Job seekers, surround yourselves with these 5 people
Increasingly more job seekers are opening up to me saying the hardest part of being unemployed is the emotional drain they feel. Some will tell me they've never felt worse in their life.
Sure, money is an issue, but it's the fear, uncertainty, anger, despair, the whole bundle that affects them the most. There's also the feeling alienation, a need for support.
I was out of work 12 years ago and found there were people with whom I should have surrounded myself. The people I found helpful made my job search bearable. They helped me deal with the highs and lows of the job search.
Here are five people you should have on your side.
You know the type I'm referring to. They wear a smile on their face most of the time, and they speak positively about people and situations. They're not downers, and they won't let you dwell on your problems.
People like this exude positivism that's contagious. They make it possible for you to forget your negative thoughts for a moment. That moment can be enough for you to realize that your unemployment will be temporary.
Unemployment can wear on relationships, particularly between your spouse. It is natural for your spouse to also feel the effects of your unemployment. So you will want to seek people who can provide you with the positivism you need.
People who give great advice
For free professional career advice your best bet is your nearest One-Stop career center or your alumni career center; although not all universities provide this service. There are public career centers throughout the US, and they are free.
Workshop facilitators and career advisors can provide the most up to date job-search advice. They are empathetic to your needs. However, they will not let you dwell on your situation.
Another option is networking groups in your area. The area in which I live offers networking groups that meet every day of the week. It's important that you find people who are knowledgeable about the job search.
People who believe in you
At this point, you might feel that no one believes in you. This isn't the case. You can't discount family members, friends, neighbors, former colleagues, past bosses, etc.
These are people who will assure you with words as simple as, "You can do it, Bob." or "I have faith in you." or "You'll turn the corner." And you can tell by their tone if they're sincere. I, for one, can't lie to save my life; so when I say these words, I mean them.
The ultimate sign of people believing in you is when they are willing to deliver your résumé to someone in a company, or agreeing to be a reference, or going to a hiring manager and recommending you for a job.