Divorcing a Wife Who Isn’t
This is a story of a young man walking in a mall that was crowded. He saw a lady and he just fell for her. He followed her till she was annoyed and reached her tipping point of anger. She erupted shouting at him and even boxed him. She started screaming and the crowed gathered around them. The man suddenly burst crying and saying,” I have no more money to spend. Look how many items you bought. You drained me. There is no enough is enough for you. You are divorced. I don’t need a wife like you” and then walked away. The lady was baffled and didn’t react immediately. The crowd started blaming her. “Why do you behave this way, lady”? “You bought so many items and you should be appreciative rather than demanding”.
This is a real story and it shows the fragility of public opinion. The man was in a predicament, but knew how to gather support of the ill-informed public. He found a creative way to reverse the public opinion by moving the crowd emotionally. He knew how to make the crowd feel the issue isn’t distant from them and that his cause is theirs as well. The crows’ behavior reminded me of the Theory of Symbolic Interactionism. The theory studies the society focusing on the subjective meanings that people give to events. People’s interpretations of a situation will govern their following course of action.
"You as well, Brutus?" is being repeated. Public opinion forms because of the interactions of individuals. Emotions gather support. The young man knew how to draw the emotions of individuals. Soon, the sympathetic individuals interacted to build a belief that the man divorced the lady rightly so without processing information or finding the real story. The group effect became dominant and resulted in making the predator the prey and the prey as the predator. Once the opinion shapes up people don’t like to be proven wrong and mayn’t be willing to reverse their minds and accept reality.
It amazes me how people collect information and form opinions based on this information. Maybe being first with a burst of giving others that they come from a hurt man/woman plays a decisive role. What if the lady started screaming by saying that the man was chasing her for hours? Would have that changed the outcome? Sometimes being first can be helpful. The fragility of public opinion is evident and may be formed on very ill-based facts.
The story of the lady and young man reminds me of the Receive-Accept-Sample (RAS) Model. When people receive many conflicting messages, they tend to go by those messages that are consistent with their current beliefs/opinions. The young man created belief in the crowd that he was the prey and by his creative ideas gave no room for conflicting messages to be heard by the gathering crowds, His creativity helped him out.
It is amazing how creativity plays a dominant role in our lives.