Aurorasa Sima en Self-Improvement, Empowerment, Coaching and mentoring Emotional Intelligence Trainer / Empowermentalist / Sales Trainer • Aurorasa Coaching 14/10/2016 · 1 min de lectura · 2,3K

Toxic and destructive people and why I am "missing"

The last and next few days are so busy that I cannot spend as much time as I would love to and honor your valuable and often thought-provoking honey. I am doing my best. 

The last days, I also felt a bit sad and troubled. It happens to the most positive of us, sometimes (luckily rarely) we come across a toxic person. 

My "case" was a very easy one because the negativity was very obvious and the suffering of the rejected, unhappy creature all too visible. 

Toxic people are not always easy to spot. They can hide behind compliments, they can pose as friends ...

They are as dangerous as they are rare. Most people are good and supportive people and we must keep that in mind in the case that we come across one of the destructive people. I prefer to share about happy and empowering topics - but we must be prepared for "real life" and we must be able to protect our souls. 

So I sent out this email a few days ago:

Toxic and destructive people and why I am "missing"

Toxic and Destructive PeopleSent Tuesday, October 11, 2016View as plaintext

Hi ,

As a coach, I believe that every person is good by nature. I believe that change is possible. I believe that everyone has good intentions, even though you sometimes have to dig deep to find it.

That is true for 99% of people. And then there is the 1%.

They are toxic and destructive people. People that resort to emotional blackmail, intrigues and pressure to force their will onto others. People that are lacking empathy.

Often they are small minded. They don't reflect, and they don't take responsibility. It's always someone else's fault.
When I meet people like this, I turn around and go in a different direction. These people often are very talented to lure you into their spiderweb and you will probably be sucked dry and left an empty shell.

Emotional intelligence helps to spot manipulations of all sorts.A high EQ enables you to understand someone´s motives and tells you when to RUN.

It might not be as easy as that. Maybe it turns out that your business partner or boss is like that or someone in your family, your colleague or your partner. Gee, now it gets complicated.

In that case, you have to make a conscious decision. Do you want to suffer, endure the pain? Many decide that they will try to change that toxic person. 

In the end, they will probably realize that the only way out is to leave the situation. That is never easy, it can come with a price tag. But suffering isn't easy as well. Mental pain, stress, pressure can make us sick. We owe it to ourselves to take good care of our bodies AND souls. 

I will end today's newsletter with a quote from Pink Floyd: "You gotta have the nerve to make the final cut".

Social Media is a medium that can turn toxic too. I am reflecting on my thoughts in the article below. 

I am wishing you tons of positive people in your life. 

Love & Light,
Aurorasa Sima

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Deb 🐝 Helfrich 16/10/2016 · #60

#58 Belongs in the Comment Hall of Fame, @CityVP Manjit.

"Life is a felt experience."

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CityVP 🐝 Manjit 16/10/2016 · #58

When I look at cults I often see the empath attracted by the narcissist because the narcissist has learned to use emotional intelligence findings about human beings as a manipulation of highly empathetic human beings. Later in such groupings where sexual abuse is discovered within the group, a state of denial may exist except in those empaths whose eyes have been opened by pain - that who they trusted and placed their face in was an incarnate of evil, a monster of a human being.

This is where "real life" is about awakening to truths, while facing those truths must not make us lose faith in the idea of humanity. The cold blooded human being will treat emotion as a manipulation rather than a divine gift and those that are most human have emotional energy flowing in abundance - and when that energy is betrayed, when it has been debased and corrupted, they suffer a further emotional wounding - a wounding of trust and faith in people that was most natural to them.

For those who advocate simply forgiveness for emotional scars that will never heal, they are advocates who do not possess high emotional resonance and sensitivity to life that is a felt experience and more importantly they have not experienced even a fraction of 1% of the pain felt by those whose emotions are remain human skin rather than a suit of armor.

This narcissism is just one example of the toxic. David Foster Wallace faced a cynical and self-interest filled world that he never came to terms with, In facing the real, our memories repeat many times, while the offender only needed to cut us once and often not even realize the wound so inflicted.

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James O'Connell 16/10/2016 · #57

#56 I hear you, you're quite right (' ' ,)

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Aurorasa Sima 16/10/2016 · #56

#53 Maybe even less, I think. They have a powerful impact on our lives and we´ll forget 100 positive people before we forget one toxic one.

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Aurorasa Sima 16/10/2016 · #55

#52 I would consider this a great honor, dear @Dean Owen. Thank you.

Aurorasa Sima 16/10/2016 · #54

#51 Oh, you have children? You said it: Those of us who have a higher goal are blessed. I am certainly witness to the positivity you spread and I am always very happy to read your comments and posts. Luckily, you kindly translate many into English.

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James O'Connell 16/10/2016 · #53

Nice one @Aurorasa Sima. Are they really as few as 1% though?! (' ' .)

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Dean Owen 16/10/2016 · #52

Knocked this one for six @Aurorasa. I might well copy and paste your email for future use!

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