Feeling the Endurance of Others

Feeling the Endurance of Others

We exchange comments on beBee like nowhere else. We build relations. We admire some buzzes and author bees. We think we know them. We feel strongly attached to them. We see the “iceberg” of their lives and that is less than 10% of what is hidden below the surface.

I have had an enormous amount of exchange of comments with the Lisa Vanderburg. I thought I “knew” her well till I ran across a recent interview with her. The interview is available in voice recording and in text. I decided to read the text first and I couldn’t believe how much pain Lisa has been enduring for years. I felt I hardly knew Lisa. While listening later to her interview I was chocked because I expected this lady to tremble while talking about her difficult life with a husband that fell sick for long times and yet she was as stable as the pyramids of Egypt.

I shall give evey quotes of her masterful and shockingly saddening interview. Lisa proved to me she is a great example of antifragility. She came out stronger surmounting the difficulties of life with such confidence and patience. I sometimes feel mountains could not endure what she endured.

Below are few of quotes of the interview:

As I like to say in presentations: ‘Pete’s primary disease is unbridled optimism. Served him well in our 35 years of very high-risk business, I expect. Drove me batty…rose-tinted glasses do not pick out the proverbial comin’ your way!”

"the Pete we knew was slowly dissolving as he tried to re-define himself time & time again". And,
"for me to watch them as Pete aged to an old man in front of our eyes broke my heart…all the playful interactions he’d always had with me and especially his sons, had long stopped"

The interview is available here:

Casualties of Parkinson’s: Interview with Lisa Vanderburg



Lisa Vanderburg 18/8/2018 · #76

#75 I just couldn't agree more @Jerry Fletcher. Even my hubby agrees with that, God love him. We are born to empathise; we do it with our children all the time. We can sometimes lose a little with age or tolerance, but it's a vital ingredient in dignity and love. - thanks Jerry!

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Jerry Fletcher 18/8/2018 · #75

#74 Sometimes having to stand by cursing the descending night appears to be harder.

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Lisa Vanderburg 18/8/2018 · #74

#72 Thanks for the heads-up @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...my computer is in its death throws, so lots is going wrong!
@Jerry Fletcher; it is a horrible vigil to keep, so I feel you. My admiration goes to Pete, who deserves it more than I.

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#72 Thank you Jerry and I am sure @Lisa Vanderburg is thankful too.

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Jerry Fletcher 17/8/2018 · #72

Dr Ali, Thank you for your humanity. A friend has Parkinson's and I have endured his drift into senesce. I have nothing but admiration for Lisa.

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Tausif Mundrawala 14/8/2018 · #71

#69 It's an absolute honor of mine that you conferred a title of an important person, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

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#63 We are the grateful ones to you my dear friend @Lisa Vanderburg for making it possible to write this buzz and share your experience. It is such a touching one

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#66 Whenever you don't comment on a buzz dear @Tausif Mundrawala I feel some emptiness. You are most welcome to comment at any time.

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