Ali Anani en Lifestyle, beBee in English, Social Media 15/11/2016 · 2 min de lectura · 3,5K

Adaptations to Emotional Flooding

Adaptations to Emotional Flooding

I am not discussing the flooding of markets with products. I am not discussing the flooding of information. I am interested in this buzz to talk about emotional flooding and its consequences. I am tempted to write this buzz having read the buzz of @Lisa Vanderburg titled "Brad Fergusson: ring a bell? The comments on the buzz reveal the extent to which innocent people suffered from this guy taking their money illegitimately to attend a conference that never was.

The combined feeling of loss, guilt, being cheated, anger may result in high levels of emotional floods that cause the body all sorts of problems. We are not different from trees which are waterlogged or submerged in waters. These trees suffer from stress because too much water deprives the roots from oxygen and the carbohydrates that trees need for breathing. Trees adapt by many ways such as shifting to fermentation to cover their needs for lacking oxygen in water. Trees adapt their roots as well by developing air spaces in the roots and stems which allow diffusion of oxygen from the aerial portions of the plant into the roots. Trees follow a combined strategy of avoidance and adaptation to meet the challenges of flooding.

Adaptations to Emotional Flooding

We humans are the same when we get immersed in the floods of negative emotions. The metabolism of our bodies change. Our rate of breathing increases. Our heart pulses go up. Trees purposefully change their metabolism; else they die. We need to be aware of situations that flood us with negative emotions and send our bodies "astray". Our bodies respond by releasing stress hormones and the more flooded we are, the more stress hormones our bodies release. Our bodies are integrated and the effect of stress transfers to all parts of our bodies.  Adrenaline increases your heart rate, increases respiration, increases sweat, slows digestion and these lead to more severe health problems. The spiral effects of flooding negative emotions take their grip on our bodies.

The more we think about the bad experiences, the more we allow the feelings of remorse build up. We may reach a stage whereby we start we look down at our selves, hate us and the emotional flooding increases. The horny actions of one person escalate our negative feelings going from feeling sad to rejected, upset, devastated and up to depressed. This combines with the negative feelings starting from stressed to distress. The combinations of these feelings flood us and we get immersed in them. We are like trees immersed in water and finding survival a big challenge to meet.

Negative emotions distort our thinking and in turn our distorted thinking distorts our actions. This happens at the same time we need to calm our thinking, to find alternative ways to avoid thinking about the past and see bad experiences as a learning opportunity. We need to train our breathing to control the ill-effect of the stress resulting from emotional flooding. We need to see the world in new eyes.

The direct financial losses are less important than the cost of having flooding negative emotions. We need to control those emotions or else they shall flood us with terrible consequences. Brad Fergusson didn't only steal money; more he stole the balanced life of people. We need to make him a loser by not letting him immerse us in the negative emotions of his evil actions. This is the way to defeat people of his kind. We need strength to do that. This is only possible if we may turn the negative emotions that flooded some of us into a horse power.

Ali Anani 17/11/2016 · #75

I responded to the great comments on this buzz in a buzz titled "The Positive Side of Negative Emotions"

I am deeply grateful to all commenters who inspired the idea of this new buzz

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Ali Anani 16/11/2016 · #74

#72 @Deb Helfrich- your dog example is more than apt. @Max Carter wrote a buzz as inspired by this buzz and his buzz too has drawn some great comments. I plan to write my next buzz to elaborate more on some of the points you highlight in your comment. Negative shouldn't mean bad. Without negative pressures water shall not move more than 30 meters from the roots of a tree to its top. A battery shall not function without the positive and negative anodes together. But we can't deny that there stressing emotions that if we allow to escalate and flood us they shall cause severe health problems. I again emphasize that it is our attitude that counts.
I strongly agree with you on this issue " So we are quite likely to have emotional responses parallel to the adults that raised us, but the underlying situations may be vastly different".

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Max J. Carter 16/11/2016 · #73

#72 There is no model is the problem and people are searching for a model or technical guide to tell them what's right and what's wrong and too many over history and currently are far too willing to sell them one keeping them crutched and never searching within.

One knows why one feels the way one does, it's when we tell people not to feel this way about this or that and then we pass project self-judgment onto others insisting they reflect our projected self image as their own and condemn them the fate we chose for ourselves.

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Deb Helfrich 16/11/2016 · #72

There are some really important points of @Max Carter's that I want to highlight. To start. I have another, less emotional, and more observable parallel to the damage we do in assigning the concept of positive and negative - judgement - to emotions. My dog smells everything for information; she doesn't label one smell bad and one smell good, she drinks in all the scent particles. Sometimes lingering, sometimes rolling in them, but mostly just letting them waft by. The human need for judgement causes problems in all kinds of ways, but with the inevitability of emotions, we have an especially damaging problem.

Furthermore, he mentioned that we learned how to feel emotions by mimicking the adults around us. Big, big, big observation. It is how we learned language, too. Rules (grammar) and judgements come much later on, as our brains only develop that analytical aspect much later. So we are quite likely to have emotional responses parallel to the adults that raised us, but the underlying situations may be vastly different.

Both points bring us back to learning to adapt to our actual current conditions, perhaps using biomimicry as a great model, so that we stay in the flow of life, and its seasons and chaotic events, rather than letting emotions hijack our higher analytical intelligence. Hard stuff, but it comes back to awareness again and again and again.

@Ali Anani's metaphor of flooding is apt. We can grow into the ability to manage our emotions as a river that never threatens the banks of our peace of mind.

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Ali Anani 16/11/2016 · #71

#70 I am very thankful to you @Joel Anderson

Joel Anderson 16/11/2016 · #70

Thank you @Ali Anani for some great insights.

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Ali Anani 16/11/2016 · #69

#68 I am so glad that you are enjoying the comments on this buzz dear @Deb Helfrich for I too find them an integral part of the buzz. You appreciation is beyond description and I am about to flood with joy

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Deb Helfrich 16/11/2016 · #68

This is a masterpiece of community interaction, @Ali Anani, all initiated by your wisdom. I am surfing the comments with such thrill. There are actionable lessons for everyone in regard to Emotional Flooding contained throughout the conversation.

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