Empathy: Skill or Handicap?
Empathy in today’s world is overvalued.
We can find countless fine works on how to develop it and enhance it, but truth is that the ones who rule the world have anything but empathy.
You need only to see what happened lately in the US or in Spain election process.
We, the mass, are responsible to have voted the most “unempathic” candidates in history.
Most successful leaders in business world use to be same thing.
In the interpersonal environment, empath people use to be a good ear when we need it, but seen as “weak” when we don’t need them.
Traditionally women use to show more empathy than men, as they are moved much more for feelings that for rational thinking. And for the same reason, many are abused and not taken seriously.
In a relationship between an “empath” and a “selfish”, the empath uses to suffer the double: for its own problems and for the problems of the other.
Meanwhile, the “selfish” has no worries about the problems of the empath, and many times, not even worried about the problems caused to the empathy due its selfishness.
The most common failure when showing empathy, is to do it indiscriminately and always for “the others’ good”.
Is it then Empathy a handicap? : Far from it!
For some people, empathy is a born skill, but as any other skill, one need to enhance it not only quantitatively, but as well, qualitatively.
To show empathy should not mean to be gullible.
For the same reason that empathy gives us the ability to put ourselves in the others’ shoes, we should use it to foresee how will a selfish proceed, and get us ready not to be hurt from them.
We have in Spain a very wise saying: You need to know how to swim while keeping your clothes safe.
Remember that empathy is a good human value, which benefits in the first place the one who is showing it. And it should give you good things in all cases, even when the other party doesn’t deserve it.
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Kommentare
David Navarro López
vor 7 Jahren #4
Renata, thank you for taking the time to read it. Efectively, western culture is only success biased, claiming that success is being, as you say, "rich, thin, young, famous, etc" devastating throgh this process all the good human values our forefathers fought for, and useless to say, our environment, society, families...shame on us. Humans, crazy we are.
David Navarro López
vor 7 Jahren #3
this is precisely the point, dear Katja, empaths use to think everybody thinks like them,and are full of good intentions. At this point is when empathy is no longer a skill, and becomes to be a handicap.
David Navarro López
vor 7 Jahren #2
#2 #3 It is sad to see that people who have the gift of empathy are somehow victims of it by caring about people who do not deserve this attention, being mistreated, abused and ridiculized by them. Instead, they should use it as a tool to know when and to whom they should show compassion together with empathy.
Ali Anani
vor 7 Jahren #1