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I get it, we're all smart...

I get it, we're all smart...

I know a very savvy leader who once started a meeting by saying, "I get it, we're all smart... let's get over it." I found it funny, profound and it set a tone that I had rarely heard before. 

f1ce9455.jpgIn one simple statement he created a PUSH for everyone in the room. He created common ground, checked egos at the door and reminded us that we wouldn't be at the meeting if we weren't smart, skilled and of value to the company (For those who are not familiar with the term PUSH, it is used in Blackjack when the value of the player's hand is the same as the dealer's; this is considered a tie with no winner or loser, and all bets are returned). 

But it isn't always a PUSH in the real world as we all know those people who simply set themselves apart. Why is that? More often than not, somewhere on their list of qualities will be "Trustworthiness"... the firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone (or something). 

When you tear away all the formal structure, governance and process of business, you are left with a group of relationships; be it internally among employees or externally with customers. And like all relationships, the best ones are built on a foundation of "trust". As the old African saying goes: 

                   

                      "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." 


We all gravitate to those people that we can "trust" because they do what they say, are honest in their pursuits, and genuine; in the end they get the work done correctly, done on time and as promised. "Trustworthiness" serves a person very well and it is something we should strive for... but here is the thing, it alone will not guarantee a strong business relationship. 

You can go fast with trustworthiness but if you want to go far, you need "Mutual Trustworthiness"; it is the knowledge and belief there will be reciprocity. This will build real relationships and create the "runway needed" to make great things happen. In the end, it becomes important to understand mutual levels of trustworthiness and how they are aligned; some will be evident though action and some will have to be taken on a little bit of faith.   

  • As individuals, we should ask ourselves what characteristics make us "Trustworthy".
  • As leaders, we should ask what aspects of "Trustworthiness" do we want to foster on our teams.
  • Overall we have to ask, "Does Mutual Trustworthiness exist in our business relationships?"

Symbolically, when you shake someone's hand you are saying, "Trust me, I have no weapons", but do you know what else does your handshake should say?  

"Trust me, I will help you go far".

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www.gpestratagem.com 


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Comments

Kevin Pashuk

7 years ago #5

#6
Contrarian is good if it brings all points of view to the table. Contrarian is bad if you think, like this fellow, that your job is to criticize, condemn, and complain.

Graham🐝 Edwards

7 years ago #4

#3
Thanks for the comment Sharon Fulgenzi... it is very much appreciated.

Graham🐝 Edwards

7 years ago #3

#2
Thanks for the comment ... I agree there are situations that can be "dog eat dog" and my experience is momentum seems to occur around those who can be trusted. If you are referring to people being "trusting", I think of that old adage that trust needs to be earned. Definitely a reminder to all those who lead.

Graham🐝 Edwards

7 years ago #2

#1
Thanks for the comment Kevin Pashuk and "borrow away". I will admit I like the contrarian if that person is moving the process ahead in a positive way and helping to create a better outcome.

Kevin Pashuk

7 years ago #1

I may borrow this phrase to start a meeting Graham Edwards. Nice succinct post that brings out the potential that can be gained when we seek to work together, rather than at odds. You reminded of meetings I've been part of. A group of people were working hard to get a brand new medical school up and running, but one individual was always crapping on any idea that was raised. Finally he was challenged as to why he did this. His reply? "I'm an academic. My job is to criticize, condemn and complain." He was serious. Seriously wrong, however. He wasn't on the team much longer after that. BTW - I'm not disparaging academics... but the mindset he had. Stephen Covey said it best when he mentioned that we are to help sharpen the saw in others. Your post points that out well.

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