- Producer17/11/2017"Love Mussel"My hand plunges into the frigid ice water causing goosebumps to erupt over my arm; I grasp a handful of the precious mollusks and place them into the large bowl next to me. The glistening shells are deceptively heavy with the promise of...
Comments19/11/2017 #36 Nicole ChardenetYes! Yes! YES! YES!! YES YES YES YES YES YES YES OH GOD IT'S SO GOOD!!!
I love cooked mussels. Can you tell? :)
Not a big fan of 'moules marinieres' but I do love them cooked :) BTW loved that last shot with the mussel and the fork. Not TOO suggestive, is it??? LOL19/11/2017 #35 Randall Burns#33 Oh and @Charlene Norman You have to thank @Jim Murray for me for his sage advice about,
"Write about what you know"
"Write for yourself, don't write for other people"
(actually I think it's his "I don't give a shit" attitude about what other people think that's wearing off on me. I like it!)19/11/2017 #34 Randall BurnsWell @Charlene Norman I think that's the best response I could've hoped for, Thank You so much. i must admit that the creative juices have been flowing for the past couple of days since writing this, I have several more articles/installments already almost finished in my head and a concept based on this post, and YES, as @Godfrey Hebert has suggested possibly a book, but let's not get ahead of ourselves. Control, patience, (foreplay), romance, :-)
I will be sure to keep you posted. Thanks again. :-)19/11/2017 #33 Charlene NormanOMG ...... You have awakened a burning desire deep inside of me to experiment ...... never in my life have I wanted to dabble on the wild side. Mussels ..... I have such a longing to try thee now ... I hope this is just the first of many of your food porn editions. Hugely enjoyable!18/11/2017 #20 Paul Walters@Randall Burns . A dish made all the more erotic by your sensuous text... you saucy man. I have been tempted to linger in counties such as Scilly and yup even Belgium just because of the quality and preparation of their mussels. As @Don 🐝 Kerr so rightly put it...its pure food porn!
- Producer20/11/2017Can you really fall in love with a robot?Our company has just started to work with a new client who has developed a humanised robot, which they describe as a ‘social robot’. It is clear by my work to date with this company that advances in robotics and AI are starting to gain some real...
Comments20/11/2017 #2 Randall BurnsInteresting read @Geoff Hudson-Searle but I am skeptical as to the time frame that you discuss. @Phil Friedman posted an article almost a week ago, https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/artificial-un-intelligence along these lines but from a very different perspective. granted it's ALL conjecture at this point but it does make one think...
- Producer19/11/2017SPIN, THE TRUE ARCHITECT OF LIVING!Spin is a lovely process Alone it makes huge progress Accelerate with amazing blow Forcing many to toe Extreme energy it generates Apparently it appears in a stationary state Lovely rendition you adhere Spin you are...
Comments19/11/2017 #3 Geoff Hudson-SearleGreat Buzz @Debasish Majumder your words remind me of a quote by Daryn Kagan 'Times might be tough, your head and thoughts might be spinning, but I find it's physically impossible to do that spiral thing when your mind is focused on giving and creating opportunity.'
- Producer18/11/2017Living In A Smoker's Paradise.Ok, I’m a smoker! There, I said it! I can almost hear the rustle of bees wings as they rush to the keyboard and frantically press the orange button, unfollow, unfollow, unfollow! Beware, a smoker is amongst us! I am not...
Comments19/11/2017 #31 Robert CormackSeems like you're in good company, @Paul Walters, or bad company, depending on what sort of positive reinforcement you want. Sounds like your bank manager is the "good guy" right now. I never had a habit as much as a strategy. For years, I only smoked when I reached an impasse in my writing (you know how that happens in advertising). With books, the impasses were further apart, so it might only constitute 8 cigarettes a day. Once I stopped writing for the day, I never even thought about cigarettes. Last week, I stopped for good (shouldn't say that, should I?). What I was dealing with wasn't nicotine cravings. I simply didn't know how else to "take that break." I was used to going outside, lighting up, simplifying the problem and..bingo, bango, THE ANSWER!!! Check your habits. For many people that's what they have to traverse, not nicotine cravings. Oh, and I launched The Last Pack, smoking cessation system in 1990. We were all still smoking—including the client. I loved the Age of Hypocrites.19/11/2017 #30 Lisa Vanderburg#28 Great advise @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher 'dont admit youve quit until a good month or so passes because the pressure is that much stronger..'
Like you, I vape with 0 nicotine now. But on my last (and bleedin' FINAL) quit I said to my hubby who stopped cold turkey 10 years prior, 'I'm NOT saying I quit for good again...I'm quitting TODAY'. That ball-busting 'promise' will not help you at all @Paul Walters! IMHO you sorta have to sneak up on that puppy.........19/11/2017 #29 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#3 I agree, e cigs are great and they dont burn so a person isnt in the habit of chronic puffing either. I get 0 nicotine, started much higher. Need to find a flavor that works for you too. I always keep it with me in case I get the strong urge to smoke and I still do get urges after 5 years!19/11/2017 #28 Lisa 🐝 GallagherOh, I really wish you luck @Paul Walters! I smoked for years. I began when there were no stigmas or major warnings. More people smoked tham didnt. I really wanted to quit in the worst way when I hit my 40's, but the addiction is much stronger than common sense. My Dr. compares a smoking addiction to crack. 5 years ago I developed pneumonia and I didnt crave or pick up a cigarette for over 2 weeks because I was so sick. I purchased vaping products, and began using them. It will be 5 years for me in December since I smoked. You've got this! One suggestion, dont admit youve quit until a good month or so passes because the pressure is that much stronger when you admit knowing it will please those you love. Once I was sure I wasnt going back to them I told my family. I really do wish you the best, I understand how hard it is!19/11/2017 #24 Randall Burns@Paul Walters there is a book by Allen Carr called "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking", (reminds me I need to pull it off the bookshelf), that actually helped me a couple of years ago and of all the books I've read on the subject , (yes there's been a few), I think this one is the best. Easy, straightforward read, try it in conjunction with anything else that you do.
Good Luck Buddy, keep us posted19/11/2017 #23 Ken BoddieThank you, Pak Paul, for your years of smoker’s contribution to our roads, infrastructure and hospitals here in Oz. Now, if you really must quit, then why not try pipe tobacco, but not in a pipe. If you roll your own with Dunhill 965 either your lungs will turn into a steamship or you’ll be cured for life. And there again there’s always the local Indo rokok kretek (clove cigarettes), affectionately called “goddam garam” by non-smoking foreigners ..... almost guaranteed to have the same effect.18/11/2017 #22 Renée 🐝 CormierDear Paul,
My friend, you need to get a job in Canada. Like Australia, smoking is banned pretty well everywhere. The best part, is that in the winter, when it is -20 degrees Celsius, and the wind is cutting your forehead in half, your craving subsides considerably. :)
Alternatively, perhaps you need to make a mental shift. Try not thinking about quitting smoking because that implies that you are giving up something important to you. Re-position your thinking so that you identify yourself as a non-smoker rather than a person who is trying to quit. Trying? There's no commitment to change when you are "trying". @Paul Walters, as soon as you decide that you are a non smoker, you will become one.
Best of luck,
Your friend, Pollyanna18/11/2017 #17 Randall BurnsWell Bravo to you @Paul Walters for "coming out of the closet", it is a tough one that I'm dealing with as well. Believe it or not I'm on Champix right now, (@Paul "Pablo" Croubalian will be interested in this), the first thing your doctor is going to ask you is, "are you depressed? do you have suicidal tendencies? etc." Why? Because the Champix will give you the most intense, vivid dreams, absolutely wild which are very disconcerting for some people and if you're in a "negative" state of mind can make things worse. I have no problems with it and find it actually quite entertaining.
I notice a decrease in craving as well but the bottom line is it's the psychological factor that will dictate whether you quit or not, yes "willpower", Champix is not "The silver bullet" but it can help, (I'm still smoking but less, I'm in a "re-group and re-organize" phase and will try again in earnest in a few weeks)
Good luck Buddy! keep us posted18/11/2017 #16 Cyndi wilkinsI'm rootin' for ya @Paul Walters...Brutal habit to quit...I was a smoker for well over 30 years and quit cold turkey when my daughter was born...But that addictive behavior, like all others, never completely leaves you...I fell right back into it while dealing with the recent loss of my dad...a coping mechanism I had employed for many years to calm my nerves...
Try as I might to stop the cravings...my inner 'voldemort' kept hissing at me with a big 'F Off' every time I tried to reason with it...It took getting violently ill recently to kick the habit once again...I hope you don't have to go there;-)18/11/2017 #15 Jim Cody 🐝 Brand AmbassadorIt’s sad but true. The only way anyone can kick the habit is to have the willpower. Otherwise all you do by trying all the standard means to quit is wasting your money. Until one decideds they want to quit it is a lost cause.
Nicotine, the primary psychoactive chemical in tobacco and therefore cigarettes, is very addictive.About half of cigarette smokers die of tobacco-related disease and lose on average 14 years of life.
But all of that said doesn’t sole anything.
I occasionally enjoy a good cigar.18/11/2017 #14 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsWould never unfollow you. I'm off again, on again myself. Right now I'm on. A sibling stopped with Chantix and said it was easier but still took willpower as the whole hand to mouth actions were as much of an addiction. She tended to replace it with a fork and gained 10 lbs quickly. Lollipops were my replacement but in a professional setting you looked a bit silly! 📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍📍18/11/2017 #13 Lisa VanderburgDang, @Paul Walters...I'm with @Ian Weinberg; hate to tell ya we're all gonna die!! Puff away - I do, on my vape - no nicotine now. My sister & BFF died from it 2005; not from her terminal NSCLC which was only diagnosed at stage 4, but because she fell asleep outside in the cold (having a fag; oxygen inside) during the night on my watch - I got to her 45 mins after, she got the final infection. After that I finally quit. We'd both done the Champix thing - it really works!
Unless you start again.
People judge on what they see (or smell). They should get the plank outta their own eye because we all fall short :)
- Producer19/11/2017Emerging Tensions and CreativityI write on my profile that the more I know, the less I know for I realize how more I need to know. This is an emerging paradox in a way because I didn’t expect that the more I know, the less I realize I know. Do I stop trying to know more so as...
Comments20/11/2017 #44 Lisa Vanderburg#43 lol @Cyndi wilkins..knock the Profs' out! :)
#37 Love that @Randall Burns!
#36 You're so smart, it...smarts @🐝 Fatima G. Williams!
I know that moment of frozen indecision. That taste of urgent ambiguity..is that the onus of emerging tension @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee et al? The nanosecond that drives......19/11/2017 #43 Cyndi wilkins@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...Interesting that this was exactly the meaning behind the quote I put in my high school yearbook...
"I'm so confused by the things I read...I need the truth...But the truth is, I don't know who to believe.
The left says yes and the right says no...I'm in between...and the more I learn, well, the less I know." -Styx-
Funny, because everyone that signed it said..."What the hell does that mean?"
Well, now you know;-)19/11/2017 #42 Yogesh SukalAs i just read quote in comment mentioned by @Laurent Boscherini on @Gert Scholtz recent buzz about uncertainty.
"Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security." - John Allen Paulos
I think it is aligned with this post as well.19/11/2017 #39 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#37 thank you @Randall Burns. Your quotes are great and adds clarity to the buzz. It is a great purpose to know so as to passour knowledge to others. But do we pass knowledge or less knowledge?
This topic intrigues me. I therefore look very much to reading your nrxt comment with anticipation.19/11/2017 #38 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#36 thank you @🐝 Fatima G. Williams
. oone objective of a paradox is to grab our attention like your comment grabbed mine.
A purpose has a value proportional to the value it extends to others. When we find a paradox in our purpose then we have an opportunity to come up with creative solutions.
This is a balancing act. It reminds me of the balance metaphor @harvey lloyd uded in his last buzz. We balance the purpose by balancing it. So much to think about.19/11/2017 #37 Randall BurnsGreat post @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! I'm just going through and contemplating the insightful comments but wanted to say that you're "Spot on" with;
"the more I know, the less I know for I realize how more I need to know"
One of my favorite sentiments is "The older I get the more I realize what I don't know", and a favorite quote that I use by Confucius;
"Real knowledge is knowing the extent of one's ignorance"
It's upon accepting these premises that we can truly begin learning...
I will be back to respond with some more thoughts,
Fantastic insights!19/11/2017 #36 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsDear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thank you for yet another intriguing buzz. Ah, the paradox of purpose. Digging deep down into this paradox I see the light wonders sheds here. Like Harvey said "Purpose/values at this level help us navigate through win-win and make the tough call of no deal, if we can't get past the paradox" Value-driven purpose is a win-win because apart from finding satisfaction within the self, we are simultaneously giving satisfaction to the ones around us. I read somewhere about an organism in which both the host and the virus survives, it must be from one of your buzzes.
I would like to call this the magical purpose paradox of life. The Why validates and gives our reasoning an answer, for the human mind is fickle!
The answer to our fickle mind "Creative tensions provide us with great opportunities to come up with noble solutions. We need to look for not only our purpose, but also for the competing tensions within that provoke innovation, grow revenues and inspire us for more strive to find more tensions.19/11/2017 #34 Lisa Vanderburg#6 Wonderful @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee! 'in the tension is an opening', like a runner's start-mark. It is anticipation: we hold still for that moment, minute, year...awaiting the revelation. It's an essential precursor to a new level!
I LOVED childbirth - nothing like it EVER; that said, Westminster Hospital London had bars on the windows for good reason :)
- Producer18/11/2017SYMPHONY IN LIFE AND DEATH!Life itself an enigma Nobody knows when it will conclude its charisma How many can realize it is a continuation Having the constituents promoting impetus to acceleration Human civilization thus proceeds with a never ending flow...
Comments19/11/2017 #6 Debasish Majumder#5 yes sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, this issue is haunting me for a fairly long time that apart from people who are in miserable state out of poverty and debt, opting for suicide. but, now people who are educated and well to do also opting for suicide unable to cope up with the pressure and lifestyle. even in our country brilliant students from engineering, medical and management faculty too are succumbing and this trend at rise. i wonder, what education we are dispensing with what ambition!19/11/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeA genuine cry dear @Debasish Majumder. You wrote "
I wonder how this suicidal trend
Creeping and influencing people with adequate name and fame
The same issue was hanging in my head as I keep reading about suicidal attempts of young people. have we reached this stage of helplessness? Is it a state of total chaos and self-emptiness and bankruptcy?
"18/11/2017 #4 Gert Scholtz@Debasish Majumder A multi-faceted poem Debasish - it left my head spinning - in a good way. This I like most: "When we stare at dark deep sky, Beauty of stellar appears like twinkling eye, Some are luminous and boisterous, Some are falling in despair....Death and life makes a unique stew".
- Producer18/11/2017Learning from our ExperienceFrom babies to old age, life is a continual choice. One choice after another every day.With each choice is an experience of life.With each choice and experience, we create the opportunity to be conscious, learn, adapt and change moment by moment,...
Comments18/11/2017 #13 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee#5 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee thank you for engaging. I agree with you it is not just about having information available but doing something with it to make a difference to our lives and others. There is so much information out there - how do we engage with that information to make a difference to our lives.18/11/2017 #11 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee@Mohammed A. Jawad #3 - loved your comment about righteous living. I wateched a video this morning about being aware enough to notice what is going on around us, and then energised enough to take care and do something about it if something needs doing- righteous living. Thanks for your interest.18/11/2017 #8 Yogesh SukalLearning is never ending autocyclic process but one has to stop and rethink the direction of learning,
As life itself is library within a library
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@yogesh-sukal/the-life-library-within-a-library View moreLearning is never ending autocyclic process but one has to stop and rethink the direction of learning,
As life itself is library within a library
Hope you like it :) Close18/11/2017 #7 Lisa VanderburgIt is indeed perfect for fractals forever, serene @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee! Loved the buzz...it has a calming lilt to it that is most soothing for my life; watch, wait, react. That's what I do, but you help me to think I can do it from better place; thank you!18/11/2017 #5 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"If we choose to engage and learn from our experience, we create opportunities for rich learning that can make a difference to our lives and the lives of others at any age".
Great message. Rich learning by livjing our experiences fully with our senses and brains.
It is not only the availavbility of information; it is also living the experience of ennoying it. Thank you @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee.
- Producer18/11/2017Hashtag, MeToo! A Letter To My Former BossImage Source: https://www.dreamstime.comI was so excited when I accepted the position you offered me. You 'appeared' to be professional and quite friendly, that is, until you began to show your true colors.I'm guessing that your own job title (THE...
Comments19/11/2017 #17 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeI don't understand how few men degrade themselves to this level. If they can not manage their "hands" touching others how they could even manage themselves?!!!
You went through a hard experience @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher View moreI don't understand how few men degrade themselves to this level. If they can not manage their "hands" touching others how they could even manage themselves?!!!
You went through a hard experience @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher and emerged as victorious. Only if the battle was with a worthy man Close19/11/2017 #13 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#10 Hi @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador, don't feel sad (easy to say eh?) But, honestly, I'm not sad anymore. I think a bit angry that I never told anyone and held it in for so long. I'm just happy that it wasn't worse, it sure could have been, considering all the stories we hear. Even with the 18 year old that pinned me down.. he weighed like 200 lbs, all muscle and was about 6'1. I was scared shitless when that happened. Thank God for my good male friend who hid in the bushes that night.19/11/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#9 David B. Grinberg, thank you for your input, you made a lot of valid points. I want to believe that if this had happened to me today, I would have reported him. Amazing what fear can do- I think many women feel in a situation like mine, that they can deal with it. Also, I truly believe that many women feel others won't believe them. In the case of my ex-boss,he was very good friends with the Director of Human Resources.
David, than you for being such a strong voice for women and others, you are a champion my friend.19/11/2017 #11 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#7 I think women are finally feeling they can speak out loud. I think there are many, many women who were touched inappropriately or worse and kept it in like I did. I really am over it, I just get a bit angry when I think of the 'shoulda, woulda, could'ves ' Thanks for your kind response @Debasish Majumder!18/11/2017 #9 David B. GrinbergLisa, I commend you for writing so eloquently about such a personal and daunting experience. Speaking out about sexual harassment is critically important to raising awareness and revealing the colossal extent of this inexcusably persistent problem, which has too often been swept under the rug by harassers and their cowardly cohorts. That's why I strongly encourage all men to likewise speak out and take a public stand against sexual harassment, which is never permissible in the workplace or any place.
More men need to let harassers know that their sordid behavior towards women is never acceptable -- period! Moreover, harassers need to know there will be harsh repercussions for the outrageous and reprehensible actions. Further, I think sexual harassers need to be called out by name and publicly shamed by women and men alike -- in addition to facing the full extent of the law for their illegal conduct. Thanks again for sharing your story. This brutish behavior must end ASAP.18/11/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#4 Brutal brains, I like that term @Mohammed A. Jawad. Yes, women do need empowered. So many are abused in much more extreme ways, it's horrible to even hear of. When they report their abuse, the system needs to treat them as victims not liars (which happens in a lot of cases). If they are lying, it will come out in a court of law, until then, they are the victim. It's rare a woman would report false sexual abuse or harassment because they have to then share what happened to strangers (as in the law, a jury, lawyers and even health care). They feel violated all over again.18/11/2017 #2 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#1 Exactly, it is never okay for a man to touch or grope a woman. I'm glad you were able to nip what happened before he thought it was okay to touch more. And, I'm glad he understood your gesture & you are both still friends :) I wish my Ex Boss would have apologized instead of getting his ego so bruised because he then took it out on me in a passive aggressive manner. I loved what I did, hated him back then.18/11/2017 #1 Lupita 🐝 ReyesSpot on @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher!!
“It’s never okay for a man to touch you without your permission” yes!!! And not only in the workplace, but in any other place and any other kind of relationship! Once I was talking with a good friend in a coffe shop and he was so enthusiastic ystarted touching my knee with some “familiarity”. Then, after a minute or two, I touched his fingers that, by the way we’re very close to my shoulders, (we were sitting in a booth) and he was surprised!!! I just asked him: Are they real? While I was staring at my knee, then his fingers and then his eyes. He didn’t do that again. And yes, we’re still friends! Thank you Lisa!!
- Producer18/11/2017Bertrand Russell on UncertaintyIs there virtue in uncertainty?Bertrand Russell was a British philosopher, logician, mathematician, historian, writer, social critic, political activist and Nobel laureate. He campaigned against the wars of his time, and he was an eccentric and...
Comments20/11/2017 #45 Phil FriedmanI believe, @Gert Scholtz, that uncertainty is an existential state that does not preclude action. In that state, we recognize that action carries with it the risk of being wrong, but that we can see the need to act on the best of the alternatives as we perceive them... I think. The only certainty is that we live constantly and inescapably with uncertainty. And we are better for it. Cheers!19/11/2017 #42 Phil Friedman#31 @Gert Scholtz, the following is my list of top ten. It is purely idiosyncratic, but based on what I deem to be level of original insight, lack of obscurity (save, perhaps for Wittgenstein), and contribution to reason and rationality. Plato, Aristotle, John Locke, David Hume, A.J. Ayer, Bertrand Russell, Ludwig Wittgenstein, Karl Popper, Noam Chomsky, Ian Hacking. Cheers!19/11/2017 #41 Ian WeinbergHowsit @Gert Scholtz Just flew in from Knysna. Scanned current posts and happpened upon your refreshing and inspirational contribution. I was beginning to get a little despondent with current posts - either just can't get my head around them or can't join the dots. But this is a great piece about a remarkable chap with IQ and EQ to boot! Just unfortunate that as a species we don't really get wiser with time - those Russel pearls apply more now to us than ever before. Mooi bly and have a great Jozie week!19/11/2017 #37 Savvy RajQuirky truths of certainity in the uncertainity! Is wisdom certain in itself ... or is it wise to be uncertain... of spaces in between of what is, was and the might be ? A very contempletive collection of Russell's reflections.... @Gert Scholtz View moreQuirky truths of certainity in the uncertainity! Is wisdom certain in itself ... or is it wise to be uncertain... of spaces in between of what is, was and the might be ? A very contempletive collection of Russell's reflections.... @Gert Scholtz And great inspiration there in your conclusion with the benefit of doubt. Close19/11/2017 #36 Edward Lewellen@Gert Scholtz, I present regularly on the human mind and what I share is that we need Certainty to fulfill the stable part of ourselves, our Core Identity, the person we are when we strip away all the roles we play. We need Uncertainty for the constantly changing roles we play outside our Core Identity.
Our roles thrive on Uncertainty because they are fluid. Yet, most people try to treat their roles as if they are stable and permanent. As soon as they believe a role to be stable, it changes. This, I believe, is the reason so many people can't find happiness and satisfaction; they are trying to fulfill roles that are constantly changing, instead of their Core Identity, which they have lost in the roles they play.18/11/2017 #31 Gert Scholtz#11 @Phil Friedman I guess that is part of what makes the man such a great thinker - as you say his writing is completely free of obscurity and pretension. I would be very interested to know who is on your list of ten greatest philosophers and social commentators in Western history. Glad to see it might have brought back some remembrances of your days studying and teaching philosophy. Thank you for commenting and reading Phil - most appreciated.18/11/2017 #26 Gert Scholtz#9 @Deb 🐝 Helfrich "Truly innovative thought pierces deep into the complexities of the things about the world that frighten our sensible & sensical minds" - you do have a way with words Deb - and with thought - thanks for the extensive comment and telling about your (rebellious) reading of Russell at a young age.
- Producer18/11/2017Resisting and persistingIt takes a lot of mental work to walk in instability on a road full of uncertainties, some of them catch us off guard, others ... in time, gradually show the signs, to the culminating and unpleasant surprise. In the moment of instability, the...
Comments18/11/2017 #1 Geoff Hudson-SearleGreat Buzz @Neto Montana I resonate with the words only too well, we all have a story to tell in our lives, personal or professional setbacks, you need to develop the determination, drive and skills to create a successful business and happy life. You should read my first book 'Freedom after the Sharks' you will enjoy the book based on the words in your buzz. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Freedom-After-Sharks-Geoffrey-Hudson-Searle-ebook/dp/B00IK00GJM
- Producer17/11/2017Moments — startups are not just for Ys and Zs anymore."What's really bothering you?""Don't get me started — not taking advice and living in a fantasyland are the 2 that immediately come to mind.""Sounds like that other startup we were dealing with a while ago." "Yeah — it's the 'I'm the entrepreneur...
Comments17/11/2017 #8 Jerry FletcherGraham, The fact that experience can make a difference as you and @Phil Friedman point out is never more prevalent than when the new organization begins to seek funding. The order in which folks I know in the investing arena read a business plan is 1. Title page (your positioning statement should be there) 2. CVs of the company's officers, 3. Overview and then the rest. In my experience 80% of the decisions to fund are made on those few pages. Experience, market knowledge and proven capabilities count more than just about anything else.17/11/2017 #7 Mohammed A. JawadIt's nasty when egoistic entrepreneurs who by their infant ideas coupled with measurable monies think that they can march forth, capture markets and pocket profits. But, without censure and counsel, they decide and demand campaigns from consultants and simply ignore their wise strategies.17/11/2017 #5 Phil FriedmanI am sympathetic, @Graham🐝 Edwardss, to what you're saying here. My trademark tagline for two decades has been, "... because experience always matters."
I strongly believe in the truth of that because I've found that half the battle is knowing what NOT to do. Only experience can train you to recognize potential paths of action that will ultimately lead nowhere or to a dead end -- thereby enabling you to avoid wasting valuable and limited resources pursuing those paths.
Another verity which I cite often -- for example, in my book "Ten Golden Rules for Successful New Build Projects" is that much of the time solid experience trumps "creative brilliance" when the goal is to produce a product or run a profitable business.
Good piece. Solid advice. Cheers!17/11/2017 #1 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianNIce. I'm living proof that fifty-somethings can function in a start-up environment. I actually have another in the works and my wife thinks I've gone off the deep end.
I do not believe I know everything! I know a lot of stuff a lot, and a lot of other stuff a little. Luckily, I have a varied advisor group and a wide selection of experts as myTweetPack members who aren't shy about sharing their wish lists, thoughts, and suggestions.
- Producer13/11/2017Adventures In Mid-Life Dating, Part 1: I Wish I Was A LesbianQ: What do lesbians do on the second date? A: Rent a U-Haul! This is the first of what will probably be an ongoing series on....how the human race is doomed :) I detailed in my previous post about men who self-select out of the pool on...
Comments18/11/2017 #19 Nicole Chardenet#15 Well, it's not all doom & gloom. In my next post I'll be detailing a bit some of the men I've met up with (no names, and no desire to socially shame anyone). I did talk briefly to one guy online a few weeks ago who looks like a cool guy, but he's not sure if he wants to explore polyamory - multiple lovers - or not. I've already tried that and wasn't into it, so I'm a little leery of getting involved with someone who's into that or thinking of it. But, he's also into Buddhism and sometimes goes to the meditation group here in town I'm also in even though we've never run into each other there (he hasn't gone in awhile apparently). I keep thinking I should reach out to him and become friends with him in case he decides *not* to explore polyamory. Plus, he seems like a really bright cool dude so having a new friend can't be a bad thing, y'know?
I still have faith that a decent one will cross my path some day!18/11/2017 #18 Nicole Chardenet#16 Yes, I think men are being judged more closely (harshly?) on their looks now too. Being really overweight isn't helping them any more than it is women...and the dirty little secret of large people of both genders is *they* don't want to be with large people either. Women are financially and economically successful enough now that we don't have to 'settle'...which I suspect a LOT of these guys are looking to do...to settle, and be settled for.
I'm not interested in "settling". If I can't find someone who can keep up with me then I will end up alone, and that's okay. At least I'll know I did everything I could.18/11/2017 #17 Nicole Chardenet#14 Okay, I laughed at that...but I know it's not completely true either! Maybe on Spinal Tap & other similar services, I don't know. People on online services do seem to meet their partners offline, but I have a few friends who are married to people they met online. Hell, my ex and I did it back in the day before it was cool...we met over a computer BBS.17/11/2017 #16 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess#10 Love the "used husband in fair condition," @Nicole Chardenet! That is wonderful! I guess we all know that over the millenia, women have been prized for their looks; men, not so much. They were the ones who went out and found the food for the family, fought the wars, fought to keep what was theirs safe. Looks likely were irrelevant.
Now? Well, yes. Women are still judged more harshly in terms of looks as we age, but I firmly believe that we mostly also take much better care of ourselves, and I know we look damn fine!
Waiting for the next installment . . . :-)17/11/2017 #15 Lisa 🐝 GallagherYou can always change your mind (of course I'm just kidding). It has to be hard to be on these dating sites. I keep seeing a commercial in the US for one of the dating sites and of course it showcases 2 young and beautiful females and one hot guy who looks like he's a lot of fun but too young if someone in our age group were looking. That is unless the young guy is looking for a MILF- or should I just say, sex?! I once had someone tell me on Social Media that I was a MILF. I was so naive and had to ask what that meant... I asked the guy, no less! I was really embarrassed and felt like I appeared to be a piece of meat rather than a female who wasn't even using social media looking for guys. It has to be tough as a single woman looking for a decent man. Don't give up, I think you are figuring this out.. methodology does come in handy. ;-)17/11/2017 #13 Randall Burns#4 LMAO!! I lived in Toronto for 4 years, in the 80's and I can vouch for what you say @Nicole Chardenet, (and here I thought that the high gay population was due to the fact that they were all models/actors/artists/musicians) My life did "loosen" up after I left Toronto. :-)17/11/2017 #11 Nicole Chardenet#9 Thanks, Franci-Eugenia! I hope to have it out in the next week. It was actually one fairly long post that I cut into two so part of the next is already written. Interestingly, I have a suitor I only just recently met, not through Spinal Tap, who came over to pick up some winter coats from me for charity and I invited him to a dinner party I was holding that night. He is extremely interesting and bright and has one hell of a backstory to tell...some of it tragic, some of it happy, but he's indicated interest. We are talking about hanging out as friends for now but maybe seeing where it goes. I don't know him that well for now and I *do* need to get to know a person before I warm up to them. We'll see how it goes...17/11/2017 #10 Nicole Chardenet#5 @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess I keep thinking about The Toothpicker...I think I mentioned him in my previous post and he'll get a brief mention in my next one...and the reason I keep thinking about him is because he is is just the epitome of what I wanted to avoid and the giant red flag that I needed to qualify candidates better. (And as soon as I thought of it as 'qualifying candidates' I knew my Inner Salescritter had kicked in to point out that hey, there were some real similarities to trying to close a sales deal and dating!) The Toothpicker was a good, basic, decent guy....whose life was over. Who was never going to look good again *because he chose not to* even though you could see he used to be a really great-looking guy. He was, essentially, a Used Husband in Fair Condition who screamed, "I was married for thirty years and I treat you and other women the way I treated my wife...as though we have all this established familiarity between us so I didn't have to try hard anymore." I think a lot of the guys are like that, unfortunately. I should probably make more of an effort to get on every night and just see if there's anyone new, because I'm sure the 'good ones' get snapped up fairly quickly, and I want to submit by bid before it's too late :)16/11/2017 #5 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess"What a contrast to the middle-aged men’s photos - out-of-focus, schlumpy, badly-dressed, and often scowling or unsmiling. I sift through, knowing looks aren’t everything and in all honesty, I really am more interested in how closely we match."
Once I catch my breath from laughing, @Nicole Chardenet ... yes. Absolutely right! I spent a few years (a few years ago) going through the usual sites -- most of them decent enough -- to find very few men who took took care of themselves. Really. Men don't have to be handsome -- especially at this age although the ones that do take care of themselves sure do look goooooooood -- but 75 lbs overweight? No exercise? No interest in anything? Watch TV all day, go out for a few beers at night?
I found a few nice men -- they do exist -- but several wanted to travel all the time, and I have put down some nice roots where I am.
One of my "problems" is that I could be retired -- according to the statistics -- but what the heck would I do with myself? I don't have a lot of hobbies. I'm pretty much an introvert, except when I can't be. I love my work! I love gardening. I love reading. I love walking my dogs 4-5 miles in decent weather most days! I love living my life -- my way.
What I've decided is simple: I like living alone. Simple. Easy. Fun.
Cue Sinatra: My Way.16/11/2017 #4 Nicole Chardenet#3 Hi David, thanks for stopping by and casting your lot in on the dating scene. I'm quite curious as to what it's like on the other side. I'm not surprised you got ignored or just not much responded to, I've heard that a lot from guys. And it occurred to me later that all those great gals might be closet crazies...I've also heard about 'the crazies' from my male friends. Getting to know people in real life is probably way better than doing it online, but it's harder to do in Toronto where the men live in abject fear that if they're not very, very careful they might get laid :) I'm not sure why Toronto men are so frigid but I suspect 'the crazies' - uber-feminists - are behind it, as a Millennial friend of mine found a photo of some graffiti someone wrote on a wall somewhere that said, "Toronto women turn men gay!" And I know the feminists here have brought new dimension to the word 'crazy'!
I'm finding that doing the research as one goes along brings expectations into line and makes you waaaaay better at screening out the inappropriate candidates (meaning inappropriate for *you*, not that she sends you dick pics, LOL). I'm sorry you got dumped by your ex. I hope you finally meet the right person and remember, *learn* all you can about dating, women, emotions, all that stuff...it really does make a difference and the more you know, the less powerless and out of control you'll feel. Most people, both genders, don't do this and we should. We research the hell out of just buying a simple mobile, why do we keep spinning our wheels in the dating scene and then withdraw like angry kittens spitting, "All wo/men are assholes!"?15/11/2017 #3 David DisneyFantastic article!! I was thrown into the depths of single hood after my wife of 7 years and together for more then 11 years (High School Sweetheart) cheated on me. Split ways, and I was not excited. Both from a heartbreak side, and also a "Crap what do I do now" I hadn't dated since High School!! I'm 30 and my last date with someone other than my ex wife consisted something like an awkward A&W cruise night date in 2004 (or close to that time frame). I did think that the dating apps made it simple so of course I tried all the standard ones and spent hours updating my profiles, including all about myself, and really wanting to connect with someone on a meaningful level. I guess I spent far too much time listing the books I love, favorite Hobbies, and what not, because in the end when I finally got to the searching portion, and swiping a certain direction, or winking at, or heart, or whatever the apps needed, I found quickly that the attractive girls didn't need any form of bio, just hot pictures. I guess that works for the majority of my Gender base, however I wanted to connect deeper then that, I wanted to TALK to these girls, not take them to a bar and slither my way back home to bed them.Well I spent awhile searching, and it just was awful, so i went back to the old school way, and just talked to people in or around my circle of friends. Worked a lot better for me! I think your article can work for both sides depending on what you're looking for. I never found all of those amazing women you were speaking of. Hopefully the men you are looking for will shape up a bit and post who they are, not what they look like!!
- Producer16/11/2017Nobody Cares about Your Feelings. Deal with itRANT MODE ONMaybe it's my inner Grouchy-Old-Man talking. Maybe my points are silly. Maybe they're profound. Whatever, this is how I feel. Yes, I see the irony in writing a post titled, "Nobody cares about your feelings," that is really my feelings...
Comments19/11/2017 #47 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsLMAO Paul, love it when they push Paul to rant!
You were so right to enter that conversation. Chick 2 had issues. Many many many long term relationships have occurred between co-workers, nothing wrong with that! The only times it pissed me off was when married men came on to me, but I never ran to HR, I figured if it got too bad I'd use my knee in strategic spots or call their damn wife and ask her to stop her husband from making my life hell.
Bet you look adorable with a beard! :-) Oh wait...Am I sexually harassing you with that statement?
Speaking of which, let's turn this around; As a single woman for the majority of my life I'm sick and tired of men AND women assuming my friendliness is a come-on and I'm out to steal someone else's man. I have been publicly called out (in church for christ's sake) for talking to the father of my daughter's best friend, about our children!!!. Excuse me; I don't want you ugly ass husband!
It needed to be said Paul and you did so very very well!! As someone who has been harassed but also dated colleagues; I applaud you! Chick #1 apparently has problems dealing with uncomfortable social situations...Like no one has ever before in the history of man has ever had to deal with a bit of awkwardness. PaLEASE!
Childish Girl needs to grow up and Get the F*** over it, the poor guy's ego took a bruising with the turn down and now the B**** was advising to turn him into HR...Really17/11/2017 #42 Jerry FletcherPaul, Thank you! You made my day. Although there was a laugh in there I can say that there is more than a grain of truth on what the world has come to. As a speaker who can get passionate about Networking and Brand and Trust Based business development I often warn audiences that, "I've been told by some folks that I'm not socially correct. Some of what I have to say may offend some of you. But it will be the truth as I see it. If I piss you off, so be it. If I make some of you laugh with my observations that is okay by me. No matter what reaction you have you'll come out of here better off if you own your feelings. Ain't it great to get to the age where you really don't give damn what others think of you!17/11/2017 #41 Robert CormackAh, well, @Kevin Pashuk, I had a sneaking suspicion nobody was thinking about me at all when I was constantly asked who I was and why was I hanging around the halls. Once they discovered I'd been working there 3 years, I ceased being a topic of conversation entirely—until it was decided I could be bluffing. When they found out I wasn't bluffing, I ceased being a topic of conversation entirely because I was boring. I've since told everyone I'm bluffing.#3817/11/2017 #40 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#36 LOL, that reminds of the old joke about a woman who called the police because her male neighbor walked around in the nude.
When the Cops came, all they saw was a waist-up view. When questioned, the woman answered, "Yes, but if you stand on the kitchen counter, lean out holding the light fixture for balance, while holding this mirror over your head, you can see his junk!"17/11/2017 #36 Wayne Yoshida#32 #33 -- This is a very touchy area in our post Anita Hill era. Many years ago, three of us guys in the sales dept were called into HR one day. We were being accused for harassment because of our "locker room" jokes and stories. The accuser was in a cubicle adjacent to mine.
We immediately changed our location for these discussions. . . . and the accuser **followed** us and reported us again, saying she could still hear our stories and jokes.
I caught her one day standing on her chair so she could eavesdrop. . . and then reported her to HR. All charges in our files were removed. She was sent to therapy and anger management sessions.
Geeze.17/11/2017 #34 Robert CormackGood one, @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, lay your "grouch" out there, tackle those "feelings of awkwardness" and grow your beard. You and I are of that age when we really don't have to care anymore (although we do, or we wouldn't be writing about it). Thanks for the post.17/11/2017 #33 Paul "Pablo" Croubalian#32 You said, "Good Morning?" How dare you, you PERVERT!!! LMFAO
Sometimes, conversations can be taken out of context. In the restaurant, I once tossed 10kg of chicken breasts that were delivered that same day. I confronted the employee who signed for them telling her, "Check your breasts, please. Before you take anything in the back (I meant the fridge), make sure your breasts are clean and firm (chicken breasts). There should be no sliminess or any smell at all. Take one out (chicken again) and check if you have to. If you're not sure, come show them to me."
An intern who overheard this freaked out. A good rule of thumb would be if the person spoken to doesn't seem threatened or harassed, you probably misunderstood.17/11/2017 #32 Brian McKenzieI worked at a large insurance company for 90 days, I got picked up as a permanent after that. Every day as a temp - I had to sign in with the receptionist and said "Good Morning" everyday. As a company employee - I didn't have to sign in, but still said " Good Morning" Two weeks in, I get called in for an HR 'sit down' because Good Morning was being presented as Sexual Harassment. I stayed two more weeks, took the Broker Test and moved from claims to sales. The move was more money and a new floor.
I found out that the receptionist had filed several other complaints against others - I recommended they upgrade their security to include audio. All charges were subsequently dropped and she was fired.
This was the shit in 1992 - it has only moved exponentially worse.
You interact at your own risk and folly.
#MGTOW 😒17/11/2017 #31 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI love your rants @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian! You brought up a good point about the woman using the term "sexual harassment" & told her friend to "report him to HR" with the culture we are facing today. No, he should not be reported and NO that is not harassment! I had a boss once who used to come into my office and he would start trying to rub my back and shoulders. I wasn't comfortable with that and would say, "Knock it off Bryan!" He would back up, and say to me... what.. whaaa, you don't like that?" My reply, NO, I don't want your grubby hands on me. He did this more than once and the more I spoke out to him, the worse he treated me as an employee. I never once thought of reporting him, I felt I was able to stand my ground. I would just categorize him as a womanizer back then and a creep lol. Oddly, his wife divorced him, I wonder why?? I wasn't the only one he did that to.
I did have a point to make above, I fear women may report every incident as sexual harassment if they feel they can. Yes, report if if you've truly been sexually harassed but don't cry wolf.
As for Movember, Ok, looking to see if your fly was down, I literally laughed. People can be so anal... seriously, not comfortable with a beard? My husband and son are both participating in Movember too.. this is my son's third year, husbands first year. Kudos to you for participating too. My husband looks like a grubby mountain man right now haha. But, it's for a very good cause. For those that aren't aware, Movember is to raise awareness for suicide prevention and mental health issues in men. They grow mustaches and beards. Mustache in particular but many grow beards along with the mustache. KUDOS Men!!17/11/2017 #28 Nicole ChardenetKiller post, Paul!!! I was just having a similar conversation tonight with a couple of gal pals, one of whom's my age and the other of whom is twenty years older. I was arguing that making a fuss over 'gender pronouns' is a sign that you have First World Problems. That 'safe spaces' primarily spring from the very real need to provide truly safe spaces for certain people, primarily abuse victims, to speak freely, but that it has since become an excuse to shield one's self from any inconvenient opinions someone else cares to yell down your echo chamber. That some people seriously need to just Suck It Up, Buttercup. Too much victimhood going around. I hope you talked that ditz bomb out of reporting that guy to HR. If that's the worst thing that happened to her all year, she leads a very charmed life indeed...
- Producer15/11/2017Going Southern - Regional DiversityWe often think of diversity as race, ethnicity, gender, and religion. Sometimes we add generational diversity, but rarely do add our diverse geography. Yet, our regional differences account for much of the controversies, culture clashes, and...
Comments17/11/2017 #19 Deborah Levine#17 Yes, @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher our history is full of immigrant stories that need to be told and retold. I didn't know about the Finnish contribution in Ohio - amazing. I wonder where the laborers went when they left Ashtabula. Wouldn't it be amazing if we could track down some of their descendants!17/11/2017 #17 Lisa 🐝 GallagherI love how descriptive your video is @Deborah Levine. Enjoyed learning of your own journey from Bermuda to the South and why you chose that region. I grew up in Ashtabula, Ohio, a large port City long ago. We had many Finnish and Italian settlers who lived among each other within neighborhoods.
"As early as 1872 one of the Finnish section gangs had been at work in Ashtabula Harbor laying track for the Ashtabula, Youngstown, and Pittsburgh Railroad.6 This labor crew was composed of twenty-five men and a female cook; among their number were Andrew Bloom and Kalle Kotka. The latter, a lad of about twenty, was killed by a train in the gravel pit of the A. Y. & P. Railroad on November 8, 1872, and thus became the first Finn to find his final resting place in Ashtabula.7 The Finnish laborers remained in the Harbor for only a short time but their presence did evoke the following comment from the Ashtabula Telegraph:" - http://www.genealogia.fi/emi/art/article222e.htm Interesting article!
Thank you for sharing this, I will now share it with others :)17/11/2017 #16 Brook Massey#11 @Deborah Levine, in general, I do believe that the two cultures are distinct. Genetically, many Appalachian folk are of poor Scottish or Ulster-Scot descent. Historically, in the Civil War, obviously, most southern residents sided with the south. While, most Appalachian residents sided with the north: West Virginia splitting from Virginia and NE Tennessee trying to breakaway from Tennessee.16/11/2017 #12 Deborah Levine#10 Yes, @David B. Grinberg, today's overlap of demographics, history, and geography is a vital part of understanding what is happening not only in a region but in national shifts both culturally and politically. I make the combination and confluence a basic element of my diversity training. How can I not?16/11/2017 #11 Deborah LevineThanks for the feedback @Brook Massey#9 Appalachian culture is indeed one-of-a-kind. I write about that more in the book, Going Southern. Years ago, when I was studying Appalachia in my urban planning masters, there was a claim that Appalachians are distinct not only in their culture but are a distinct DNA group. Would you agree?16/11/2017 #10 David B. GrinbergNice blogging buzz, Deborah. I also like the video. I think geographic diversity overlaps with demographic diversity, a phenomenon dating back to the Civil War. However, this has become more pronounced today with Hispanics/Latinos and Asians being the fastest growing populations in the USA. In fact, any one group could largely be concentrated in a specific region. Thus, your thesis makes perfect sense!16/11/2017 #9 Brook Massey@Deborah Levine, most of my life has been spent in the hills of Kentucky. I did live a while in Alabama, though. The Appalachian culture of much of Kentucky, is a little different from Southern. You describe our Alabama experience perfectly. Appalachia is a less genteel, a little rougher. People talk fast and move slow.15/11/2017 #1 Harvey LloydWow, can i say wow. For a "come here" as i have heard the label stated in southern states, meaning you ain't from here, with politeness, you really hit some highlights of southern culture. Southern Pride is something that is evolving but hasn't gone anywhere. We take God and country very seriously, not always correctly but very seriously. I added the read to the list. Thanks.
Ps. i would have loved to have seen the group when you played the music.
- Producer16/11/2017Happy Thanksgiving!!!The last Thursday in November. Always Thanksgiving. It's my brother's most favorite holiday, because it involves stuffing and turkey, his two most favorite things to eat.. Growing up it seemed like a lot of work for just a few minutes...
- Producer16/11/2017Can Online Assignment Writing Service Really Help In Your Academics?Assignment writing as homework plays an important role in improving the academic knowledge and presentation skills of the students. It helps them to organize their views and statements in a chronological order and prepares them to face the...
- Producer15/11/2017Meet the ChallengeIn just a few days, the International Mobile Film Festival in San Diego will stop accepting submissions. All films are shot with mobile phones. It's about your story and how you can tell your story through film and video. Everyone has a story to...
- Producer15/11/2017TAIPEI: Type B Personality with a Twist of NeonHere I am. It is bleak, but beautiful. There is order. An unseen rule book hangs like a cloud; for all who live in her belly and follow her arterial system. Not a Goliath of a city, but a David with a savvy slingshot…This is what I first saw,...
- Producer15/11/2017INTRIGUING UNIVERSE WITH ITS MYSTIC WIND!What is sand or soil texture we observe in nature’s floor? Valuable resources for life to explore What draws our attention in the night sky? Myriad of falling stars diving in the seas high A continuous deposition of grandeur...
Comments15/11/2017 #8 Sara JacoboviciIt never cease to amaze me @Debasish Majumder how you are able to produce such poetry with a flow of its own. You make it appear so easy. You finish this poem with a meaningful statement for me, "Unfathomable it is out of its mysterious rhythm!". Thank you for your share.15/11/2017 #3 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee"A continuous deposition of grandeur
Helping our lives to evolve with valor"
Great meaning and vivid descriptions by @Debasish Majumder.
It seeme to me you find writing poetry is as easy for you as drinking a cold cup ofvwater in a hot summer day
- Producer15/11/2017Without Some Method, Any Creative Process Is, Sadly, Only Madness.I’m always busy. If I’m not busy doing work for my clients I’m busy marketing my business. It’s like a cyclone or hurricane that has been swirling around me since the early 1970s.I’ve been in this hurricane for so long that I truly believe I would...
Comments17/11/2017 #11 Cyndi wilkins"Everybody needs some sort of method or structure to work within. Not having this structure will invariably reduce the chances of actually getting anything done."
If you could read my mind love...what a tale my thoughts would tell;-)
Great piece @Jim Murray...A very succinct recipe for layering the groundwork in the creative process. One ingredient at a time...16/11/2017 #7 Randall BurnsGreat post @Jim Murray, very helpful. I'm working on something now and will consciously apply these tips. I understand the "compartmentalization", I find it useful for when I have a variety of ideas which I keep in a "vault" on my desktop, working and adding to them as the thoughts come to me although when I have something in the "forefront", like the one I mentioned I will work on that from start to finish.
Insightful and helpful contribution, Thanks.15/11/2017 #2 Kevin PashukThanks for the cultural reference of the musician who cannot be named... I cut my musical teeth on Gordon's work, and modeled my guitar playing after the wonderful finger-picking and chord patterns of his songs. He was actually the first professional musician I ever saw in concert, in the intimate gymnasium of Dryden High School, in North Western Ontario. I still play his tunes, including the epic Canadian Railroad Trilogy. Now that's compartmentalization at work...
- Producer15/11/2017Reflections of a mirrorDid it ever occur to you how you made that choice of ‘A’ over ‘B’ and how you had to live with the consequences of your choice? The choice was made in the very front of your brain, the pre-frontal cortex (PFC), which sits just under your...
Comments17/11/2017 #21 Ken BoddieI just love your 'brain mechanics for non-medics', Ian. I am a wiser man yet again, after reading your enlightening and Particularly Functional Composition (PFC). 💡
So, next time the local grammar school's Parents and Friends Committee (PFC) ask me to volunteer for a task that puts me outside my comfort zone, or my eco-electrician suggests that I need a Power Factor Correction (PFC) which threatens to put my wallet outside its comfort zone, or I am told by a US secret service Private First Class (PFC) to clear the way for one of his nation's dignitaries visiting Oz, hence threatening to move my body away from its rightful resting zone, I'll tell them all to let me be, as I'm incapable of making an unbiased decision, thanks to my own PFC. I'll then blame it all on Rupert Murdoch and Michael Bloomberg. 🤥17/11/2017 #20 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeDear @Ian Weinberg great article sharing the neuroscience science of choice and the power of the pause. Your medical and scientific knowledge supports my language bed experience. I shared the difference the pause makes in one of my articles. thanks For sharing your knowledge.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@deb-lange/press-pause-and-sense-a-moment-in-a-conversation16/11/2017 #17 Gert Scholtz@Ian Weinberg Fascinating article Ian! Especially how we sometimes make choices and decisions prior to actual awareness of the choice being made. So much more reason to pause and eliminate the trio of impediments: generalization, deletion and distortion. The pause is often overridden or disturbed at least, by automated responses, inherent cognitive biases, emotional triggers, and perceived time pressure - to name a few. If we can "mind the gap" more and in a more accentuated way - then as you say "Neutralizing deletion and distortion and its negative consequences requires commitment to authenticity no matter what the price. Additionally therefore, a generous helping of courage is also necessary." Once again, a very intriguing post Ian - thank you.16/11/2017 #13 Cyndi wilkins"Uttering certain emotive words and carrying out specific actions can trigger the appropriate neuronal integrations within us. Hence the positive power of enhanced laughter, powerful phrases and mantra’s and driven motor activity."
This is the root composition of mind/body medicine... By offsetting negatively charged energy with regular practice of positively charged reinforcement techniques, we significantly influence the health of our inner (psychological) and outer (physiological) worlds and our experiences of them.15/11/2017 #12 Sara JacoboviciAnother classic @Ian Weinberg post. You make me think and you put me to work. My response needs to be be written "Outside the comment box." Thanks for the post and for the discussion it generated. My circuits must be working well as I made a good choice in reading this post.15/11/2017 #7 Phil FriedmanI appreciate, @Ian Weinberg, how you link the brain physiology to the historical model of "mind" in the context of decision and judgment. Without bickering about questions concerning the mind-body connection, I think it is safe to conclude that you see physical evidence for what we call in the "mind" model the value of deliberation, questioning of assumptions and presumptions, and avoidance of rush to judgment. In other words, the primacy of maintaining reason and rationality. Nice piece, indeed, fascinating. Cheers!
- Producer14/11/2017Happy Birthday Dada! The sadness is almost not there; Inner peace, understanding and knowledge dawned!Today I couldn't help recollecting and smiling at the happy moments spent with my Dad. The last outing we had was a trip to a famous church "The Basilica of Our Lady of Good Healthof Velankanni" down south of India, a city called Nagapattinam. The...
Comments16/11/2017 #19 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsThank you for all the support I received from my friends here at beBee. Without you I would have found my healing to be very difficult. Thank you from the bottom of my heart @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA View moreThank you for all the support I received from my friends here at beBee. Without you I would have found my healing to be very difficult. Thank you from the bottom of my heart @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA
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@Geoff Hudson-Searle Close15/11/2017 #15 Geoff Hudson-SearleBeautiful words @🐝 Fatima G. Williams whilst Parents provide unconditional love Grandparents in addition to unconditional love also provide wisdom, there is a wonderful quote by Alex Haley "Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children." This quote always resonates with me. I am sure you are much loved, Dada and the Angels looking over you. Happy Wednesday!15/11/2017 #11 AnonymousThank you @🐝 Fatima G. Williams for sharing your tremendous post. The parents’ ability to love unconditionally can have powerful effects. Seeing our loved ones in an eternal perspective, knowing that they are of infinite worth, helps us to look beyond their loss, as spreading their past gifts to new generations.14/11/2017 #1 Cyndi wilkinsAwe...This one is very special for me right now @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, as the holidays approach and I am remembering my dad as we lost him last New Years Eve:-(
He was very much a being of justice, generosity, truth, harmony, compassion, understanding, and goodwill...We will miss him terribly in our lives...but he always inhabits our hearts...Peace to you my friend... a big hug to you with a special birthday wish for your dada;-)
- Producer15/11/2017Sandy SocietiesA grain of sand blowing will do little harm. Millions of sand grain blowing together may drain the soil of its nutrients, cause havoc to life in different forms such as halting flights. Sand particles are loosely held so that the wind may carry...
Comments18/11/2017 #93 Anonymous#70 #71 It could be a fractal disintegration. The obvious hegemony carried by the economic elites, which are subjugating the whole humankind by means of fear (fear to lose your job, house, way of living), greed and selfishness, is at the moment maintaining us with a feeling of living under chains which are impossible to break. This situation is something that for our children is the only reality they have lived. They don't know that it was a time on which human rights (the right to have a decent home and job, for example) had a real meaning, and achieving them it was not only a war to fight, it was as well something achievable and achieved. And they live their lives under these chains, not seeing any possibility to react and raise. So if this is our legacy, yes, we are to see a fractal disintegration, on which our grandchildren will repeat the same formula again and again18/11/2017 #87 Lisa Vanderburg#85 haha @Cyndi wilkins.....you coulda just used your eyes and had toast instead :) We dragons fry together!
#81 Thanks @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for using the reply button, and #84 I have hope in you and so many others here that if change can be wrought, it will come through compassion and clear-thinking like I see in your buzzes and comments: I have faith!18/11/2017 #85 Cyndi wilkins#57 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...Timing is everything. I was just commenting on another post about an incident I had last night in a restaurant. The jist of it is we were waiting for a table to be cleared as our party was the next to be seated...It was very busy, so the wait times were about 30 minutes...As I stepped away from the hostess desk to allow others in to give their names, a different hostess appeared and immediately seated the party behind us in line...not realizing we had arrived first...Somehow my name was not put on this list simply because we were about to be seated.
By the time I turned around and realized what was happening, this other party was directed to our table and seated...Now my knee-jerk reaction was to approach the hostess and inform her that we were there first...I tried to wave her over, but she just smiled and went in the opposite direction...When my eyes met one of the patrons now sitting at our table, she too simply smiled away my at agitation...clearly realizing they had just bumped us from our table.
Once the hostess was informed by the other staffer of the mix up, she could clearly see the fury in my eyes...several times offering me some water (probably to douse the flames) as I stood waiting another 20 minutes. But she never made any reference to the mix up...which ticked me off even more, but made me realize the intensity of my feelings did not match the stimulus. My fury at the situation was a symptom of a deeper issue...
When I 'slept on it' the answer was revealed in a dream as several memories came flooding back to me concerning other women encroaching upon my personal 'space' in relationships...Hell hath no fury...right?!?!18/11/2017 #82 Lisa Vanderburg#59 #61 & all: The trouble is desire. We are not ants or trees; nothing so noble alas. Just reading @Renée 🐝 Cormier's & @Kevin Baker's latest buzz' are just the most recent of our realization that 'we're not in Kansas anymore'. We are in big trouble, and all the good peeps hoping to make things right cannot prevail without everyone else desiring the same outcome: that is a huge challenge when our global population is exploding and resources are stretching. From my point of view, the 'have & have-nots' are growing. We can't ignore that suicide is 2/3rds more prevalent than murder. If we don't face up to the fact that we are sick, we are lost. The trees and the ants will be THRILLED :)18/11/2017 #79 Lisa Vanderburg#29 'What is your purpose?' fabulous question sweet & sassy @Sara Jacobovici! #34 'The POD Factor' wouldn't work for me as my actions are reactions @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee (no amount of 'I have control' comes into it).#40 Very wise @Harvey Lloyd, those questions you sagely alluded to enslave us.
PLEASE can you guys use the reply buttons.....my mouse doth knacker out :)
- Producer15/11/2017Bali UnseenOkay so I am married to a Balinese man.I live in a Balinese family compound, I live a blessed life. That is true, however my true fascination with Bali started long before I met Made.How do I even begin to write a short article about my obsession...
- Producer14/11/2017INTRIGUING HAPPINESS!Happiness human only aspire What exactly it is? Posing a recurrent nemesis Without which we all are in despair Causing a disdain in our atmosphere! Happiness is an abstract protocol We all spirally moving on Do not...
Comments14/11/2017 #1 Debasish Majumder@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, @Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. Brand Ambassador beBee, Inc., @Milos Djukic, @David B. Grinberg
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