Graham Edwards in Lifestyle, beBee in English, Writers Consulting Principal • GPEStratagem Sep 26, 2016 · 2 min read · 1.8K

Five good friends and Mary Margaret Edwards.

Behind the curtain and under the harsh fluorescent lighting I heard my mother had had a heart attack; a clot had also formed in her heart, went to her brain, and caused a stroke, and for good measure fluid was building up in her lungs and she had slight pneumonia. We all agreed Mary Margaret Edwards was having a very bad day. 

Five good friends and Mary Margaret Edwards.We held whispered conversations in dull tones as medicine was translated into layman terms, the situation clarified for understanding, and philosophies bigger than ourselves discussed; all the while hoping (and praying) Mary Margaret Edwards could not hear the conspiracy that was unfolding. 

The late summer night air was unusually hot and heavy, and as we quietly walked to the car, we were left with our thoughts and the culpability of the decision to offer no further intervention, and let nature take its course.

                                                        Mary Margaret Edwards
                                             (March 2, 1933 - September 13, 2016)

Mary Margaret Edwards passed peacefully September 13, 2016. 

Stoically, Mary took life on the chin, and true to her character, has asked not to be a bother or inconvenience anyone. Her only request was the reading of the 23rd Psalm. 

The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want. 
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: 
He leadeth me beside the still waters. 
He restoreth my soul: 
He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for His name' sake. 
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, 
I will fear no evil: For thou art with me; 
Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me. 
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies; 
Thou annointest my head with oil; My cup runneth over. 
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, 
and I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever. 

Mary will be cremated and there will be a private family ceremony. 

Mary Margaret Edwards now dwells in the house of the Lord forever, along with her daughter:    Angels both. 

Death is a surprisingly administrative enterprise as you work through a person's last will and testament, consolidate things, distribute memories, remove a person's name from the ledgers of everyday life, and leave a marker behind to battle with the passage of time.

Shortly after Mary Margaret's death an invitation came my way to join friends at a cottage and take advantage of the last breath of summer; at this time of year, the air is cool, the sunshine is warm, and surprisingly, the water is warm enough for a mid day swim. I immediately said yes.

Five good friends were able to make it; two of them I have known since grade school. As we greeted each other with hands extended, one of my oldest friends hugged us all instead. It was a recognition and reminder that our friendships deserved more than just a simple handshake... at least this was how I interpreted this simple act as I hugged him back with the greatest of appreciation.

There was some talk of Mary Margaret Edwards but much of the weekend consisted of sharing the current events in our lives, laughter, the odd swim, prideful stories of our children, and the memories that come with a lifetime of friendship. It was a very good weekend by all measures and ended with hugs all around as we went our separate ways.

Mary Margaret Edwards will rest in peace and our friendships will continue.

Life goes on, as it should.


Graham Edwards Sep 29, 2016 · #15

#14 Thank you for your kind wishes Lisa @Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher Sep 28, 2016 · #14

Deepest Sympathies @Graham Edwards. What a nice tribute to your mom. The 23rd Psalm was my grandmother's favorite. I'm glad you had a nice weekend at the lake with your friends, that always helps the mind to be around others! My mom passed away in January of this year and I understand the void you must be feeling. As they say, it takes time and it differs for everyone when it comes to the loss of a loved one. I still have days I want to call her and share stories with her. I don't think we ever stop missing them but we do move on! Best wishes to you Graham!

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Harvey Lloyd Sep 28, 2016 · #13

#8 I grew businesses with the deep concept mom and dad would catch me if i fell. I then surpassed their understanding of my businesses and new they could no longer catch me. A sad day. Now i am beginning to realize i am about to become them. I am the person who is suppose to be wise and understanding of my children and grandchildren. Although an honor i just asoon they kept on trucking with those duties. Enjoy your journey.

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Graham Edwards Sep 28, 2016 · #12

#6 Thank you for the comment @Mohammad Azam Khan... yes, to your point, "may it be good"!

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Graham Edwards Sep 28, 2016 · #11

#5 Thanks for the note @Laura Mikolaitis and your comment is a reminder to share the hugs more often !!!

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Graham Edwards Sep 28, 2016 · #10

#4 Thanks for the note @Gert Scholtz... you are right how someone's passing brings us all together; I particularly like when it's a celebration of a "life lived" and "life still to be lived".

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Graham Edwards Sep 28, 2016 · #9

#3 Thanks for the note @Renée Cormier... yes I think mom 'did good"... lol

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Graham Edwards Sep 28, 2016 · #8

#2 Thank you very much for your note @Harvey Lloyd... "passing the torch"; I really like that !

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