Our New Bees
When it comes time to pick a group leader, who are you likely to choose? Would it be one of the people eagerly waving their hands in the air in a meeting or volunteering within seconds from an email invitation? These individuals are probably the same ones who tend to be most outspoken, sociable, and hyped up about an opportunity to be recognized. However, don't let their enthusiasm fool you. It turns out that your best choice of a leader is more likely to be the quiet and reticent person who takes a back seat in public discussions. Researchers are finding that introverts make better leaders than extroverts for one simple reason: they're more likely to listen and pay attention to what other people are saying. It's the introverts you want to choose as leaders, not the extroverts. Obviously, things change all the time. Research changes. Goals change. Cultures in Corporate America are constantly readjusting prior policies and interview techniques. Why? Because we are now in the age of the Millennials in the workplace. They are bringing change. I remember thinking about the old adage, "you don't learn while you are talking!" Thank you Nanny for pounding that into my thick skull ! RIP at 92 !
Dr. Lisa Rosenbaum, a cardiologist at Cornell Medical School, regarding the question of who makes a better physician—the one with the "people skills" who can engage readily in conversation, or the one with a "reticent mind"? At the risk of great oversimplification the answer is the one who seemingly lacks the gift of the gab. Quieter physicians may actually be the ones who will provide you with better medical care. Why is this? Not necessarily because they're smarter or more knowledgeable, but because they're following instructions, checking symptoms more carefully against diagnoses, and ensuring that they systematically go through proper medical procedures. There is much more medical information on this subject, however, I want to pursue another area more specific to being relevant to beBee new writers.
University of Pennsylvania psychologist Adam Grant, and others have conducted research on the personality qualities of effective leaders (Grant et al., 2011). For years, the considered wisdom was that people high in ext have the necessary qualities for leadership such as charisma, ability to stimulate excitement, and engagement with their group members. However, researchers now believe that leadership by extroverts may come at significant costs. Like the physicians with the great bedside manner who may fail to take careful stock of the complaints by their patients, extroverted group leaders aren't always attuned to the needs and concerns of their group members. You may be more likely to give an extroverted leader higher satisfaction ratings, but when it comes to effective management, that same person may fail to maximize your group's actual productivity. This is not the best analogy, but I am using it because I work closely with those who are our future. Nice to know what they are up to.
We have so much
hidden talent here on beBee USA. It benefits beBee and all of us to encourage
our more reticent writers to bring in their work. By doing this, we do become
the encouraging and caring social media. That is what distinguishes us from
others. It also encourages more new bees to jump on board, and that is exactly what we want.
I just finished a course with one of my shrink friends on listening skills. I took some tests, talked too much and finished her sentences ! The tests were timed, and hard. The end result in lay terms ( I love medical terminology ) was that I need to listen more and talk less. Annoying concept, but it had to be done. I ate quite a bit of shoe leather in that session. When I left, I turned my radio up really loud and blew a speaker. Bummer. I was pissed. To hear my voice and tone during that session made me want to drive off a cliff. It was bad, and I do mean bad. So my homework was to write a speech on any topic and record it then play it back. I took a shot of Jack Daniels and went to bed. I waited 2 weeks to do my homework. The clock was ticking for my next session. Finally, she played it back with me and smiled. We also listened to the first tape I had done. Needless to say, she loved the changes. ( I am the one who does the public speaking and even I loved it. I geared it toward medicine, since I mentor, and honestly, it was not even close to what came out of my mouth from the first tape......... Listening.
I hope our new bees are listened to and commented on how pleased we are to have them. Encouraging them and giving them confidence. They are social media gurus who got their first laptop when they were in their cribs ! We are talking mindsets here. It is truth. We will learn a lot from them. I am going to write and article, and make them some junk food. I know that some are getting close to joining. I will take them from square 1 and show them how to maneuver. Scratch that.....they will show ME how to maneuver. I cannot wait.
In closing, I have a one liner for them.
Do not be afraid that your work
is going to be scrutinized and criticized, on the contrary, we are going to give you support, encouragement, and show you with our words that we are the most outstanding social media in the world, as they are thinking "prove it !"
Karen Anne Kramer