Graham🐝 Edwards en Lifestyle, Communications and journalism, beBee in English Consulting Principal • GPEStratagem 11/11/2016 · 1 min de lectura · 3,1K

Anger or reflection... which would you choose?

In one of my more philosophical moments the other night, I happened to mention that I remember hearing about an ancient oriental philosophy that says, "If a valuable glass breaks you should not be angry with it being broken, but instead reflect on all the times you enjoyed the glass before it broke"... or something to that effect. 

The discussion admittedly was around how hard doing that can be.

Anger or reflection... which would you choose?

Afterwards, recalling the discussion and racking my brain as to where I had heard about my so-called oriental philosophy (and if it was in fact even real), I did what any inquisitive person would do... I turned to the Internet.

I was not able to validate my oriental philosophy of "reflecting on all the times you enjoyed the glass before it broke", but I did discover Kintsugi.

Something that as an art form is simply beautiful, and as a philosophy is simply marvellous.

Kintsugi is a Japanese philosophy (and art) that treats "breakage" as part of the history of an object, and not something to be thrown away or disguised; it is illustrated by repairing broken pottery with lacquer mixed with gold, silver, or platinum.* Getting back to those philosophical discussions from the other night, Kintsugi would have been a nice addition because some of the talk was about the scrapes, scars and breaks that are part of our journey; literally and figuratively. 

As I reflect more on recent discussions, as well as newly found philosophies, it all seems to be one big fat allegory for working through the trials and tribulations of life.

  • Things in life break, both figuratively and literally; objects, situations, relationships and even people. Reflection offers a far more positive energy, whereas anger offers nothing but the negative form... intuitively and practically, we all know anything positive is the way to go.
  • When things break, they can be put back together. By definition, the very act of being repaired makes it different, but that doesn't mean it will to be any less beautiful.
  • The scrapes, scars, and breaks that come with the journey of life should be celebrated... they are part of who we are, and that is a beautiful thing. We all have stories to share and celebrate.
  • Kintsugi in an allegorical sense, like being reflective, is not easy but can be done, and must be a conscious choice. With patience, skill and desire, something wonderful can come from all those pieces.

So for me, I choose "reflection". Just look what happens when you add some "discussion" and access to the Internet.


* Many thanks to the Internet and Wikipedia for helping me discover Kintsugi.

Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #35

Thanks @CityVP Manjit... appreciation is also a good word.

CityVP 🐝 Manjit 13/11/2016 · #34

#31 Dear Graham, I say learn to go into our anger for emotion is always sending us a message that we do not hear, yes we feel the emotion but do not hear it. Thus instead of anger or reflection I offer anger AND appreciation. Appreciation has the kind of depth to it that enjoyment does not have and in the context of kintsugi, that depth can be termed spiritual, and in learning about kintsugi I now see how that this very appreciation invigorates the imagination and thus take us from this depth that is spiritual to the physicality of the beautiful - and here I see in the kintsugi craft a great profundity - a flow of artistry from spiritual to physical.

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Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #33

#13 Thanks for your comment @Franci Eugenia Hoffman

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Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #32

#12 Thanks for the comment @Tony Rossi. Yes, we are bigger than a single moment... but then again some moments can be very big.

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Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #31

#10 Thanks of the comments @CityVP Manjit. My point was that when something breaks it is better to reflect on all the enjoyment you got out of what was broken instead of getting angry that it is broken. You offer other interesting perspectives... thanks.

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Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #30

#11 Thanks for the comment @David Lisle. That was my intent.. reflect on all the joy, etc that came with what was broken... not get angry (or reflect) on the fact it is now broken.

Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #29

#9 Thanks for the comment @Pamela L. Williams... it is our unique character that makes us special and gives us the ability to do anything.

Graham🐝 Edwards 13/11/2016 · #28

#8 Thanks for the comment @Lisa Gallagher

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