Cory Galbraith en Lifestyle, Professions, Workers, Careers, English President • Webcast Canada 29/9/2016 · 1 min de lectura · 1,9K

You are Wrong about Yourself

You are Wrong about Yourself

SO MANY OF US LEAD OUR LIVES FEELING UNWORTHY.

We are convinced that all life has to offer is not really for us. We are worthy only of a little bit of success. But a lot? That’s for others.

How wrong we are.

It is amazing how our belief system – what we think of ourselves – manifests itself in the outer world.

What happens between our ears translates into the reality of our career status and relationships.

This fundamental question – “Am I worthy?” can be answered in only one way:

YES.

We are all worthy of being the best that we can be, and obtaining the most that we can from life.

I am not referring here to just money, because many of us do not believe we are worthy of being loved.

This would seem to be insanity.

But in fact, the feeling of not deserving a good life is rooted in how we respond to what others have to say, and what the world as a whole is telling us.

Writer and therapist Tonya Ladipo, in an article entitled “Feeling unworthy or undeserving? Let’s undo that” says that as a black woman, she was taught by her family that she could do anything she wanted in life. But when she went out into the world, she faced prejudice and a societal message that she wasn’t good enough.

Ladipo began to feel that maybe those who tried to put her down were right.

We succumb to the destruction of our self-esteem when we choose to believe the groundless put-downs of others.

In the early days of his career, music producers told Elvis Presley that he was no singer – and that he ought to return to truck driving. Similarly, Katy Perry was told she would never amount to much. Presley and Perry chose to believe otherwise.

The truth is: we are what we choose to believe we are.

I often wonder what would have happened to the world had the great movers and shakers opted to feel they were unworthy.

What if Gandhi, Lincoln and Mandela all decided they were not up to the task of making change? What if their low self-esteem caused them to hide behind the curtain of history, amounting to nothing?

At birth, we are all equal.

Through life, we are all equally worthy.

One of the first self-help authors, James Allen, said “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to reflect their inner beliefs.”

If you say you are undeserving, I say “Why not?” And we both know, there is no answer you can give that will make any sense.

Keep asking yourself “Why am I not worthy?” and your inability to respond effectively will open your mind.

Inner peace starts with knowing you are as worthy as the next person.

CHANGE YOUR MIND. CHANGE YOUR WORLD.



Vincent Andrew Oct 1, 2016 · #15

What makes this article so appealing to me is that it speaks directly at me, allowing me to reflect and to be a force for good. Thanks Cory!

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Deb 🐝 Helfrich Sep 30, 2016 · #14

#10 That is a fantabulous way to get to the heart of our self-worth, @Harvey Lloyd. We might all want a session with a soccer ball now and again.

You made a really obvious point that stares us so plainly in the face that it is invisible, our worth will differ for everyone based on what they need, not on whether we can (or want) offer it.. Self-worth is within, not without.

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Melissa Hefferman Sep 30, 2016 · #13

"No critic ever changed the World" -Robin Sharma And all the your Worlds become The World.

I think I'll just keep being like molly shannon 'superstar' (I just reenacted it!) and a foreigner. I don't mind at all. :) Thanks for the reminder, back to space I go! 💖https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WXl8BBSlhT4

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Cory Galbraith Sep 30, 2016 · #12

#10 Fascinating reflections Harvey Lloyd. That is a good point about the impact of social media on self-worth. I know people who judge their self-worth by the number of likes they get on a posting. Whoaaa! If I did that, I would most certainly would be depressed.

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Cory Galbraith Sep 30, 2016 · #11

#9 @Chas Wyatt, nice to see you are a Frederick Douglas fan, as am I. I wrote a post on him for LinkedIn, will need to put it here on beBee.

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Harvey Lloyd Sep 30, 2016 · #10

Great topic in the times we find ourselves @Cory Galbrait. I often ask the question, if I were on a deserted island with only "Spaulding" to talk too....(you can place a lot of questions here) would my self worth be calculated the same way?

When we separate ourself from others in considering points of our personal dynamic it causes us to see the reality of the impact.

Values, those statements of existence that are so important to our self worth, seem to be hidden when we allow others to determine our destiny. My value to one may be less than another. This may hold true but is not a measure of my self worth.

Sociol Media has added a layer that I sense will prove more about self worth than we are willing to admit.

Try out that island every once and while and we may find that self worth is attached to things nobody could measure up to.

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Chas Wyatt Sep 30, 2016 · #9

"I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence." ~Frederick Douglass.

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Brian McKenzie Sep 30, 2016 · #8

'The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation' HDT ~ Walden 1851 - Thoreau died nearly penniless with a useless degree from Harvard. Today we get the bullhorn of social media, I am not convinced life is any less desperate than 150 years ago, but we just hear about it more and are all searching for that glorious six f*cking seconds in the attention rodeo.

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