Are you suffering from "full-cup syndrome?"
“In the 1950s kids lost their innocence.
They were liberated from their parents by well-paying jobs, cars, and lyrics in music that gave rise to a new term ---the generation gap.
In the 1960s, kids lost their authority.
It was a decade of protest---church, state, and parents were all called into question and found wanting. Their authority was rejected, yet nothing ever replaced it.
In the 1970s, kids lost their love. It was the decade of me-ism dominated by hyphenated words beginning with self.
Self-image, Self-esteem, Self-assertion....It made for a lonely world. Kids learned everything there was to know about sex and forgot everything there was to know about love, and no one had the nerve to tell them there was a difference.
In the 1980s, kids lost their hope.
Stripped of innocence, authority and love and plagued by the horror of a nuclear nightmare, large and growing numbers of this generation stopped believing in the future.
In the 1990s kids lost their power to reason. Less and less were they taught the very basics of language, truth, and logic and they grew up with the irrationality of a postmodern world.
In the new millennium, kids woke up and found out that somewhere in the midst of all this change, they had lost their imagination. Violence and perversion entertained them till none could talk of killing innocents since none was innocent anymore.” ~ Ravi Zacharias, Recapture the Wonder
This quote conveys well the tremendous shifts in values & culture in a mere 70 years. Although that is not the focus of this writing. My son is a “millennial” ... born in 1997 ... he grew up in the culture described. Somewhere in the late teen years, I can remember saying to my precious son “you are suffering from full-cup syndrome” ... unable to receive.
This “syndrome” is not something new ... but it has grown over recent decades ... in a “corona-like” way.
What is inherent in human nature that makes us unable to receive ... that limits our capacity to grow as a person and may even contribute to the distortion of reality & truth?
Picture yourself as a cup. Is the cup called “you” so FULL ... that nothing else can come in?
There are LIFE-robbing ... REASON-robbing attitudes & attributes … scenario’s that will FILL your cup to the point that nothing else can flow in.
Meet the thieves:
BIAS, prejudice & preconceived notions … PRIDE & arrogance … ignorance, divisiveness & conflict, cynicism, LIES & misinformation … a CLOSED-mind … a HARD-heart
These “thieves” will rob you of the ability to THINK clearly & critically ... and will impede your ability to seek truth and see Truth. Make you unable to receive.
A “FULL-cup” can’t or won’t receive … can’t or won’t accept ... can’t or won’t understand ... can’t or won’t compromise
This is a matter of perspective and will.
As much as time changes things, this one thing does not change: people see what they want to see … hear what they want to hear … and believe what they want to believe.
This too, is a matter of perspective and will.
This speaks to reality & truth: "A man should look for what IS, and not for what he thinks should be." ~ Albert Einstein
Effective communication & optimal learning requires the ability to hear & perceive with some room in your “cup”
If your cup is FULL then nothing else can flow in. The “cup” here is mindset & attitude.
BIAS, prejudice & preconceived notions are enemies of open-mindedness & objectivity
Caveat: “Don’t be so open-minded that your brains fall out” ~ Chesterton
Pride & arrogance (an inflated sense of oneself) is the enemy of humility.
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less,” ~ C. S. Lewis
Ignorance is the enemy of wisdom, knowledge ... consciousness and awareness.
“We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity. The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
“No one can act beyond their level of consciousness” ~ Phil Johnson
Division & conflict are enemies of peace & unity.
My Haiku “Bridge the Gap”
Cynicism is the enemy of BELIEF … hope, joy, dreams ... and wonder
“I dwell in possibility” ~ Emily Dickenson
“Walk as if your feet are kissing the earth.”
“We need ... wonderment to see with appreciation and love” ~ Ali Anani
"There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is." – Albert Einstein
LIES and misinformation are the enemy of TRUTH.
TRUTH matters … Ideas matter …
"Our track record is terrible. Decade after decade, we’ve taught our next generation “it doesn’t matter what you believe as long as it works for you,” that all morality is relative, and that good and evil are merely subjective social constructs. Year after year we’ve preached that pastors and priests are (out of touch with the real world) … and stupid … and that liberation theology is the only “good religion.”
Day in and day out, we’ve fomented class resentment and racial animus and diminished excellence while extolling entitlement. Why are we surprised at the result?
Our leaders have lost their courage.
Our congress has lost its consciences…
Our kids have lost their character…
Our culture has lost its soul.
Yes, truth matters … ideas do have consequences and the lousy ideas being taught in our colleges and universities for the past several decades are bearing themselves out daily before our eyes.” ~ Not a Day Care: The Devastating Consequences of Abandoning Truth ~Dr Everett Piper
“Lying LIARS who Lie”
A CLOSED-mind is the enemy of understanding. A closed-mind impedes learning, comprehension, discernment … IMAGINATION … curiosity & creativity … ideas
The best way to receive: Be willing ~ Be open ~ Be respectful ~ Be humble ~ Be wise ~ fem-v
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately CURIOUS” ~ Albert Einstein
"We close off our minds at our own peril." ~ Harvey Lloyd
“What is incomprehensible to man is the realm of GOD” ~ Einstein
... things in the natural are more likely to be understood
... some things are not given to human understanding
... some things are supernatural ... may require a “leap of faith”
A HARD-heart … is the enemy of your soul … it dulls your spirit & robs your capacity for Love, Life & Learning
It is written:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well-spring of life” ~ Proverbs 4
Your words flow out of your heart before they fill your mind. Perspective & attitude are shaped by your heart. “From the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks”
The condition of your heart is probably one of the greatest secrets to optimize personal capacity.
Who you are … what you become … destiny resides in your heart ...
Takeaway
In truth everyone suffers from “full-cup” syndrome at various stages in life and to various degrees.
One key is recognition: honest assessment and a desire to grow beyond what holds you back … keeps you from becoming your “best you” (a coming post ;~)
If truth be told: at best, our ability to honestly assess is flawed ;~)
Another is your level of consciousness:
The greatest achievement of humanity is not in technology, art or science. It is in the growing recognition of its own ego-based dysfunction. How we communicate has everything to do with our level of consciousness. No one can act beyond their level of consciousness. The dysfunction of our ego-based mind has been magnified through science and technology.” ~ Phil Johnson
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@phil-johnson/humanity-s-greatest-achievement
“Recognition of ego-based dysfunction” … requires looking inward: looking at the whole human being: Heart & soul (mind-will-emotions)
... Leave some room in your cup ...
One never knows what seed-thoughts might fall into fertile ground that has been plowed open ... waiting to receive (a coming post ;~)
"Sometimes we need an empty space in our minds that we may fill it with (new*-my add) ... ideas that are not contaminated with some long-held and constraining beliefs” ~ Ali Anani
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/chaotic-thinking#c7
Being able to consider new IDEAS ... new BELIEFS will only happen if we have “some room in our cup” … “some empty space that we may fill ” ... because our mind is “NOT being “contaminated with some long-held and constraining beliefs"
Caveat: The object in our LIFE journey is finding and then holding on to what IS valuable ... if you find Truth ... if you find Wisdom ... if you find Peace ... then you are blessed. DO NOT lay them down or let them go. (a coming post ;~)
May your “cup” be filling with:
LOVE ~ Grace ~ Truth ~ Wisdom ~ Reason & Respect ~ Virtue & Honor ~ Excellence ~ Justice ~ Righteousness ~ JOY ~ Generosity ~ Humility ~ Goodness ~ Kindness ~ Peace
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@fay-vietmeier-pennsylvania/what-do-your-words-say-about-you
Image: https://www.duyhuynh.com/
This post is dedicated to my sagacious son, Noah ... may he always be a “cup that is able to receive ;~) and may he hold onto the most valuable things ;~)
Special mention to Professor Ali Aanani, Phil Johnson, Harvey Lloyd, Ravi Zacharias for quotes sited within.
Buzz note: In many ways this post has been in my hearts for years ... it is, in part, a response to some recent "pearl posts" that helped to bring it out of my honey-pile of “drafts” ... including this well-reasoned post by one of the “best-of-bees” @Harvey Lloyd “Confirmation Bias II”
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@harvey-lloyd/confirmation-bias-ii
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Fay Vietmeier
2 years ago #38
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thank heavens it was only 48 hours .. and not 40 days & 40 nights .. now that would really be “disruptive”
Fay Vietmeier
2 years ago #37
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@Nick Mlatchkov
Multiplied thanks for the SMILE Nick
To answer your question
I think a “full-cup” = spoiled with everything" .. overly content .. lacking nothing ..
It is noteworthy that BIASES consume capacity
Vs
Having room in your “cup” for growth: personally - professionally & most important spiritually
Spiritual growth is the hidden catalyst to all GROWTH
.. new IDEAS .. Creativity .. Innovation .. Transformation
As to the “old bees” not sure where they went or why
Fay Vietmeier
2 years ago #36
Nick .. thank you so much for your visit here .. especially if you are the 10th view
Did you remember to click “relevant” ? - only if you thought it was
That is a pet peeve of mine .. when people read but have no reaction
https://us.bebee.com/producer/relevant-relating-to-or-bearing-2bcGFmP3XR6c
When beBee upgraded the platform .. all view history (& reaction = “relevant”) was lost
.. many of my beBee posts had around 5K views - as many as 20K views - but now .. 100 views seems to be the max - and reactions (are very maybe 1/10 )
I do not know what to say .. If I could write on the clouds - I would:
“Calling all bees”
.. please read
.. please react
.. please share
.. please comment
Attention dear “Keeper of Bees” @Javier 🐝 CR (per comment below )
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Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #35
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3 years ago #34
Ken Boddie Well Ken ... you could at this stage be a stand-up comedian ;~) even if you need a walker to do so ;~) ... perhaps accompanied by a lovely "full-bodied" Renaissance kind of gal ;~) ... though that is not likely your style ;~) ... Truly, you make me SMILE ... I appreciate you for the unique way that you see things ;~) Now on this: "There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is." – Albert Einstein ... you will have to take that up with Einstein ... I LOVE the idea that "miracles" are in "everything" ... "its not what your looking at ... it's what you see" ... a baby ... and the innocence of children ... a new day ... a rose opening ... and every form of flower ... a blue sky filled with puffy white clouds ... mountains ... trees ... Love ... Forgiveness & Grace ... kindness & patience ... the sun & the Son ... the oceans & seas ... every breath ... a gift
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3 years ago #32
John Rylance You are a wise "bee" John I may quote you in future: "the truth only angers hurts when it challengers a lie you are living." WOW This reminds me of a question that I heard when watching The Case for Christ (Netflix) ... how this legal investigator found his way from Atheism to belief (shared with Harvey Lloyd below) “Do you really want to know the truth ... or is your mind already made up” ? (powerful)
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3 years ago #31
Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
3 years ago #30
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3 years ago #27
Liesbeth ~ thank you for taking time to read ... and apply "worth" I appreciate your comment and recognize that your “cup” looks very different than my “cup” ;~) this cup has been around much longer ;~) I’m not sure we can be “healed” for the “syndrome” is a condition related to mindset & attitude ... awareness We are always in process as human beings ... so what is in our “cup” and how full it is ... can be ever changing The key is: Being mindful of what is in your “cup” and knowing how full it is As I mentioned: In truth everyone suffers from “full-cup” syndrome at various stages in life and to various degrees. One key is recognition: honest assessment and a desire to grow beyond what holds you back … keeps you from becoming your “best you” If truth be told: at best, our ability to honestly assess is flawed ;~) Another is your level of consciousness: “No one can act beyond their level of consciousness” ... so the key is growing awareness Be well dear one ;~)
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #26
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3 years ago #24
Harvey Lloyd Harvey~ I so appreciate your wisdom: What does a broken piece of glass (have to say) to another broken piece? ... I love this ;~) Years ago, I happened upon Ann Voskamp (Canadian writer) ... her books: The Broken Way & 1000 Gifts ... are treasures ... All human beings like “broken pieces of glass” ... “The Fractal State of Humanity” (fractal from Latin means “broken”) Ring the bells that still can ring Forget your perfect offering There’s a crack in everything That how the light gets in ~ Leonard Cohen from the song “Anthem” https://www.bebee.com/producer/@fay-vietmeier-pennsylvania/the-fractal-state-of-humanity-the-hidden-forces-at-work-for-you-against-you (part 1)
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #23
Jerry Fletcher Jerry ~ thank you for taking time to read and comment. Truly ... "Gaps"are everywhere ... Be a good "bridge" where ever we are ;~) Most bridges are under construction ;~)
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #22
Mohammed Abdul Jawad Mohammed ~ thank you for taking time to visit and thoughtfully comment. I truly appreciate your encouragement “excellent post” Such rich insight: ... “When truths are taken in lesser terms and falsities are most preferred, then there’s the decline of humanity.” ... What’s in the profusions from the materialistic world when there’s no show of realization and sensibleness?” The thought that comes to mind is the paradox of opposites “profusions from the materialistic world” (the illusion of MORE) has produced LESS as regards “sensibleness” (common sense/reason) ... path of purpose &meaning Be well my bee-brother ;~)
Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
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3 years ago #11
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee My methodology is different from yours ;~) Ali I'll refine a draft ... then step away ... sometimes for days ... sometimes for months ... sometimes for years Sometimes a post just flows out ... like a poem I began writing before finding beBee ... have numerous posts that are in "draft form" going back years ... have in mind a book ... many more "drafts" came to be ... because of thee ;~) and expanding upon my comments or the comments of other bees ... Inspiration is everywhere ... "Paradox of the draft of ideas" ... sounds very interesting
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #10
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee My dear Professor ... I wish that when I 1st came to beBee that I'd have been more mindful to keep notes of the best quotes from the "best-of-bees" ... such as thee ;~) I have found much bee-wisdom on beBee Javier \ud83d\udc1d CR I have many more of your quotes to share ;~) they will surface in future posts ;~) I always try to give honor where honor is due ;~) ... this is only right ...
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #9
Oswaldo Enrique Diaz Delgado Thank you Oswaldo ... I appreciate your thought comments You should continue this as a poem: "The day is born, the day grows, the day ends" ... what happens in between ... "The night is born, the night grows the night ends" Be well my bee-friend ;~)
Ali Anani
3 years ago #8
Ali Anani
3 years ago #7
Dear Fay Vietmeier Obviously, you had varied experiences to have the wisdom you are gifted with. If God blessed you with this gift, it is because you merit it. I shall explain my thoughts here in a future post. You know I have the "Paradox of the draft of ideas".I have four drafts ready for publishing and I started losing my way which is to publish first.I try to publish one post per week so as not to overwhelm the readers. I meant every word I used in my previous comment.
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #6
Pascal Derrien Some bees ;~) OK in your honor: "Are you suffering from full-bowl syndrome" I appreciate your reading and fully receive your sweet affirmation ... "full attention" ... "an excellent write-up" Thank you Pascal ... be well ;~)
Fay Vietmeier
3 years ago #5
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I receive your sweet praise my dearest Professor ... and appreciate the further value you give in sharing "wisdom & wonderment" I LOVE that ;~) if a bee could blush I am ;~) If I have wisdom it is a gift from the "Great Giver " .. who graciously & generously gives to all who seek this priceless gift ... from HIM I shall make my way to the post you mention below "Strategic Perceptions" Your words convey rich insight: "Each generation created a new hole in the barrel that is lower than the previous one. So, the capacity of the barrel of the kids' brains kept decreasing and holding less. Not only the capacity of the barrel decreased, but also what we fill the barrel with. Drugs, alcohols, fast music and less of educating materials. SO, more holes in the barrel, more wastage, less value of what is in the cup. Chaos surrounding us everywhere" I will comment there and copy here what I learn ... hoping to share your wisdom
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