Graham Edwards in Lifestyle, beBee in English, Writers Consulting Principal • GPEStratagem Sep 20, 2016 · 1 min read · 2.2K

Everything new starts with an introduction...

Everything new has a first; a beginning; an introduction. The other day I was reminded of how fast and important this can be. 

 Everything new starts with an introduction...Among the other things I have on the go, I am helping my father re-organize his home (a fun and wild adventure I might add).  As a carpet installer arrived to give an estimate, we were outside enjoying the day. He walked up to us, introduced himself and shook our hands; he then mentioned he had to run back to his truck and get his carpet samples. 

When he was out of earshot my father looked at me and said, "I like him. What do you think?"

It seems, as we stood there enjoying the day looking to buy some carpet, my father validated an article by Eric Wargo entitled How Many Seconds to a First Impression. Who would have guessed.

"A series of experiments by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov reveal that all it takes is a tenth of a second to form an impression of a stranger from their face, and that longer exposures don’t significantly alter those impressions (although they might boost your confidence in your judgments)"

From the article "First Impressions" in Psychological Science

My father was right... Woody was an expert in flooring, honest with his appraisal and his assessment; it turned out there was no need for a new carpet. He said the existing carpet was very high quality, just needed to be re-installed, cleaned, and would be as good as new. We all wholeheartedly agree and liked Woody very much. 

Anything new will involve an introduction to someone, and most likely many "someones" - In this age of the avatar, we are becoming masters of image control, branding ourselves and managing the degrees of separation between ourselves and others; an inescapable fact though is that anything new, important, worthwhile and significant needs to be done face to face. Don't shy away from it.

If you want to practice your introductions, just introduce yourself to everyone you meet... start networking formally and informally. I can guarantee you will meet new and interesting people that will lead to new and interesting opportunities.

And you might as well just be yourself.

As per the research by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov (and validated by my father), impressions will be made very quickly so you might as well be yourself up front. Don't assume people are so easily fooled... it's a survival trait we've picked up over the millennia.

Also, the reality is sometimes a person's impression of you will not be a good one. Like it or not, it is just the way it is. As they say, "You can be the ripest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches" - Sad but true; just respectfully move on.

It just dawned on me I have been remiss with introducing myself, "Hello, my name is Graham Paul Edwards" 


Graham Edwards Sep 23, 2016 · #8

#7 Thanks for the note @Renée Cormier. I know exactly what you mean!

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Renée Cormier Sep 23, 2016 · #7

I get a very strong sense of who people are at their core as soon as I meet people and I've learned to rely heavily on my intuition. I find it interesting how we can either instantly like or dislike, people without knowing them at all. It sounds crazy, but I often feel like I can see right inside people's souls. Some are scary, others are positively beautiful, but most are just average.

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Graham Edwards Sep 20, 2016 · #6

#3 Thanks for your comment @Mary Kurek.... it is very nice to meet you.

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Graham Edwards Sep 20, 2016 · #5

#2 Thanks for your comment @Edith PR.

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Graham Edwards Sep 20, 2016 · #4

#1 Thanks very much for the comment Ella de @Ella de Jong. I am glad I good help and thanks for the feedback on my writing. The marketing side of me is also curious about the impressions we leave (on-line or in the real world). I think the worst impressions come when someone is trying to fake it, which is perceived to be easier on-line for some reason; I think we figure it out pretty quickly in cyber too. I think being true to one's self makes everything much easier... and successful.

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Mary Kurek Sep 20, 2016 · #3

Good reminder of first impressions and "sizing people up." I find there is an importance of seeming approachable when starting virtual relationships. And, Graham -- I'm Mary.

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Edith PR Sep 20, 2016 · #2

Hello! Yes, totally agree. Maybe you don`t have time, state of mind, enough space, for a lot of content or conclusion, but certainly Introduction should be there. And start with a greeting.

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Ella de Jong Sep 20, 2016 · #1

Wonderful @Graham Edwards just what I needed!
I like the length of this very much and I think it is beautifully written.
A great example for me!!
PS I'm curious about the impressions we leave behind online :-)

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