Moving from Hearing to Listening: Ask Questions
In last week’s post I discussed how communication is the exchange of information between two or more people. This week’s post focuses on the importance of questions not only to solicit the specific information you seek, but the way in which well-crafted questions can create the space for an engaging conversation. Asking questions can establish rapport, spark another’s interest or curiosity, break new ground, or position your own interest in learning what people around you think.
Here are some tips in asking questions effectively:
- Ask! First of all, don’t be afraid to ask questions! Sometimes shyness, concern over making a mistake or inappropriate question, or fear of being perceived as a nuisance can keep us from asking questions. While some subjects are not appropriate for conversation in the early stages of any relationship, there’s nothing wrong in asking questions per se. Be curious about people —if you’re genuinely interested in a person, you won’t run out of things to ask.
- Ask open-ended questions. There are two kinds of questions based on the scope of the answers they elicit: closed and open-ended questions.
o Closed questions are those answerable by a simple yes or no. Example: “Are you happy with today’s presentation?”
o Open-ended questions, on the other hand, are those that require a qualified response. They are usually preceded by who, when, where, what, how, or why. Example: “What is it about today’s presentation that you find most engaging?”
o Open-ended questions are more effective than closed questions because they evoke thoughtful consideration of the subject and creative thinking.
- Ask purposeful questions. We ask questions for different reasons, and it is important that we are aware of our purpose in doing so, to help us frame those questions better, and keep them relevant.
For example, we can ask questions with the goal of putting the