Fay Vietmeier in Professions, Workers, Careers, Directors and Executives, Students Consultant-Customer Advocate-Energy Broker • Aletheia Energy LLC Apr 20, 2020 · 5 min read · 2.8K

Are you suffering from "full-cup syndrome?"

Are you suffering from "full-cup syndrome?"

“In the 1950s kids lost their innocence.

They were liberated from their parents by well-paying jobs, cars, and lyrics in music that gave rise to a new term ---the generation gap.

In the 1960s, kids lost their authority.
It was a decade of protest---church, state, and parents were all called into question and found wanting. Their authority was rejected, yet nothing ever replaced it.

In the 1970s, kids lost their love. It was the decade of me-ism dominated by hyphenated words beginning with self.
Self-image, Self-esteem, Self-assertion....It made for a lonely world. Kids learned everything there was to know about sex and forgot everything there was to know about love, and no one had the nerve to tell them there was a difference.

In the 1980s, kids lost their hope.
Stripped of innocence, authority and love and plagued by the horror of a nuclear nightmare, large and growing numbers of this generation stopped believing in the future.

In the 1990s kids lost their power to reason. Less and less were they taught the very basics of language, truth, and logic and they grew up with the irrationality of a postmodern world.

In the new millennium, kids woke up and found out that somewhere in the midst of all this change, they had lost their imagination. Violence and perversion entertained them till none could talk of killing innocents since none was innocent anymore.” ~
Ravi Zacharias, Recapture the Wonder

This quote conveys well the tremendous shifts in values & culture in a mere 70 years. Although that is not the focus of this writing. My son is a “millennial” ... born in 1997 ... he grew up in the culture described. Somewhere in the late teen years, I can remember saying to my precious son “you are suffering from full-cup syndrome” ... unable to receive.

This “syndrome” is not something new ... but it has grown over recent decades ... in a “corona-like” way.

What is inherent in human nature that makes us unable to receive ... that limits our capacity to grow as a person and may even contribute to the distortion of reality & truth?

Picture yourself as a cup. Is the cup called “you” so FULL ... that nothing else can come in?

There are LIFE-robbing ... REASON-robbing attitudes & attributes … scenario’s that will FILL your cup to the point that nothing else can flow in.

Meet the thieves:

BIAS, prejudice & preconceived notions … PRIDE & arrogance … ignorance, divisiveness & conflict, cynicism, LIES & misinformation … a CLOSED-mind … a HARD-heart

These “thieves” will rob you of the ability to THINK clearly & critically ... and will impede your ability to seek truth and see Truth. Make you unable to receive.

A “FULL-cup” can’t or won’t receive … can’t or won’t accept ... can’t or won’t understand ... can’t or won’t compromise

This is a matter of perspective and will.

As much as time changes things, this one thing does not change: people see what they want to see … hear what they want to hear … and believe what they want to believe.

This too, is a matter of perspective and will.

This speaks to reality & truth: "A man should look for what IS, and not for what he thinks should be." ~ Albert Einstein

Effective communication & optimal learning requires the ability to hear & perceive with some room in your “cup”

If your cup is FULL then nothing else can flow in. The “cup” here is mindset & attitude.

BIAS, prejudice & preconceived notions are enemies of open-mindedness & objectivity

Caveat: “Don’t be so open-minded that your brains fall out” ~ Chesterton

Pride & arrogance (an inflated sense of oneself) is the enemy of humility.

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less,” ~ C. S. Lewis

Ignorance is the enemy of wisdom, knowledge ... consciousness and awareness.

“We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity. The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

“No one can act beyond their level of consciousness” ~ Phil Johnson

Division & conflict are enemies of peace & unity.

My Haiku “Bridge the Gap”

Cynicism is the enemy of BELIEF … hope, joy, dreams ... and wonder

“I dwell in possibility” ~ Emily Dickenson

“Walk as if your feet are kissing the earth.”

“We need ... wonderment to see with appreciation and love” ~ Ali Anani

"There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is." – Albert Einstein

LIES and misinformation are the enemy of TRUTH.

TRUTH matters … Ideas matter …

 "Our track record is terrible. Decade after decade, we’ve taught our next generation “it doesn’t matter what you believe as long as it works for you,” that all morality is relative, and that good and evil are merely subjective social constructs. Year after year we’ve preached that pastors and priests are (out of touch with the real world) … and stupid … and that liberation theology is the only “good religion.”

Day in and day out, we’ve fomented class resentment and racial animus and diminished excellence while extolling entitlement. Why are we surprised at the result?

Our leaders have lost their courage.

Our congress has lost its consciences…

Our kids have lost their character…

Our culture has lost its soul.

Yes, truth matters … ideas do have consequences and the lousy ideas being taught in our colleges and universities for the past several decades are bearing themselves out daily before our eyes.” ~ Not a Day Care: The Devastating Consequences of Abandoning Truth ~Dr Everett Piper

“Lying LIARS who Lie”


A CLOSED-mind is the enemy of understanding. A closed-mind impedes learning, comprehension, discernment … IMAGINATION … curiosity & creativity … ideas

The best way to receive: Be willing ~ Be open ~ Be respectful ~ Be humble ~ Be wise ~ fem-v

“I have no special talent. I am only passionately CURIOUS” ~ Albert Einstein

"We close off our minds at our own peril." ~ Harvey Lloyd

“What is incomprehensible to man is the realm of GOD” ~ Einstein

... things in the natural are more likely to be understood

... some things are not given to human understanding

... some things are supernatural ... may require a “leap of faith”

A HARD-heart … is the enemy of your soul … it dulls your spirit & robs your capacity for Love, Life & Learning

It is written:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well-spring of life” ~ Proverbs 4

Your words flow out of your heart before they fill your mind. Perspective & attitude are shaped by your heart. “From the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks”

The condition of your heart is probably one of the greatest secrets to optimize personal capacity.

Who you are … what you become … destiny resides in your heart ...



In truth everyone suffers from “full-cup” syndrome at various stages in life and to various degrees.

One key is recognition: honest assessment and a desire to grow beyond what holds you back … keeps you from becoming your “best you” (a coming post ;~)

If truth be told: at best, our ability to honestly assess is flawed ;~)

Another is your level of consciousness:

The greatest achievement of humanity is not in technology, art or science. It is in the growing recognition of its own ego-based dysfunction. How we communicate has everything to do with our level of consciousness. No one can act beyond their level of consciousness. The dysfunction of our ego-based mind has been magnified through science and technology.” ~ Phil Johnson


“Recognition of ego-based dysfunction” … requires looking inward: looking at the whole human being: Heart & soul (mind-will-emotions)

... Leave some room in your cup ...

One never knows what seed-thoughts might fall into fertile ground that has been plowed open ... waiting to receive            (a coming post ;~)

"Sometimes we need an empty space in our minds that we may fill it with (new*-my add) ... ideas that are not contaminated with some long-held and constraining beliefs” ~ Ali Anani


Being able to consider new IDEAS ... new BELIEFS will only happen if we have “some room in our cup” … “some empty space that we may fill ” ... because our mind is “NOT being “contaminated with some long-held and constraining beliefs"

Caveat: The object in our LIFE journey is finding and then holding on to what IS valuable ... if you find Truth ... if you find Wisdom ... if you find Peace ... then you are blessed. DO NOT lay them down or let them go. (a coming post ;~) 

May your “cup” be filling with:

LOVE ~ Grace ~ Truth ~ Wisdom ~ Reason & Respect ~ Virtue & Honor ~ Excellence ~ Justice ~ Righteousness ~ JOY ~ Generosity ~ Humility ~ Goodness ~ Kindness ~ Peace       


April 20, 2020

This post is dedicated to my sagacious son, Noah ... may he always be a “cup that is able to receive ;~) and may he hold onto the most valuable things ;~)

Special mention to Professor Ali Aanani, Phil Johnson, Harvey Lloyd, Ravi Zacharias for quotes sited within.

Buzz note: In many ways this post has been in my hearts for years ... it is, in part, a response to some recent "pearl posts" that helped to bring it out of my honey-pile of “drafts” ... including this well-reasoned post by one of the “best-of-bees” @Harvey Lloyd “Confirmation Bias II”


“In His Light” … I write ;~)

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My caring nature makes me an advocate. My curious nature makes me a “queen of questions” … but gifted with the ability to listen ;~) I am a woman of deep faith, a blessed mother, a voracious reader, a blossoming writer, a grateful person, and a lover of beauty … I treasure family, true friendships and my loyal clients ... enjoy traveling, learning, good movies, good wine and golf. I’m a “heart-to-heart” communicator.



Fay Vietmeier May 22, 2020 · #40

Harvey Lloyd
I loved the truth that you shared in @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee post "Rings of Experience"
Added your quote to this post
'We close off our minds at our own peril"

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Fay Vietmeier Apr 24, 2020 · #39

#38 @Ken Boddie

Well Ken ... you could at this stage be a stand-up comedian ;~) even if you need a walker to do so ;~)
... perhaps accompanied by a lovely "full-bodied" Renaissance kind of gal ;~)
... though that is not likely your style ;~)
... Truly, you make me SMILE ...

I appreciate you for the unique way that you see things ;~)
Now on this:
"There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is." – Albert Einstein

... you will have to take that up with Einstein ...

I LOVE the idea that "miracles" are in "everything" ... "its not what your looking at ... it's what you see"
... a baby ... and the innocence of children
... a new day
... a rose opening ... and every form of flower
... a blue sky filled with puffy white clouds
... mountains
... trees
... Love
... Forgiveness & Grace ... kindness & patience
... the sun & the Son
... the oceans & seas

... every breath ... a gift

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Ken Boddie Apr 24, 2020 · #38

I beg to differ with the life objectives postulated by old mate Einstein, Fay. There are only two ways to live life. One is on the wings, preparing to entertain. The other is in the spotlight entertaining.
The world’s a stage and our lives a series of transitioning stages. I’m at the stage where I’m glad they still let me have a driving license and glad they don’t lock me up for some of the thoughts that transfer themselves from brain to mouth unfiltered Incidentally, Fay, I must admit that the title of your post had me envisaging full bodied ladies in swimwear, such is the powerful imagery of the “full-cup”. 🤣😂🤣

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Fay Vietmeier Apr 22, 2020 · #37

#36 @John Rylance
You are a wise "bee" John
I may quote you in future:

"the truth only angers hurts when it challengers a lie you are living." WOW
This reminds me of a question that I heard when watching The Case for Christ (Netflix) ... how this legal investigator found his way from Atheism to belief
(shared with @Harvey Lloyd below)
“Do you really want to know the truth ... or is your mind already made up” ? (powerful)

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John Rylance Apr 22, 2020 · #36

My cup runneth over with this thoughtful post.
So right the truth only angers hurts when it challengers a lie you are living/ hiding.

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Fay Vietmeier Apr 21, 2020 · #34

@Marisa Fonseca Diniz
Warm thanks Marisa for reading and encouraging the heart of this bee by commenting “excellent article”
I will make it a point to read your article and get back to you
It is true what you say that “labeling occurs in society ... as if we were a mere product”

Bee well;~)

Fay Vietmeier Apr 21, 2020 · #33

@Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador
Your sweet sharing of the "cup" post is very meaningful to this bee ... I thank thee ;~) Liesbeth
... I hope the "cup" overflows with attentive readers ;~)

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