Jennifer Leach-Trask en Leadership, Entrepreneurs, Bloggers President • Jennifer Grant International 28/10/2018 · 2 min de lectura · 3,0K


HOW TO HANDLE YOUR FEAR OF SUCCESSMarilyn Monroe & Her Demons-Vanity Fair 

A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog on Imposters Syndrome which Wikipedia defines is a psychological pattern in which a person doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Fear of success was first diagnosed in the 1970s by psychologist Matina Horner. This phobia affects both men and women, and it's very similar to a fear of failure and people who suffer from impostor's syndrome.

When I think back on my life and career, I think that others would regard me as being successful. I believe I was respected and admired in the work positions I held or at least I hope so. I have a wonderful family who has supported me in every endeavour I have undertaken and I have a long list of friends who care about me as much as I care about them. To be honest ( like I tend to be in my blogs), I have always been very terrified of success in the literal sense.

I have worried and stressed that anything good that happens to me may not last, or maybe I am just lucky. I have even thought that I haven’t worked hard enough to be truly successful. Crazy stuff like that! If you are afflicted by a fear of success, you can take solace that you are not alone. Fear of success is easy to miss because it looks a lot like procrastination and insecurity. Some of the things you may have plaguing your mind are:

What if I don’t actually want the spotlight on me?

You might observe and admire the success of others, but you are not comfortable with the spotlight being on you. Maybe you are worried that if you manage the spotlight, it will end up disappearing.

What if attracting a larger following brings out all the critics and mean people.

When you work within smaller confines and audiences, even your failed attempts will be met with support from people that know you and care about you. The more successful and bigger you get the more people who are not part of your tribe may start to throw stones at you. Not rational but it feels real.

What if, when the time comes, I won’t deliver?

This fear is not about a lack of actual skill, it's about feeling you will fall short of the mark. You imagine the worst-case scenario and decide it’s much safer not to put yourself out there.

The Impostor Syndrome can sneak in. 

Despite your indisputable track record of accomplishments, you’re afraid that you’re going to be exposed as a fraud.  You think everything was just luck, or you barely managed to pull it off, and you’re afraid that you won’t do it this time and everyone will know. So, you keep yourself in a holding pattern of doing safe, low-profile, undemanding, boring work.  Even as you look to the next level and long to be there.

4:  I am scared that success will turn me into something I don’t want to be. 

Sometimes, fear of success comes from having certain ideas about successful people.  Like: You know someone who became successful and then started being really snobby. You want to stay being a nice person even if it means forfeiting success.

5. I’m worried that if I become successful, I won’t have time for the things I do now.

You may have to spend a lot more time doing technical things that make the corner of your right eye twitch. I had a twitch in my right eye for over a year and I thought it was caused by wearing my swim goggles too tight. Good lord!

6:  And finally, I don’t actually want things to change.”

Running a fully successful business might require you to do a totally different set of things.  Installing and using new programs, hiring assistants, writing new contracts, meeting new people, mastering new skills, trying new marketing avenues, and the list goes on.

And now my advice. Be positive and confident, negative thoughts are for fear and self-doubt. Continually remind yourself that you are part of something larger than you. ...Take time to find and maintain your authenticity. Never stop learning. Live in balance and embrace your success. You have earned it. "He is able who thinks he is able.” ~Buddha

Jennifer Leach-Trask 7/12/2018 · #21

#8 Dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, Thank you for reading my buzz on the Fear of Success. I think you found one of the deep layers associated with the fear of success and you stated it very eloquently. " If we succeed two adverse effects surface out. First, the syndrome of success that leads to failure. Second, the fear that we may lose this success. We get trapped in our own fears." I certainly have felt trapped at times between the 2 adverse effects but I work on this every day. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

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Jennifer Leach-Trask 7/12/2018 · #20

#9 Dear @Pascal Derrien, Thank you for reading my buzz. Your comments were intense....I love your living a successful life on a desert island analogy. You must stay awake all night thinking about these things. You must ring me sometime at 300am as you will likely find me awake and thinking similar things. :)

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Jennifer Leach-Trask 7/12/2018 · #19

#11 Hello @nick-mlatchkov, I think you are on to something. Thank you for taking the time to read my buzz and share your comment.

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Jennifer Leach-Trask 7/12/2018 · #18

#12 Dear@lyonbrave, Thank you for reading my buzz and sharing your feedback. I respectfully have to disagree that no one fears success.
I can't speak for others but I can certainly say that I have experienced this fear. I believe the fear is predicated more on how long a real or perceived success might last and how to deal with any real or perceived failures. I am still working on this and always open to debate with you.

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Jennifer Leach-Trask 7/12/2018 · #17

#14 Dear @Fran 🐝 Brizzolis, ,so glad you enjoyed my buzz and took time to comment. Very much appreciated.

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Jennifer Leach-Trask 7/12/2018 · #16

#15 Dear @Jay-Ann Lopez, you are so right that we are conditioned to feel comfortable. I have a strong feeling that you have challenged yourself with some discomfort and that you are enjoying great success. Thank you for reading my buzz.

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Jay-Ann Lopez 3/11/2018 · #15

We're conditioned to be comfortable not seeking out success. Very good post!

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Fran 🐝 Brizzolis 2/11/2018 · #14

Great post @Jennifer Leach-Trask!! Absolutely true...

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