Closing Doors
Throughout life, doors open and doors close. The openings are exciting: The closings are not. One might look at them like chapters in a book except for with chapters there is always a continuation. If we do not realize this, closing doors slam. Itâs gentler if we acknowledge, early on, that there are stages of lifeâhowever small, that we need to understand.
The birth of my second child illuminated this process for me. In my post The Gift, I traversed the trauma of my babyâs first moments, days, and weeks. I remember vividly saying to myself the door to childbearing had closed. I simply could not bear carrying a child to term and nearly losing her or him at birth.
There are times we need to force doors shut. The situation may be poor, and we need to move on.Â
I have seen many doors shut during my life. The openings are fewer. But the memories that lay beyond shut doors are still there. Sometimes theyâre haunting. When we have unfinished business behind closed doorsâŠ.
A particular memory behind one of my closed doors still haunts me. Itâs this:
These are pictures and a discussion of blown inputs on a microscopic circuit. YesâI knowâwho cares, but I did and still do. The problem dug at me, and I knew my proposed solution would negate the purpose of the device.Â
This device had to be fast, like this:
My proposed solution (which I never spoke up about) would skew the speed of the device. When you work on your computer, you expect things to come up quicklyâin the blink of an eye. If this device reacted slowly because of a circuit changeâoopsâŠ.
But I never piped up and got a. âYes or No.â
My point? We travel on all sorts of roads in our lives. When we close those doors, we sometimes leave unfinished business behind. We also leave behind the people who could give us answers. Itâs time to let go. Grumblegrumble Tickletickle But itâs difficult to do.Â
( I remember little about the work I did, but this blares at me. The truth was, you just had to be damned careful with the device. Static electricity would blow out those little dark spots arrowed on the first circuit photo. Rub your foot on a carpet; touch the device and poof. Lucky me to be responsible for such a device. I kept a can of Static Guard on my workbench. )
Close the door on that one.
My work felt unfinished. Have you left unfinished business behind? Let it go. Itâs healthy to move on in your journey. There are new adventuresânew explorations. Old business will just hold you back.
This oneâs for you Milos Djukic. The memory is a good one for meâexciting actually. But thenâI was an egghead. Quality is poor, and the scan sucked. Looks better in real life. All those little electrons show up in the scan.
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Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #17
Thank you for that note, Paul \. Yes, yes--Twitter away!
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #16
I have no doubt, Louise Smith
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #15
Another very, very true.
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #14
Very very true, Milos Djukic
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #13
Louise Smith
6 years ago #12
Louise Smith
6 years ago #11
Lisa Vanderburg
6 years ago #10
Ken Boddie
6 years ago #9
Milos Djukic
6 years ago #8
Very true Jim Cody \ud83d\udc1d Brand Ambassador.
Milos Djukic
6 years ago #7
Milos Djukic
6 years ago #6
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #5
Very true, Jim. I did open some doors that caused regrets. Don't we all?
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #4
Thank you Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, for your thoughtful comment.
Joyce đ Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
6 years ago #3
True--but isn't it exciting?
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6 years ago #2
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6 years ago #1