution in Ohio - amazing. I wonder where the laborers went when they left Ashtabula. Wouldn't it be amazing if we could track down some of their descendants!
    Deborah Levine
    17/11/2017 #18 Deborah Levine
    Thanks for bringing up the Civil war. We need to understand our history in order to understand the present and plan for the future. Regional diversity is a very old reality, not a new concept. #16
    Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    17/11/2017 #17 Lisa ๐Ÿ Gallagher
    I love how descriptive your video is @Deborah Levine. Enjoyed learning of your own journey from Bermuda to the South and why you chose that region. I grew up in Ashtabula, Ohio, a large port City long ago. We had many Finnish and Italian settlers who lived among each other within neighborhoods.

    "As early as 1872 one of the Finnish section gangs had been at work in Ashtabula Harbor laying track for the Ashtabula, Youngstown, and Pittsburgh Railroad.6 This labor crew was composed of twenty-five men and a female cook; among their number were Andrew Bloom and Kalle Kotka. The latter, a lad of about twenty, was killed by a train in the gravel pit of the A. Y. & P. Railroad on November 8, 1872, and thus became the first Finn to find his final resting place in Ashtabula.7 The Finnish laborers remained in the Harbor for only a short time but their presence did evoke the following comment from the Ashtabula Telegraph:" - http://www.genealogia.fi/emi/art/article222e.htm Interesting article!

    Thank you for sharing this, I will now share it with others :)
    Brook Massey
    17/11/2017 #16 Brook Massey
    #11 @Deborah Levine, in general, I do believe that the two cultures are distinct. Genetically, many Appalachian folk are of poor Scottish or Ulster-Scot descent. Historically, in the Civil War, obviously, most southern residents sided with the south. While, most Appalachian residents sided with the north: West Virginia splitting from Virginia and NE Tennessee trying to breakaway from Tennessee.
    Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    16/11/2017 #15 Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    #14 your very welcome Deborah!
    Deborah Levine
    16/11/2017 #14 Deborah Levine
    Thanks for sharing on Twitter @Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador#13
    Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    16/11/2017 #13 Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador
    Love โค๏ธ the buzz here & love the book!!!!
    Deborah Levine
    16/11/2017 #12 Deborah Levine
    #10 Yes, @David B. Grinberg, today's overlap of demographics, history, and geography is a vital part of understanding what is happening not only in a region but in national shifts both culturally and politically. I make the combination and confluence a basic element of my diversity training. How can I not?
    Deborah Levine
    16/11/2017 #11 Deborah Levine
    Thanks for the feedback @Brook Massey#9 Appalachian culture is indeed one-of-a-kind. I write about that more in the book, Going Southern. Years ago, when I was studying Appalachia in my urban planning masters, there was a claim that Appalachians are distinct not only in their culture but are a distinct DNA group. Would you agree?
    David B. Grinberg
    16/11/2017 #10 David B. Grinberg
    Nice blogging buzz, Deborah. I also like the video. I think geographic diversity overlaps with demographic diversity, a phenomenon dating back to the Civil War. However, this has become more pronounced today with Hispanics/Latinos and Asians being the fastest growing populations in the USA. In fact, any one group could largely be concentrated in a specific region. Thus, your thesis makes perfect sense!
    Brook Massey
    16/11/2017 #9 Brook Massey
    @Deborah Levine, most of my life has been spent in the hills of Kentucky. I did live a while in Alabama, though. The Appalachian culture of much of Kentucky, is a little different from Southern. You describe our Alabama experience perfectly. Appalachia is a less genteel, a little rougher. People talk fast and move slow.
    Deborah Levine
    15/11/2017 #7 Deborah Levine
    Yup, Turkey in the Straw is one of America's oldest folks songs and probably goes back to Celtic origins in the 1700s. Most folks don't know that my first publications were about dance history. #6
    Harvey Lloyd
    15/11/2017 #6 Harvey Lloyd
    #3 Turkey in the straw, that's taking it back. Had completely forgotten about that one.
    Deborah Levine
    15/11/2017 #5 Deborah Levine
    The e-book is available on Kindle/amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Going-Southern-No-Mess-Guide-Success-ebook/dp/B00D8F287C/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
    Deborah Levine
    15/11/2017 #4 Deborah Levine
    #2 Delighted that you approve @Harvey Lloyd. No small matter!
    Deborah Levine
    15/11/2017 #3 Deborah Levine
    Yes @Harvey Lloyd, playing the music for them is always great fun, but you should see me teaching them to square dance. I learned Turkey in the Straw/Virginia Reel growing up in Bermuda - British roots to contra dance and all that. #1
    Harvey Lloyd
    15/11/2017 #2 Harvey Lloyd
    A bee is discussing the US southern culture and its evolution. The video is not only accurate but adds to the culture.
    Harvey Lloyd
    15/11/2017 #1 Harvey Lloyd
    Wow, can i say wow. For a "come here" as i have heard the label stated in southern states, meaning you ain't from here, with politeness, you really hit some highlights of southern culture. Southern Pride is something that is evolving but hasn't gone anywhere. We take God and country very seriously, not always correctly but very seriously. I added the read to the list. Thanks.

    Ps. i would have loved to have seen the group when you played the music.
  15. ProducerLisa (Panaccione) Vaught
    Happy Thanksgiving!!!
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  16. ProducerBerney McCol

    Berney McCol

    16/11/2017
    Can Online Assignment Writing Service Really Help In Your Academics?
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  17. ProducerSusan ๐Ÿ Botello
    Meet the Challenge
    Meet the ChallengeIn just a few days, the International Mobile Film Festival in San Diego will stop accepting submissions. All films are shot with mobile phones. It's about your story and how you can tell your story through film and video.ย Everyone has a story to...
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    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    16/11/2017 #3 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    An opportunity to become a visual writer and star
    David B. Grinberg
    16/11/2017 #1 David B. Grinberg
    Good luck with this year's festival, Susan. Exciting times!
  18. ProducerNess Campagnaro

    Ness Campagnaro

    15/11/2017
    TAIPEI: Type B Personality with a Twist of Neon
    TAIPEI: Type B Personality with a Twist of NeonHere I am. It is bleak, but beautiful. There is order. An unseen rule book hangs like a cloud; for all who live in her belly and follow her arterial system. Not a Goliath of a city, but a David with a savvy slingshotโ€ฆThis is what I first saw,...
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    Paul Walters
    16/11/2017 #1 Paul Walters
    @Ness Campagnaro Now that's my best read of the day; " Not a Goliath of a city, but a David with a savvy slingshot " a fabulous analogy !!! You seemed in your own way to have summed this city up in 900 words ...Bravo!!!
  19. ProducerDebasish Majumder
    INTRIGUING UNIVERSE WITH ITS MYSTIC WIND!
    INTRIGUING UNIVERSE WITH ITS MYSTIC WIND!What is sand or soil texture we observe in natureโ€™s floor? Valuable resources for life to explore What draws our attention in the night sky? Myriad of falling stars diving in the seas high A continuous deposition of grandeur...
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    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    18/11/2017 #13 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Beautiful tribute to the universal. I love the imagery in this piece @Debasish Majumder.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    17/11/2017 #12 Lisa Vanderburg
    #11 I (and I'm sure everyone else) thank you @Debasish Majumder, for your humility and grace, which is steadfast in your unique writings!
    Debasish Majumder
    16/11/2017 #11 Debasish Majumder
    #6 thank you very much @Lisa Vanderburg for your continuous support and appreciation. i am privileged and honored.
    Debasish Majumder
    16/11/2017 #10 Debasish Majumder
    #8 thank you very much @Sara Jacobovici for being kind enough to go through my poem and shared your valued comment. i am privileged and honored.
    Debasish Majumder
    16/11/2017 #9 Debasish Majumder
    #7 thank you very much @Geoff Hudson-Searle for your appreciation. i am privileged and honored.
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/11/2017 #8 Sara Jacobovici
    It never cease to amaze me @Debasish Majumder how you are able to produce such poetry with a flow of its own. You make it appear so easy. You finish this poem with a meaningful statement for me, "Unfathomable it is out of its mysterious rhythm!". Thank you for your share.
    Geoff Hudson-Searle
    15/11/2017 #7 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    Love the words in this super buzz @Debasish Majumder wonderfully thought provoking and depth on the subject, amazing!
    Lisa Vanderburg
    15/11/2017 #6 Lisa Vanderburg
    Delightful is your way of words @Debasish Majumder! 'Universe, you are supreme out of the way you thaw!'
    Debasish Majumder
    15/11/2017 #4 Debasish Majumder
    #3 you are genuinely a master of metaphor sir @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! thank you very much sir for your cordial appreciation, an inspiration for me to write poems. i am privileged and honored.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/11/2017 #3 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    "A continuous deposition of grandeur

    Helping our lives to evolve with valor"
    Great meaning and vivid descriptions by @Debasish Majumder.
    It seeme to me you find writing poetry is as easy for you as drinking a cold cup ofvwater in a hot summer day
  20. ProducerJim Murray

    Jim Murray

    15/11/2017
    Without Some Method, Any Creative Process Is, Sadly, Only Madness.
    Without Some Method, Any Creative Process Is, Sadly, Only Madness.Iโ€™m always busy. If Iโ€™m not busy doing work for my clients Iโ€™m busy marketing my business. Itโ€™s like a cyclone or hurricane that has been swirling around me since the early 1970s.Iโ€™ve been in this hurricane for so long that I truly believe I would...
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    Cyndi wilkins
    17/11/2017 #11 Cyndi wilkins
    "Everybody needs some sort of method or structure to work within. Not having this structure will invariably reduce the chances of actually getting anything done."

    If you could read my mind love...what a tale my thoughts would tell;-)

    Great piece @Jim Murray...A very succinct recipe for layering the groundwork in the creative process. One ingredient at a time...
    Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    16/11/2017 #9 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian
    Compartmentalizing is a great term. I often have multiple projects running simultaneously. I extend the idea to a project basis too.

    Great stuff, Jimbo
    Jim Murray
    16/11/2017 #8 Jim Murray
    #7 Thanks @Randall Burns. I always appreciate your thoughtful comments.
    Randall Burns
    16/11/2017 #7 Randall Burns
    Great post @Jim Murray, very helpful. I'm working on something now and will consciously apply these tips. I understand the "compartmentalization", I find it useful for when I have a variety of ideas which I keep in a "vault" on my desktop, working and adding to them as the thoughts come to me although when I have something in the "forefront", like the one I mentioned I will work on that from start to finish.
    Insightful and helpful contribution, Thanks.
    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    16/11/2017 #6 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Yep, I like this line too "Be part of the stuff that makes the world a better place. And donโ€™t let anything or anyone discourage you."
    Jim Murray
    16/11/2017 #5 Jim Murray
    #3 Thanks @Robert Cormack, From The Other Lake.
    Jim Murray
    16/11/2017 #4 Jim Murray
    #2 I actually had the privilege of observing his process from the time he conceived the songs for the Sundown album until it was complete. It was fascinating and one of the best learning experiences of my life.
    Robert Cormack
    15/11/2017 #3 Robert Cormack
    There's a lot to be said for compartmentalizing, @Jim Murray, and you've certainly said a lot. Thanks.
    Kevin Pashuk
    15/11/2017 #2 Kevin Pashuk
    Thanks for the cultural reference of the musician who cannot be named... I cut my musical teeth on Gordon's work, and modeled my guitar playing after the wonderful finger-picking and chord patterns of his songs. He was actually the first professional musician I ever saw in concert, in the intimate gymnasium of Dryden High School, in North Western Ontario. I still play his tunes, including the epic Canadian Railroad Trilogy. Now that's compartmentalization at work...
    Pascal Derrien
    15/11/2017 #1 Pascal Derrien
    ''Be part of the stuff that makes the world a better place. And donโ€™t let anything or anyone discourage you.'' copy that :-)
  21. ProducerIan Weinberg

    Ian Weinberg

    15/11/2017
    Reflections of a mirror
    Reflections of a mirrorDid it ever occur to you how you made that choice of โ€˜Aโ€™ over โ€˜Bโ€™ and how you had to live with the consequences of your choice? The choice was made in the very front of your brain, the pre-frontal cortex (PFC), which sits just under your...
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    Ken Boddie
    19/11/2017 #25 Ken Boddie
    #23 Iโ€™m guessing that your integrating amygdalae mates are twins, Ian, and hence hard to differentiate. I also assume that theyโ€™re big heavies which would explain why they reside on the hippocampus? ๐Ÿคฃ
    Jerry Fletcher
    18/11/2017 #24 Jerry Fletcher
    Thanks, Ian. Read it. Paused. Added it to the miscellaneous items in the little grey cell files on the subject. Substantiating data from a surgeon for some of the psychological test data is hard to come by especially in a form a non-medic can understand.
    Ian Weinberg
    17/11/2017 #23 Ian Weinberg
    #21 and if anyone roughs you up @Ken Boddie just give me a call and I'll come over with my pair of amygdalae !
    Ken Boddie
    17/11/2017 #21 Ken Boddie
    I just love your 'brain mechanics for non-medics', Ian. I am a wiser man yet again, after reading your enlightening and Particularly Functional Composition (PFC). ๐Ÿ’ก
    So, next time the local grammar school's Parents and Friends Committee (PFC) ask me to volunteer for a task that puts me outside my comfort zone, or my eco-electrician suggests that I need a Power Factor Correction (PFC) which threatens to put my wallet outside its comfort zone, or I am told by a US secret service Private First Class (PFC) to clear the way for one of his nation's dignitaries visiting Oz, hence threatening to move my body away from its rightful resting zone, I'll tell them all to let me be, as I'm incapable of making an unbiased decision, thanks to my own PFC. I'll then blame it all on Rupert Murdoch and Michael Bloomberg. ๐Ÿคฅ
    Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    17/11/2017 #20 Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Dear @Ian Weinberg great article sharing the neuroscience science of choice and the power of the pause. Your medical and scientific knowledge supports my language bed experience. I shared the difference the pause makes in one of my articles. thanks For sharing your knowledge.
    https://www.bebee.com/producer/@deb-lange/press-pause-and-sense-a-moment-in-a-conversation
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/11/2017 #19 Cyndi wilkins
    #16 Honored to take part in your neuronal activity @Ian Weinberg;-)
    Ian Weinberg
    16/11/2017 #18 Ian Weinberg
    #17 Thanks for that @Gert. Mooi bly!
    Gert Scholtz
    16/11/2017 #17 Gert Scholtz
    @Ian Weinberg Fascinating article Ian! Especially how we sometimes make choices and decisions prior to actual awareness of the choice being made. So much more reason to pause and eliminate the trio of impediments: generalization, deletion and distortion. The pause is often overridden or disturbed at least, by automated responses, inherent cognitive biases, emotional triggers, and perceived time pressure - to name a few. If we can "mind the gap" more and in a more accentuated way - then as you say "Neutralizing deletion and distortion and its negative consequences requires commitment to authenticity no matter what the price. Additionally therefore, a generous helping of courage is also necessary." Once again, a very intriguing post Ian - thank you.
    Ian Weinberg
    16/11/2017 #16 Ian Weinberg
    #13 Thanks @Cyndi wilkins I had you and @Deb๐Ÿ Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee in mind when I wrote that.
    Ian Weinberg
    16/11/2017 #15 Ian Weinberg
    #12 Thanks @Sara Jacobovici Over to you to work your magic now.
    Lyon Brave
    16/11/2017 #14 Lyon Brave
    emotive words like calling someine baby to get them to start thinking about being your love interest
    Cyndi wilkins
    16/11/2017 #13 Cyndi wilkins
    "Uttering certain emotive words and carrying out specific actions can trigger the appropriate neuronal integrations within us. Hence the positive power of enhanced laughter, powerful phrases and mantraโ€™s and driven motor activity."

    This is the root composition of mind/body medicine... By offsetting negatively charged energy with regular practice of positively charged reinforcement techniques, we significantly influence the health of our inner (psychological) and outer (physiological) worlds and our experiences of them.
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/11/2017 #12 Sara Jacobovici
    Another classic @Ian Weinberg post. You make me think and you put me to work. My response needs to be be written "Outside the comment box." Thanks for the post and for the discussion it generated. My circuits must be working well as I made a good choice in reading this post.
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/11/2017 #11 Sara Jacobovici
    #5 Looking forward to "another time" @Ian Weinberg. No pressure, just hope it's soon.
    Ian Weinberg
    15/11/2017 #10 Ian Weinberg
    Thanks for sharing @Gert Scholtz
    Ian Weinberg
    15/11/2017 #9 Ian Weinberg
    #7 And also thanks for sharing Phil.
    Ian Weinberg
    15/11/2017 #8 Ian Weinberg
    #7 Thanks @Phil Friedman
    Phil Friedman
    15/11/2017 #7 Phil Friedman
    I appreciate, @Ian Weinberg, how you link the brain physiology to the historical model of "mind" in the context of decision and judgment. Without bickering about questions concerning the mind-body connection, I think it is safe to conclude that you see physical evidence for what we call in the "mind" model the value of deliberation, questioning of assumptions and presumptions, and avoidance of rush to judgment. In other words, the primacy of maintaining reason and rationality. Nice piece, indeed, fascinating. Cheers!
    Ian Weinberg
    15/11/2017 #6 Ian Weinberg
    #3 Thanks @Harvey Lloyd would be great to get together with you and Randy some day over a single malt or 2.
  22. Producer๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Happy Birthday Dada! The sadness is almost not there; Inner peace, understanding and knowledge dawned!
    Happy Birthday Dada! The sadness is almost not there; Inner peace, understanding and knowledge dawned!Today I couldn't help recollecting and smiling at the happy moments spent with my Dad. The last outing we had was a trip to a famous church "The Basilica of Our Lady of Good Healthof Velankanni" down south of India, a city called Nagapattinam.ย The...
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    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    16/11/2017 #20 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Thank you ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ Mr.@Mohammed A. Jawad @Debesh Choudhury @Lisa Vanderburg @Sara Jacobovici @Laurent Boscherini๐Ÿ˜‡ @Pascal Derrien
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    16/11/2017 #19 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Thank you for all the support I received from my friends here at beBee. Without you I would have found my healing to be very difficult. Thank you from the bottom of my heart @Chris ๐Ÿ Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA View more
    Thank you for all the support I received from my friends here at beBee. Without you I would have found my healing to be very difficult. Thank you from the bottom of my heart @Chris ๐Ÿ Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA
    @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Jacobovici
    @Ian Weinberg Pascal Derrien @Debasish Majumder Mr. Choudhury
    Ms. Vanderburg @Laurent Boscherini
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    Ian Weinberg
    16/11/2017 #17 Ian Weinberg
    Inspiring tribute to a fine human being.Thanks for sharing @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Sara Jacobovici
    15/11/2017 #16 Sara Jacobovici
    What a great tribute to your father @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams, written in a way so unique to you. My heart goes out to you. Wishing you all the best.
    Geoff Hudson-Searle
    15/11/2017 #15 Geoff Hudson-Searle
    Beautiful words @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams whilst Parents provide unconditional love Grandparents in addition to unconditional love also provide wisdom, there is a wonderful quote by Alex Haley "Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children." This quote always resonates with me. I am sure you are much loved, Dada and the Angels looking over you. Happy Wednesday!
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/11/2017 #14 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    if all daughters were like you then we shall have many great dads dear @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Debasish Majumder
    15/11/2017 #13 Debasish Majumder
    nice tribute to Dad! lovely buzz @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the share.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    15/11/2017 #12 Lisa Vanderburg
    I so love the love that you shared - still share between your father and you, lovely @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams. It's not something I ever had, but doesn't mean I can't understand it!
    Laurent Boscherini
    15/11/2017 #11 Anonymous
    Thank you @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams for sharing your tremendous post. The parentsโ€™ ability to love unconditionally can have powerful effects. Seeing our loved ones in an eternal perspective, knowing that they are of infinite worth, helps us to look beyond their loss, as spreading their past gifts to new generations.
    Debesh Choudhury
    15/11/2017 #10 Debesh Choudhury
    Remembering a Dad is always special @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    Pascal Derrien
    15/11/2017 #9 Pascal Derrien
    a very personal and touching tribute... well done you for being you :-)
    Mohammed A. Jawad
    15/11/2017 #8 Mohammed A. Jawad
    When our dear, beloved ones are no more, then the agony of absence is more throbbing.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    15/11/2017 #7 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    #3 @Kevin Baker I now understand the value of old school.
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    15/11/2017 #6 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    #2 It was a big pleasure to meet you dear. I can't help smiling at how we instantly bonded. Hugs @Savvy Raj
    ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    15/11/2017 #5 ๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams
    A big hug to you as well my dear @Cyndi wilkins
    Kevin Baker
    15/11/2017 #3 Kevin Baker
    Passing on what was freely given is the foundation of legacy. Nurturing the memories, sharing the vulnerabilities. That is old school class.
    Savvy Raj
    15/11/2017 #2 Savvy Raj
    Touching piece from the heart . Your wisereflections from the book are so apt and so justify the person you are . God bless you always dear @ Fatima Williams .and your beloved Dads soul.
    Cyndi wilkins
    14/11/2017 #1 Cyndi wilkins
    Awe...This one is very special for me right now @๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams, as the holidays approach and I am remembering my dad as we lost him last New Years Eve:-(

    He was very much a being of justice, generosity, truth, harmony, compassion, understanding, and goodwill...We will miss him terribly in our lives...but he always inhabits our hearts...Peace to you my friend... a big hug to you with a special birthday wish for your dada;-)
  23. ProducerAli ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    Sandy Societies
    Sandy SocietiesA grain of sand blowing will do little harm. Millions of sand grain blowing together may drain the soil of its nutrients, cause havoc to life in different forms such as halting flights. Sand particles are loosely held so that the wind may carry...
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    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #94 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #93 I wish I could say you are wrong @David Navarro Lรณpez. Sadly, you writing "feeling of living under chains which are impossible to break" is correct. This is a new paradox my friend. To wish you to be wring, but thhis is factual.
    David Navarro Lรณpez
    18/11/2017 #93 Anonymous
    #70 #71 It could be a fractal disintegration. The obvious hegemony carried by the economic elites, which are subjugating the whole humankind by means of fear (fear to lose your job, house, way of living), greed and selfishness, is at the moment maintaining us with a feeling of living under chains which are impossible to break. This situation is something that for our children is the only reality they have lived. They don't know that it was a time on which human rights (the right to have a decent home and job, for example) had a real meaning, and achieving them it was not only a war to fight, it was as well something achievable and achieved. And they live their lives under these chains, not seeing any possibility to react and raise. So if this is our legacy, yes, we are to see a fractal disintegration, on which our grandchildren will repeat the same formula again and again
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #92 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #91 I am flattered by yoour very kind words @Jerry Fletcher. It is the exchange of comments that is becoming rapidly my inspiration for new ideas. I am deeply grateful to you and all commentors.
    Jerry Fletcher
    18/11/2017 #91 Jerry Fletcher
    Dear Dr. Ali, You've done it again. You have generated piles of thoughtful comments worth every bit as much worthwhile reading as the buzz that started it all off. You are the pied piper of thoughtful considerations. Thank you for all your wise words.
    Cyndi wilkins
    18/11/2017 #90 Cyndi wilkins
    #87 Oh how you know me well Miss Lisa...I was breathing so much fire the woman standing directly behind me backed herself into the coat rack! LOL!
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #89 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #87 the best example of productive collective actions of brains is the exchange of comments here, of which you played a considerable part dear @Lisa Vanderburg
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #88 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #85 - your story @Cyndi wilkins says it that timing is everything. Sometimes a kind gesture in the wrong timing costs us our "seat" in life.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #87 Lisa Vanderburg
    #85 haha @Cyndi wilkins.....you coulda just used your eyes and had toast instead :) We dragons fry together!
    #81 Thanks @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for using the reply button, and #84 I have hope in you and so many others here that if change can be wrought, it will come through compassion and clear-thinking like I see in your buzzes and comments: I have faith!
    Cyndi wilkins
    18/11/2017 #86 Cyndi wilkins
    #80 Move over @Lisa Vanderburg...You've got company;-)
    Cyndi wilkins
    18/11/2017 #85 Cyndi wilkins
    #57 @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...Timing is everything. I was just commenting on another post about an incident I had last night in a restaurant. The jist of it is we were waiting for a table to be cleared as our party was the next to be seated...It was very busy, so the wait times were about 30 minutes...As I stepped away from the hostess desk to allow others in to give their names, a different hostess appeared and immediately seated the party behind us in line...not realizing we had arrived first...Somehow my name was not put on this list simply because we were about to be seated.

    By the time I turned around and realized what was happening, this other party was directed to our table and seated...Now my knee-jerk reaction was to approach the hostess and inform her that we were there first...I tried to wave her over, but she just smiled and went in the opposite direction...When my eyes met one of the patrons now sitting at our table, she too simply smiled away my at agitation...clearly realizing they had just bumped us from our table.

    Once the hostess was informed by the other staffer of the mix up, she could clearly see the fury in my eyes...several times offering me some water (probably to douse the flames) as I stood waiting another 20 minutes. But she never made any reference to the mix up...which ticked me off even more, but made me realize the intensity of my feelings did not match the stimulus. My fury at the situation was a symptom of a deeper issue...

    When I 'slept on it' the answer was revealed in a dream as several memories came flooding back to me concerning other women encroaching upon my personal 'space' in relationships...Hell hath no fury...right?!?!
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #84 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #82 I wish we would learn that personal glory iis nothing compared so social glory. In a soccer match one player may score three goals and his team end up as losers.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #83 Lisa Vanderburg
    #78 haha.........
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #82 Lisa Vanderburg
    #59 #61 & all: The trouble is desire. We are not ants or trees; nothing so noble alas. Just reading @Renรฉe ๐Ÿ Cormier's & @Kevin Baker's latest buzz' are just the most recent of our realization that 'we're not in Kansas anymore'. We are in big trouble, and all the good peeps hoping to make things right cannot prevail without everyone else desiring the same outcome: that is a huge challenge when our global population is exploding and resources are stretching. From my point of view, the 'have & have-nots' are growing. We can't ignore that suicide is 2/3rds more prevalent than murder. If we don't face up to the fact that we are sick, we are lost. The trees and the ants will be THRILLED :)
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #81 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #79 yes I am using the reply button dear @Lisa Vanderburg.
    I had discussions on the WPD Factor. I did some research, the result of which I am reporting in my next buzz. In fact this factor has more power than I have envisaged.
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #80 Lisa Vanderburg
    #55 #56 hey...I'm the shit-shifter here :)
    Lisa Vanderburg
    18/11/2017 #79 Lisa Vanderburg
    #29 'What is your purpose?' fabulous question sweet & sassy @Sara Jacobovici! #34 'The POD Factor' wouldn't work for me as my actions are reactions @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee (no amount of 'I have control' comes into it).#40 Very wise @Harvey Lloyd, those questions you sagely alluded to enslave us.

    PLEASE can you guys use the reply buttons.....my mouse doth knacker out :)
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #78 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #74- I hope writing your comment ttook you 12 seconds to write @Brian McKenzie. Lack of attention may even reduce our focus to less than 6 seconds
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #77 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #74 I hope writing your comment ttook you 12 seconds to write @Brian McKenzie. Lacbm of attention may even reduce our focus to less than 6 seconds9
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #76 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #73 very happy to read youfr comment @Savvy Raj. Yes, this is exactly the message I aimed for. Collective power is greater if we realize that collectively new and emerging power shall come to life.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    18/11/2017 #75 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    #72 thank you @Kevin Baker. Your comment mames me feel I am talking "for you"".
  24. ProducerSHARON KARYASA

    SHARON KARYASA

    15/11/2017
    Bali Unseen
    Bali UnseenOkay so I am married to a Balinese man.I live in a Balinese family compound, I live a blessed life.ย That is true, however my true fascination with Bali started long before I met Made.How do I even begin to write a short article about my obsession...
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    SHARON KARYASA
    17/11/2017 #2 SHARON KARYASA
    #1 Thank you for your comments Kevin, Bali is certainly unique :)
    Kevin Baker
    15/11/2017 #1 Kevin Baker
    This is wonderful. That sense of being grounded, calm in a way words do not explain, must be experienced. The feeling of belonging with in the environment.
  25. ProducerDebasish Majumder
    INTRIGUING HAPPINESS!
    INTRIGUING HAPPINESS!Happiness human only aspire What exactly it is? Posing a recurrent nemesis Without which we all are in despair Causing a disdain in our atmosphere! Happiness is an abstract protocol We all spirally moving on Do not...
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    Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    15/11/2017 #7 Franci๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
    Beautiful, @Debasish Majumder, and yes we must see the happiness in ourselves. Your line "A mindset is needed to adapt" sends an important message.
    Debasish Majumder
    15/11/2017 #6 Debasish Majumder
    #5 thank you very much sir @Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for your continuous support and warm appreciation. i am privileged and honored.
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/11/2017 #5 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    "If one can feel composure with the available state
    Happiness will perpetually engulf him with pleasant state"

    Nice editing of your poem dear @Debasish Majumder and is worthy of sharing it again.
    Pascal Derrien
    15/11/2017 #4 Pascal Derrien
    its important to acknowledge and confront moments of despair and distress to fully appreciate happiness otherwise it's denial and that would not be an intriguing combination me thinks :-)
    Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    15/11/2017 #3 Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
    You opened the package of happiness dear @Debasish Majumder with this lovely poem. Happiness comes from within if we have the proper mindset.
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