David Navarro López en Lifestyle, Teachers Service Technician • Fawema GmbH 18/11/2018 · 2 min de lectura · +700

Please, try not to be your worst enemy

Please, try not to be your worst enemy

“When the heart speaks, the mind finds it indecent to object.”

― Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being

We are all the product of an intense and endless fight between two factions on ourselves:

Our heart or feelings, and our brain, or reason.

No decision that takes us out of our comfort zone seems to be coming from our brain, but only out of it a real change can be made.

For the good of the humankind, though, most of the times heart takes the lead.


Imagine if a mother would be driven just for reason. 

Taking care of a child which, before having the possibility to establish a rational relationship, the only thing it does is eat, cry, shit and sleep. 

If it was not for the heart, the most rational thing would be to murder the annoying thing, taking in consideration that after some 20 years will wave goodbye, and just come back if it needed something from you again.


So the heart is to be taken is a serious consideration, despite what reason might say.

Nevertheless, “unreasonable reasons” are always going to be put in front of us, and there is our brain which has to act as a referee.

As such, a referee has to be guided by some rules of the game. But the rules are undeniably set with a lot of influence of heart, so here the conflict is abundantly served for us to “enjoy it”

There is no easy way to find out what to do, but here are some hints that have been useful for me:

Get rid of the mental garbage

The first step to getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what you don’t.

Sometimes we are tighten to chains we think we can’t get rid of, whilst they only happen to be in our mind. They might not be there anymore, even if some time ago they could have been.

Regrets are as well a waste: If you are regretting having wasted your time and energies due to a bad decision, you are losing your time AGAIN.

Set your targets, and go after them

If you don’t build your dreams, you will be used to build somebody else’s’.

There is no middle point here: Whether you go after your goals, or you go away from them.

There is only one person who can help you be happy your whole life and that is YOU.

What for is a life useful to, if we don’t create our happiness? 

Because this is what is all about: no happiness is to be found but to be created.

The day you don’t wake up and are grateful, thinking, Oh my, another great day to do things, this day you should understand you have lost your purpose.

Fight for it, no matter the cost. Tajmahal would not be so beautiful if Shahjahan would have taken quotations and gone for the lowest.

Much of luck, and remember: time is ticking....

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David Navarro López 20/11/2018 · #8

#7 Yeah: The universe divided
As the heart and mind collided
With the people left unguided
For so many troubled years
In a cloud of doubts and fears
Their world was torn asunder into hollow
Hemispheres

Some fought themselves, some fought each other
Most just followed one another
Lost and aimless like their brothers
For their hearts were so unclear
And the truth could not appear
Their spirits were divided into blinded
Hemispheres

Some who did not fight
Brought tales of old to light
'My Rocinante sailed by night
On her final flight'...

By the way, Rocinante was the horse of Don Quijote
You can see it in the background of my profile
Coincidence? who knows...

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Rush have a great song from the 70s (recorded in Wales) eloquently describing these two aspects of action. It's called "Cygnus Book II" and it's part of the "Hemispheres" album. Check it out!

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David Navarro López 18/11/2018 · #6

#2 Thank you for your challenging comment. In my case, I have been a farmer some time ago, in real life. Maybe weeds can be enriching the soil, but only when they are dead. If you pull them out, and compost them, maybe, but the value they will bring is almost useless. Otherwise, they suck with enormous power the strength and nutrients all around them, making the plants you want to harvest to starve.
In some cases, like with wheat, when they start to grow, you can not tell the difference between wheat and weeds. You need to wait some time to differentiate them, in order not to pull out the wrong ones.
On the wildness or woods, that is a different story, as they have their predators and ecosystem which control them.
I have seen with own eyes, after cleaning a garden of weeds, how abundantly the resting plants explode on growing. An amazing spectacle.
In abandoned farms, well, that is a different story. What they might do is to aerate the soil, provoking existing nutrients to compost.
Coming back to the metaphor, weeds could be of use, but is much more rapidly recognizable the benefit of getting rid of them than letting them grow.

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#4 This is precisely what I highlighted in my recent buzz Disruptive Biases, to which the comment of @CityVP 🐝 Manjit referred to.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/disruptive-biases

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David Navarro López 18/11/2018 · #4

#1 Sometimes it happens that one takes positions, assumptions or decisions in life, which time proves you were wrong. To get rid of them could not be as easy as it seems, because your ego denies admitting to being wrong.

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#2 Within limits, the weeds are purposeful. Beyond them they become headache for the farmer. If the weeds grow alone that is fine, but when they rip off other plants from nutrients then it is a different story.

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CityVP 🐝 Manjit 18/11/2018 · #2

#1 Ironic that in the buzz about bias we do not see the bias we have in metaphors, especially our bias about weeds in the garden, when it is not the interest of farmers to eliminate all the weeds - for they have a greater ecological purpose in enriching the soil - if anything personal branding is a good example of a weed metaphor bias - let us begin celebrating the weed and free it from its metaphor prison.

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Great thoughts dear @David Navarro López. I loved your reference to mothers and it is a blessing that they follow their hearts.
A great point also that you mention is "The first step to getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what you don’t". Like farmers, before anything they do they must remove the weeds. The weeds in our minds aren't different.

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