- Producer02/09/2017Pairing Repelling CommentsMy shared buzz on LinkedIn invited many comments, some of which took totally different directions than the comments on the original shared buzz on beBee. I mean my buzz titled "Reverse Strategic Thinking". The discussions were highly...
Comments03/09/2017 #31 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsI applaud Dr. Ali H Higgi for the comment: "Ali Anani, PhD- You are the master of making a complex concept easily comprehendible." He couldn't be more right.
I also agree entirely with your concept of pairing. It's how I've tried to live my life; to find the positive in the negative. Amazingly I have found that many times people can get extremely negative about my trying to be positive in such times...Sometimes people just enjoy wallowing in their negativity.03/09/2017 #30 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#27 I have just noticed that you wrote two comments dear @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Your comment encourages me and I shall fulfill my promise to you. Thank you for your support. I have a buzz to write first on the book that dear @Edward Lewellen has just published and then I shall post this one.03/09/2017 #29 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#28 +Again, that we are in synchronicity is reflected from my previous buzz on SCouting the Power of Leadership:
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/scouting-the-power-of-leadership View more#28 +Again, that we are in synchronicity is reflected from my previous buzz on SCouting the Power of Leadership:
In it I wrote "Here comes the analogy with leaders. Leaders who have magnetic power realize that aligning people towards a goal may lag behind. The leaders job is to create a magnetized field so as to cause the magnet-like employees to align towards a common goal (and I prefer a common purpose) and this alignment shall depend on the type of workers the leader has". I couldn't agree more with you dear @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Whatever we do must have a grand purpose and brainstorming isn't different. "So, when we give groups processes that help create guidelines for respect we enable new kinds of conversations to emerge"" I fully accept your point of view, Deb.. Close03/09/2017 #28 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeThere are many studies about people coming together in a crisis situation and how they are immediately connected to a bigger common goal such as saving lives and they self-organize to do this. What is critical is the being connected to the common purpose. How often do people join a meeting and they are either bland, or disconnected from the common purpose, or have been alienated, intimidated, or had to compete to be heard? With this as the milieu for the conversation, rather than sitting down and having the conversation that needs to happen, silently people are focussing on their unresolved issues and when they speak their words are more to do with protecting themselves, standing their ground or going along with group think as they do not want to stand out, than really having a creative, curious conversation. So, when we give groups processes that help create guidelines for respect we enable new kinds of conversations to emerge. Well done Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee03/09/2017 #27 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeDear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee that is wonderful you are introducing a process to add on ideas rather than engaging in group think. I love it! and I am excited when you write about such processes. Why? as this resonates with my experience. This has been the focus of my work most of my life. Designing processes for people to have conversations that enable them to do so for different purposes including the fundamentals of respect and honesty. Depending on whether a group want to be more creative, more able to listen to conflict, more able to sense patterns in complexity, more able to sense community, more able to be with difference, etc etc I design a process for the group. It is funny how most people think we can just come together and work together without having guidelines for the way we will interact together. Of course, this is totally dependent on the context as when a group of people know each other well they have developed norms which either work well or don't work well. But, when we consciously choose how we will have conversations it can make a really big difference to the quality of the listening, the understanding and what emerges. TBC03/09/2017 #26 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#25 Dear @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee- I feel puzzled by your comment. Yes, I am puzzled and surprised in a very positive way. The reason is this. I noted down today an idea for a forthcoming buzz.The idea centers around going step by step in developing ideas so that we may avoid groupthink. My recommendation is to start with an idea to be discussed only by A and B. The outcome of this idea should be the input for person C and again the output shall be the input for person D and so on. This feedback effect may generate ideas that are devoid of being influenced non-productively in group discussions. I am now totally amazed by your comment and its high sense. I wonder where this synchronicityy comes from.
This is why beBee is a great platform. We sense the values of the exchange of comments and respect differences in a grand manner without offending others. We have different experiences and lived in different cultures and differences in thinking shall exist always. This is a great opportunity to learn from each other and grow together.
I have learnt a lot from you my friend.03/09/2017 #25 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeDear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I agree with many of the wonderful wise comments below. Thete is a showing here of rich emotional, maturity regarding the ideas we share with the world and the comments they trigger. I love the scenario of sharing a story with a group of say 12 people, although it could be any number. Person 1 lives the story, has a similar story and adds to the story. Person 2 had an opposite experience and adds that story with respect. Person 3 never had anything like the experience and asks questions with respect. Person 4 has had a similar experience but was left with self doubt so shares that story with humility. Person 5 resonates with the story but avidly disagrees with the interpretation and does that with respect. Person 7 is triggered and has a reaction that surfaced a need to defend themselves and speaks with hostility. Person 8 is triggered and not only sees the need to defend themselves they experience the story as an attack on them personally and so attack back. Etc etc
We can not control
Of predict what will be evoked by our words in the memories and experiences of readers. We can manage our response to attacks as you have done @Ali Anani with respect and transparency. I sense you are not humiliated you are not defending yourself, you have responded by engaging in s conversation about responses to our words.
Thete is a wonderful sense of resilience and maturity and wisdom in this forum.03/09/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#19 I fully concur with you @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador. This is evidenced in my response to the comment of @Martin Wright, which I responded to before responding to your comment. I respond to comments in their chronological order. Therefore, I find your comment reflecting my own.
I wanted to communicate the message in this buzz that we may have different opinions- one positive and one negative and this is a great opportunity to spin them together and create magnetic effect. Differences are great, but are much greater if expressed in a cordial tone. Like you said, comments reflect the character of their writers. Commenters who use harsh words or sweeping statements lead to repulsion instead of attraction to more learning. Aggressive comments reflect the aggression character of the author.03/09/2017 #23 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#18 Thank you @David B. Grinberg and I go all the way with you. I am trying to use scientific reasoning in my buzzes to understand human behavior. I say I am trying, and I could be wrong. At least, I try and if I fail then I am learning. Thank you for being a great support all the way.03/09/2017 #22 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#16 @Marcelo Martin- In one of my responses to the commenter I mentioned that I judge the quality of a buzz by the quality of comments the buzz receives. I am in full agreement with you. The comments are what enrich us all, but without neglecting that we exchange comments to learn and grow. I don't want to copy and paste the comment that was so aggressive because this way I elevate it. I have been one of the most fortunate bees by the exchanges of comments on my buzzes and therefore I value your comment greatly because I experienced what you said.03/09/2017 #21 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#15 The Arab poet said centuries ago "if we throw stones at each barking dog then stone would be more expensive than gold". Your comment @Cyndi wilkins is in accordance with these lyrics. I don't mind and in fact welcome differences, but it is the use of harsh words that I object to. We are here to exchange experiences and ideas in a cordial atmosphere. I am truly obliged as many bees responded to the commenter who tried to score and turn the discussion into a win-lose one. It amazes me when we realize that the tone of voice has 90% of the effect and still these commenters use words with such repelling tones. At least, this man influenced me to write this buzz and receive such wonderful comments as yours is.03/09/2017 #20 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#14 Believe me my dear friend @Edward Lewellen that I mentioned the repellent comment not because they hurt me, but because I try to sublime above little acts. It is far better in life to mention differences in a gentle way and not use harsh words as is the case with the commenter. I daren't say to somebody there is no such thinking such as reverse thinking when the literature is full of examples. I appreciate having caring minds such as yours. By the way I made sure the commenter has notice of this buzz because I have nothing to hide.03/09/2017 #19 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorThe quality of a comment is as important as the quality of the post. A comment is attached to the person that authored it, which reflects not only that their opinion but their persona, as well. I agree with @Martin Wright View moreThe quality of a comment is as important as the quality of the post. A comment is attached to the person that authored it, which reflects not only that their opinion but their persona, as well. I agree with @Martin Wright that when you write you put yourself forward, which I feel the same applies to the commenter.
I have seen many articles that have not attracted any comments, which I feel this is due to time constraints on the part of the reader or simply the reader has nothing of value to add. The topic has arisen before about articles receiving relevants only, being read with no comments, or a canned comment such as "nice post". I feel if an article is read, it deserves a comment, even if it is a canned and short and the equivalent to a thumbs up.
In the case of @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, I have not seen any of his articles that were not quality pieces and masterfully penned.
I believe, as with anything, we can respectfully disagree, however, disrespect and negativity should not be tolerated. I have avoided getting involved in commenting on articles where the comments are disrespectful. I feel there is a greater chance that any opinions can be misconstrued at that point. Close02/09/2017 #18 David B. GrinbergKudos, Ali, on more words of wisdom that go beyond the superficial level of thinking to reveal universal truths of mathematics/physics and how theses rules (or laws of attraction) could apply to one's emotional state of mind. I'm also reminded of the popular saying, "Opposites attract" -- like in the subatomic world of protons, neutrons and electrons. Bravo once again, Ali!02/09/2017 #16 Martin WrightWhen you write an article you are putting yourself forward.
Negative comments go with the territory. But in a sense they also highlight how you have engaged them out of passivity.
But equally those who comment also find their own statements come under scrutiny.
But in the end the saddest thing for an article is to have attracted no comment at all02/09/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkinsAny comment coming in as derogatory or attacking the worthiness of your ideas is a soul in pain because he/she is lacking the connection to his/her own heart and higher mind...It is best to let that sleeping dog lie...lest he rise up to bite you in the arse;-) There isn't enough pepper spray on the planet to fend off the 'angry dog!' So sorry to hear of the loss of your young daughter @Edward Lewellen...There is a special place in the heart of the universe for those who have lost children...I wish you and your family continued peace dear sir...02/09/2017 #14 Edward LewellenMany words of wisdom, my friend! Many valuable comments, as well. I have patterned my responses on Social Media after you. Always acknowledging and gracious. I, too, stay away from replying to comments that are written from a harmful, hateful place. It would take more than written words to help people suffering that much.02/09/2017 #13 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#12 I appreciate your understanding and comment. As we here celebrate a feast day, your comment is my gift.
I don't mind at all people to be contrarian. I mind the use of repelling words such as worthless buzz or commenters don't read other comments. Throwing accusations that are baseless is what makes me unwilling to "pair". It was only one commenter, but many others stood firmly against such repelling comments.
Your comment when mixed with the previous comment of @Harvey Lloyd #4 make a great story. You two gentlemen should be talking to each other for you have very interesting, relevant and amalgamating comments.
I find your comment Geoff a remarkable one and it reflects your deep thinking. It is a star on its own with the scenarios that you present. My mind is spinning.02/09/2017 #12 Geoff Hudson-Searle#5 @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thank you for your inclusion, I am truly sorry that you received negative feedback to your last blog, that frankly was fascinating from my individual prospective, it provoked thought and imagination to all the possibilities in life, truly I believe that there is no right or wrong in life, it is completely how you look at the matter at hand, interpretation and communications create pairing and alignment. Reading your blog who would you say is right and who would you say is wrong? There are basically three ways you can answer this which I will define based on intelligence. A completely ignorant person will favor one scenario over the other, not understanding the relationship between experience and perspective. A semi-intelligent individual, understanding this dualistic nature of humanity, will logically say that either both of them are right or both of them are wrong. But!… A truly wise hominid will conclude that there is no such thing as right and wrong. Right and wrong is neither here nor there because things just are. I love that quote by Joy Page 'People desire to separate their worlds into polarities of dark and light, ugly and beautiful, good and evil, right and wrong, inside and outside. Polarities serve us in our learning and growth, but as souls we are all. Have a great Saturday Ali!
- Producer27/08/2017Against All OddsMy mother, Ida Jacobovici (of blessed memory), passed away on August 17th at the age of 97. She was too young to die. I am grateful to be able to say that my mother lived a full life to her last breath. But that was the only way she knew how...
Comments01/09/2017 #82 Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBeeWhat a wonderful story you have written to honor your Mother. You are very blessed to have had her as your inspiration. Sending you much love at this time of loss. As you say. " To honor her, I will continue to live my life to its fullest. " From what I see, you are living and contributing to life and others with your wonderful sense of being which I can feel through your words. It was wonderful to speak with you some time ago.28/08/2017 #70 Jan 🐝 BarbosaEvery time I look at these old photos I cant stop wondering... What they were thinking at the time... And if they ever thought of the everlasting impression that photo would do.. Long after the time of our lives... Sorry For Your Loss... Don't know how I will be able to withstand when it happens to me.28/08/2017 #68 Harvey LloydThis is an awesome tribute to "Mom". I can only imagine that magnificent mom, friend and professional she was with those who crossed her path.
I wanted to say that i have met your mother through you. Your posts and thoughts sincerely reflect your mother's life journey. What a wonderful daughter in reflecting such great ideals passed on from mom.
Great post.28/08/2017 #67 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsDear Sara, Such a beautiful tribute to your lovely mum. A wonderful person and a loving example of how to value and live life to the fullest. In times where people are only complaining she surpassed the normal human complacent nature people have when they start getting older. I have a few friends who act like their life is over after they've had two kids.
I can see where all this beautiful energy you have comes form and of course the glow as Cyndi mentions. Like mom like daughter. I will not say I know how you feel, because IMO I won't, but I wish you all the healing you need and always remember how much she loved life. A big hug to you. Thank you for sharing the journey of such a wonderful person with us. She is now a person I will look up to her for the rest of my life like I do with my dad and cherish every minute of this beautiful life we have.
- Producer14/08/2017Connecting with another human spiritIt was a hot, muggy day. Temperatures had been in the mid 90s (30s Celcius) for days and any rain that fell created clouds of steam on the pavement of the parking lot. I was thankful to be driving a new car with a fully functioning air conditioner....
Comments17/08/2017 #31 Pamela 🐝 Williams#28 #29 Thank you Shelley and Laura for your kind and heartfelt comments. As I wrote this I thought to myself; I don't want those who read this to think I was 'bragging', saying; 'see what a good person I am". I wanted it to be about all that we take for granted but mostly about him and humanity's tendency for quick assumptions that all those we see on the streets "have only themselves to blame, they need to get a job, their all druggies, etc..." Sometimes they're making the best of their situation and whatever led to their being on the street. That is truly what I saw in this young man. He had a gentle spirit and he had pride. He didn't like asking for help, that was obvious. I just hope he viewed my gesture as nothing more than concern for a fellow human being. I wanted him to witness and receive kindness because through the kindness of others hope is born.16/08/2017 #29 Laura MikolaitisAmazing story, @Pamela 🐝 Williams. Touching and heartfelt. Your story demonstrates the value of kindness and how a simple gesture can be the greatest of gifts to any one person. Human connection is powerful, isn't it? And when we least expect it, it sometimes seeks us out unknowingly. Instinct led you to that place and I suspect that man will be forever grateful for your exchange. We need more kindness in our world as it opens the door to hope. Thank you for sharing this story. I agree with @Shelley Brown, it is breathtaking.15/08/2017 #28 Shelley BrownPam, breathtaking story. I truly hung on your every word. You gave someone the gift of hope! It doesn't matter what he does with the money or whatever caused him to be in that situation. Your extended grace. You connected with a human being in need of connection and you needed it then too. Thank you so much for being present. I truly loved your automatically turning from your own comfort to recognize something so vital and life giving to you both.15/08/2017 #27 Deb 🐝 HelfrichI think these direct interactions where we show respect to someone by vulnerably trying to help them in the only way we can, by putting ourselves in their situation and giving as we'd like to receive - is the way to address even the overwhelming hate that is crushing our spirit. Human kindness ripples strongly. Thanks for doing and sharing, @Pamela 🐝 Williams, and for offering a way to counter the feelings of sadness we are all dealing with this week.15/08/2017 #21 Pamela 🐝 Williams#1 You know Aleta, I wondered that myself and I truly believe he was heading somewhere and walking there was his only option. I want to think he trusted in human nature enough to believe that his basic needs would be met. I hope I helped maintain that trust and that he arrived at his destination safely. It's what I'm going to choose to believe.15/08/2017 #19 Pamela 🐝 Williams#5 I think the reason I wanted to share it was because of these hate filled times we are traveling through, but I know this; humanity will wake up and we'll come through this evil just like we have many times through the centuries. Have a safe and happy journey my friend!15/08/2017 #18 Pamela 🐝 Williams#4 Exactly Ken. He thought we'd forget him, just move on with our lives. What I said to him was this: "You're right, we'll move on, because we'll have to, But we've always been a pie made up of seven slices, and if we lose you we'll never be whole again".
We lost him just a few months later. I didn't realize how right I was. He makes his presence known every once in a while, and it makes me smile to see him in a kindred spirit.15/08/2017 #17 Pamela 🐝 Williams#6 I shared the story of my brother's funeral on a @Shelley Brown's post, so I won't share it now. Suffice it to say that it was an eclectic crowd of college professors and his street friends whom he loved and cared for. They were all human to him and any time I can help lift up the spirit of someone I feel like I'm honoring his life.15/08/2017 #14 Pamela 🐝 Williams#10 Thank you Lisa, I'm glad sharing my story moved you. I'll admit I didn't know what to expect. My 'soft-heart' ways have more often than not been met with sneers or being told I was a 'sucker'. That's okay though, I'll just tattoo it on my forehead and keep being a sucker. The rewards to the heart and spirit so outweigh everything else.
- Producer02/08/2017Orange County Jail offers the inmate a Program to Learn and Earn a new LifeThe orange county jail in Hillsborough launched its Foundations of Hope Inmate Peer Recovery Program. The program is targeted on drug addiction rehab under which a substance disorder counselor and certified peer support specialist will take...
- Producer24/07/2017And then, like magic, it disappeared. GUILT.Some say it consumes you. I wouldn't be here if it did because once consumed ~ that's it right? I keep imagining being eaten by a dragon. You're in it's dark belly, no returning from there! So, no. Guilt doesn't consume you, unless you're...
Comments24/07/2017 #5 Harvey LloydGuilt like the other emotions that we carry in our backpack can be debilitating. There are some that it overwhelms to the point they cant thrive, but mostly we all carry a load of self concept that has its moments.
Myself, i found comfort in finally realizing that we are all emotional beings and depending on circumstance we succumb to them occasionally.
The magic for me came when i took the rocks from the back pack and set them on the table for discussion. More often than not i understood that it was my own projection of circumstance that created the debilitation. The person that it was directed neither understood nor was concerned about my rock.
Today's world offers us the engagement but the levels we are willing to go to get it, sometimes, triggers our rocks. Media especially has tapped into the limbic system of our existance to motivate.
Your courage to express a rock in your back pack is encouraging.24/07/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherGreat points that many focus on. I've learned as I've aged that it's ok to do what I need, say no when I have to without guilt, and realize that I can go days without talking to a good friend and we can pick up where we last left off. As for my immediate family (kids), we talk 2-3 times a week. Life sure can be a juggling act.
- Producer11/07/2017Monday Morning Quarterbacking.......my Sunday Seeking. Like anyone who grew up in the vicinity of Pittsburgh in the late 70's I know my way around football terminology. Although that's a sweet little lie. My brother grew up in the same house and chose the Browns, because they...
Comments14/07/2017 #9 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#5 So many parents want nothing but the best. Their intentions are good. But goes awry is that presence, attention to what is right in front of them about the special talents and skills of each kid. Noticing what brings intense joy versus drudgery.
I accept the past. But it is changing the present, to be able to connect very disparate things, so that I step ever more unburdened each day into a present that is wide open.
For me, I journaled a lot. Specific to my not being heard and therefore stopping speaking up, the key to my challenge was the publishing part. In facing something you don't know, for some unspecified reason, with a structure, a focus on the discipline itself, it can free up some of the frozen bits.14/07/2017 #7 Lisa 🐝 GallagherPt 2 of 2: I have lost friends to suicide and believe me, they sought help, they tried other modalities of treatment but in the end... something snapped. There is so much more researchers need to learn about the human brain and that's why I seek out and stay with Professionals who I feel are working with researchers and going to conferences that share the latest findings on treatments with therapies and drugs. Many people need psychiatric drugs to calm their brains, bring back semi-homeostasis so they can begin the work that's necessary. For the record, EMDR is not a quick therapy for many. It depends on the layers of trauma, breaks that may be needed if things stimulate overload and it can take quite some time. This is a medical condition and it needs to be seen as such. Extreme intervention is necessary for people who become suicidal. My point, depression can become so severe that a person is unable to see a light at the end of the tunnel and at some point they just don't give a damn anymore because they are so ill.14/07/2017 #6 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher#4 Pt. 1 of 2: Hi @Deb 🐝 Helfrich, I appreciate your feedback and respect the journey you are on. For each of us the journey may differ. The journey can differ for varying reasons. Certain modalities of treatment may work for one person and not for another. I think we need to be careful and not lump everyone into one category.
This is an uplifting statement you made but it doesn't work for many who are in the depths of depression- "Just be careful with telling yourself it "takes time" this can be a trap, because in every second we catch ourselves behaving differently we have to NOTICE, clap and celebrate." I will go as far as to say, we never know who may be on the brink of suicide (many of those people may appear happy for a month or so just before they take their lives). They are in dire need of medical help by Medical Professionals.
I haven't written about this but I have also suffered from Dysthymia for years. There are ebbs and flows. It's easy to pat myself on the back and and celebrate when it seems the 'condition' has left but it's never really gone. (PDD is also known as persistent depressive disorder)
The cause of PDD isn’t known. Certain factors may contribute to the development of the condition. These include:
a chemical imbalance in the brain
a family history of the condition
a history of other mental health conditions, such as anxiety or bipolar disorder
stressful or traumatic life events, such as the loss of a loved one or financial problems
chronic physical illness, such as heart disease or diabetes
physical brain trauma, such as a concussion13/07/2017 #5 Tricia Mitchell#3 there's a reason we find writing cathartic. That practice of journalling helps enormously with bringing unconscious programming into our conscious awareness. Wiping you out sounds like this act sent you into a healing phase.It's interesting how we play out our parents' wishes - my mum decided we'd be lawyers or doctors, because my parents sacrificed all they knew for a life as immigrants in their 'motherland', to give their kids a better future. The problem was that we didn't get to choose what we wanted to "be" when we grew up (and it took decades to realise that our identities are not our careers). It's a shame that the piano was a source of much unhappiness for you, it was something I loved but my mum said she couldn't afford to continue paying for lessons.
This is such great awareness'ing @Deb 🐝 Helfrich "Neglecting to be free to chose my own childhood hobbies set me up for years of self-neglect and self-isolation, as so much of my energy was locked up in combating what I didn't want, that I rarely made the slight pivot to go after what I did want. I replayed the unconscious pattern of shooting myself down before getting my hopes up, as the only long term certainty is I'd be left practicing piano."
Consciously choosing what we want to do is empowering and finally frees us from a life on auto-pilot. The opportunity is it continue being the pilot of our life and planning the correct flight path to take us to our intended destination. I think you've already been cleared for take-off and you're starting to soar.12/07/2017 #4 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#1 Bravo. Just be careful with telling yourself it "takes time" this can be a trap, because in every second we catch ourselves behaving differently we have to NOTICE, clap and celebrate. Strengthen the pathways of how we want to be in the world.
I actually think I explained it very well with an exchange with Mike Johnson on LI... https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/searching-flow-deep-now-deb-helfrich-
There will be a tension for awhile about coming to terms with our pasts, but there is a fork in the road where we will be able to chose to take the long way home, or take the shortcut to a bright, new future.
Stay present, sweetie, and you'll feel when that new shortcut is on the next exit.12/07/2017 #3 Deb 🐝 Helfrich#2 Not in the least, I didn't realize it was current, it is a story that needs to be shouted about! (from wikipedia "His struggle with mental illness, as a result of CTE, at the end of his life was featured in the 2015 film Concussion. Webster was portrayed by David Morse and Dr. Omalu was portrayed by Will Smith.")
And tangential maybe not so much, when something goes drastically wrong in our lives, the root cause is buried in our past and deserves its rightful attention. Because it is dictating how our brain functions right now.
Writing this did something to me, physically. It wiped me out. I flat-lined and then this morning, I started vibrating again in a different way.12/07/2017 #2 Chris 🐝 Guest Cert.Prof.Acc.SAIn my usual tangential (right brained??) way your reference to the Steelers legends of the 70s/80s reminded me of the recent book I read (title escapes me but now a movie starring Will Smith) on the severe brain damage suffered by pro ball players...Iron Mike Webster is a focus of the book..travesty that the NFL covered this up for so many years.Sorry to digress dear @Deb 🐝 Helfrich 😂12/07/2017 #1 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Deb 🐝 Helfrich, you wrote, "There is one more thing to say before I get up from this piano stool of regret. To please my father, I arranged, on my own, to play the piano at my 8th grade graduation. This was 100% for them. I remember some surprise. But I remember no gratitude or pride or even a simple well done." I can't imagine how you felt after you succeeded to play. I can understand why the Church experience bothered you with the organ. It brought up a lot of pain that you must have kept deep within your psyche. Eating became comfort for you. I'm sorry that your parents were unable to show their pride and share how proud they were of you. I can't imagine what that does to a child.
I think it's great that you are becoming more self-aware. Once we are able to dig deep within, we begin to understand so much more about ourselves in the present. As you know, I'm in therapy and doing a lot of soul searching/ re-visiting right now and we both understand healing takes time. Sending good thoughts your way, you've got this g/f!!
- Producer04/07/2017When I was fifteen .... Finally I was free ...Act I A few days after my fifteenth birthday, my father called me. He is born in Rome and I always found he was so ..... stubborn, not really the right definition but things always had to go his way. In my childhood I always encountered people...
- Producer19/06/2017Sometimes...Sometimes one must step away from all that is familiar, for Sometimes it is the familiar that is most painfulSometimes one must contemplate what is realbecause Sometimes what is seen is merely what is hoped forSometimes one must question every...
- Producer10/06/2017Celebrating Cancerversary No. 9Whether you believe you can do it or not, you"re probably right. No matter the issue or project, believe in yourself and you can move...
- 08/06/2017Sharing this landmark case. Very sad indeed.The legal exposures of bullying claimswww.propertycasualty360.com The courts are holding individuals responsible for the consequences of their...
- Producer05/06/2017What I Have Learned in My Professional Life. . . TAKE NO BULL!Unfortunately the odds are that you will come into contact with a serial bully at some point in your professional work life. Some studies from 2016 suggest that half of American workers will experience bullying in the workplace as either a...
- Producer04/06/2017My Long Lost Love ! My path from Teaching to Coaching to Recruitment.The below journey is quite personal to me but I share it with the world to show you what it means to look at life positively !I begin with my favourite person’s quote:Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human...
Comments14/06/2017 #22 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#21 Hi Charlene. What positive energy and love I just experienced from reading this. See this is what made me fall in love with this platform and it's people.
I had downloaded your podcast last night to listen to it this morning . So refreshing, bubbly and I already feel like I know you so much. Your interview was inspiring. Everything we go through prepares us for something greater and I love the courage you have to say NO when you have to say NO. And that can;t't be to anything our work clients, partners, friends etc etc That's the biggest hurdle to cross and if we can be the wind that passes through these obstacles we can move in so many directions. I think my favorite @Deb🐝 Lange, Brand Ambassador @beBee had written something about it this morning. I must find time and read it :)
Thank you @Charlene Norman I am confident but scared not of failures but then don't we have atleast those experiences to learn from and my biggest lessons were from difficulties :)13/06/2017 #21 Charlene Norman@🐝 Fatima G. Williams How I wish we lived a bit closer. Over a glass of wine, I would share my story with you. It is funny. We all have to go through rocky roads of crap in our lives we never ever would have imagined. YET, when we come out the other side, we come out so much stronger, so much more resilient AND so much more at peace. All those lessons we learn are so worth it. And the funny thing is, we wouldn't change a darn thing, would we? I toast your success hon. To you and every other person who has made the decision to put family first and then savoured all the beauty in the so-called second-rate life that never was. High fives. And PS. You will eventually get everything and MORE you ever dreamed of. I promise. I have seen it always come true for those who never had a straight path.05/06/2017 #11 Irene 🐝 Rodriguez EscolarFor through difficulties I learnt the value of family and relationships.
No doubt the great lessons learned come from the difficulties. Thanks for telling us and making us part of your story @🐝 Fatima G. Williams View moreFor through difficulties I learnt the value of family and relationships.
No doubt the great lessons learned come from the difficulties. Thanks for telling us and making us part of your story @🐝 Fatima G. Williams. Close05/06/2017 #9 🐝 Fatima G. Williams#3 I agree with you Ken the teachers who studied with me still in contact now sure do live in their own world. And Oh My you were right about the myriad of questions for which a growing mind seeks answers. I still remember how they had me dumbfounded at some of the questions they'd put forward.
Eventually I would love to do that. Sit and be amazed at the questions children these days have and learn along with them. Thank you @Ken Boddie Someone once said "Everything we go through in this life is preparing us for something bigger." Have an awesome day.05/06/2017 #3 Ken BoddieYou may think this strange, Fatima, but I'm glad that circumstances prevented
you from teaching school children when you were fresh out of schooling. When I think back to my own education, the best teachers and the ones who had most empathy and understanding for the myriad of questions for which a growing mind seeks answers, were those who had experienced life outside the cocoon of the education system and were able to demonstrate life's ups and downs in a world of conflicting passions. I hope that you eventually may return to the classroom, at whichever level of teaching you may choose, better armed with your own set of life examples. Thanks for sharing your great passion for teaching others.
- 31/05/2017Toxic people try to control you.
Strange as it might sound, people who aren’t in control of their own lives tend to want to control yours. The toxic look for ways to control others, either through overt methods or subtle manipulation.
Toxic people disregard your boundaries.
If you’re always telling someone to stop behaving a certain way and they only continue, that person is probably toxic. Respecting the boundaries of others comes naturally to well adjusted adults. The toxic person thrives on violating them.
Toxic people take without giving.
Give and take is the lifeblood of true friendship. Sometimes you need a hand, and sometimes your friend does, but in the end it more or less evens out. Not with the toxic person — they’re often there to take what they can get from you, as long as you’re willing to give it.
Toxic people are always “right.”
They’re going to find ways to be right even when they’re not. They rarely (if ever) admit when they’ve messed up, miscalculated or misspoken.
Toxic people aren’t honest.
I’m not talking about natural exaggerations, face-saving or white lies here. I’m talking about blatant and repeated patterns of dishonesty.
Toxic people love to be victims.
The toxic revel in being a victim of the world. They seek to find ways to feel oppressed, put down and marginalized in ways they clearly are not. This might take the form of excuses, rationalizations, or out-and-out blaming.
Toxic people don’t take responsibility.
Part of the victim mentality comes from a desire to avoid responsibility. When the world is perpetually against them, their choices and actions can’t possibly be responsible for the quality of their life — it’s “just the way things are.”
theartofcharm.com | How to Cut Toxic People out of Your Life.
Take care and be mindful😌
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Comments20/04/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitLashon Ha-Ra is definitely an ethic we should be more mindful of. Since we live in a soundbite culture and engage in superficial talk of short messaging, gossip is not one of those things we think too deeply about. We should because it reminds us the power words have on us.
- 18/04/2017God never promises to take away suffering, but He does promise to always be with us. “Even when I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me.” Psalm 23:4.