Karen Anne Kramer ~ CNN Women Leaders 2015 in Stories Bees In English, Lifestyle Mentor, Editor, Writer, Script Writer • Freelance Writer Oct 18, 2016 · 3 min read · +900

Our New Bees

Our New Bees

When it comes time to pick a group leader, who are you likely to choose? Would it be one of the people eagerly waving their hands in the air in a meeting or volunteering within seconds from an email invitation? These individuals are probably the same ones who tend to be most outspoken, sociable, and hyped up about an opportunity to be recognized. However, don't let their enthusiasm fool you. It turns out that your best choice of a leader is more likely to be the quiet and reticent person who takes a back seat in public discussions. Researchers are finding that introverts make better leaders than extroverts for one simple reason: they're more likely to listen and pay attention to what other people are saying.  It's the introverts you want to choose as leaders, not the extroverts. Obviously, things change all the time. Research changes. Goals change. Cultures in Corporate America are constantly readjusting prior policies and interview techniques. Why? Because we are now in the age of the Millennials in the workplace. They are bringing change. I remember thinking about the old adage, "you don't learn while you are talking!" Thank you Nanny for pounding that into my thick skull ! RIP at 92 !

Dr. Lisa Rosenbaum, a cardiologist at Cornell Medical School, regarding the question of who makes a better physician—the one with the "people skills" who can engage readily in conversation, or the one with a "reticent mind"? At the risk of great oversimplification the answer is the one who seemingly lacks the gift of the gab. Quieter physicians may actually be the ones who will provide you with better medical care. Why is this? Not necessarily because they're smarter or more knowledgeable, but because they're following instructions, checking symptoms more carefully against diagnoses, and ensuring that they systematically go through proper medical procedures. There is much more medical information on this subject, however, I want to pursue another area more specific to being relevant to beBee new writers.

University of Pennsylvania psychologist Adam Grant, and others have conducted research on the personality qualities of effective leaders (Grant et al., 2011). For years, the considered wisdom was that people high in ext have the necessary qualities for leadership such as charisma, ability to stimulate excitement, and engagement with their group members. However, researchers now believe that leadership by extroverts may come at significant costs. Like the physicians with the great bedside manner who may fail to take careful stock of the complaints by their patients, extroverted group leaders aren't always attuned to the needs and concerns of their group members. You may be more likely to give an extroverted leader higher satisfaction ratings, but when it comes to effective management, that same person may fail to maximize your group's actual productivity. This is not the best analogy, but I am using it because I work closely with those who are our future. Nice to know what they are up to. 

We have so much hidden talent here on beBee USA. It benefits beBee and all of us to encourage our more reticent writers to bring in their work. By doing this, we do become the encouraging and caring social media. That is what distinguishes us from others. It also encourages more new  bees to jump on board, and that is exactly what we want.

I just finished a course with one of my shrink friends on listening skills. I took some tests, talked too much and finished her sentences ! The tests were timed, and hard. The end result in lay terms ( I love medical terminology ) was that I need to listen more and talk less. Annoying concept, but it had to be done. I ate quite a bit of shoe leather in that session. When I left, I turned my radio up really loud and blew a speaker. Bummer. I was pissed. To hear my voice and tone during that session made me want to drive off a cliff. It was bad, and I do mean bad. So my homework was to write a speech on any topic and record it then play it back. I took a shot of Jack Daniels and went to bed.  I waited 2 weeks to do my homework. The clock was ticking for my next session. Finally, she played it back with me and smiled. We also listened to the first tape I had done. Needless to say, she loved the changes. ( I am the one who does the public speaking  and even I loved it. I geared it toward medicine, since I mentor, and honestly, it was not even close to what came out of my mouth from the first tape......... Listening.

I hope our new bees are listened to and commented on how pleased we are to have them. Encouraging them and giving them confidence. They are social media gurus who got their first laptop when they were in their cribs ! We are talking mindsets here. It is truth. We will learn a lot from them. I am going to write and article, and make them some junk food. I know that some are getting close to joining. I will take them from square 1 and show them how to maneuver. Scratch that.....they will show ME how to maneuver. I cannot wait.

In closing, I have a one liner for them.

Do not be afraid that your work is going to be scrutinized and criticized, on the contrary, we are going to give you support, encouragement, and show you with our words that we are the most outstanding social media in the world, as they are thinking "prove it !"

Karen Anne Kramer

#16 Thank you John White. Isn't that the cutest Baybee ?

John White, MBA 7 d ago · #18

#17 @Vincent Andrew: Thank you so much for your cross-pollination of my post here on @Karen Anne Kramer ~ CNN Women Leaders 2015's wonderful buzz! All my best to both of you.

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Vincent Andrew 7 d ago · #17

I came across @John White, MBA article where a listening ear helped someone else. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@john-white/where-i-really-earned-my-mba-a-denny-s-on-the-shady-side-of-town. 'Listen more talk less' is a great motto in life.

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John White, MBA 7 d ago · #16

Shared in 3 more hives!

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@Amber Christian . Hi Amber. I can relate to your post ! I am so glad that Gert encouraged you. He does excel and did the same for me when I was new. So happy to see your post. Here to help anytime you need me.

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Amber Christian Oct 18, 2016 · #14

@Gert Scholtz you are completely correct. I finally worked up the gumption to put together a post on a podcast I am launching. Then of course sat on it for 5 days not sure if I should post it or not. Will people hate it? Should I even talk about myself. Ugh! Thank you so much for encouragement to hit that post button, I think we all need more of it. PS- I hit the post button today finally.

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@Gert Scholtz. Hi Gert! How's it goin? Thank you for your support. You nailed it . It is tough to post. I remember a few years ago my hand was so sweaty that I could not even get my mouse batteries changed. I felt like everyone was watching me. I am not sure why ,but every once in a while I question why I am still occasionally introverted. I write all night. No problem with that. Through the struggles I am still always totally comfortable Mentoring . I listen. A close MD to my family told me that I was too hard on myself. I believe that is true! I listen. If you ever need any assistance let me know. KAK

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Gert Scholtz Oct 18, 2016 · #12

@Karen Anne Kramer ~ CNN Women Leaders 2015 How encouraging! I think (don't know for sure) that introverts find it easier to write but more difficult to actually post. To all introverts out there (and I am one) read what Karen has to say!

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