Into the Heart of the Matter
Harvey Lloyd shared these thoughts, "The word ego has always been a challenge. It seems to have taken on a very negative connotation. But i believe it is natural not only within males, strongly but also females. Ego, or at least my definition, is the acting out of what we believe with great passion and motivation. The dictionary discusses this as 'self esteem and or self importance'. I want my doctor, firefighter or policeman to have ego. I believe we have cross defined ego with "megalomania" and 'vanity'."
We were discussing conflict. My twenty-one year old son enjoys conflict for sport. Sarcasm is just one of his services. His cheekiness makes me laugh like Randall Burns in “Why are you so Fucking Happy?!” and we trade rapid fire retorts in pun battles. It's a bit like the Zits comics strip. It's a choice, my choice to enjoy every moment.
Zits --by Jerry Scott and Jim Borgman
And it helps that he has a heart of gold.
Our discussion of conflict and ego ended up at the doorstep of leadership. The buck stopped there. When I think of "ego" or "EGO" I think of hollow bravado. When I think of leadership, I think of heart. Harvey, I really think we are in agreement about leaders with passion and vision. We both (all) want the leader to be the "one who shows confidence, believes in the plan or is willing to bet their own safety to include others." as you so aptly stated.
“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor - the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart."
― Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
Knute Rockne didn't give the "Win One for my Ego" speech, it was "Win One for the Gipper."
Martin Luther King, Jr. didn't deliver the "I have an Ego" speech, he was a leader with a Dream to share.
My personal philosophy sees everyone as a leader. Everyone contributes. Everyone has value, no exceptions. The African proverb says, "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." Every new endeavor is launched into the dark unknown or perhaps the blinding light of the future. Whether it's conflict, adventures or launches, I want people around me with heart.