Building Emotional Strength for a Satisfying Life

Inner strength is a requirement if a person wishes to lead a productive and happy life. Even when there are times--to use the words of Thomas Paine, "that try men's souls"--those instances in which a person feels weakened and barely holding on to self-control, there are ways to build emotional stability. Reenergizing the strength of one's emotions can be done in the following ways:

1. Slow down and realize your position in life.

To improve one's condition, a person must first realize where he or she is starting. Perhaps, there is a sense of disconnection from one's job, or there is a sense of alienation from co-workers. Also, a person may be mentally exhausted or have had a disturbing emotional experience that results in feelings of discomfort. When any of these conditions exist, those who suffer must "put on the brakes." That is, they need first to identify the cause of the stress.

2. Enjoy a respite from the demands and routine of life.

Those who do well in life often escape from the doldrums of routine. Taking a break from the usual practices and stresses in life works wonders for the spirit. Vacations (even virtual vacations), reading and watching travel programs are all health food for the soul.

3. Build emotional strength through spiritual and mental exercises.

Meditation and prayer are exercises that have a calming effect. This contemplation often strengthens one's control over emotions. Also, taking time out from life's duties and routines helps a person recharge the spirit and clear the mind.

4. Take small risks and try something different.

One's sense of self becomes stronger whenever success results from having taken a chance or doing something out of the routine and succeeding at it.

5. Keeping a journal helps in becoming emotionally stronger.

Releasing one's feelings onto paper is often therapeutic. Expressing emotions in written form allows a person's emotional release without hurting anyone's feelings. The writer can also later reflect upon what was written and sort out the actions and emotions that positively work while discarding the negatives.

6. Seek counseling from others

Sometimes people need an objective person, such as a counselor, to advise them because it is sometimes difficult for people to understand that specific actions and thoughts do not benefit them. A strong, longtime friend is often excellent counsel because he or she knows what benefits the person and will kindly tell him or her. The recipient of the counsel from such a friend will understand that these suggestions are meant to strengthen his or her character.