Into the Heart of the Matter

Into the Heart of the Matter

                                          "Launch in the Dark" Timothy Wall

A recent conversation inspired by Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee buzz "The Conflict Animals" with comments by Harvey Lloyd and others gave this buzz wings.

Harvey Lloyd shared these thoughts, "The word ego has always been a challenge. It seems to have taken on a very negative connotation. But i believe it is natural not only within males, strongly but also females. Ego, or at least my definition, is the acting out of what we believe with great passion and motivation. The dictionary discusses this as 'self esteem and or self importance'. I want my doctor, firefighter or policeman to have ego. I believe we have cross defined ego with "megalomania" and 'vanity'."

We were discussing conflict. My twenty-one year old son enjoys conflict for sport. Sarcasm is just one of his services. His cheekiness makes me laugh like Randall Burns in “Why are you so Fucking Happy?!” and we trade rapid fire retorts in pun battles.    It's a bit like the Zits comics strip.  It's a choice, my choice to enjoy every moment.

Zits --by Jerry Scott and Jim Borgman

And it helps that he has a heart of gold.

Our discussion of conflict and ego ended up at the doorstep of leadership. The buck stopped there. When I think of "ego" or "EGO" I think of hollow bravado.  When I think of leadership, I think of heart.  Harvey, I really think we are in agreement about leaders with passion and vision. We both (all) want the leader to be the "one who shows confidence, believes in the plan or is willing to bet their own safety to include others." as you so aptly stated.

“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor - the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart."
Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame    

Knute Rockne didn't give the "Win One for my Ego" speech, it was "Win One for the Gipper."

Martin Luther King, Jr. didn't deliver the "I have an Ego" speech, he was a leader with a Dream to share.     

My personal philosophy sees everyone as a leader. Everyone contributes. Everyone has value, no exceptions. The African proverb says,  "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." Every new endeavor is launched into the dark unknown or perhaps the blinding light of the future. Whether it's conflict, adventures or launches, I want people around me with heart. 

Louise Smith Dec 19, 2017 · #20

#19 Glad you liked it @Joanne Gardocki !

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Joanne Gardocki Dec 17, 2017 · #19

#11 @Louise Smith, I love it! A picture may be worth a thousand words but a song, a music video is priceless. Thank you for sharing the unique, the flamboyant and oh so well communicated perspective. Point joyfully taken. Thank you for adding to the exploration, I am grateful on so many levels.

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Joanne Gardocki Dec 17, 2017 · #18

#9 @Yogesh Sukal, words fail me. Thank you for sharing thoughts and the gift link to "Magic of singularity and its analogy". Enjoying the present. It could take a lifetime to explore and dance with the concepts. Beautifully written, so grateful in the sharing.

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Joanne Gardocki Dec 17, 2017 · #17

#10 Well and beautifully said, @Pamela 🐝 Williams. Thank you for joining the exploration. Honor in addition to courage reminds me so much of the dialogue in "The Avengers" 2012 movie between Captain America and Iron Man. Tony Stark (Iron Man) sees needless sacrifice and servitude in Steve Rogers (Capt. America). Steve Rogers sees Starks ego, bravado and selfishness as dangerous.

Just like the blind men and the elephant, it feels like our dialogue is brushing against the small parts of something huge. Thank you for sharing the journey.

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Joanne Gardocki Dec 17, 2017 · #16

#8 Dear @Harvey Lloyd your statement, “Not sure of the importance of this discussion but would say that many posts, comments and other places where "words" are chosen, we can see the choice results by how they get reflected back,” is so profound. Thank you for engaging in continued exploration even when importance was unclear. We learn from what is reflected back to us.

Just because “hollow bravado” is the first thing that comes to mind, does not mean “ego” is a bad word or worse has no functional value. Comments here present a much appreciated broader perspective. Ego is also the seat of our personal power, our will to live and thrive in this place and time. Ego is full of emotion; life would be flat without it. Like our inner Child, it can be protective, playful, wounded, spoiled, vengeful, Divine; sometimes all at the same time.

Perhaps, one could say “ego” is our User Interface with our world. Just like a real child needs both nurturing care and discipline, so our Ego requires emotional hygiene, play and discipline to fully develop our highest potential. Thank you, I would not have reached this place without the reflections from everyone around me.

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Yogesh Sukal Dec 17, 2017 · #15

#10 agree with you @Pamela 🐝 Williams courage but with honor. Attaching moral values.

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Joanne Gardocki Dec 17, 2017 · #14

#7 Thank you, @Debasish Majumder, for sharing the gravity of togetherness and support. Perhaps gravity can be an uplifting force as well.

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Joanne Gardocki Dec 17, 2017 · #13

#5 You are most welcome, @Randall Burns. Thank you for sharing the journey with a light heart that touches others.

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