Fatima Williams en Personal Development, Self-Improvement, Happiness Recruitment Consultant • Apt Resources | Proactive Recruitment 23/11/2016 · 2 min de lectura · 2,7K

The Wait

So you sit and you tell yourself it's gonna be alright. You will get past this phase. It's a trying time in our life and we need to wait it out. You tell yourself that you are strong and this cloud of testing will soon fade away and there will be sunrise. A new day filled with new opportunities that will bring you the promises of life ! It's on its way.

This is what I call " The Wait"

Now there is nothing wrong in having this motivational talk with ourselves. I do it time and again.  But what are we actually doing ?

We mentally wait for the sun to actually rise. Remain in that position/situation that draws out more positive energy from us.Like a leech !  It's like being in a funeral house and you can't do nothing but mourn or feel sad for the loss of someone dear. It's like falling in a mud puddle and waiting for the rains to come and wash you off.

I think you get the message . 

The Wait was something man-made ! 

We created this so we need to plan and act the minute we find ourselves in "The Wait" phase of our life. 
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Identify :

See what's going wrong and why did you end up in that situation in the first place. 

From the ground you stand to the things around you ; scrutinize the people around.  Anyone or anything could have lead you where you are.

Plan :

See what needs to change and what will move you from this place that your stuck in. The sun will rises only in the morning you can't stay in sinking sand just because it's night time.


Develop from the negatives. Capture the place you want to be in like a happy picture in your mind. Remember you were given this life because You are worth it !

Forgive :

Forgive yourself , the people and the things that put you in that situation. You don't want to carry that burden of unforgiveness in your heart. We need to leave behind all the negativity that led you to this phase.


Feel the feeling ! Experience the feelings that will arise if you reach the place you want to be. Imagine and mentally experience that emotion even before it happens. It should be THE way to trigger your brain to think of only the positives that will lead you to the Goal. The place you want to be is just away from you, draw it closer mentally and emotionally. 

Move :

This is the most important part of "The Wait" phase. You need to analyse the results that will be a consequence of that move. The people and things that will be present in the new place. You need to know that there will be no hurt or damage created as a consequence of the move . Happiness and satisfaction should be the target. It should be a place where your self-value , self-determination and self-confidence increases. It should become the your sunshine place.

This buzz -  dedicated to all the lovely people who doubt themselves time and again. As a result get into " The Wait" phase and end up waiting for the sunshine . 
I believe we are the sun that needs to Shine to bring out that Sunshine in our lives. 
We are the colors to our rainbow.
Don't subject yourself to more pain, dissatisfaction as a result of failure to self-realization. 
Get moving all my amazing people out there !
I am my sunshine
I am my rainbow
I am my motivation
I am my All
I shine bright like the sun "
Someone not so famous - Fatima Williams

Stay awesome! You bees are doing a fantabulous job buzzing and dancing around.

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I am a person who loves life and lives to enjoy every single minute given to me. I love to write and have got an opportunity to do so now rarely ( Winks)

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CityVP Manjit 27/11/2016 · #40

#39 If we are what we eat, we are also what we think and in this regard there is plenty of suggestions on how to get unstuck. The 7 things to remember when stuck by Allison Fallon serves as an example of the mental shifts available :

7 Things to Remember When You're Feeling Stuck

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Fatima Williams 27/11/2016 · #39

#38 Thank you @CityVP Manjit It's an inevitable truth waiting is a part of our life.

But I feel sometimes we get stuck in our cocoons afraid to fly and spread our beautiful wings.
I remember a story of how an impatient person who saw a butterfly struggling to come out of the cocoon tried helping it and that eventually lead to the death of the butterfly.

This waiting phase in the cocoon is sometimes required to collect the strength as you said that required to break out and fly.
Transformation is the fruit of waiting but lets not wait too much. 🤗🤗🤗🤗

CityVP Manjit 27/11/2016 · #38

#37 I welcome moments of life which are a cocoon. In modern culture we treat cocoon as a euphemism for prison, but it is not that, the caterpillar is not a prisoner of the cocoon, but a transformation in waiting and we are not butterflies, we are are more than a transformation that is no bigger than our thumb.

Let me take the song by Milky Chance called "Cocoon" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ernVvrYH9vg so while his main lyric is "so lets go back to our cocoon" the context is still escape and not transformation. http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/milkychance/cocoon.html If we identify with this song, we identify with escape and pain rather than transformation and privacy.

I do not offer this as a perspective to a single a person because my own cocoons are a source of personal liberation. I am not afraid of melancholy or sadness, for when grief comes I will participate in the process of grief, but when freedom comes, I can place that in a cocoon too - for that is a different kind of waiting. The best privacy is to close my eyes or enjoy time at home.

Whether it is waiting such as Van Morrison "Days Like This" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UUWkr4FUlo or I have to do what it is I must do for this thing called our work life and I can't open up my mind to you - there is something gestating in the waiting, there is something fermenting in the waiting, there is something good changing in the waiting. Waiting is a part of life.

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Fatima Williams 27/11/2016 · #37

#36 Thanks @Deb Lange. Yes the incubation time gives us time to feel the joy and happiness and outcome that is gained on the Move. Incubation is just a short phase and the egg needs to hatch 😊😊😊😊

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Deb Lange 26/11/2016 · #36

Dear @ Fatima I resonate with the wait and the move. I wrote a buzz last week which was well received. I said there is a part 2. I know I have been putting off part 2 as I feel some pressure in myself to have it as well received as part 1, but maybe it won't be. --and maybe it will. I know incubation time is useful but I sense I wait a little too long and need to be bolder with my action in the world. Things are never perfect and are always perfect just the way they are. And can always be updated and improved.

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Ali Anani 26/11/2016 · #35

Part 2
I have just responded to a comment by dear @Sara Jacobovici on my linked buzz and urged her to read this buzz. I also invite @Irene Hackett, @Deb Helfrich, @Deb Lange, @Max Carterr and the two Lisas @Lisa Gallagher and @Lisa Vanderburg to enjoy this great buzz and to contribute to the discussions.

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Ali Anani 26/11/2016 · #34

Dear @Fatima Williams- you are a greater writer, thinker and communicator. I read your buzz comprehensively, with great interest and enjoyed the flow of your ideas your buzz. You leave me with so much to think about. I just request you to read my last buzz and the two co (Parts 1 and 2) and you shall realize what I mean.
We are working on developing a formula for movement and we need your brain. I hope your time would allow you to visit.
Your explanation of the wait time, steps how to deal with it and highlighting the Waiting Step as the critical step leave me with much to think about.

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