What not to do on a first date
That first get-together is all-important – the impression you make during these initial hours together may well determine whether or not your relationship progresses, or doesn’t even make it as far as a second date. It’s only natural to feel butterflies in the stomach when setting out to meet someone who is, at this point, a relative stranger. Whether you’ve arrived at this point after bumping into each other at a nightclub the previous weekend, an introduction brokered by a mutual friend, or a series of message exchanges via an online dating site, your first date is crucial. Given that so much is riding on this moment, it’s worthwhile considering some of the key points.
For women, when it comes to dressing for the occasion there’s a balance to be achieved. On the one hand, that cleavage-enhancing bra or drop-dead gorgeous skirt will certainly get your potential partner’s jaw hitting the floor the moment you stride into the bar. But it will also attract the attention of other guys in the vicinity. A little bit of jealousy never did any harm in a relationship, but perhaps that’s something that should be kept until much later on. Of course, you’ll want to look as sexy and appealing as possible. Just don’t overdo it. Far better to hint at what’s to follow rather than go in all guns blazing.
For men, you don’t want to turn up in something too casual, as if you’ve just popped in to meet this woman after attending your favorite football team’s latest victory. If you give the appearance of not having bothered too much about what you look like, this will give the message you are feeling apathetic about the date. You don’t have to go overboard and show up in your smartest suit as if you’ve got a best man’s speech tucked away in your pocket. All you have to do is dress smartly and neatly.
That initial impression
It doesn’t matter if you’ve just met somewhere in the city and agreed to have a date or have been chatting on the online dating site