To be successful or as beBee CEO, Matt Sweetwood, would say, "To Live a Big a Life" one of the first things I learned was I needed to get rid of the losers I was associated with. It's something I've been working for the past several years as I've transitioned away from a career I no longer liked (ok, I hated it) into doing something that I love.
I'm not saying you have to stop sending a Christmas card to that Uncle who is a bit of a lowlife, but you "love em" anyway. What I will say is that you never want to allow losers into your inner-circle or trusted advisors.
Not Everyone Will Understand Your Journey
Some people seem to feel threatened by other people's success. They get jealous easy. They are quick to complain about their circumstances in life but unwilling to do anything about them. So, when they see someone out there who is working extra hard towards a goal in life that they see as being different their reaction is often to try to make light of that person's dreams. These people are not winning and they've stopped growing.
Losers often seek company and convince others that they too should stop going after their dreams of success.
When you are pursuing success in life and attempting to push the boundaries of what is possible, you will have many failures and setbacks along the way. This is just part of the process and something that you have to deal with.
When you allow losers in your life they will use this opportunity to bring you down even further. They will be a constant negative voice in your ear saying things like:
- You should quit while you're ahead.
- Why don't you just get a real job like the rest of us?
- Maybe you just weren't cut out for that.
- Quit now before things get really bad.
- Doesn't it suck to work so much?
Not everyone will understand why you are so driven. They won't understand the long hours. They won't understand your constant quest for knowledge and the opportunity to improve yourself.
I spent years listening to the negative voices in my life and it limited my potential (Not only the potential in my career but my potential to be truly happy in life).
Surround Yourself With Winners
Once you've cut out the losers from your life. The next step is to begin to associate with winners. These are the people that are on a similar journey. Winners add value to your business and enrich your life in many ways. They help pick you up when you fall flat and give you advice on how to do it better next time because they've failed and moved on many times themselves.
When you start hanging out with only winners, their success will motivate you. Losers will encourage you to quit chasing success because they quit on life.