A (not so) subtle message.
From time to time, as the mood strikes, I'll drag out a posting I previously wrote for my other online presence or LinkedIn. My readership on beBee has not likely visited that site and I do take the time to blog with the sole purpose of sharing things I've learned in my journey.
This is Isabel. Our dog. Or should I say my son's dog that somehow has become our responsibility.
Isabel was my muse for today's post.
While "pretty" is not a word you would use to describe her (Why do you put a collar on a pug? So you know which end is which.), she is affectionate and loves being around people.
The problem was, we were short a couple of people yesterday around our house, leaving just me, and a list of things I needed to get done. We moved recently, and the new house doesn't have a fenced yard like the last one, so Isabel cannot roam freely. Added to the mix was an extremely hot day (over 30 degrees Celcius) which doesn't go well with a black dog. So I put her in my son's room (where she normally spends her days) while I went about my task list.
When I let her out of the room, instead of heading for the door like normal, she bee-lined in the other direction. Since her primary responsibilities around the house are sleeping and "hoovering" any food scraps left around on the floor, I really didn't think much of it... until I went downstairs.
There... in the middle of the carpeted floor... were two presents... one liquid... one not. Without a robust vocabulary and lacking opposable thumbs, she left me a message in one of the only mediums she had at her disposal. She clearly wasn't pleased to have been left alone.
Right now you will know if you are a dog person, or not. If you are not (and I'm not judging you), you may fail to see why I'm writing this on a technology leadership blog. Perhaps I've convinced you that you will NEVER get a dog. But I digress.
Having a dog around the house has made me aware of how they communicate with us. They don't have words in our language, but can certainly make a point. I could have viewed Isabel's contributions as a major inconvenience (which admittedly at the time, I did), or see she was trying to say something to me - in this case "I AM NOT HAPPY ABOUT BEING IN THE ROOM".
So where does this fit into leadership?
I assumed that putting Isabel into the room yesterday was the most logical, safe, and convenient thing to do. And in many ways it was.
There are many decisions that you and I make as leaders that impact our teams. These are usually the most logical, safe, and convenient things to do. So we do them, and move on to the next thing.
Do you stop and take a scan of how your team is responding? Have they been sending subtle, or not so subtle messages about the projects they are involved in, their workload, their need for more challenge, and so on?
Let me give you an example of what a subtle message may look like.
Does the chatter in the room go quiet when you enter? Has your team quit coming to you with ideas to improve things?
I think you see the picture.
Building trust with your team is a continuous process, and the responsibility of the leader.
So today I am thanking Isabel for reminding me that I may need to view things from a broader perspective, and that it may be time to spend some "quality" time - getting real feedback, and not just "update" time with my team.
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Postscript:
Isabel (in the photo) above, no longer lives with us. As we became empty nesters, our schedules created an empty house, which is not an environment that is great for such a social animal. Isabel now lives on a farm with 2 other house critters, is never lonely, and I'm sure still making sure there are no food molecules to be found on the floor.
__________________________________________________________________________About the Author:
I'm the Chief Information Officer for Appleby College, in Oakville, Ontario Canada, where my team is transforming the delivery of education through innovative application of technology.
I'm convinced that IT leadership needs to dramatically change how IT is delivered rather than being relegated to a costly overhead department.
In addition to transforming IT in my role as CIO, I look for every opportunity to talk about this... writing, speaking and now blogging on BeBee ( www.bebee.com/@kevin-pashuk ) , LinkedIn, ITWorld Canada, or at TurningTechInvisible.com.
I also shoot things... with my camera. Check out my photostream at www.flickr.com/photos/kwpashuk
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Comments
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #9
Dean Owen
7 years ago #8
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #7
but somehow it worked don't you think Aurorasa Sima
Randy Keho
7 years ago #6
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #5
Randy Keho... I am sure if we all adopted the "Isabel method of displeasure" more managers would certainly take note. But as humans, we find other ways to show displeasure without talking... which truly hampers positive team performance. I fully agree with sharing as much as possible (barring anything confidential) with my team. It helps them make better decisions, and as such, the organization benefits.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #4
Thanks Laura Mikolaitis. As you said "The signals are usually there, but are we aware enough to act upon them?" Thanks for commenting.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #3
Thanks Praveen Raj Gullepalli. It's nice to know the re-posts are appreciated.
Randy Keho
7 years ago #2
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #1
Thanks Donna-Luisa Eversley... That little dog was a tremendous muse. I am sure that more sh# that happens with poor communication, than occurs on the twice daily walks with a dog.