David Navarro López in Lifestyle Service Technician • Fawema GmbH Jun 8, 2019 · 4 min read · 1.2K

Are you Lucky?

Are you Lucky?

Everyone has met someone who is always lucky. They always find quickly place to park the car. They have always great job opportunities. Have plenty of loving friends. No matter that bad things happen to them, they always get along and come out even more reinforced.

Has it to do with a planetary confluence, is there some magic spell unknown to us, or is it plain good luck? 

Does good luck really exist?

Good Luck Is What Happens When Preparation Meets Opportunity
Seneca

Opportunity is mostly out of our control, but Preparation does. 

So if we want to improve our luck, at least there is something we can do.


I don't believe in luck, but I do believe in assigning value to things.
John Nash

Experience is not what happens to you; it's what you do with what happens to you.
Aldous Huxley

The people to whom life has treated them harshly, and have not become cynics or resigned people, are dumb?

Quite the contrary, they are people with trust, basically, in three areas:

On themselves, on others and on life

Trust is an attitude, and as such, is merely a choice, a personal one.

In the other hand, it is one of the few things it has not different degrees. You either have it, or you don’t. 

When you say, “I have a little trust on it”, it means you have none, isn’t it?

Without trust there is no bet, without bet there is no step.


Without trust there is no courage, whilst courage is not the absence of fear but the awareness that there is something worth taking a risk.

Therefore, trust is essential to starting any kind of process, because:

-Trust generates compromise.

-Compromise generates quality

-Quality generates excellence

To be a trustworthy person depends on his/her integrity.

A person who has Integrity gives the idea of someone “made of one piece”, coherent, consistent and congruent.

These three seem to be synonyms, but they aren’t.

There are three great virtues: wisdom, temperance and strength
Plato

Wisdom is a good management of your thoughts.

Temperance is the good management of your feelings.

Strength is the good management of your actions.


If one has:

Harmony between thoughts and acts, it means Coherence

Harmony between thoughts and feelings, it means Consistency

Harmony between feelings and acts, it means Congruence

So, harmony between thoughts, feelings and actions promote Integrity.

Integrity, in turn, generates trust.

As a conclusion, if one wants to have good luck, there is no other way than enhancing our own integrity.





Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn.

You should not only learn from your successes, as well from your mistakes. In fact, one can learn much more from failures, because if there is no mistake, there is nothing to change, so there is much less to learn, in order to enhance your wisdom

Wisdom has nothing to do with erudition or intelligence.

Erudition is about knowing things, wide and deep.

Intelligence comes from the word “interlogar” (interlock) that is the skill to connect two things that conceptually seemed to be far from each other, but it doesn’t imply wisdom.

Wisdom is the result of the needful reflexion about a lived experience.

With everything we live, we can obtain more wisdom if we give the needful attention and reflexion to extract the lesson on it.

Choose your attitude

Viktor Frankl  Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, author of  Man’s Searching forMeaning, said that you can get rid of everything, except for the first and last freedom we have as human beings, that is, our capacity to choose our attitude before to any kind of circumstances, 

no matter how bad they could be.


This is a very powerful tool we all have, is it up to us to enhance it, and will help us to achieve the next step:



The will of searching for meaning.

We all have difficult times, have had and will have.

We should ask ourselves,

-what can I learn from it?

-where is this leading me?

-what benefit can I get from it?

-And the most important one: What is my purpose in life?

Asking these questions is what successful, “lucky” people have in common.

Human being is rarely only compelled by the search of pleasure, but for the will of finding the meaning of their life.

Viktor Frankl, while practicing psychiatrics, he asked many depressed people:

“You have lost many things, almost everything, why don’t you commit suicide?”

The answer was invariably always the same:

-Because I can’t

There is always somebody or something we love in life, which attaches us to life, keeps us fighting. Sometimes, when we are overwhelmed by pain or sadness, we might forget what it is that keeps us going on. The trick is to focus again on those things that hinder us to give up, our reasons, our meaning, and our purpose.

In essence, good luck does not depend on chance, it depends on love

Good luck is an existential status, which integrates a systemic view of the world in a desire for learning and reflection, a continuous desire to summon one's own and others' excellence, by sharing consciousness, prosperity and creating circumstances for it.
Alex Rovira

The understanding of all the mechanisms that help us to manage existence, those that move life, do not guarantee its implementation

Pronouncing the word “water” does not wet us, or imply that we learn to swim or sail:

You have to throw yourself into the sea, you have to get wet.

It is a paradox that to learn writing we have to write, that to get fit you have to go to the gym, to learn a language you have to listen to it and read it, and yet we believe that optimism, faith, hope, trust, resilience, tolerance, are things that come to us genetically.

It is a necessary practice to cope with a toxic environment

A falling tree makes much more noise, than millions that grow.

A bomb makes more noise than millions of kisses.

But every day we see the fallen trees and the bombs.

And we end up believing that the world is going to get worse, and it's a lie.

A big lie articulated by the ones in power, in order to buy with non-existing money unnecessary things to impress those we don’t know or we don’t like, endorsing it with assets that were not worth what they cost in a poorly regulated and badly managed financial system.
Alex Rovira


For this and many other reasons, there are people along our path who are mentally dependent on negativism. All of them dream about getting free of their negativism, but they are in love with their chains at the same time.(Khalil Gibra)

There is no point to talk to these people.

Only by our example can we tell them something, that is:

There is another way of living and the only way to do it is by doing it.

In order to make it, maybe you need at first, fake it until you have enough practice to get it done naturally.




Excellence in our actions attracts and brings excellence.  

Good luck has nothing to do with it.


Text Credits: Alex Rovira

Pictures credits: Found in Internet

Dedicated to Cyndi wilkins Still many things to learn from you. Grateful to have met.



Lada 🏡 Prkic Jun 12, 2019 · #8

David, it is a timeless topic. There's no human being who never asked the goods, or whoever else out there for a bit of good luck.
You eloquently expressed in your excellent post that good luck only depends on us and be achieved as the result of our determination.
I can agree that having skills and determination play an important role in how to take advantage of noticing and creating opportunities and influence outcomes.
However, in many cases, random events contribute to what we call "good luck" or success rather than skill, the right mindset, hard work or determination.
Many discoveries were made by lucky opportunities or serendipity. In recent years, research explore and quantify the role of serendipity or chance in science, showing that luck (randomness) plays indeed a very important role. Excellence and hard work sometimes are not sufficient without a stroke of random good luck, and not only in science. :)

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Pascal Derrien Jun 11, 2019 · #7

Lucky charm :-)

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David Navarro López Jun 10, 2019 · #6

#5 We humans always remember the mosquito that bit us and forget about the millions who did not. Trust can be a self-generating issue, that is, you can 't expect others trusting you if you don't give people the benefit of the doubt, and trust them in the first place, without stop and pondering. Hesitation on this matter is easy to be seen and can give wrong signals to others. The rest of the world is not guilty of several jerks. If you treat people as they are, they will remain as they are. If you treat people as what they could be, you are opening them a door to be better than they are now. I agree acting like this can be disappointing. Trust is as well a three areas issue, on yourself, on others and on life. If somebody betrays this trust you put on them, well they are the ones who miss something. The matter should not change who you are. I am much happier being naive and possibly betrayed, than keeping my guard up all the time, as it consumes too much energy, and most of the times you are wrong.

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"Without trust there is no courage, whilst courage is not the absence of fear but the awareness that there is something worth taking a risk." I've found the opposite. I trusted and paid for it. Now when trust snakes it's way through my heart, I stop and ponder. I question trust and make sure it is not knee-jerk. I found my courage through betrayal--not trust. A saying I have learned is, "Courage is Fear that has said its prayers."

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#3 Good day dear @David Navarro López- thank you for tagging me because I have been very busy lately to spend enough time on beBee.
Having read your buzz I must say I enjoyed it immensely. This is a topic that is close to my heart as evidenced by my buzz titled "Luck Comes to those who deserve it"
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/luck-comes-to-those-who-deserve-it
and my presentation titled "Luck (attitude) and the butterfly effect":
https://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/luck-and-its-butterfly-effect

I enjoyed immensely your fantastic analysis. You even made me realize how our thoughts evolve on the same topic and luck in this case.
I have evolved and your buzz is worthy of a buzz to comment in it. I shall write a third buzz and refer to yours soon.
Great work my friend. I think you too missed my last buzz, which I dedicated to you and @Cyndi wilkins:
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/emerging-stresses

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David Navarro López Jun 9, 2019 · #3

@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee maybe you have missed that one

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Lada 🏡 Prkic Jun 8, 2019 · #2

David, I just wanted you to know that I read your post. Your words got me thinking, and I need some time to shape my thoughts before commenting.

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Cyndi wilkins Jun 8, 2019 · #1

"Many along the path are mentally dependent on negativism. All of them dream about getting free of their negativism, but they are in love with their chains at the same time."

A very difficult cycle to break once we have become comfortable with it. As we are 'conditioned' to this mental dependency from the moment we are born, it is especially pertinent to teach our children self-soothing mechanisms very early in life to gently place them on the path to 'emotional independence.' As you have so astutely pointed out here @David Navarro López..."It is a necessary practice to learn to cope." It does NOT come naturally. It is all a matter of influence set in motion in very early stages of development.

As adults, we must teach ourselves to he coping mechanisms to assist us in managing emotional triggers. recognizing that our mindset is at the root of our "capacity to choose attitudes." sets us on the path to implementation...The sun either rises or sets with each decision. You get to choose. As you again David, have so eloquently expressed...

"Without trust there is no courage, whilst courage is not the absence of fear but the awareness that there is something worth taking a risk."

I am honored to be mentioned in this exquisite buzz...and inspired to elaborate further in a future post. I am deeply grateful for your presence in my heart;-)

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