debasish majumder en Dr. Ali Anani, Fractals Forever, beBee in English ADMINISTRATIVE EXECUTIVE 22/11/2016 · 1 min de lectura · +600

FALLACY WITH SELF-BELIEF!

Recently I came across a wonderful buzz of Dr. Ali Anani, Phd., where he expressed his wonder of human trait, that, when we desperately crave to achieve something and after achieving it, how our interest and desire subsequently evaporates, how craving for a loved one immediately started to decline after we connect and attached to her! Is this human trait, having resemblance with hot and cold analogy, the character of convection, which virtually clouded with our mind-set too? Intriguing content indeed! The character of transfer of heat and human heart and its propensity, whether having the same trait is truly a lovely metaphor.

I guess, people having innate ingredients, which are actually paving the way for hoodwinking himself alone. I aspire to embark a board. Moment I embarked, and get acquainted with many fellow members. I feel extremely elated. But, in due course, I got to know about my fellow members I am attached to, I started to develop a sense of aberration, comprehending that, despite they look like the birds of same feathers, but their characteristics keep me in utter imbroglio and discontentment. Moment I am capable to fathom their depth, I could evidently understand, how I have been deceived. Actually, it is the depth which allures me to draw my attention and alacrity towards them. But, I actually have been deceived by my own anticipation and confidence on myself. Moment I comprehend their shallowness, I lost interest on them. This is the reality which I adamantly ignored, having trust and being clouded by my own belief, utterly isolated element from the confronting reality, ignoring the quality and character lying with the external constituents, which I failed to comprehend or gauge as per its apparent dispensation. The reflection of the external matters with its inherent qualities, I failed to recognize, as it evidently having a contrast with my experience with the external world I am accustomed with, resulting an utter mental jeopardy to myself.FALLACY WITH SELF-BELIEF!

I may have the freedom to accuse others or divert my failures, accusing them to lack of enough depth to attract me, but actually, I guess, it is my lack of ability to analyze the depth of the aiming object according to the available circumstances. I, myself, being deceived to my own design and blaming others. What an irony! We are habituated to accuse others, but unable to gauge our own limitations and constraints. We have to recognize that we are nothing but the system of particles, ignoring which, I only indulge to hurt myself, while others are utterly in dark about my exact state of mind, my pain and afflictions. How can I expect empathy? What a conundrum I indulge to construe!

this post dedicated to Dr. Ali Anaini, Phd.


Max Carter 22/11/2016 · #2

How can I expect empathy?

One gets what one gives.

Those who do not sow with empathy will not reap empathy. If you desire to understood one must attempt to understand others.

Our lives are a reflection of what we project.

I may have the freedom to accuse others or divert my failures, accusing them to lack of enough depth to attract me, but actually, I guess, it is my lack of ability to analyze the depth of the aiming object according to the available circumstances.

This is honest and self identity to the depth of caring you are showing fro others and you are seeing the result with them not caring much in return.The best way to analyze them is to ask them questions about why they are the way they are. This is how one begins to understand what one sees on the surface.

This exchange takes vulnerability and is how intimacy is built. It is the ones we build deep connections with that we build intimacy with.

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Deb Helfrich 22/11/2016 · #1

" I, myself, being deceived to my own design and blaming others. What an irony!" "...I only indulge to hurt myself..."

Well, you absolutely hit the nail on the head when it comes to so much of why we struggle in life, @debasish majumder. We often are so totally unaware of our own minds that we have no idea why we behave as we do. And if that is not enough, we often look for ways to interpret someone else's actions as if their behavior was about studying us and enacting the precise things that bother us. While in reality they acted for their own benefit and we had not a thing to do with it.

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