The Iceberg of Values

The Iceberg of Values

The real value of any social platform is its engagement value. It is the engagement of the readers with the author bees that lead to the development of all engaged parties. One comment that led to the writing of this buzz is a comment that Harvey Lloyd Wrote on one of my recent buzzes. He wrote “It is the surface your layout that I attempt to break the tension. This is so that we may explore the motivation and values that support the surface. It has always been my contention that skills and knowledge are things we can acquire. Values and motivation are things only the individual can build”. It is the motivation that comes from sustainable values that make the difference. When we solidify our values, we get truly motivated from within.

In my response to Harvey I mentioned that he reminds me of icebergs- what we see above the surface is only ten% of goes below the surface. The tension at the surface is because of the forces that interact bellow the surface. In my response to Harvey’s comment I wrote “it is the iceberg of comments”. In fact, so many things we do in life have an iceberg effect- what goes on the surface reflects the hidden powers below the surface that interact to produce the observable behaviors.

Intrinsic motivation is superior to extrinsic motivation and our values are the dynamos that motivate us to do what we do to achieve a purpose. This is a hugely important issue. For example, in storytelling what motivates the hero to act and face difficulties are his values that shape up his emotions and beliefs which in turn lead him/her the way he/she does. If the values are flawed and so shall be the feelings and beliefs. The antagonist is motivated differently from the protagonist because he (the antagonist) has flawed values. If a company advertises a harmful product to make sizeable profits, then it has distortion of its values. What we see above the surface and appears sweet is in fact toxic below the surface. The purpose is making profit is legal, the purpose content and purpose value are distorted. The motivation forces are used for achieving goals. The power of motivation is used to employ wrong actions to achieve what is socially acceptable purpose on the surface, which is making profit.

I used before the litmus paper metaphor to show the relationship between values and all the way up to acting. I reproduce one image of relevance here. Our values affect our beliefs. Our thoughts also affect our beliefs and these in turn affect our attitudes and then actions. Our feelings affect our behaviors. If we consider motivation are a feeling of desire to do something, then we can see that motivation is a kind of feelings that lead us to behave the way we do. This is a complex situation as motivation-desire interact and feedback to each other. 

If I wish to redraw the litmus-like image above to include them in an iceberg, then I would draw them like this.

To act and behave in a certain way is what we see on the surface. I think of the AIDA loop (Awareness, Interest, Desire, Action) and the OODA loop (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act) as both loops end with action. That is what we see, but under the iceberg are the interacting factors that shape up our awareness, our feelings of interest and desire that lead us to act the way we act. Should we reconsider them by studying loops as icebergs as well? Where are our values and motivations that affect what we observe, and orient to? Your feedback shall be greatly appreciated.

It was a great comment from Fatima Williams that led me to realize the need to connect love to these loops. I deeply moved by Fatima’s great inspiration.

Life is as complex as an iceberg. What emerges on the surface is the resultant of the interacting forces below. To change what we see on the surface we need first to change the interacting factors below the surface. We need our values, our beliefs, our thoughts and our feelings to be healthy so that what appears on the surface is worthy.

Harvey Lloyd contributed a great comment and added the next graph to include the disappointment scale with this clarification (as quoted by an e-mail which he sent for me).

Harvey wrote "The water line separates what we see with values and beliefs below.  But the above water aspects should be an accurate representative of those below the water.  The disappointment scale is what happens after the thoughts or feelings are expressed in public.  Giving rise to scenario A whereby we enter back into our feelings or scenario B we search our values to test the response before we develop the feeling or thought given by initial disappointment.

I felt the iceberg does not exist in singleness but is always within a group of icebergs.  Disappointment is something we cant have without reflection from others or our environment created by others.

Your thoughts here?

Mt thoughts are that we may bifurcate into different paths after disappointment (paths A and B) as suggested by Harvey. I am sure the reader will have his mind and experience on this. How did you feel after being disappointed? What was your reaction? This is something of interest for all of us.

Second addition- I googled the iceberg of emotions and feelings. I found a very interesting graph. Disappointment is placed below the surface of the iceberg. I added an arrow to disappointment to highlight its position. Do you agree, or should disappointment be placed above the surface as is shown by the image contributed by Harvey Lloyd?

And this image too

The great comments of Harvey Lloyd send my mind back to my own writing. That feeling disappointed would send us to A or B is somewhat projected graphically in my slideshare presentation titled "Iceberg of the Opposites" and Slide 5 in particular:

#52 Thank you for accepting the invitation @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador. You point to a very interesting point "My thoughts are what we see above the surface is just an example of what is underneath". May be yes, but on a much smaller scale. For example disappointment builds up till it reaches anger on the surface. The intensity is different, but surely it all started with a bad feeling. What we see above the surface is only 10% below the surface.
When you write a buzz you do so much work and read, draw notes. What we see is your effort- the buzz, but we don't see the effort you put in writing the buzz. May be you wrote more than one draft. That we don't see. We don't see how you reacted when you were looking for the right term to describe something and the trouble that goes in this process.
Yes, what we see is the fruit, but the roots that produced the fruits are underground.

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#47 Thank you for the invitation. I started to read this buzz yesterday and had to tend to some other things.

My thoughts are what we see above the surface is just an example of what is underneath. Also, icebergs have layers, which when thought of as feelings don't we build emotions upon emotions thus resulting in anger, sadness, happiness. etc?

The iceberg can represent bad or good feelings, which if we are never made aware of what is below the surface how can we truly judge a person? But a lot of people do just that!

Interesting and thought-provoking piece @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee.

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#50 Which comes first values or beliefs? That is a question and big one too my friend Edward. If our values are distorted would we trust honest people? Would we trust anybody who behaves trustfully? If I have a belief that all Arabs are bad then my values would be shaken if I value humans are their rights to have equal opportunities. Beliefs may not stem out of facts. That is why I tend to give values priority.
As for your other point on detachment and intention- you have a solid point. I am looking at how most people act- do they to expect more than to intend. Rarely I heard a person saying I intend to. More often I hear people say now that we provided you with so and so we expect you to excel.
I look for kids who are so attached their parents and how they change when have the opportunity to detach. Some attachments are artificial because of the need for support and mainly financial support. As these kids grow up and detach physically for different reasons they tend to grow the way they want to. Sometimes very strong attachment preclude movement and confine a person to a limited space.
You keep me thinking my friend.

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Edward Lewellen 28/2/2018 · #50

Wonderful article, my dear friend! Let me share some potential options. Related to disappointment; Is it possible that we react with disappointment because we choose attachment to a person, thing, or outcome rather than detachment? Expectation instead of intention? Expectation and attachment require specific results, which may, or may not be realized. Intention and detachment allow for organic.development, yet in line within the larger picture. People who experience much disappointment because they set tight parameters as how things “must” be.

Second,, do values come before beliefs, or do beliefs come before values? A belief is created upon what we perceive to be true. I have to believe trust is important for it to become a value. Just some thoughts...

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They say @Nandita De if somebody doesn't find the time then he/she should make it. I hope at least that you make it because you are a gifted writer.

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Nandita De 28/2/2018 · #48

#8 I just saw your reply and I am charmed that you could understand me. Thank you for the kind response. I'm humbled that it has given you the genesis of another buzz. I'm looking forward to reading it. Please tag me. Likewise you set my mind in motion. But I may not have had the time to pen my thoughts unfortunately.

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I invite @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador for I am sure she shall enrich these discussions.

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#45 I concur and agree with you entirely @Harvey Lloyd. The iceberg for me is a visual presentation of bed feelings such as disappointment. The questions you suggest are great. Question 2 "What values are the others leveraging within the disappointment"? is crucial because we need to turn such feelings to build moving forward power. As in all cases in life we need to ask the right questions to arrive at the right action. That is why I stressed in my previous comment the need to share our experiences in how we turned disappointment into an asset rather than a liability.

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