Jayita Neogi en Publishers & Bloggers, Writers, Bloggers Content Writer • Solomo media 13/6/2018 · 2 min de lectura · +700

When You Are a Femenist and End Up Not Getting a Date

When You Are a Femenist and End Up Not Getting a DateWhenever a man hears that the girl he is approaching is a hardcore feminist he practically runs to the other direction. Well, I really sometimes want to know what they fear of, that they would debunk their thinking about women or they would make them feel guilty about their mentality. In India, the scenario is something very different as per me, it is not only the men who fear feminism but the society in whole does so. I fail to understand the reason.

During a healthy debate with my best friend who happens to be a man, I raised my concerns that is when he told me that mostly people think that feminism means prejudice against men and that is the reason they fear the word leave alone the concept. Well, I want to tell them that feminism is only a term for equality, irrespective of gender and debunking the stereotype. It is a concept that just claims equality among men and women in all aspects of life.

I know most of you are familiar with the age-old concept of 'ladies first' well, as per me this concept should be eliminated as men and women are equal and by applying this concept men aren't being gentlemen rather it is a way to show that women and men are different thus, should be treated differently. I do not believe so and there are many others who have the same believes as mine and we are those feminist that men usually fear to date.

There is no trick to identify a feminist as they do not come with a sign around their neck but when you end up dating one you might want to keep an open mind because there is a lot that you can learn from a feminist girlfriend if you want to. And you might just be surprised to realize that you were also a feminist deep down your heart. Here are some points to remember:

Feminism Have Many Forms But The Ideology Is Same:

Like I mentioned earlier feminism is all about equality and raising above stereotypes. There are no special requirements needed to be a feminist, you can become a feminist whenever you want it is just a belief or rather a mentality. But if you are dating a feminist you must pursue her only after you have got rid of ideas like women cannot be in the army as I can bet she would not forbid you from making a meal or doing the dishes.

Be Prepared, She Might Just Challenge All Those False Beliefs Of Yours:

Healthy debates about various topics are good among couples but when you pick the topic feminism to be extra careful as she might just challenge all your false believes which might lead to a terrible quarrel and you do not want that so, just do your research on it before speaking. I would say it is good to have such a girlfriend as you would get into the habit of think before you speak and that would just save you from embarrassing yourself in public.

Get Rid Of All Those Clichés:

When you have a feminist for a girlfriend you should never feel shy to hold her bag in the public if she has too many things in her hand or even at her supermarket when she is pushing the trolley that does not have a bag holder. Well, I am certainly not saying that she would show big eyes for holding the door for her or offering her a seat on a crowded bus or public transport but that does not mean you feel embarrassed or tell her it is a man’s job when she does that same for you, we are still talking about equality here.

Respect Her Determination:

If you love your career and want a partner who would respect that then you should date a feminist as they are very determinate and passionate about their career. You would usually see them working overtime without complaint. They do so out of respect for themselves and they would totally understand your career commitments as they have them too. Doesn’t such a determination and understanding deserve respect.

Men Privileges Do Exist:

There are many men who complain that with the changing demographics more privileges are being given to women and men are somewhere being outcast. Well, then I would suggest to date a feminist as they would show you that those men privileges do exist as they would always find a way to debunk every unfair advantage women have over men in everyday life.

You Won’t Offend Her By Paying For Her:

You are out on a date or a coffee and you want to get the bill, then just go ahead and get it as you will not offend her by doing so as she knows you respect her and you are doing so out of love nothing else. But if she wants to get the bill then just don’t argue with her.

Jayita Neogi 18/6/2018 · #6

#3 There is no doubt it is high time that people accept that we are not second best.

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Jayita Neogi 18/6/2018 · #5

#4 Thank you so much for supporting this

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Bill King 17/6/2018 · #4

Thank you for sharing the buzz Jayita Neogi. I was scrolling by and happened to see the first comment. Your post is relevant and the point you made " But if you are dating a feminist you must pursue her only after you have got rid of ideas like women cannot be in the army as I can bet she would not forbid you from making a meal or doing the dishes." is spot on. I served in the US Navy for years side by side with woman that wore the same uniform I wore. They did the same job, had the same knowledge and took the same risks. I can not accept Mr. McKenzie's comment. What we accept we promote.

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Claire L Cardwell 16/6/2018 · #3

Well said @Jayita Neogi - it's high time that women had equal rights, especially when it comes to getting the same pay for the same job.

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Jayita Neogi 15/6/2018 · #2

#1 Are you the brand ambassador of Some men are idiots committe?

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Brian McKenzie 15/6/2018 · #1

Why are feminists dating men at all? Haven't y'all ranted for 40+ years that "Women need men like a fish needs a bicycle" ?
The logical man, would do well to avoid them.....and as you can't tell which woman could be a feminist, it is just safer to avoid them all ~ especially in the #MeToo era.

#PenceRules #MGTOW #ZFG

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