Footpath of Life need help to find so many suicide prevention organizations as possible
With Footpath of Life I make a offer for planting a tree for your loved one, who passed away. I will install a path around the world, lined by the trees of memory. Trees you and I will plant for your loved one, who passed away. But based on my own story I want to support suicide prevention too, however I can do this.
One aspect will be, to collect links and descriptions to suicide preventions organisations from all over the world and a put a link and a short description on my website. Helping people to find the group or organization which fits to them is one sort of help until I am able to give other ways of support. Therefore I am looking for links and therefore I am looking for cooperations and people who wants to put my offer with www.footpath-o-life.com on their website.
Why planting a tree, you may ask? Well, it has sort of a multilevel meaning:
- Memory to the person, love, family connection you lost,
- a sign for the one who planted it: here I am, I am strong and I just want to tell you: suicide was and is affecting me – don´t forget the ones who were left behind
- It´s a sign for the love, which was growing once. Now it can grow again and becoming more beautiful from year to year. And look, there are billions of trees out there and not one is similar to the other one. Same with love – don´t you think so? It´s the perfect match and symbol.
- I say yes to the life - look how beautiful it can be
- and last one something I can´t describe but it will be a very special and sort of magic connection if the circle will be closed and all of those trees are getting connected ( I know that this sounds somehow strange )
- A circle around the world stands for circle of life and not endless life ( I know it will be not a circle, let´s say a very individual one.
- Circles in form of rings are our signs for love, weddings and much more….
.... so Footpath of Life will be an offer, which is taken by now from people in Germany, Netherland, Belgium, Serbia, Italy and USA. The people who wants to plant a tree are the one who will decide where Footpath of Life will go along.
I will help you
My experience of the last weeks showed me, that when people heard from it, many are very moved and touched and I received many mails - very often very sad and dramatic. As I promised, I will not only plant a tree, but also helping if there is a need for, this offer must find his people – and of course it will find his people.
Why I am doing it?
After the suicide of my love in March 2016 my entire life, believes and everything which was important collapsed and became meaningless. But as the suffering, the grief, the loss and own suicide thoughts were not enough, I faced the silence and the ignorance before the suicide happened and after. Many and most of the people who were drinking and partying with us every week disappeared. Not one came along asking if they can help. Not one hugged me and not one said: I am so sorry. Not one was helping me, when I called the police the nights before, not one was support me or my partner the months before when I described again and again that something terrible is going on and it will end in suicide. Not one was believing me. But all told me: It´s kindergarten, it sucks. And even so called best friends vanished with the death.
You are not alone
By now I know I am not alone. Hits by the destiny making lonely as a woman was writing me. A word, a sound, music, a smell a look can be responsible that a entire day is collapsing and we find ourselves in tears for hours and days. I have to listen to all those lies and all the story people are telling about the how and why – but nobody was ever asking. Not before, not after, not now.
The person who left us was not always like that and in the moment of this terrible act, she or he was not him- or herself any more. Especially depression I describe like cancer of the soul. At a certain point the organ is not working any more the way it should do. I am not accepting the entire stigmata around. Not to talk about suicide will make that people thinks: After one day nobody will talk again about it. The silence of the crowed and friends is responsible for own suicide thoughts and heavy depressions. Not enough feeling guilty for couldn´t do anything or why I have been away, not enough of thinking: I wasn´t worth and good enough to stay, to try it, to believe in our love, my help and many more – at the end and on top it is silence pointing the finger on me, you, us and telling: It´s your fault – I feel it like this – others do, some don´t.
Life is beautiful - let me proof it
I can´t help those who decided to left, I am not willing to slap so called friends every day into their faces for the betray of our friendship and because they don´t have the balls to say: I don´t know what to say but here I am, just let me hug you. But I can listen to those who are facing the same. I can help with my experience and my hands if things must be done and nobody is there to do it. And I can show with this crazy, big and for some stupid project: Look what is possible after the darkness and even in the middle of the night of your nightmare if you start walking, dreaming and hoping. Life is good, Life is worth to be lived, life is worth to fight for and life offers so many possibilities. Life is big, full of surprises and wonderful things. If I can give up my entire life, with no money and the only weapon will be my believe in life, in you and me – what small things you can do to light up your life and changing the world – your world to a better place. …… and no, I am not mother Theresa, I am just hurted and my heart and love is ripped in one million pieces and I want to cry out how fucking unfair everything is. For me it´s the only thing I can do, the only result after all: Helping – supporting and shout out: look what life can do – for you too. This is the why – that´s all.
I need your help on many levels
So, introducing the project somewhere on (your) websites, sharing it in your social networks and of course: planting a tree for the one you lost and any other support in any form – will create something very special. Footpath of Life and trees are one goal but the more important one is helping to point on possibilities for all kind of suicide prevention, -works and –projects.
Please support me – Footpath of Life is not something commercial – it is free. Find all the information at www.footpath-of-life.com. I will try to be with people who faced the darkest nightmare in all of our life. Loosing probably the most important person in life - forever. Most of us will face this sooner or later – let us stand together. Let me, let us do something different.
Thank you very much & and many greetings from Frankfurt