Ian Weinberg en Writers, Human Resources Professionals, English Developer and facilitator of neuro-coaching program. Neurosurgeon in practice • NeuroSurge - neuromodulation 28/8/2017 · 1 min de lectura · 1,9K

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Sorry to pop your bubble but there’s no justice in the world. Never has been and never will be. You see, the most important determinants that went into making who you are and what you do were made without consulting you – your nature-nurture heritage. And before you could shout out “it’s not fair” you were let loose as an independent soul into the big bad world.

They told you that the things to strive for were money, influence and fame - that this would ultimately determine your level of happiness. To get there you needed to get smart by studying and then working hard. And so you studied and worked your butt-off in what became the tedium of daily life. But only a few made heaps of money and even less became famous.

And every now and then there was a downturn in the economy or in your industry or you lost interest in what you were doing and blew out. Sometimes you recovered but sometimes you just couldn’t get traction again. You moved on to another place in another space and kick-started the engines but you really just ticked over on two of the four cylinders for a long time ... sometimes for the rest of your life. But sometimes providence smiled upon you and you lived happily ever after, most of the time.

Yes indeed, many good souls died young and poor while many nasty buggers became rich and famous and lived long soulless lives . But there were also some decent folk who became rich and famous and some pretty evil creeps that died young. And many of the rich and famous were not very happy, although many were. And not all the paupers were hopelessly unhappy, although many were.

Then it dawned on you that you couldn’t make successful people out of unsuccessful people, most of the time, nor could you create leaders out of those that just couldn’t lead, irrespective of what the coaches said! You couldn’t change those who couldn’t or wouldn’t change. You also couldn’t make the unhealthy, healthy. And then you learnt how to prolong life for those that wanted to prolong life but also for those who had given up on life. You inflicted life upon their wretchedness and prevented the candle from gently blowing out in the wind.

And so fellow mortals let me share my peace with you. We are who we are and will be so until our end. Seek not afar or too deeply within, for your salvation lies in simple things. Be curious and embrace that which gratifies you. If gratification is only about money and fame or even about killing then you will live by it and die by it and so it is done, for the die was cast a long time ago. My hope for you is that deep within your narrative a subtle light of awareness glows, that gratification is sweeter when we connect with life, support it and nurture it. Then shall the light illuminate your path and the paths of many others.

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🐝 Fatima G. Williams 26/10/2017 · #22

"We are who we are and will be so until our end. Seek not afar or too deeply within, for your salvation lies in simple things!" - Dr. Ian Weinberg
This buzz shall be the light that illuminates your path and the paths of many others. A MUST READ

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Ian Weinberg 3/9/2017 · #21

#20Ken, the revised edition oath is overdue. We're running out of empathy band-width!

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Ken Boddie 3/9/2017 · #20

Funny, Ian, how a comfortably slowing stress reduced pace, a well fed belly, a stockpile of funds, and a career where many goals have been accomplished, has permitted me to be more keenly aware of the toils of life and to dwell on gratification. As a healer who has the modern day tools of "prolonging" and in some cases "inflicting" life, I do not envy you the ethical dilemma of your hippocratic oath.

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#17 I do sense there is a rise in creatives, interest in being creative, business people seeking out creative people for inspiration. Creative people often pursue there creativity without pursuing money, but we also need money to live.
I agree with you @Ian Weinberg about many of your comments re: we can not change people, but we are sold we can. We can only change ourselves and as someone who has been on a path of personal awareness for a very long time, I know how difficult it is to change. We can become more aware and we can still do things that may sabotage ourselves. I am not into mass consumerism. There is so much time in life when not into mass consumerism. If we do not spend time seeking out things to buy, wanting things, shopping on line or face to face, there is much time to spend being human. I personally love cooking and having meals with great conversation with family and friends. I agree there is much need for us to spend time on being human.

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Brian McKenzie 31/8/2017 · #18

Getting Married and having children has never been on my sheet of things I wanted - not once, not ever.
So to hear the grand purpose of life is to breed and buy shit is utterly depressing.
Thoreau is turning over in his grave at what we have become.

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Robert Cormack 30/8/2017 · #17

I've sat through two many dinner parties where the topic of conversation has been acquisition (these days it's medicine, shows our age). A return to creativity and individualism would be nice but highly unlikely. As I noticed at Walmart yesterday, buying stuff has replaced any need for self awareness.#16

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Ian Weinberg 30/8/2017 · #16

#15 A very important and pivotal question Robert. My belief is that this consumer driven age, facilitated by the media, has given rise to a collective which for the most part has lost its connection to its humanness. And while we’ve gained in all the wonders of a high tech environment, the price has been a general reduction of individual creativity in the collective to a programmed homogenate. The status quo is perpetuated by the powerful conglomerates who are the major beneficiaries of this consumeristic environment. Life for the most part has become a consumeristic chase which has crowded out a great deal of curiosity, genuine engagement and creativity. And then there’s the fear of being seen to be different. I guess my own saving grace was that from a very early age I began to question the validity of things. The result has been that I’ve bucked the trend in everything – in my personal life, my professional life, in the sciences and beyond. Several hundred years ago I would have been burnt at the stake as a heretic! My hope is that there will be a reaction to this consumeristic mediocrity and that a new renaissance will emerge of curious and creative folk with renewed connections to their humanness.

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Robert Cormack 30/8/2017 · #15

I've always felt that happiness is tied to how we amaze ourselves (not other people). I wrote about this at one time, thinking people would respond, saying, "I know what you mean!" Instead, I had one woman write: ""You get married, you have kids, you feed them, educate them, job done." I never realized before how this is an "end goal" for so many people. I also wrote that I went back through my family history, learning about ancestors saving the tomes from Cromwell, crowning Queen Victoria, overseeing the writing of the Bishop's Bible, writing Latin encyclopedias—bringing trades to the New World. I felt tiny by comparison, and somewhat embarrassed. Have we really become so "settled" in the "end goal" of just getting by, having families, saying "Job Done!"? Have we lost that need to amaze ourselves? Do we no longer want to make a contribution to this world outside of "getting by" and having children? I honestly don't know the answer to this, Ian. You've obviously done so much in your life. I'd really like to know your opinion on this.

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