To Be Successful, Get Rid of The Losers in Your Life
Photo: FlickrTo be successful or as beBee CEO, Matt Sweetwood, would say, "To Live a Big a Life" one of the first things I learned was I needed to get rid of the losers I was associated with. It's something I've been working for the past several years as I've transitioned away from a career I no longer liked (ok, I hated it) into doing something that I love.
I'm not saying you have to stop sending a Christmas card to that Uncle who is a bit of a lowlife, but you "love em" anyway. What I will say is that you never want to allow losers into your inner-circle or trusted advisors.
Not Everyone Will Understand Your Journey
- You should quit while you're ahead.
- Why don't you just get a real job like the rest of us?
- Maybe you just weren't cut out for that.
- Quit now before things get really bad.
- Doesn't it suck to work so much?
Surround Yourself With Winners
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Lyon Brave
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CityVP Manjit
6 years ago #55
The real heart of your buzz John is about POWER and the conversation that flows into the world are governed by our emotional road signs. In Comment #65 you write about reclaiming your power and this shows readers how you transformed your being through reclamation of power. A emotional road sign that says LOSER sends hearts driving down old detours, when the real story is POWER. It is like mourners coming to a funeral who are paying respects to someone who died of cancer and the way those mourners relate to the conversation is to recount every cancer story they have heard, but in doing that they drove down their emotional road sign called cancer and in reality did not end up focusing on the deceased and his life. If I am the mourner coming to pay my respects I am apt to both inquire and add to the deceased person's life story and not simply be swayed by the emotional road sign that says cancer. Now if Lisa \ud83d\udc1d Gallagher looks at response #64 it is easier to rev our wheels on a emotional road sign such as "loser", but Lisa's actual story is also one about the reclamation of power. Not only can we easily be distracted by the emotional road sign but a road sign like loser adds gas i.e. Lisa is pressing the pedal on that word Loser even harder because there are so many ignition points that can get us driving at 150mph. As the wheels turn faster in that direction the memories of these kind of people burn deeper rubber tracks in our minds - but the gift that you and Lisa have is actually found on the other road. Memory is like tires, each recollection is us burning our tires and that ironically leaves deeper tire marks. Your story is POWER.
CityVP Manjit
6 years ago #54
Do you John White, MBA what you have written in response #65 because that is the real heart of your buzz. This is a buzz about POWER and the conversation that flows into the world are governed by our emotional road signs. Comment #65 shows me that you reclaimed your power and once people understand how that has transformed your being then your story has emotional road signs that take others who are still hurting down a different road. It is like mourners coming to a funeral who are paying respects to someone who died of cancer and the way those mourners relate to the conversation is to recount every cancer story they have heard, but in doing that they drove down their emotional road sign called cancer and in reality did not end up focusing on the deceased and his life. If I am the mourner coming to pay my respects I am apt to both inquire and add to the deceased person's life story and not simply be swayed by the emotional road sign that says cancer. Now if Lisa 🐝 Gallagher looks at response #64 I want Lisa to see how easy it is to get focused on the emotional road sign, which in this buzz is the word LOSER - but Lisa's story is also about a reclamation of power. Not only can we easily be distracted by the emotional road sign but a road sign like loser adds gas i.e. Lisa is pressing the pedal on that word Loser even harder because there are so many ignition points that a word like loser can get us driving at 150mph. As the wheels turn faster in that direction the memories of these kind of people burn deeper rubber tracks in our minds - but the gift that you and Lisa have is actually on the other road. The emotional road sign that says drive this way to POWER is what you have written in #65 and when Lisa writes about how she has tried to overcome anxiety - each turn of the wheel creates more energy - yes reality is needed bu
Lisa Gallagher
6 years ago #53
That's why English can be hard to learn in the US, not only are there similar words, IE: There and Their but we use terms that may mean one thing to others yet have many meanings to those of us that are familiar with certain terms in the US. Geek used to equate to a weird and awkward person now it's a cool term to call someone a geek.
Ian Weinberg
6 years ago #52
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6 years ago #51
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John White, MBA
6 years ago #49
CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit, I used to but I don't anymore. There were a few years in my career where I started listening to the people that were trying to limit me. They tried to blame me for their own failures. They put me down when I succeeded so I wouldn't threaten their position at the company. I took their insults to heart and began to doubt myself. I wondered if I would ever snap out of it and begin to feel successful again. I went from one toxic company to another. It was a time of a downward spiral for me. After I finally realized that I didn't have to listen to the people that were trying to limit me, I began to grow again. Most importantly, I regained my hapiness. For me, it was important that I begin to listen to the positive voices in my life and find people to bring into my circle that cared about me. People that are achieving success in their own right. People I can learn from and who I can hopefully add value to as well. People I have things in common with. I've found lots of people like this over the past few years and cut out the losers. I call them losers (again at least for me a loser is not someone that suffers losses and setbacks). Maybe you prefer another term for them like toxic individuals, haters, detractors, leeches, bloodsuckers, jerks, etc? However, for me, cutting the few people out of my life that were dragging me down has made a huge difference and I'm not letting them back in!
Lisa Gallagher
6 years ago #48
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6 years ago #47
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6 years ago #46
Dean Owen
6 years ago #45
I get what you are saying John. You mean avoid all the toxic people which is something I do in my life (except on beBee where I am still waiting for a block function). I guess the reactions you provoked are because you called them losers. Toxic people are losers but the opposite is not often the case. Your title just sounds very callous and harsh as does "Surround yourself with winners".
John White, MBA
6 years ago #44
I think maybe we are talking about different groups of people. I'm not defining a loser as someone who suffers a lot of setbacks or someone that truly needs help. We all suffer setbacks and we all need help many times during our lives. What I was suggesting in the post is to cut out the people from your life that make you feel inferior, that put you down, that hold you back, and make you feel worthless. I got to a point in my life where I started listening to what my detractors were saying about me. Doing so made me a very unhappy person cc: Paul \
John White, MBA
6 years ago #43
John White, MBA
6 years ago #42
Rick Delmonico, yes, exactly.
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6 years ago #41
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Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
6 years ago #32
fact is, we are all responsible to create and manage our own energy and surround ourselves with energy that is dear to our heart
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Liesbeth Leysen, MSc.
6 years ago #30
fact is, we all responsible to create and manage our own energy and surround it with energy that is dear to our heart
John White, MBA
6 years ago #29
, that's exactly it. Negative versus positive energy. That's not to say that people with positive energy cannot tell you something that is negative. The difference is they also provide you with solutions. People with negative energy are only there to bring you down.
John White, MBA
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Yeah ! Buzz on ! Matt \ud83d\udc1d Sweetwood the peacekeeper...lol ...We care, but we have work to do, path to follow, journey ahead.- Sharp vision takes clean edges.
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6 years ago #12
Pascal Derrien, I think you may have missed the point as well. It's not us versus them. As I said to Dean, I used to listen to the people that put me down. I used to care what they said about me. I let them limit my potential. I allowed them to make me feel bad about myself. Once I stopped listening to the negative voices in my life, things really started to change for me. I am so much happier now.
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6 years ago #11
Pascal Derrien
6 years ago #10
one valid way of seeing it Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee :-) but this all too one dimensional for me, in the end its not important and that's just semantic :-). People deserve success in their own right and that's a good thing it does not necessarily mean others who don't , don't get it :-)
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6 years ago #9
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6 years ago #8
Pascal Derrien is talking about winners. Winnerd can say YES and can say NO :)
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