Ian Weinberg in Writers, Human Resources Professionals, English Developer and facilitator of neuromodulation program. Practicing neurosurgeon. • Netcare Linksfield Hospital Aug 28, 2017 · 1 min read · 2.6K



Sorry to pop your bubble but there’s no justice in the world. Never has been and never will be. You see, the most important determinants that went into making who you are and what you do were made without consulting you – your nature-nurture heritage. And before you could shout out “it’s not fair” you were let loose as an independent soul into the big bad world.

They told you that the things to strive for were money, influence and fame - that this would ultimately determine your level of happiness. To get there you needed to get smart by studying and then working hard. And so you studied and worked your butt-off in what became the tedium of daily life. But only a few made heaps of money and even less became famous.

And every now and then there was a downturn in the economy or in your industry or you lost interest in what you were doing and blew out. Sometimes you recovered but sometimes you just couldn’t get traction again. You moved on to another place in another space and kick-started the engines but you really just ticked over on two of the four cylinders for a long time ... sometimes for the rest of your life. But sometimes providence smiled upon you and you lived happily ever after, most of the time.

Yes indeed, many good souls died young and poor while many nasty buggers became rich and famous and lived long soulless lives . But there were also some decent folk who became rich and famous and some pretty evil creeps that died young. And many of the rich and famous were not very happy, although many were. And not all the paupers were hopelessly unhappy, although many were.

Then it dawned on you that you couldn’t make successful people out of unsuccessful people, most of the time, nor could you create leaders out of those that just couldn’t lead, irrespective of what the coaches said! You couldn’t change those who couldn’t or wouldn’t change. You also couldn’t make the unhealthy, healthy. And then you learnt how to prolong life for those that wanted to prolong life but also for those who had given up on life. You inflicted life upon their wretchedness and prevented the candle from gently blowing out in the wind.

And so fellow mortals let me share my peace with you. We are who we are and will be so until our end. Seek not afar or too deeply within, for your salvation lies in simple things. Be curious and embrace that which gratifies you. If gratification is only about money and fame or even about killing then you will live by it and die by it and so it is done, for the die was cast a long time ago. My hope for you is that deep within your narrative a subtle light of awareness glows, that gratification is sweeter when we connect with life, support it and nurture it. Then shall the light illuminate your path and the paths of many others.

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Lada 🏡 Prkic Sep 13, 2018 · #32

Ian, I would say that you didn't pop my bubble. I'm not rich and not a pauper, studied, work hard, never become famous, but I can say that I'm satisfied with my life. There is nothing wrong with accepting and being content living an average life. Love is a necessary ingredient. :-)
"Seek not afar or too deeply within, for your salvation lies in simple things." My thoughts also.

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Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris Sep 12, 2018 · #31

"The presence of injustice somewhere is a threat to justice everywhere..." - Martin Luther King Jr.

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Phil Friedman Sep 12, 2018 · #30

#29 The scary thing about getting older, @Ian Weinberg, is that my daughters, who used to groan and faux barf when I told my jokes (mostly puns) are starting these days to laugh. Cheers!

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Ian Weinberg Sep 12, 2018 · #29

#28 Thanks Phil. You’re spot-on with that - the avenging bit! But also with my aging - Just reached an important milestone: I seem to be repeating the same jokes to the same guys - and I’m laughing more than they are!

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Phil Friedman Sep 12, 2018 · #28

@Ian Weinberg, I find wisdom these days in many of the things you say. Maybe, that means simply you're getting older :-). But then, again, perhaps not. When you say, "... gratification is sweeter when we connect with life, support it and nurture it ...", I see that as a pearl. I might add, don't let the bastards get you down, the sweetest revenge is making it to the next day. Cheers!

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Ian Weinberg Sep 12, 2018 · #27

#26 Absolutely Ken. Where there’s life, there’s hope.

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Ken Boddie Sep 12, 2018 · #26

A year on, Ian, and the conclusions are the same. There may be no happy ever after, but life with hope is a bloody good elixir.

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Ian Weinberg Sep 12, 2018 · #25

#24 Thanks for the kind words @Praveen Raj Gullepalli Indeed it is what it is - we are asked merely to contribute a little value to the mix.🙏