Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador in Lifestyle, beBee in English, Social Media beBee Brand Ambassador • beBee Affinity Social Network Nov 3, 2016 · 3 min read · 6.3K

What Happened to Nice?

What Happened to Nice?

I consider myself a simple soul, perhaps a little high maintenance because of my age but I am realistic with common sense goals. I grew up sheltered, an only child, always wishing for a brother or sister. I was not blessed with either but had many close friends.

I remember traveling with my parents to several U.S. states attending family reunions, visiting friends and taking in all our beautiful country has to offer along the way.

Times seemed more innocent then yet who knows if they really were. We weren’t exposed to 24/7 news like we are now, at least not from my point of view. Sure there was news and of course, some of it was bad but it was more reporting of news rather than the played out dramas of today. I’m so aghast at what I see on the news that I find it detrimental to my pursuit of happiness, therefore, I avoid it.

I don’t want to be one of those “back in the day” whiny types but damn it, somehow the world was a nicer place.

“I'm not the sort to wallow in nostalgia about the good old days”. 

Kabir Bedi

Okay, I got it – no whining but what has happened to “nice”? Nice, being defined as pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory; delightful, etc., which I found it overwhelmingly enjoyable during our stay in Blue Ridge, GA.

My husband and I spent a long weekend in Blue Ridge for Halloween, which is my favorite day of the year. I wanted to spend it in our favorite, quaint little mountain town because I feel as you get older there is less time to fulfill your dreams. I imagine a place where I can stand still and feel contentment within myself and move with the wind in the trees. Mark Twain’s quote resonates well with me.

"Don't wait.. The time will never be just right" 

Mark Twain

I find humans to be vibrational beings absorbing thoughts and feelings that surround them, thus sharing those same thoughts and feelings. The past and future etch lives with positive and negative happenings and it’s up to us to determine how to process and pass it on.

The little town of Blue Ridge has an aura about it and that is its vibrational beings readily share their niceness. A mere hello can have a profound impact and give one a real sense of community and belonging. Also, it’s a great way to connect with one another, don’t you agree?

Zig Ziglar once said, “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get what you want.”

Connecting with people is a great way to be engaged and interactive in face to face situations, as well as on social media.

This is why niceness is important in connecting because it is a must for building meaningful relationships. Please note the definition of niceness and let’s not make it into something it’s not. It’s not fakiness, insincerity, syrupy sweet gushiness, or empty non-caring chatter. This is my opinion and if you feel differently, then please share your views.

Personally, I have come across an abundance of niceness on beBee, thus the reason for my continued support of my fellow bees and the site, itself. Yeah, I hear you and no this is not a Rah Rah post because I have seen some crap on beBee, as well. From my POV, undesirable chatter and bullying wreaks of immaturity and shows a lack of self-confidence. Plus, it’s a terrible waste of time.

“Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.”

Laurence J Peter

The reason for my post is because I have strong feelings about keeping beBee safe and free of crap. Yes, this has been previously addressed by some of our most astute authors. which I am sharing their links as reminders of what to expect, how to deal with it in a wise and professional manner.

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Cory Galbraith

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"Why do so many people feel that giving someone respect is the same as surrendering to their ideologies?"

Kevin Pashuk

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"Look, we don't all have to think alike that is, bee like-minded in order to be part of a close-knit community that is in many ways mutually supportive. For mutual support is not comprised only of mutual agreement."

Phil Friedman

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Jim Murray

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"Toxic people are not always easy to spot. They can hide behind compliments, they can pose as friends ... "

Aurorasa Sima 


-Franci Eugenia Hoffman

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Thank you for sharing @Robin Barton. :)

Robert Bacal Feb 18, 2017 · #161

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#159 Thank you for your kind words, @Aurorasa Sima. I believe people can be more freely offensive when they can hide behind a computer screen.

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Aurorasa Sima Feb 4, 2017 · #159

I don´t know what happened to nice. I am not sure that through the internet more not-so-nice people developed, I think it´s more that people who would not dare to be offensive in real life can show their true colors anonymously.

As usual, you have provided us with a well-tailored, interesting read and I love your collection of posts and quotes - and I love that you are sharing a piece of your mind.

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#156 I agree, Ken. If we experience the "bad" every now and then, we may be more appreciative of the "nice". Plus, the words bad and nice most likely have different meanings to each and every one of us.

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#155 Thank you for commenting, Harvey. Interesting and if we come across rudeness, bullying, etc. we have the choice not to read it.

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Ken Boddie Jan 25, 2017 · #156

Like plain boiled rice,
I oft times suffice,
On a diet of 'nice'.
But as I get older,
I tend to get bolder,
And season with spice.
Now life's ups and downs,
Draw both frowns and clowns,
Please heed my advice.
We need good and bad,
Hilarious and sad,
Come let's throw the dice.
Perhaps we need to jump aboard life's roller coaster more often, Franci, if we're to be able to appreciate 'nice' once in a while?

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Harvey Lloyd Jan 24, 2017 · #155

Although i agree what does one do when confronted with, "From my POV, undesirable chatter and bullying wreaks of immaturity and shows a lack of self-confidence"?

I believe this will haunt the affinity network design. LI cages the user writer experience in an effort to control this aspect. Personal branding by nature will probably clash between brands. Being civil about it is a choice.

If you come across a solution though, write a book, no one else has figured it out yet. I am waiting for the Colorado experiment to complete. Better living through chemicals:)

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