Charles David Upchurch en Bee Social, Respectfully Yours, beBee in English Principal, Careeer and Workforce Development • Workforce Success (sm) 26/9/2016 · 1 min de lectura · 2,2K

Invasion of the Time Snatchers

Just a quick post, here, regarding a sudden increase (over the past few weeks) in the number of invitations that I have been getting from people who are dressed suggestively, or barely dressed at all. 

Invasion of the Time Snatchers
I'm probably a little bit of a prude as far as the use of sex or sexiness to 'market' oneself on social media.  That's probably because my own sexiness is not particularly physical in nature.  I've been called sexy when I show compassion for others, or when I wash dishes and do laundry without being asked, but never when I wear a swimsuit. 

But this is more than just sour grapes from someone who envies other people their fit beach bodies (and hasn't bothered working out enough to have that kind of body, myself).

Invasion of the Time Snatchers

So, what's my issue?

My main issue is that these people are wasting my time.

Here are a few more related questions that I might add: 

  • Why do such people follow a middle-aged guy who looks like a college professor, at best? 
  • Are they just trying to collect followers?  If so, why?  What's the point?
  • Is this happening to anyone else?  Or to everyone else?
  • Why is there a recent increase in the number of people who do this on beBee, when I am not seeing the same trend on LinkedIn?  Is anyone else seeing the same trend?
  • What should I do when these followers (and their automated follow-back requests) appear?  

I used to look at every beBee profile to decide if I wanted to follow back.  Lately, if the little image on the follow-back request is obviously sexy or flirty, I don't even pull up their profile.  I just say "no" and hope they will move on. 

A few of them come back again and again.  They must be un-following me if I don't say "yes" and then, after a couple of days, they follow me generate a new automated follow-back request in my notifications.  That makes me feel like I'm being stalked.

The problem with saying "no" to follow-back requests accompanied by images of attractive people is that they are often real and honest people who genuinely want to connect.  Some people just happen to have very attractive profile images.  I would gladly follow such people based on their articles and comments, even if their profile images were less flattering. 

Rather than waste anyone's time with a longer-winded article than this already is, I invite anyone interested in this phenomenon to comment below in answer to the questions above.


Charles David Upchurch 4/10/2016 · #38

#36 I'm ambivalent about the idea of preventing people from following. I can see both pros and cons, there.

Lisa Gallagher 3/10/2016 · #37

#7 Likewise, this is very common on larger networks. I found this happening quite frequently when I was very active on Instagram. I never followed back. I've had a few of these profiles following me on here but it hasn't been common. It will become more common as beBee continues to grow. Twitter is full of them too, along with fake studly men profiles LOL.

This is off topic but one thing I noticed on Instagram, many of these young girls (hard to tell if they were over 18-21) were also promoting 'sex chats.' I became curious because some of the girls seriously did not look more than 16, and I found many men from other Countries commenting and promoting these gals. What do you think crossed my mind??? Sexual Trafficking. I began to report some of the very suspicious IG accounts and males who were making sexual comments. I thought, hmmm if there's a 1% chance even that one of these girls has been kidnapped, then I reported.

I'm not suggesting that here (reporting, that is) , just sharing my experience on IG. I'm curious if anyone else ever felt some of the accounts gals had on there looked too young to be advertising for grown men??

CityVP 🐝 Manjit 3/10/2016 · #36

On the whole beBee has been good at spotting these fake titalizing profiles (and yes I know titalizing isn't a word) and removing them from beBee. The options that I want however are not simply Follow and No Thanks but


"Nuke" means I don't want them following me. As the Nuke rate goes up, beBee will get an instant alert that fakery is trying to titalize its way onto beBee. Nuke it at source I say - and of course we can use a gentler word for NUKE - like STING- but NUKE is so more poetically appealing to me, and of course that may well just be a guy thing and beBee have fallen in love with STING for other meanings far more glorious and noble than that which means the protection of the hive.

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I mute them, don't follow and 2nd time report to

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Andrew Porter 2/10/2016 · #34

I have had this for a few weeks, a quick look at their profile normally works....if there is none, or not much of a profile then I either reject or ignore them, its why my followers keep going up and down!

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John Valledor 2/10/2016 · #33

This buzz and associated commentary is classic crowsourcing behavior--in a good way. First you identify a suspect connection request, share findings/suspicions with your entire network and let swarming (like bees) take over. Just like antibodies in the bloodstream seeking out and obliterating annoying members. Thanks for the head's up!

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Guys, believe me, not only women are doing that with you: men are too. I have same experience with both, men and women, suspicious profiles. Is almost funny for me to think that they really believe I will also believe on their profile. Like any other plataform, I did what I always do: just ignored and go on...

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#29 Gracias @David Navarro López acabo de gestionar la baja @Javier beBee Saludos!

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