Flávio Rodrigues Vieira in Lifestyle, beBee in English, Healthcare Analista de negócios / Business Analyst • Mainland 3 Oct 3, 2016 · 2 min read · +900



No act of kindness, however small, will be a waste of time. These gestures full of affection and recognition lies the true wisdom that benefits our brain and connect with others in a dignified and honest.

It may seem curious, but Charles Darwin was already talking about his studies on the importance of kindness in humans. According to him, this would be our strongest instinct and valuable and would allow not only the survival of mankind as a species, but of all living beings. However, we do not practice goodness as often as we should.

Do not give up, sow goodness in each of its acts. Maybe others do not realize it, but your mind will always be in tune with your heart.

Kindness has a very specific space in the brain: it shares the same neural mechanisms that empathy. While a identifies the needs, the other reflects this feeling in a spontaneous and profound act to promote and offer help and welfare.


This unique mechanism in our brain has a very specific purpose: to make us understand that we are much stronger connected to each other than themselves. An interesting aspect that today we want to deepen with you.

We are programmed to "practice kindness"

" Goodness is the only investment that never fails. "
Henry David Thoreau

Jerome Kagan, a Harvard professor of psychology, supports the idea that our brain is programmed to practice kindness. It would be a biological gradient, as Charles Darwin said, where love, compassion and care have a very specific purpose: to allow the survival of the species.

Our brain is "factory" with this program installed, we are naturally kind. But we have other biological trends that are also important and have, unfortunately, a greater weight in our behavior: anger, jealousy, and violence.

Daniel Goleman reminds us that one of the most intense emotions for our brain is compassion. All the limbic system reverberates multiple connections when we practice. hormones are released as oxytocin, and suddenly we are flooded with positive emotions such as empathy, reciprocity, or the express desire to promote the well, which in further ennobled as a species.

Kindness is something wonderful that is worth practicing

Kindness to these experts in human emotions is an inherited instinct taught our ancestors that in a hostile environment does not survive the strongest, but one that has a great support network.

So the emotions contagion and that our mirror neurons allow us to identify the fear of another person in order to anticipate a risk or understand that help is a way to invest in ourselves, so that in future we also help in moments necessary.

Train compassion to take care of our mental health


David Keltner, a professor at the University of Berkeley, and director of "Research Centre of Kindness" explains that the values that underpin our modern societies have completely destroyed our natural tendency for compassion or kindness.

Money is itself an element that we individualize, segregates, and that forces us to compete with others. We have lost the unity of the group and the desire to ensure the good of our fellow men, because we become each other's opponents.

So much so that, as explained by the very teacher Keltner in books like "Born to be good," people with more wealth tend to be less empathic.

The technique of compassion meditation


However, it is interesting to know that compassion and kindness can be trained. Since we are aware that we are far from our essence and sailed adrift of selfishness, materialism, or the lack of authenticity in our personal relationships, you may need to reflect on the need for change.

According to a study published in the journal "Psychological Science", adults can be trained through compassion meditation to reactivate areas of our brain that are dormant or simply unused.

  • The compassion meditation is a Buddhist technique based on views.
  • It is simply to imagine personal situations that remind a loved one going through a difficult time of life.
  • We must revive the suffering so that way activate Open these emotional structures such as the insula, associated with the need to offer comfort and support.
  • The display starts little by little. At the beginning we think of close people, then friends, coworkers, neighbors, acquaintances, and even reach the unknown.
  • The basic idea is to empathize with the needs of others, with the pain, fear, and experience the closeness of those who suffer, whoever he is.

This type of exercise based on meditation, the proper breath control and a deeper contact with our emotions generates, according to neurologists, an interesting brain plasticity. It allows stress relief, provides well-being and inner wealth can change the world.