Franci Eugenia Hoffman en Lifestyle, beBee in English, Social Media beBee Brand Ambassador • beBee Affinity Social Network 3/11/2016 · 3 min de lectura · 5,8K

What Happened to Nice?

What Happened to Nice?

I consider myself a simple soul, perhaps a little high maintenance because of my age but I am realistic with common sense goals. I grew up sheltered, an only child, always wishing for a brother or sister. I was not blessed with either but had many close friends.

I remember traveling with my parents to several U.S. states attending family reunions, visiting friends and taking in all our beautiful country has to offer along the way.

Times seemed more innocent then yet who knows if they really were. We weren’t exposed to 24/7 news like we are now, at least not from my point of view. Sure there was news and of course, some of it was bad but it was more reporting of news rather than the played out dramas of today. I’m so aghast at what I see on the news that I find it detrimental to my pursuit of happiness, therefore, I avoid it.

I don’t want to be one of those “back in the day” whiny types but damn it, somehow the world was a nicer place.

“I'm not the sort to wallow in nostalgia about the good old days”. 

Kabir Bedi

Okay, I got it – no whining but what has happened to “nice”? Nice, being defined as pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory; delightful, etc., which I found it overwhelmingly enjoyable during our stay in Blue Ridge, GA.

My husband and I spent a long weekend in Blue Ridge for Halloween, which is my favorite day of the year. I wanted to spend it in our favorite, quaint little mountain town because I feel as you get older there is less time to fulfill your dreams. I imagine a place where I can stand still and feel contentment within myself and move with the wind in the trees. Mark Twain’s quote resonates well with me.

"Don't wait.. The time will never be just right" 

Mark Twain

I find humans to be vibrational beings absorbing thoughts and feelings that surround them, thus sharing those same thoughts and feelings. The past and future etch lives with positive and negative happenings and it’s up to us to determine how to process and pass it on.

The little town of Blue Ridge has an aura about it and that is its vibrational beings readily share their niceness. A mere hello can have a profound impact and give one a real sense of community and belonging. Also, it’s a great way to connect with one another, don’t you agree?

Zig Ziglar once said, “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get what you want.”

Connecting with people is a great way to be engaged and interactive in face to face situations, as well as on social media.

This is why niceness is important in connecting because it is a must for building meaningful relationships. Please note the definition of niceness and let’s not make it into something it’s not. It’s not fakiness, insincerity, syrupy sweet gushiness, or empty non-caring chatter. This is my opinion and if you feel differently, then please share your views.

Personally, I have come across an abundance of niceness on beBee, thus the reason for my continued support of my fellow bees and the site, itself. Yeah, I hear you and no this is not a Rah Rah post because I have seen some crap on beBee, as well. From my POV, undesirable chatter and bullying wreaks of immaturity and shows a lack of self-confidence. Plus, it’s a terrible waste of time.

“Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.”

Laurence J Peter

The reason for my post is because I have strong feelings about keeping beBee safe and free of crap. Yes, this has been previously addressed by some of our most astute authors. which I am sharing their links as reminders of what to expect, how to deal with it in a wise and professional manner.


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On Trees, Trolls, Trust and Truth  

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Phil Friedman

https://www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/on-trees-trolls-trust-and-truth

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Jim Murray

https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jim-murray/trolls-just-like-cockroaches-but-much-easier-to-control

Toxic and destructive people and why I am "missing"

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Aurorasa Sima

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Cheers!

-Franci Eugenia Hoffman

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Franci Eugenia Hoffman Hace 4 d · #154

#153 I agree, Max. I thought of more appropriate titles after I wrote the post.

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Max Carter Hace 4 d · #153

I think when I look at the concept of nice and life, I can't help but to feel that life isn't always nice even when it is being kind.

To me the fundamental difference between nice and kind is honesty.

Nice will let one be silent instead of honest in the interest of being nice. Kindness will say something honest because sometimes being nice is being cruel and allowing suffering to continue or be perpetuated which leads to suffering be inflicted on others as well.

Kindness is honesty in all things as it is unkind and cruel to lie for any reason even if its to be nice based on my experience.

Compassion is similar in action. As is mercy. . This is why I often say that I am nice until it is time to be kind, you know honest.

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Lisa Gallagher Hace 4 d · #152

#106 Thanks @Jared Wiese and your right, most people are good. As for those who have rotten egos, it's become easy for me to ignore. My health means a lot to me ha ha. Toxic people attract other toxic people. Those of us who are sensitive to toxins know when it's healthy to just back off and stay away. :))

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Gerald Hecht 9/11/2016 · #151

#150 @Franci Eugenia Hoffman I will comment (albeit awkwardly) out of plain good manners (I was brought up that way; and, for the first few decades of my life anyway, was actually known amongst my friends and family as "Mr. Manners"); regarding anything I post or comment on, however, they are usually "stand alone/RES IPSA LOQUITUR thingies" --unless explicitly requesting engagement or posing queries, etc. I do however often read followup responses, and sometimes join in a discussion, if it seems necessary

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Franci Eugenia Hoffman 8/11/2016 · #150

#141 Thank you, @Graham Edwards. I feel the same way. Gerald's contributions are very worthy.

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Franci Eugenia Hoffman 8/11/2016 · #149

#128 Hey, @Gerald Hecht, don't you read your own work? 😀 Your comments are also quite entertaining. Don't ever underestimate yourself.

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Gerald Hecht 8/11/2016 · #148

#140 *an epic (typo --not grammatical ignorance)

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Christine Stevens 8/11/2016 · #147

#145 When I've needed to vote early, I use two words. "DC traffic"

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