Crying over Spilled Ideas
If you receive a negative and hugely critical comment on your buzz- how would you react?
If you are in a meeting and somebody proposes an idea or expresses a provocative one leading to hating up the meeting room with negative responses and sometimes throwing glass cups what would you do? I experienced this many times during my life and I want to share some bold ideas with you.
I am sure most of you experienced the same. We have seen fighting and exchange of harsh words during meetings. I believe these conducts are immature and reflect defending ideas that are not worthy. Yes, those people fight over issues that have little value, if any. Let me explain.
Your idea is worthy and is of high value- It is honey-like. If it were, then you would not expose it to extended heating. Honey loses it nutritional value if heated. Worse, if we allow the water in honey to evaporate. Not only honey shall become darker and less translucent, but also destroy its enzymes. In doing that, honey loses its health value and becomes vulnerable to mold and bacterial growth. What started as a honey-like idea becomes a harmful one and threatening to our common understanding.
Remember that discussions are like the glass cup in front of you when you throw this cup at someone because of anger resulting from differing thinking or beliefs that you don't only break the cup, but also spill your ideas over the floor. We can't cry over spilled ideas. Glass expands on heating and shrinks upon cooling. Glass has low thermal conductivity meaning that the surface shall be hot while the inner core is still cold. Glass is also hard and brittle. It is the combinations of this triad of properties that make glass behave uniquely. These three facts are why glass can crack when suddenly cooled. And ironically, the same principles allow us to make tempered glass extremely strong. This is an example of how we are the process and the process is in us, as Sara Jacobovici wrote in one of her comments. We need to temper glass-like moods and behaviors so that we may get a better glass container for our ideas instead of fragile glass and ending with losing the idea, the glass container and our connections by turning them into hostile ones.
"We can't cry over spilled ideas"- on the contrary as creative thinking may turn them into useful products.
The story doesn't end here. We need more positive thinking to turn broken glass to a useful product. Yes, we don't need to cry over spilled ideas. Almost everyone viewed broken glass as problematic one. It was only recently that broken glass was mixed with a material that upon heating releases gas. The glass melt becomes foamy this way. The result is a foam glass property with unique insulation value.
You have broken relationships?
You have a broken heart?
You have a broken faith?
You have broken confidence?
We all have. The challenge is to convert those broken bodies into a product that insulates us from fear and doubt.
One last point is to remember that the froth on honey even though is not appealing; still it has a great nutritional value. If some people discard off it it doesn't mean your idea isn't worthy. In the froth bubbles lies your wisdom.
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Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #39
Dear Fatima Williams- you wrote "This often happens in corporate offices where the new is simply looked at as a tsunami and they would rather lose an entire project than implement a worthy new ideas. I salute you for writing this. Luckily, and as you later highlighted, we bees here welcome new ideas and we are enjoying he fruits of our exchanges of them. I believe this beBee is a platform for doing the unconventional. This is further assisted by the presence of great souls such as Fatima Williams
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #38
I hope your faith remains after publishing my buzz of today on the hidden fractal power. I am not sure if the crowded ideas in my mind on how to thank you are colliding or forming a fern-like pattern. No matter what million thanks to you dear DILMA BALBI
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #37
Lisa Lisa Gallagher- only if I could to find the words to thank you enough
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #36
I added a new buzz today and I dared to mention or spill a new idea if there is a fractal power? Your comments here encouraged me to do that dear namita sinha. You don't know how grateful I am to all of you
🐝 Fatima G. Williams
منذ 7 سنوات #35
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #34
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #33
Flattered and open to the opportunity.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #32
I am sharing your success and you bring me along with you on your journey dear Franci Eugenia Hoffman
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #31
So glad to hear about your upcoming Buzz Aurorasa Sima. Can't wait to read it. In response to your comment, I invite you to read my post in the following link. Thanks, I would welcome your feedback. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/another-f-word-sara-jacobovici?trk=mp-reader-card
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #30
Agreed Aurorasa Sima, fear is a primal instinct. From my perspective fear can only can hinder our spiritual growth when we have given the fear a different meaning than it had in its original form. In its original form, fear is an important form of communication; it alerts us, it makes us attend to something. When fear stops communicating and becomes "something", that is what hinders our spiritual growth. Yes, primal instincts can influence our ability to think rationally but again, it is up to us to understand the influence and what to make of it. If we allow the primal instinct to be in control, than of course we can't access our rational thinking. +2
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #29
I find sometimes that if the internet is slow tagging doesn't work. Otherwise; I have no idea Aurorasa Sima.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #28
Grateful and appreciative Ali Anani for your generous and kind words. The question of nature's consciousness is both interesting and important. There is no doubt in my mind that every life form has the means to direct their "behaviours" towards the optimum conditions. From that point of view, choices are being formed. I eagerly look forward to your next discussion, Dr. Ali.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #27
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #26
Dear Sara Jacobovici- your comment reads my mind and intentions. I am baffles, as always, for your comments anticipate my next buzzes. No question as this has been happening repeatedly. You wrote "Human nature involves experience, meaning and choice when it comes to the shape and outcome of any process discussed". You know what I am working on now> The shape of leaves and thy some leaves tear themselves when they emerge? This is not only an emergence, but is also a functional one. Do leaves have the conscious to do that? If not, then why they do it in different places? Trees break (tear) their leaves for a purpose. There are more questions. But the question I fail to understand is this thinking bonding between us. What you say about me is exactly what I say about you. I feel at loss? Happily so. Do you feel dear Sara that the process is also in the leaves. You leave me bewildered
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #25
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #24
Sarah (Sally) McCabe -What a nice surprise dear Sara! I am very happy to know that you still remember me. I shall be happier to welcome you to beBee. You are a "writing aaet" if I may use this term.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #23
I experience what you write Aurorasa Sima as "poetic justice". When you write, "...irrational maybe, as it can lead to undesired results and more hurt for the hurt.", and then state, "Defense is yet another primal instinct.", you are bringing up a very important distinction that is not often made; between rational thinking and instinctive responses. From my perspective, irrational thinking has nothing to do with primal instincts, these are two different operational modes and sources. Irrational thinking is the thinking devoid of the rational. In other words, we may respond or react emotionally or instinctively but we either think rationally or not. I don't think we should blame our emotions or primal instincts, which are important and useful mechanisms, for poor thinking. The influences and impact of all of this the "more hurt for the hurt", is a whole Buzz onto itself.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #22
I appreciate you comment namita sinha. You write, "...grappling with over reactionism and confusion between what to retain and what to let go." So true. When we posses the idea instead of experiencing it within a communal context, letting go is definitely a factor that distracts from the idea itself. I also appreciate your description of the swan; what we see versus what enables what we see. The effort in making something appear effortless. I wonder what the swan feels?
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #21
All I can say that you Aurorasa Sima is pearly both in mind and heart
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #20
ALl what I can say to cope with your gorgeous comment Aurorasa Sima is that you are pearly.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #19
Aurorasa Sima- you know how to condense your thoughts beautifully such as your writing "and more hurt for the hurt:. This is very eloquent. As for the paradox and challenge- it is intriguing. I hope Sara Sara Jacobovici would read it and I am sure she has something to say. For me, I am pondering on its depth right now. Thank you Aurorasa for writing such a beauty.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #18
I downloaded your 16-pages chapter Michele Williams and has just finished reading the first two pages. I see we have many common interests. Your work on trust is amazing. I am surely going to digest your material. I have a special interest on this topic. My presentation on Rust without Trust is the proof : http://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/rust-without-trust Soon, I plan to write a buzz on trust and refer to your work in it.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #17
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #16
Creative, stunningly beautiful and thoughtful comment this is dear Mohammed Sultan. I love your comment and love your metaphor. No doubt all readers shall thrive on it. The proof is in your comment my thoughts lined up with the magnetism of your brilliant comment. This is a great example of great comments.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #15
Well said Ali Anani! In agreement :))
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #14
Lisa Gallagher- again- ideas collision in action. So, kids don't only inherit our wealth (if any), but also our feelings such as fear. If we care for them then we should consider this fact. Yes, the daring ones who expose their experiences in fact they expose their life experiences. Who shall win? All of us.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #13
Ah, I will have to dig deeper than I'm used to Ali Anani, but it may be helpful to others as well. It will mean I have to expose again, my far from perfect side. Then again, who's perfect, right? Fear is epidemic, that's a great way to put it. Thanks for pushing me. Just remind me if I don't get to it by Sunday at the latest! I actually look forward to this. Thanks Ali, my friend!
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #12
I will remind you dear Lisa Gallagher. I hope that your mother rests in peace. She has good reason as her memory is kept alive with a grand daughter by the name of Lisa. I know your forthcoming buzz shall be a great one. I hope also that you would expand more on what you wrote "I've learned that many times our fears pass on to our children". Fear is epidemic and this deserves great attention. Your experience shall be treasured.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #11
Hi again Ali Anani, well at least people can't say I'm not transparent ;-) If you remind me I would be willing to try and write a buzz on that subject. I will be away Friday-Sat for my mom's burial. Yes, 6 months later my stepfather decided it was time. I think he needs more closure. Mom is being buried on her birthday, which is also my son's birthday. Like my son said, he will always share that special day with Grandma!! I thought of my mom (and it's all good) when you asked about my granddaughter. Ah, well... I probably would be trying to help my daughter to see it's ok to loosen the 'ropes' a bit but I would never do it in front of my granddaughter. I've learned that many times our fears pass on to our children. I'm just glad my kids speak openly with me and I am able to admit that yes, you did get trait from me, and I'm so sorry. Through these conversations, I've also learned that my children chose to do things a bit differently. They are both strong individuals and I'm so proud of them. Although my daughter already said, "Evelyn is not allowed to date until after she turns 18." She laughed when she said it, but wow- to think about that now LOL!
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #10
Thank you again dear namita sinha is a great thinker and reading his buzzes is truly rewarding.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #9
Yes, dear namita sinha prompted me to write this buzz. David is a hugely respected man and we share many stories. He even published a buzz titled Catalyst and that buzz again triggered/reinforced the idea of this buzz. But mind you, you wrote a comment and it has triggered my mind too. Soon I shall reveal how dear namita.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #8
There is always sweetness in your comments dear Lisa Gallagher and with a special flavor. I could guess who wrote a comment if it was you. This is because you share your personal experiences and so your comments are authentic and trustful. I love this comment so much. If I may, I would hope you write a dedicated buzz on this segment of your comment "We both also realized some rules were made to be broken because many times our fears got in the way of saying yes to certain things our children wanted to do or a place they wanted to go". I am sure your personal experiences would make the buzz a treasure. I have a question for you, Lisa. Would you be able to treat your grandchildren the same way you treated your daughter? I love your comment and its human sense.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #7
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #6
Thank you my dear namita sinha in which he mentioned my calm in responding to negative comments. If we believe in something or imagine it and we get only rejection it could be our idea is in the ultrasonic range so that few would hear it. Even shattered ideas can be a great source of even better ideas if we think positively and have enough determination not to fail to failing voices. Thank you again Namita for your lovely comment
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #5
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #4
Spot on comment dear DILMA BALBI. One thing though- you broke few tears and I am truly happy to read your comment. I am truly happy
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #3
Thank you dear debasish majumder. I greatly appreciate your comment and its strong relevance to the buzz
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #2
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #1
Beautiful example and terrific as well Donna-Luisa Eversley. This quote from you is a gem " Recycling, repurposing, remaking. Ideas can be adapted, as well as opinions". Yes, very relevant example to the post and life.