- Producer31/10/2017The Graveyard I was walking through an old grave yard which sits in the middle of a sprawling subdivision. The head stones are encased by a wrought iron fence, and behind this cemetery from the mid 1800’s sits a modern playground. Its swings, slides and monkey...
Comments07/11/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat points @Ray Stasieczko and you summed this buzz up well, "So what if – we were all decent, respectful, and believed the afterlife is based on how we treat people, instead of how we judge people." I hope when I'm gone, if I'm to be judged, people will remember how I treated people. We all judge from time to time but if we are consistently good to others, that should trump our human flaws.
My dad has had a very cheap gravestone for years. He passed away when I was 10, and there were still 4 more siblings who were younger than me. Mom didn't have money and my dad had a flat grave stone placed with a Medallion on it. My brother and I were the oldest when dad passed and that grave stone was the last memory we had of him. When my mother passed over a year and a half ago my sister wanted to replace my dads gravestone for a larger one. My brother and I told her NO. We know he does not reside there (smile) but it has always been an imprint on our memory. My sister respected our wishes and just ordered something to lift his flat stone so It was visible. We were okay with that. As odd as it sounds, to change my dads gravestone was to change the past in a weird type of manner. My dad was a happy man who treated everyone with respect and dignity. He was the least judgmental man I think I've ever known. Although, I may be biased ;-) Great message, thanks!
- Producer02/11/2017The Small, but Great BuildersJust review the following findings and the facts they reveal: - Ants colonies may contain 5,000-2,000,000 individuals - There are millions of neurons in the brain, each producing its own electrical signals. These combined signals generate...
Comments03/11/2017 #36 Savvy RajThe Simple truth holds all the complex potential
In an untangled arrangement.
The very arrangement is a fodder for imagination
For continuity in ingenuity.....
Sharing these lines from my earlier buzz ... for I felt these lines of thought reflect in your inspiring buzz here today03/11/2017 #33 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 part 2
The other segment that captured my attention @🐝 Fatima G. Williams is "So freedom of choice and the ability to enjoy simple rules comes at a price of being ready to add value". This is what I mentioned in my earlier comment. But you expressed it far better than I. Thank you my friend.
I extend the invitstion to @David B. Grinberg to share his wisdom03/11/2017 #32 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 dear @🐝 Fatima G. Williams- your maturity coupled with wisdom are simply gorgeous. I could write now a buzz building on your eloquent comment. You actually responded to most comments that preceded yours.
You wrote "Self-organisation and simple rules go well together ONLY if it driven behind values and the purpose of why an organization exists". Self-organizing is an emerging phenomena thst result from the interactions of simple rules They are not planned and are rewards for respecting them.03/11/2017 #30 AnonymousThank you dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee for sharing your interesting post as usual very provoking...Nature is one thing that human being tries to copy but politics steer it differently. "To appreciate the circumstances in each particular case, such is the essential role of the chief. Since he knows them, measures them, exploits them, he is victorious because he ignores them, judges them badly, neglects them, he is defeated." Charles de Gaulle.03/11/2017 #29 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsThese simple rules should focus on two important things dear Ali Anani - That the individual and the organizations grow together, add more value to self and the group as a whole. Because manipulation and deceit have become the order of the day and it is this practice that leads organizations to their doom and creates monster managers. @David B. Grinberg might have something of great value to add to your intriguing buzz here.
Self-organisation and simple rules go well together ONLY if it driven behind values and the purpose of why an organization exists. Like the termites who work to make sure the colony stays healthy, each termite has a role to play and he must remember that all times. So freedom of choice and the ability to enjoy simple rules comes at a price of being ready to add value and knowing that, "When we compete against everyone else, no one wants to help us. But when we compete against ourself, everyone wants to help us.” - Simon Sinek03/11/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#20 you have very good points at @Phil Friedman. Your concerns are valid. In life we don't get any thing for nothing. No free ride as they say. To have complete free of choice and belong to a society is a free ride. We have two needs in having our free choices and to belonging. The compromise is to have simple rules that balances both choices.
In complex systems it is simple rules that reward the balancing of the two choices by having the emergence into new systems. Comlplex systems look for efficiency and workability and not optimization. Find a working solution and move. Optimization is short-lived because the environment keeps changing. What is optimal today is not optimal tomorrow.
If we wish to have complete freedom of choice. Well then like oil and water- each keeps its identity, but separated.
Regards03/11/2017 #21 Jerry FletcherDr. Anani, simplifying the rules in an organization WHILE GRANTING THE EMPLOYEE FREE WILL TO ACT has the greatest positive impact I have seen. But, humans seeM intent to control and complexify to the utmost extent possible.
The systems in your examples don't have free will.03/11/2017 #20 Phil Friedman#14 Thank you for the candid answer, Dr. Anani, it is always helpful to understand what someone’s underlying assumptions are. In this case that the efficient operation of the system trumps all, including the welfare of the individuals who comprise it. I could be wrong, but my guess is that you also see the system (business, nation state, society, hive) as having an emergent being separate and distinct from that of its members. Which, when it comes to social values, I personally reject. Of course, to each his own. Cheers!02/11/2017 #19 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#18 @Antoinette Capasso-Backdahl- your observation is correct. Survival is a great motivation for cooperation and collaboration. We have big numbers in armies but what they do mostly is aggression not destinef for survival.
I have to point out here that most creatures if get crowded voluntarily a group seek an
alternative place. Bees do this for example. In few cases some insects may become predators of their own species. They behave like humans do.02/11/2017 #18 Antoinette Capasso-BackdahlIt strikes me that those examples are not concerned with crowdiness but more concerned about survival. They are not self destructing or programming their own species to self destruct. Which makes humans the dumbest of all species for falling into the SEA of FISH HOOKS.
- Producer25/10/2017Brain drainThey’re everywhere. Shake the tree and a dozen or so will fall out. Everyone’s a neuroscientist! But let’s not get too pre-occupied with their credentials. I have afterall dealt with this in some detail in a previous article at...
Comments26/10/2017 #37 Cyndi wilkins"Recognition by peers"...yes, well the old 'peer reviewed studies... that certainly sums up professionalism doesn't it?? It really is a tussel between two brain centres isn't it? One seeking recognition and validation to gratify the needs of the 'personality'...the other the struggle to be heard over fear of not being taken seriously for lacking the credentials of the 'elite and scholarly. However. I am very well aware there are those who misrepresent themselves as experts beyond their scope of practice...Agreed.
That said, I also agree with the physiology of all of this...who the hell am I to argue with a brain surgeon?? But I will take it a step further by saying I am not at all convinced there is no such thing as 'the gut' brain...as a matter of fact, I know many who sit on them;-)26/10/2017 #35 Phil FriedmanLook, @Ian Weinberg, you and I both know that in many cases, mainline professional regulation and certification is little more than organization for the purpose of restricting entry into a given field and thereby minimizing competition. If that weren't the case, a hundred times more lawyers would be disbarred than are now, and hundreds more physicians would be lose their licenses for being less than minimally competent. Tens more engineers would be prevented from designing anything more complicated than a backyard tool shed and most clinical psychologists would be professionally strung up.
However, that does not mean anyone should be able to stand on a rock and dub themselves a "psychic healer" or a "life improvement coach" or a "headspace mentor", as though such titles have been conferred on them by others after a course of serious study and examination of their accomplishments and credentials to be such. Especially when the self-ascribed title is confusingly close to a title that is attained in the course of qualifying in a regulated profession or business.
My point is that everyone has the right to practice whatever wacko "therapy" genre they wish, but not the right to pretend they have somehow been "certified" and recognized by an independent, qualified third party organization to do so.
This is a great piece, Ian. Keep up the good work and keep fighting the good fight. Cheers!26/10/2017 #32 Bernard PoulinIn the post 19th century era of romantic notions in the arts, we all became artists and everything we did (and now do) is "art" and nothing is simply. . . well, crap. . . because that would imply charlatan or snake-oil salesman, etc. And we Nervous Nellies of the anxious variety could never deal with so much realism in our lives. Basically, we all want to be revered for our "specialness" cause specialness is all there is of value anymore isn't it? Normal is so "yesterday".
Whether we have anything of "validity" to offer the world or not is irrelevant since in our era of "wanna-be therefore I am" experts are a dime a dozen. Being an expert in this era of lowest common denominator Post-modernism simply means being someone who displays, through their micro-aggressed sadness, an inability to be professional since being professional would mean training and learning and achieving and being diploma'd and exercising competence in a field which demands serious thought and action and recognition by peers - and a respectful public. . . . and THAT . . . (phew!) is so exhausting. . . so elitist!!! In essence, if I want to be an admired dinosaur salesman (forget that dinosaurs haven't been available for sale in a little while) that should be OK with everyone since this is what :"I" want. . . . Right?. . . . Please tell me I'm right!!! . . . Please!!! I can't abide my feelings being hurt yet again!!! Groan. . .26/10/2017 #26 Randall BurnsI have a confession to make @Ian Weinberg...
I am NOT a neuroscientist, (I know, so sorry). moving on...
Fantastic article and great advice, your points are common sense, (to me anyway), but it is fascinating to learn about the actual relationship of this behavior and our brain functions, which I was not aware of. Thanks for the insights as always!26/10/2017 #20 Ken BoddieIan-sensei (aka Obi-Wan Kenobi) you are indeed a “noble man and gifted in the ways of the [Neuro] Force”. This is a valuable reference post for choleric melancholics like myself who need to stand back and look at the bigger picture (albeit in the mirror). By the way, oh wise and learned one, may I assume that you use your light sabre in surgery? 😯25/10/2017 #18 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsDr @Ian Weinberg I burst out laughing at the first two lines. There are quite a few here in the UAE like that. While I wonder if they are authentic I'm concerned about the people that take in the information given by them. They are influencing the way these people go about doing things.
This is a power packed honey jar to come back to anytime. Like Gert said Im printing this. Thank You for the simple and crystal clear info on NA And Amyg. I'm sure the NA levels are high while we are on beBee 🤗🤗🤗😁
- Producer22/10/2017Whatever It TakesSome would call me a "workaholic", including me at timesLately I've been examining my motivations when it comes to my work habits and I've reached a conclusion; I like working and the sense of accomplishment when I overcome a hurdle or solve a...
Comments24/10/2017 #35 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI make sure I take time to be sociable, even took a trip to the beach with Lisa Gallagher, but even then I worked several hours a day, 2 full days, one planned because Monday is always a long day and my 'help' messed up a report and I had to fix it on another day. That was a planned working vacation though and it's why I brought all my paraphernalia with me. But I had my hours on the beach every morning, watching the sunrise and then a cup of coffee in one hand and a book in the other. Then about 9 or 10 I head back in and work until 2 or 3 then it was back to the beach while Lisa did her sightseeing and photography. It was a perfect vacation for me! Though the 3 story townhouse played havoc on my back and I was in pain by the end of the week. Sad, but I survived and will live to work another day! LOL24/10/2017 #33 Pamela 🐝 Williams#29 My best ideas come early in the morning; a cup of coffee in one hand and a casual stroll in the courtyard or on my treadmill. I have a bad back and hips so I have to walk every morning to work the stiffness out and I've found is a great time to contemplate the day and the different metrics I need to attack and how I'm going to formulate them24/10/2017 #32 Pamela 🐝 Williams#27
Well Ken, I like figuring things out, finding solutions, and I've always been that way; ALWAYS. When I was a kid I can remember coming up with ideas to accomplish things; like how can I reach that limb that is 10 feet above my head? I taught myself to braiding a rope from tree bark, tie a rock at the end, do a sling shot throw over the limb, and scale the side of the tree. I problem solve to get where I want to be.
Would I rather be doing what I do in the Environmental Industry? You Betcha, but I would be doing the same thing; research, data manipulations, number manipulation, all to solve problems; it's me in every aspect of my life. If anything I have to NOT solve problems for people that don't want me solving them.
I would rather play with data than play pool(That's billiards for you I guess) as an example; there is a purpose to it and I'm a purpose driven person.
Though if I had my choice I would rather ride a bike for miles until I drop, but I can't anymore, so if it's a failure I'm avoiding its the failure that I can't do all the athletic stuff I used to. And I really can't without severe pain and paying a bigger price down the road. So are there other things I'd rather do? Sure there is; doesn't mean I love what I do less.
As for failure; Been there done that, been knocked so low I didn't think I would ever crawl out, more than once. But then that ole problem solver came out and I did. I don't fear failure, survived it too many times to fear it any more. As I said; been there, done that, survived and lived to problem solve another day.23/10/2017 #31 Jerry FletcherHello. My name is Jerry and I am a serial workaholic. I'll roll along making sure I close the door to my home office each evening and assuring that I get out and meet folks in person and taking part in the art world hereabouts. Then, all of a sudden I find that I haven't left the house except to buy groceries and this is the 4th or 5th day in sweats and then I hit the wall and can't get up the energy to work. That lasts a few days while I forcibly take myself by the scruff of the neck and go see a movie, ask a friend to dinner or take in a concert. Sometimes it takes as much as a week to get back into gear. My early warning system is when I suddenly stop producing two or three blogs a week. (Yes, there will be a couple this week.)23/10/2017 #29 Proma 🐝 Nautiyal@Pamela 🐝 Williams I can't thank you enough for writing this. I needed to read this. I am not sure how much of it I will actually be able to implement when it comes to addressing the "issue," but I am so happy to read your take on the matter. It felt like I am reading about myself. I am a workaholic and love being one. Work is my "me" place. It calms me. Health issues have cropped up and I had to take breaks in between. Learnt to take a break every one hour to stretch and walk ten steps.
The three issues you described are the exact three that I have faced myself. I can't even bring myself to delegate work. And coming up with ideas during times that I am off-work has become such a routine that now I know when exactly I will be getting the brightest ideas: when I am sipping tea or watching Suits.
You are awesome and I am so happy to have met you over beBee. Thank you once again for the great buzz.23/10/2017 #28 Harvey LloydYou just wrote my entrepreneurial biography. I lost the reasons for being one along the way. But it was a rehab rentering family life and finding new ways to satisfy my torrid business nature. In my life there are no questions that cant be answered and outcomes to match. Hard to turn off.
What i could really identify with was the change process. Many around me were totally OK with me absorbing the responsibility and running the front end of the wagon, up the hill. The responses when i began to engage as part of the team and not the race horse was a little surprising. They thought i was depressed, trifling or some other less than an astronaut label.
Sometimes i do pull to the point of the wagon. But not as often as i used too. I can say that when i do though the first thought with most is i am being aggressive. Odd turn of events. But i figure if i am pulling out front the team has had their go at the issue and have stalled or challenged beyond their capacity to manage.
Great post. Do keep in mind that work is a means to an end. The end you describe. When work becomes the end then the means will destroy you.23/10/2017 #27 Ken BoddieMuch food for thought for many here, Pam. I’ve only two things to ask you. But first I’ll explain that I used to work ridiculous hours and get the occasional buzz at the end of the odd project completed or goal achieved, but oh the constant stress for the most part Now I am fortunate to work part time doing what I absolutely love and am very fortunate to be able to choose when and for how long I work. So back to you, Pam, and those question.
1. Do you love your work, or just the buzz at the very end of a lot of stress?
2. What motivates you ..... love of work or fear of failure?
My name is Ken and I’m a workaholic, but I enjoy regular therapy with my family, friends and hobbies.22/10/2017 #21 Zacharias 🐝 VoulgarisIndeed! With the right mindset, work can be a way for self-realization and a great source of joy. Of course, when you work for someone who sees work as merely a means to make money, then it's much harder to do any of that. However, if the discipline of work comes not from the people around you but from yourself, then things change and this may actually be visible to those around you. After all, at the end of the day, the only person you are truly accountable to is your own self. Everyone else is merely a facilitator in your work journey (aka career), or in some case an obstructer. But the only real obstruction in one's journey is one's own self...22/10/2017 #20 Pamela 🐝 Williams#11 Exactly Cyndi. When my daughter was young and needed me; then I needed to fight for my time with her and meeting her needs but now I have an empty nest and I have only to answer to myself. I spent the entire afternoon with my girl yesterday; having a few beers and people watching at her college homecoming, then we went out for a fabulous dinner. Not once did my job put a damper on our time. She knew I would pull out my computer and work today; she knows me well and accepts that I am who I am!
"That's Mom, it's what makes her happy" is what she would say.22/10/2017 #19 Pamela 🐝 Williams#12 Thanks for the wonderful comment Franci. I was recently given 'help' and I have to admit that I'm struggling with trust. Every mistake is like a affirmation; see...no one can do it like I can!!! Bad, bad, bad attitude. So I'll go in Monday and hopefully turn it into a mentoring opportunity instead of acting like a smug martyr22/10/2017 #18 Pamela 🐝 Williams#15 A long time since I heard a good Yoda quote! Well, except on the Big Bang Theory
I understand Randall, food service can be like that for a lot of people, it was for me. It truly is an art...well I guess that's why they call it the culinary arts... Duh :-) There is nothing like setting a dish in front of a customer and it looks so good the customer hesitates...their anticipation of that first bite becomes almost as enjoyable as the meal itself.
- Producer16/09/2017Respect, Simplicity and HumilityI read a fabulous buzz this afternoon by our very own Phil Johnson. I have to admit to you Phil, what drew me in to your buzz was the wonderful title..."Energy Vampire University"...I am a long time believer in the energy vampire and have gone to...
Comments22/10/2017 #27 Cyndi wilkins@CityVP 🐝 Manjit...You have inspired this comment that seems to fit perfectly within this buzz...Thank you;-)
Being in a constant mental/emotional state of fear and aggression, be it conscious or unconscious, creates changes in our physiological function by increasing discharges in the sympathetic/parasympathetic nervous systems, laying the ground work for impending disease and dysfunction...The severity of dysfunction depends upon the length of time spent in this state of emotional turmoil and it's intensity. By holding on to pain and trauma and focusing on the fear being generated by 'rogue rage' we keep the process going in a continual feedback loop of negatively charged energy.
We have the ability to self-manage our emotions by focusing on positively charged techniques to reinforce our own neural pathways...With this in mind, it becomes very clear to us just how powerful our own minds are and how they can be used against us as a means of control by others with deceptive intentions. So when someone says to me..."What can I possibly do to help the state of the world...I am just one person." I say there's a hellava lot you can do!
If we all focused on regulating our psychological/physiological function by regular practice of positive reinforcement techniques, we will significantly influence our perception of the world and our experience of it...We need to have a vision beyond the current state of the world to create a positive impact.22/10/2017 #26 Cyndi wilkins#24 I hear ya @Pamela 🐝 Williams...People tend to recoil at that very thought of it...But I think this is becoming more and more clear to people as being fact rather than fiction as we witness the power struggle going on within the global elite and their blatant disregard for human life when it comes to "Who's King of the Hill"...Our Democracy has been undermined and our futures hijacked by a 'slave system' of corruption of the media and monopolization power and money.
The fear that has been created within the human emotional system is the 'weapon of mass destruction' all these leaders keep claiming they have developed and will use against any foreign invaders...There are no foreign invaders...We are our own worst enemies when it comes to our knee-jerk reactions to fear...If any of these sociopaths at the helm launched 'the big one' it is sure suicide...A global game of chicken.
Our primary responsibility here is to evolve ourselves from the inside out...by raising our awareness to the fact that we have the power over our own personal decisions that directly impacts our lives and the lives of every living soul affected by those decisions...A sort of 'grass roots' movement to consciously create a ripple effect throughout the human psyche...With enough of us focusing our thoughts on cleaning our own emotional closets perhaps we can shift perceptions and create the circuit necessary to open the flow of new ideas...The power is in the minds of the people...It is time to take it back...
#25 Ditto @Lisa Vanderburg;-)22/10/2017 #24 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsWow Cyndi; this has been my theory for a while but ironically it was fear of a "conspiracy theorist" label
"We live in a society of fear and aggression as a means of control...where power and wealth has been transferred from the many to the very few. The destabilization of the emotional system is very much an intended result by those in positions of power and they wish to keep it that way... This has created a tear in the fabric of the cognitive process."
It has been in process for awhile; fear is a great weapon; I question to what lengths leaders will go to instill and maintain that fear.22/09/2017 #21 Cyndi wilkins#20 Thank you Mac;-) What I've learned through my years as a bodywork specialist is the people we refer to as the 'energy vampires' tend to dump their own emotional short comings (or shit) onto others so as to lighten their load and make themselves feel better.
I always remind them, and myself for that matter, when you dump your trash in someone else's yard it will surely blow back into yours;-)18/09/2017 #18 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#16 Renaître which brings us back to the etymology of Renaissance. Cool stuff Cyndi !
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=renaissance16/09/2017 #14 Lisa Vanderburg#7 Well, I'm buggered @Harvey Lloyd :)
You have identified the dilemma: Solomon is permitted to build the temple; his father David is not, yet he gathers all the material. That said, I agree with you; I am most certainly working in 'desperation mode'...to be on constant alert; to 'anticipate' is bleedin' knackering! :)16/09/2017 #10 Cyndi wilkins#7 Thank you for your wonderful thoughts @Harvey Lloyd...
"A little macabre but time and tombstones represents the great equalizer in the grand scheme of things."
This reminds me of the beautiful poem "The Dash" by Linda Ellis...The dash representing the time spent on Earth between the year of our death and that of our birth...I read it at my dad's funeral...He was a living example of the words...
"Be less quick to anger, and so appreciation more...and love the people in our lives like we've never loved before...Treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile...remembering that this special dash might only last a little while..."
Godspeed dad...You inspire me to be a better person...16/09/2017 #9 Cyndi wilkins#1 No apologies necessary Sir...Your mistake is to my benefit as it perhaps brings another set of eyes and voices to the discussions...Yours, mine and ours;-)
Also thank you @Lisa Vanderburg...for always being an inspiring voice to all the discussions you participate in...Steady as she goes you are;-)
- ProducerAnyone Can Be An ArtistMike Posner is an American singer-songwriter, poet, and record producer. He believes that becoming an artist is 20% talent and 80% skill development. Anyone can be an artist by living out their beliefs. It is about tapping into your own...
Comments21/10/2017 #3 Bernard PoulinTo associate everything with “art” is nothing more than post-modernist schlock. Creating artwork is "making a thing". Whether that thing carries within it the power to emerge and reach out and touch and move others deeply is what makes "Art". And since the beginning of time, there is little of that level of grandeur and eloquence and excellence. available to us in the things we produce. Production - creating or making some "thing", some idea, some notion is not art - it is manufacturing - sometimes at its best and sometimes at its most lowest common denominator. How what emerges from it (or not) is interpreted in our world is often the measure of our cultural maturity.
- Producer18/10/2017Keep Your Eye On The DonutCover your eyes with donuts simple but cute. Picture: Elena Rodríguez. Model: Elen BassKeep Your Eye On The DonutThere is the donut and there is the hole. And you should keep your eye on the donut. And all the things that go on they don't...
Comments22/10/2017 #28 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#27 Appreciate that as an extraction of ideas for many people will find this extraction practical for their everyday life. For me it is more important to push continuously at the boundaries where the human condition takes a back seat to making a living. The people who may benefit the most from my thinking may not even be born yet, but somewhere in the future - if what we "think" out aloud here at beBee is viewed as a past that remains important to that future, then my own grand-children may take a wholly different view about what my particular focus was back in our day.
You are right to write for this world, but it is those in the future that may one day have a different perspective, as we do now about the Declaration of Independence, which the Founding Fathers changed to read "unalienable rights" by removing Jefferson's original words "inherent rights". As a society we don't pay attention to these differences but one day we wake up to them and in so waking bring back meaning that others sought to remove at the time.
The difference seems mute, but what the Founding Fathers had done with removing the word "inherent" is accept their ownership of slaves and actually denote that the Declaration pertained to them as white slave owning and wealthy males and not to other groups such as women or non-white etc. The Declaration of Independence was protecting a few white males from the tax grabbing hand of the King of England. Today it is now becoming what Thomas Jefferson actually intended it to be.
It is here those who look from the future can see a different view of the time. It is thus that the metaphor of donut has different meaning to me. This is the diversity I accept. This is the diversity that is both our collective freedom of thought.22/10/2017 #27 Javier 🐝 beBee#26 @CityVP 🐝 Manjit Lynch is talking about creativity and the power of ideas , but - as you know - we are all free to extract new ideas ...here I am talking about focus. Focus is important for success. I am more succesful when I am eliminating time wasting activities.22/10/2017 #26 CityVP 🐝 ManjitWhat Lynch is talking about here is creativity and the power of ideas and this "donut" transcends the desire for achievement, ambition or success. Industrial age thinking and efficiency gurus and turning human beings into objects and image is the hole - the future that is creative transcends ambition, because ambition is what the lesser or more selfish mind settles for.
The greater vision are all possibilities that have not come into being - and these are not about comparison shopping or the relative weight of how our ego feels about achievement and results in our world that balances success as a scarcity mentality, rather than creativity as an abundance mentality. If we know abundance why do we cling for a need for simple messages !
The whole future of human "being" is transforming for a few while the mass population cling to the past and often that past is the voices of yesterday gnawing at our nervous system, fueling the need that we have not evolved from, for we remain the Darwinian ape even though there is a new beginning to becoming a bit more collectively conscious about what being human means, even as modern technology seeks the cyborg. (the less human).
The creativity Lynch addresses here is at the level of transformation of humanity and not donut of a more fragile ego. This is a renaissance that will always be limited by the limitation of minds who are still objects of comparison. Creativity that leads to freedom of being is a totally different level of thinking than creativity to create an object our ego wants to call success.
The donut that is metaphor is what David Lynch speaks of, the donut that is material is the one we still prescribe success to.19/10/2017 #21 Phil Friedman#20 Impressive memory, @Peter Altschuler. You are correct. The ditty is on a plaque labeled "The Optimists Creed", a photo of which can be found at: https://restaurant-ingthroughhistory.com/tag/mayflower-coffee-shops/19/10/2017 #20 Peter Altschuler#10 It was the Mayflower Coffee Shop chain that used that little ditty, @Phil Friedman. Yet they were clever enough to create little bite-size bits that were known as donut holes -- the dough allegedly taken out of the center of a doughnut. In storytelling, they're like the Grand Inquisitor tale in the midst of "The Brothers Karamazov."
Personally, I'd rather focus on a 1950s television test pattern than on a doughnut. They are, in all their deep-fried, calorie dense, artery-clogging infamy, the amalgamated sin of all mankind.19/10/2017 #17 David B. GrinbergThanks for more great advice, Javier, which is always a welcome breath of fresh air in a world of information overload and daily distractions. I would add these nuggets of wisdom to reiterate the main points above:
1) While you can't control the actions of others, you can and should control your reactions. In short, don't react to every idiot in the world or you'll be wasting time and losing focus all day long.
2) Per the best selling book of the same name: "Don't sweat the small stuff" -- and it's all small stuff! http://dontsweat.com/
3) Remember the righteous refrain of the successful U.S. civil rights movement which resulted in more equal opportunity and equal justice for every American: "Keep your eyes on the prize!" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keep_Your_Eyes_on_the_Prize18/10/2017 #14 stephan metral 🐝 Innovative Brand Ambassador@Javier 🐝 beBee u need to be in the innovative Pastry industry to understand what David is talking about....jajajaja....i love this GIG!
But if i may...I prefer to keep my eyes on the "chuuuuuuros"! As good a Donut, but zero chance to get lost in the Hole...hahaha!
- Producer02/09/2017Pairing Repelling CommentsMy shared buzz on LinkedIn invited many comments, some of which took totally different directions than the comments on the original shared buzz on beBee. I mean my buzz titled "Reverse Strategic Thinking". The discussions were highly...
Comments09/09/2017 #179 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#178 You said it beautifully and to the point @Deb 🐝 Helfrich in your comment and this line must be highlighted "is a chance for self-aggrandizement". Social platforms are for interactions that lead to spontaneous self-organizing. All acts negating this definition are undesirable and mostly when platforms are used for expanding self.
You are very wise my friend.09/09/2017 #178 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#175 #176 That is a stellar way to describe the heart of social media communication!!!
"That attempt has to be mutual with openness."
All comment boxes are attached to someone sharing something with an intent. We may not be able to see that intent. But once we've strayed and the author has enlightened us, to continue pretending to not know the intent is malicious.
As is always assuming every comment box is a chance for self-aggrandizement.
These types of people harm the advancement of beBee as the world's meeting place.
For it is only in mutually open communications that we can fix the problems of our world today which we are in dire need of solving.09/09/2017 #177 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeI summed up my thoughts in a new buzz
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/to-be-right-you-have-to-have-someone-to-say-you-are-wrong#c2609/09/2017 #176 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#175 I want first to alert @Harvey Lloyd, @CityVP 🐝 Manjit, @Lisa Vanderburg, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, @Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SA and all my fellow bees to connect with @Asesh Datta for obviously he is a sharpmind.
"But that attempt has to be mutual with openness"- I am preparing a buzz using a new metaphor on how to deal with this issue and I find your comment stimulating and to the point. I shall tag you when I publish.09/09/2017 #175 Asesh Datta@Ali Anani, Simple whether we want accolades or criticism for the actions we perform. There are demerit of too much accolades, which in turn makes us bloated in our thinking process and limits acceptance independent views. Similarly, constructive criticism is a rarity. Appreciating negative remarks may sometime become an audacity to others. Pairing in this circumstances require skill and bent of introspective mind, even when the construction is missing.
Many of the global political problems can be solved if such pairing is attempted. But that attempt has to be mutual with openness. Good post and wish we start locating such pairs and create a new third view as synergy. Regards.06/09/2017 #173 CityVP 🐝 Manjit#168 Hi @Milos Djukic those dastardly people at Youtube would not let the link play in Canada - but this one works here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0AKJMGxwpE View more#168 Hi @Milos Djukic those dastardly people at Youtube would not let the link play in Canada - but this one works here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0AKJMGxwpE - the creative interjection of this song provides another perspective. Perspective glorious perspective I raise my glass to that whenever and where-ever whenever anyone anywhere tickles my perspectives - thank you Milos ! Close06/09/2017 #169 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#163 Kudos to you as well @Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMA for laying the four simple rules of behaving while commenting. I truly appreciate your thorough understanding of the issue.
Very rarely we are 100% sure and yet many comments turn to be conclusive in the eyes of the commenter. If so, then we don't need to exchange comments because we know. This is far from the truth. Yes, one person on LI expressed his view that all my buzzes are worthless in his first, and hopefully last, comment. How dare a commenter make such conclusion when he has only read one buzz (and I doubt he read comprehensively). He reminds me if of a similar situation. Give a student one point to draw a straight line!!!
Second- how did he have the courage to say that the hundreds of commenters who had different views than him be all wrong. Either this person is above all of us to see what nobody has seen or he is and I leave the description to the reader.
We need always to leave a crack in the door open. This is possible by saying, I have an alternative idea, how about considering and so on.
You allowed me to vent out some of my feelings dear Jean.05/09/2017 #165 Phil Friedman#164 I agree, @Jerry Fletcher. I've repeated my own position numerous times, and will not do it again. I cannot, however, help observing how many commenters have expressed amazement at the length of this discussion, which stands at nearly 165 comments and replies. Certainly not the longest on beBee, but quite substantial nevertheless. What's ironic, though, is that a number of people have indicated a discomfort with the extended back and forth. Interesting that so many want simply to express their opinions and not be called upon to explain or defend those opinions. But perhaps that's the inherent nature of Social Media. Cheers!05/09/2017 #164 Jerry Fletcher#129 Phil The problem as I see it is the inability of most folks to get through all the emotional hangups they have as well as the inability to see and describe relationships logically based on observation not supposition. Then, too, it is difficult at times not ot get so entangled in your own hypothesis you can't find clarity. Whatever our views, we have to give the good Doctor kudos for sparking commentary!05/09/2017 #163 Jean L. Serio CPC, CeMARegarding negative comments Ali: Personally, I've found something which resonates with me in almost every article or post I've chosen to read. In short, disagreeing or holding another point of view doesn't give any of us the freedom to personally attack the individual who wrote it. While the beliefs, ideas and interests of those whose posts/articles we read aren't necessarily our own, I believe we should all follow these basic rules - 1) Maintain your professionalism; 2) Be respectful and agree to disagree ( as you always do Ali); 3) Speak only for yourself (we have no right to speak for others unless asked to); 4) Speak of the facts (absolutely essential) or use the phrase 'I believe'. Kudos to Dr. Higgi for his comments and also to Tausif Mundrawala.05/09/2017 #160 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#159 Thank you dear @Tausif Mundrawala and I am so glad to read your comments again. The discussions on this buzz are of the highest standards. There shall always be noises, but the overall discussions are overwhelming with their quality. There are comments in this buzz that each one of them deserves to be a buzz on its own. Thank you and I shall not quoit writing. If I fail then at least I learn. How could I stop writing and lose contacts with beautiful souls such as yours.
I send you a special invitation to comment on my buzz of today because it is about a book that our friend published recently. We need your feedback.05/09/2017 #159 Tausif MundrawalaI think instead of posting a negative comment which totally negates the view of a creator of buzz;one can present his/her view or opinion which might defer to the one who penned it. There shouldn't be comments where one would irrelevantly differ with what has been discussed. I agree with Dr. Ali Higgi that you should carry this work of stimulating the thinking of others irrespective of the negative comments. This buzz comes at an opportune time where even I am grappling with the grief of losing a loved one.
Thanks for this wonderful buzz once again, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee
- Producer27/08/2017Against All OddsMy mother, Ida Jacobovici (of blessed memory), passed away on August 17th at the age of 97. She was too young to die. I am grateful to be able to say that my mother lived a full life to her last breath. But that was the only way she knew how...
Comments09/09/2017 #85 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar GoddessThe honorific "May the memory of the righteous be a blessing" is used after the names of holy rabbis and other holy people, from Proverbs 10:7. In Hebrew transliteration: "zekher tzadik livrakha" and in Hebrew: "זכר צדיק לברכה." The English abbreviation commonly used is “ZT"L” and in Hebrew, "זצ״ל" is used.
And it dos sound, @Sara Jacobovici, that her memory is indeed for a blessing. Lucky you to have two parents you obviously adored and who adored you.
Zekher tzadik livrakha, indeed.01/09/2017 #82 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeWhat a wonderful story you have written to honor your Mother. You are very blessed to have had her as your inspiration. Sending you much love at this time of loss. As you say. " To honor her, I will continue to live my life to its fullest. " From what I see, you are living and contributing to life and others with your wonderful sense of being which I can feel through your words. It was wonderful to speak with you some time ago.28/08/2017 #70 Jan 🐝 BarbosaEvery time I look at these old photos I cant stop wondering... What they were thinking at the time... And if they ever thought of the everlasting impression that photo would do.. Long after the time of our lives... Sorry For Your Loss... Don't know how I will be able to withstand when it happens to me.
- Producer14/08/2017Connecting with another human spiritIt was a hot, muggy day. Temperatures had been in the mid 90s (30s Celcius) for days and any rain that fell created clouds of steam on the pavement of the parking lot. I was thankful to be driving a new car with a fully functioning air conditioner....
Comments17/08/2017 #31 Pamela 🐝 Williams#28 #29 Thank you Shelley and Laura for your kind and heartfelt comments. As I wrote this I thought to myself; I don't want those who read this to think I was 'bragging', saying; 'see what a good person I am". I wanted it to be about all that we take for granted but mostly about him and humanity's tendency for quick assumptions that all those we see on the streets "have only themselves to blame, they need to get a job, their all druggies, etc..." Sometimes they're making the best of their situation and whatever led to their being on the street. That is truly what I saw in this young man. He had a gentle spirit and he had pride. He didn't like asking for help, that was obvious. I just hope he viewed my gesture as nothing more than concern for a fellow human being. I wanted him to witness and receive kindness because through the kindness of others hope is born.16/08/2017 #29 Laura MikolaitisAmazing story, @Pamela 🐝 Williams. Touching and heartfelt. Your story demonstrates the value of kindness and how a simple gesture can be the greatest of gifts to any one person. Human connection is powerful, isn't it? And when we least expect it, it sometimes seeks us out unknowingly. Instinct led you to that place and I suspect that man will be forever grateful for your exchange. We need more kindness in our world as it opens the door to hope. Thank you for sharing this story. I agree with @Shelley Brown, it is breathtaking.15/08/2017 #28 Shelley BrownPam, breathtaking story. I truly hung on your every word. You gave someone the gift of hope! It doesn't matter what he does with the money or whatever caused him to be in that situation. Your extended grace. You connected with a human being in need of connection and you needed it then too. Thank you so much for being present. I truly loved your automatically turning from your own comfort to recognize something so vital and life giving to you both.15/08/2017 #27 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI think these direct interactions where we show respect to someone by vulnerably trying to help them in the only way we can, by putting ourselves in their situation and giving as we'd like to receive - is the way to address even the overwhelming hate that is crushing our spirit. Human kindness ripples strongly. Thanks for doing and sharing, @Pamela 🐝 Williams, and for offering a way to counter the feelings of sadness we are all dealing with this week.15/08/2017 #21 Pamela 🐝 Williams#1 You know Aleta, I wondered that myself and I truly believe he was heading somewhere and walking there was his only option. I want to think he trusted in human nature enough to believe that his basic needs would be met. I hope I helped maintain that trust and that he arrived at his destination safely. It's what I'm going to choose to believe.15/08/2017 #19 Pamela 🐝 Williams#5 I think the reason I wanted to share it was because of these hate filled times we are traveling through, but I know this; humanity will wake up and we'll come through this evil just like we have many times through the centuries. Have a safe and happy journey my friend!15/08/2017 #18 Pamela 🐝 Williams#4 Exactly Ken. He thought we'd forget him, just move on with our lives. What I said to him was this: "You're right, we'll move on, because we'll have to, But we've always been a pie made up of seven slices, and if we lose you we'll never be whole again".
We lost him just a few months later. I didn't realize how right I was. He makes his presence known every once in a while, and it makes me smile to see him in a kindred spirit.15/08/2017 #17 Pamela 🐝 Williams#6 I shared the story of my brother's funeral on a @Shelley Brown's post, so I won't share it now. Suffice it to say that it was an eclectic crowd of college professors and his street friends whom he loved and cared for. They were all human to him and any time I can help lift up the spirit of someone I feel like I'm honoring his life.15/08/2017 #14 Pamela 🐝 Williams#10 Thank you Lisa, I'm glad sharing my story moved you. I'll admit I didn't know what to expect. My 'soft-heart' ways have more often than not been met with sneers or being told I was a 'sucker'. That's okay though, I'll just tattoo it on my forehead and keep being a sucker. The rewards to the heart and spirit so outweigh everything else.
- Producer02/08/2017Orange County Jail offers the inmate a Program to Learn and Earn a new LifeThe orange county jail in Hillsborough launched its Foundations of Hope Inmate Peer Recovery Program. The program is targeted on drug addiction rehab under which a substance disorder counselor and certified peer support specialist will take...
- Producer24/07/2017And then, like magic, it disappeared. GUILT.Some say it consumes you. I wouldn't be here if it did because once consumed ~ that's it right? I keep imagining being eaten by a dragon. You're in it's dark belly, no returning from there! So, no. Guilt doesn't consume you, unless you're...
Comments24/07/2017 #5 Harvey LloydGuilt like the other emotions that we carry in our backpack can be debilitating. There are some that it overwhelms to the point they cant thrive, but mostly we all carry a load of self concept that has its moments.
Myself, i found comfort in finally realizing that we are all emotional beings and depending on circumstance we succumb to them occasionally.
The magic for me came when i took the rocks from the back pack and set them on the table for discussion. More often than not i understood that it was my own projection of circumstance that created the debilitation. The person that it was directed neither understood nor was concerned about my rock.
Today's world offers us the engagement but the levels we are willing to go to get it, sometimes, triggers our rocks. Media especially has tapped into the limbic system of our existance to motivate.
Your courage to express a rock in your back pack is encouraging.24/07/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat points that many focus on. I've learned as I've aged that it's ok to do what I need, say no when I have to without guilt, and realize that I can go days without talking to a good friend and we can pick up where we last left off. As for my immediate family (kids), we talk 2-3 times a week. Life sure can be a juggling act.
- Producer11/07/2017Monday Morning Quarterbacking.......my Sunday Seeking. Like anyone who grew up in the vicinity of Pittsburgh in the late 70's I know my way around football terminology. Although that's a sweet little lie. My brother grew up in the same house and chose the Browns, because they...
Comments14/07/2017 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#5 So many parents want nothing but the best. Their intentions are good. But goes awry is that presence, attention to what is right in front of them about the special talents and skills of each kid. Noticing what brings intense joy versus drudgery.
I accept the past. But it is changing the present, to be able to connect very disparate things, so that I step ever more unburdened each day into a present that is wide open.
For me, I journaled a lot. Specific to my not being heard and therefore stopping speaking up, the key to my challenge was the publishing part. In facing something you don't know, for some unspecified reason, with a structure, a focus on the discipline itself, it can free up some of the frozen bits.14/07/2017 #7 Lisa 🐝 GallagherPt 2 of 2: I have lost friends to suicide and believe me, they sought help, they tried other modalities of treatment but in the end... something snapped. There is so much more researchers need to learn about the human brain and that's why I seek out and stay with Professionals who I feel are working with researchers and going to conferences that share the latest findings on treatments with therapies and drugs. Many people need psychiatric drugs to calm their brains, bring back semi-homeostasis so they can begin the work that's necessary. For the record, EMDR is not a quick therapy for many. It depends on the layers of trauma, breaks that may be needed if things stimulate overload and it can take quite some time. This is a medical condition and it needs to be seen as such. Extreme intervention is necessary for people who become suicidal. My point, depression can become so severe that a person is unable to see a light at the end of the tunnel and at some point they just don't give a damn anymore because they are so ill.14/07/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#4 Pt. 1 of 2: Hi @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I appreciate your feedback and respect the journey you are on. For each of us the journey may differ. The journey can differ for varying reasons. Certain modalities of treatment may work for one person and not for another. I think we need to be careful and not lump everyone into one category.
This is an uplifting statement you made but it doesn't work for many who are in the depths of depression- "Just be careful with telling yourself it "takes time" this can be a trap, because in every second we catch ourselves behaving differently we have to NOTICE, clap and celebrate." I will go as far as to say, we never know who may be on the brink of suicide (many of those people may appear happy for a month or so just before they take their lives). They are in dire need of medical help by Medical Professionals.
I haven't written about this but I have also suffered from Dysthymia for years. There are ebbs and flows. It's easy to pat myself on the back and and celebrate when it seems the 'condition' has left but it's never really gone. (PDD is also known as persistent depressive disorder)
The cause of PDD isn’t known. Certain factors may contribute to the development of the condition. These include:
a chemical imbalance in the brain
a family history of the condition
a history of other mental health conditions, such as anxiety or bipolar disorder
stressful or traumatic life events, such as the loss of a loved one or financial problems
chronic physical illness, such as heart disease or diabetes
physical brain trauma, such as a concussion13/07/2017 #5 Tricia Mitchell#3 there's a reason we find writing cathartic. That practice of journalling helps enormously with bringing unconscious programming into our conscious awareness. Wiping you out sounds like this act sent you into a healing phase.It's interesting how we play out our parents' wishes - my mum decided we'd be lawyers or doctors, because my parents sacrificed all they knew for a life as immigrants in their 'motherland', to give their kids a better future. The problem was that we didn't get to choose what we wanted to "be" when we grew up (and it took decades to realise that our identities are not our careers). It's a shame that the piano was a source of much unhappiness for you, it was something I loved but my mum said she couldn't afford to continue paying for lessons.
This is such great awareness'ing @Deb 🐝 Helfrich "Neglecting to be free to chose my own childhood hobbies set me up for years of self-neglect and self-isolation, as so much of my energy was locked up in combating what I didn't want, that I rarely made the slight pivot to go after what I did want. I replayed the unconscious pattern of shooting myself down before getting my hopes up, as the only long term certainty is I'd be left practicing piano."
Consciously choosing what we want to do is empowering and finally frees us from a life on auto-pilot. The opportunity is it continue being the pilot of our life and planning the correct flight path to take us to our intended destination. I think you've already been cleared for take-off and you're starting to soar.12/07/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 Bravo. Just be careful with telling yourself it "takes time" this can be a trap, because in every second we catch ourselves behaving differently we have to NOTICE, clap and celebrate. Strengthen the pathways of how we want to be in the world.
I actually think I explained it very well with an exchange with Mike Johnson on LI... https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/searching-flow-deep-now-deb-helfrich-
There will be a tension for awhile about coming to terms with our pasts, but there is a fork in the road where we will be able to chose to take the long way home, or take the shortcut to a bright, new future.
Stay present, sweetie, and you'll feel when that new shortcut is on the next exit.12/07/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#2 Not in the least, I didn't realize it was current, it is a story that needs to be shouted about! (from wikipedia "His struggle with mental illness, as a result of CTE, at the end of his life was featured in the 2015 film Concussion. Webster was portrayed by David Morse and Dr. Omalu was portrayed by Will Smith.")
And tangential maybe not so much, when something goes drastically wrong in our lives, the root cause is buried in our past and deserves its rightful attention. Because it is dictating how our brain functions right now.
Writing this did something to me, physically. It wiped me out. I flat-lined and then this morning, I started vibrating again in a different way.12/07/2017 #2 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SAIn my usual tangential (right brained??) way your reference to the Steelers legends of the 70s/80s reminded me of the recent book I read (title escapes me but now a movie starring Will Smith) on the severe brain damage suffered by pro ball players...Iron Mike Webster is a focus of the book..travesty that the NFL covered this up for so many years.Sorry to digress dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich 😂12/07/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Deb 🐝 Helfrich, you wrote, "There is one more thing to say before I get up from this piano stool of regret. To please my father, I arranged, on my own, to play the piano at my 8th grade graduation. This was 100% for them. I remember some surprise. But I remember no gratitude or pride or even a simple well done." I can't imagine how you felt after you succeeded to play. I can understand why the Church experience bothered you with the organ. It brought up a lot of pain that you must have kept deep within your psyche. Eating became comfort for you. I'm sorry that your parents were unable to show their pride and share how proud they were of you. I can't imagine what that does to a child.
I think it's great that you are becoming more self-aware. Once we are able to dig deep within, we begin to understand so much more about ourselves in the present. As you know, I'm in therapy and doing a lot of soul searching/ re-visiting right now and we both understand healing takes time. Sending good thoughts your way, you've got this g/f!!
- Producer04/07/2017When I was fifteen .... Finally I was free ...Act I A few days after my fifteenth birthday, my father called me. He is born in Rome and I always found he was so ..... stubborn, not really the right definition but things always had to go his way. In my childhood I always encountered people...
- Producer19/06/2017Sometimes...Sometimes one must step away from all that is familiar, for Sometimes it is the familiar that is most painfulSometimes one must contemplate what is realbecause Sometimes what is seen is merely what is hoped forSometimes one must question every...
- Producer10/06/2017Celebrating Cancerversary No. 9Whether you believe you can do it or not, you"re probably right. No matter the issue or project, believe in yourself and you can move...
- 08/06/2017Sharing this landmark case. Very sad indeed.The legal exposures of bullying claimswww.propertycasualty360.com The courts are holding individuals responsible for the consequences of their...
- Producer05/06/2017What I Have Learned in My Professional Life. . . TAKE NO BULL!Unfortunately the odds are that you will come into contact with a serial bully at some point in your professional work life. Some studies from 2016 suggest that half of American workers will experience bullying in the workplace as either a...
- Producer04/06/2017My Long Lost Love ! My path from Teaching to Coaching to Recruitment.The below journey is quite personal to me but I share it with the world to show you what it means to look at life positively !I begin with my favorite quote:Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose...
Comments14/06/2017 #22 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#21 Hi Charlene. What positive energy and love I just experienced from reading this. See this is what made me fall in love with this platform and it's people.
I had downloaded your podcast last night to listen to it this morning . So refreshing, bubbly and I already feel like I know you so much. Your interview was inspiring. Everything we go through prepares us for something greater and I love the courage you have to say NO when you have to say NO. And that can;t't be to anything our work clients, partners, friends etc etc That's the biggest hurdle to cross and if we can be the wind that passes through these obstacles we can move in so many directions. I think my favorite @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee had written something about it this morning. I must find time and read it :)
Thank you @Charlene Norman I am confident but scared not of failures but then don't we have atleast those experiences to learn from and my biggest lessons were from difficulties :)13/06/2017 #21 Charlene Norman@🐝 Fatima G. Williams How I wish we lived a bit closer. Over a glass of wine, I would share my story with you. It is funny. We all have to go through rocky roads of crap in our lives we never ever would have imagined. YET, when we come out the other side, we come out so much stronger, so much more resilient AND so much more at peace. All those lessons we learn are so worth it. And the funny thing is, we wouldn't change a darn thing, would we? I toast your success hon. To you and every other person who has made the decision to put family first and then savoured all the beauty in the so-called second-rate life that never was. High fives. And PS. You will eventually get everything and MORE you ever dreamed of. I promise. I have seen it always come true for those who never had a straight path.05/06/2017 #11 Irene 🐝 Rodriguez EscolarFor through difficulties I learnt the value of family and relationships.
No doubt the great lessons learned come from the difficulties. Thanks for telling us and making us part of your story @🐝 Fatima G. Williams View moreFor through difficulties I learnt the value of family and relationships.
No doubt the great lessons learned come from the difficulties. Thanks for telling us and making us part of your story @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. Close05/06/2017 #9 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#3 I agree with you Ken the teachers who studied with me still in contact now sure do live in their own world. And Oh My you were right about the myriad of questions for which a growing mind seeks answers. I still remember how they had me dumbfounded at some of the questions they'd put forward.
Eventually I would love to do that. Sit and be amazed at the questions children these days have and learn along with them. Thank you @Ken Boddie Someone once said "Everything we go through in this life is preparing us for something bigger." Have an awesome day.05/06/2017 #3 Ken BoddieYou may think this strange, Fatima, but I'm glad that circumstances prevented
you from teaching school children when you were fresh out of schooling. When I think back to my own education, the best teachers and the ones who had most empathy and understanding for the myriad of questions for which a growing mind seeks answers, were those who had experienced life outside the cocoon of the education system and were able to demonstrate life's ups and downs in a world of conflicting passions. I hope that you eventually may return to the classroom, at whichever level of teaching you may choose, better armed with your own set of life examples. Thanks for sharing your great passion for teaching others.04/06/2017 #2 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI love how your last post brought you to tell your own story, @🐝 Fatima G. Williams, because self-employment is a journey to learning a great deal about all of our strengths and weaknesses. In a job, we work with others in teams and we can often lead with our strengths, but as solopreneurs, we wear all the hats and need to learn how to know enough about all sorts of functions to at the very least, hire a trusted associate.
As I evolve through constant experience, like you, it is becoming clear to me that partnering with the people setting out to change the world through the work they do, is something that brings me a great dose of fulfillment and meaning.
Here's to bringing your gift of teaching to the world in many more inspiring ways!
- 31/05/2017Toxic people try to control you.
Strange as it might sound, people who aren’t in control of their own lives tend to want to control yours. The toxic look for ways to control others, either through overt methods or subtle manipulation.
Toxic people disregard your boundaries.
If you’re always telling someone to stop behaving a certain way and they only continue, that person is probably toxic. Respecting the boundaries of others comes naturally to well adjusted adults. The toxic person thrives on violating them.
Toxic people take without giving.
Give and take is the lifeblood of true friendship. Sometimes you need a hand, and sometimes your friend does, but in the end it more or less evens out. Not with the toxic person — they’re often there to take what they can get from you, as long as you’re willing to give it.
Toxic people are always “right.”
They’re going to find ways to be right even when they’re not. They rarely (if ever) admit when they’ve messed up, miscalculated or misspoken.
Toxic people aren’t honest.
I’m not talking about natural exaggerations, face-saving or white lies here. I’m talking about blatant and repeated patterns of dishonesty.
Toxic people love to be victims.
The toxic revel in being a victim of the world. They seek to find ways to feel oppressed, put down and marginalized in ways they clearly are not. This might take the form of excuses, rationalizations, or out-and-out blaming.
Toxic people don’t take responsibility.
Part of the victim mentality comes from a desire to avoid responsibility. When the world is perpetually against them, their choices and actions can’t possibly be responsible for the quality of their life — it’s “just the way things are.”
theartofcharm.com | How to Cut Toxic People out of Your Life.
Take care and be mindful😌
- Producer25/05/2017The perks of Universal PrinciplesI have read an entire library in my life. Read as in 'Having an open Mind yet daring to be somewhat critical...' In life I know what works for me and surely, that what work not. Here I like to clarify I am in favor of 'Simplicity Rules'. Why should...
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