People are like Tea Bags
Phil Friedman has recently dubbed me a “Prairie-Culture philosopher” in his most recent post.
( www.bebee.com/producer/@friedman-phil/about-writing-about-writing )
I’ll accept that badge.
Both my parents are prairie people, and we didn’t waste words in our house.
If there was nothing to say, we didn’t.
I like short pithy sayings, full of wisdom.
If they have some wit in there, that’s a bonus.
Let me share a story with you.
Over thirty years ago I heard a speaker who happened to be from Tennessee. I’ve completely forgotten his name, but one phrase he used to make a point has stuck with me since.
Appropriately enough, in speaking about diligence and tenacity, he said “Stick to it like a hair in a biscuit!”
When the audience did that little head tilt thing, you know the kind when you say something to your dog and they have no clue what you just said? It was that kind of reaction.
He then told the story of where he got that phrase.
He was visiting a young lady’s house for dinner… to meet the parents.
This is not a particularly comfortable experience for any young man, so he was all shined up and on his best behaviour.
The table had been set nicely, since the girl’s mother knew her daughter liked this young man, and wanted it to be a great experience.
As was the custom, fresh warm biscuits were baked and were in a basket on the table.
During grace, when heads were bowed and eyes were supposedly closed, the young man cracked open an eye to make sure he wasn’t being sized up by the dad. Thankfully dad’s eyes were closed as he offered the prayer of thanks.
It was then he noticed a long strand of hair on the table beside his plate.
Being a considerate young man, he realized that his beau’s mother would be aghast that her perfectly set table contained an intruder.
Taking advantage of the moment, he decided to covertly remove the hair from the table… so he reached out as quietly as he could, grabbed the hair and began to slowly pull back his hand…
… at which point the biscuit in the basket, to which the hair was attached, came tumbling out of basket with a loud crash.
We as an audience understood perfectly what he meant by “Stuck to her like a hair in a biscuit”.
What this speaker had just done, is use one of the most powerful tools we can use in writing, speaking and communicating – the simile.
I’m a big fan of similes.
They are short, pithy bits of wisdom that make a point, which for people like me, are easy to remember.
Similes help other people remember what you say.
Sometime they are self-explanatory.
"Mama always said life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get."
Forrest Gump
Others are so bizarre, they make people stop and think.
"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle,"
- Irina Dunn, popularized by Gloria Steinem
Sometimes they are funny.
"I told my wife that a husband is like a fine wine; he gets better with age. The next day, she locked me in the cellar."
"Cleaning the house while your kids are still home is like shoveling while it's still snowing."
Others open the door to telling a story, like I described above.
What does happen, is that your audience remembers the point you were trying to make.
As a leader, or a writer, you say things that you hope people will remember.
Put the power of the simile into your arsenal of tools.
Back up the similes with a story.
Your team and your audience with thank you for it.
Now to close the loop on the title of this post.
“People are like tea bags”.
I first saw this on a fridge door about 35 years ago.
I still remember it.
It comes to mind regularly as I’m dealing with situations.
This shows the power of what I’ve just spent 671 words describing above.
It came to mind this week during the election south of the Canadian border.
Of course there was a second part to this quote.
The whole quote reads
“People are like tea bags. Their true flavor doesn’t come out until they are in hot water.”
Sign on a fridge door.
What’s your favourite simile?
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About the Author:
I’m the Chief Information Officer for Appleby College, in Oakville, Ontario Canada, where my team is transforming the delivery of education through innovative application of technology.
I'm convinced that IT leadership needs to dramatically change how IT is delivered rather than being relegated to a costly overhead department.
In addition to transforming IT in my role as CIO, I look for every opportunity to talk about this... writing, speaking and now blogging on BeBee (www.bebee.com/@kevin-pashuk) , LinkedIn, ITWorld Canada, or at TurningTechInvisible.com.
I also shoot things... with my camera. Check out my photostream at www.flickr.com/photos/kwpashuk
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Robert Cormack
6 years ago #58
Kevin Pashuk
6 years ago #57
Louise Smith
6 years ago #56
Thank you Gerald Hecht They are particularly Australian. Another is "How's your Mother's chooks?" means how are you & yours? Try that on a Japanese National ... :(
Louise Smith
6 years ago #55
Louise Smith
6 years ago #54
Louise Smith
6 years ago #53
Louise Smith
6 years ago #52
Louise Smith
6 years ago #51
Louise Smith
6 years ago #50
a rudd at a strip show ?
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
6 years ago #49
CityVP Manjit
6 years ago #48
Louise Smith
6 years ago #47
• If it was between that and drinking vomit, I’d have to sit down and think about it. I like this gruesome on Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee
Kevin Pashuk
6 years ago #46
Thanks for the recommendation Gerald Hecht. I just bought the e-book on Amazon. I don't think it will have the same impact as a 'big stick' replacement as the hardcover.
Kevin Pashuk
6 years ago #45
David Navarro López
7 years ago #44
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #43
The problem is that true metaphors are rare. We most often speak in similes --- which some grammarians consider a sub-class of metaphors. Personally, I identify metaphors as similar in structure and function to conceptual models. For example, water running in pipes (which can be directly observed) is often used as a conceptual model for electricity "running" in wires (which cannot be directly observed). The downfall of relying too heavily on a metaphor is that metaphors are also rarely completely isomorphic with that which is the co-reference of the metaphor. For instance, bee society and its social structure can be used as a metaphor for the structure of social media. (Wow! That's a novel idea ain't it?) But while we may like to play around with bees buzzing about, making honey, cross-pollinating, and so on, we might not like some other aspects of the metaphor. Namely, the fact that a bee colony functions as a multi-part, but single biological entity, in which the individual being of its members is submerged in, and subordinated entirely to the will and the welfare of the collective. Very much like the Borg Collective in the Star Trek series.And very much the anathema of what free people value highly, namely, free and individual belief and exchange., Cheers!
Wayne Yoshida
7 years ago #42
Someone had to do it!
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #41
Apology accepted Gerald, and if you ask Jim Murray, there is no such thing as a superfluous Dylan quote.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #40
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #39
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #38
When I first arrived in London, Ontario to teach at the University of Western Ontario, I went to a downtown movie theater with my wife. That was back before digital control in the projection room. The movie started, but there was no sound. Everyone in the theater waited patiently. About 3 minutes went by with no sound. We all realized that the projectionist had started the movie, but then stepped out of the projection booth to do something else, otherwise he or she would have realized the problem. If nothing was done quicly, we would miss a significant portion of the movie's sund track --- or have to wait while the entire thing was rewound. So being a crass American, I began shouting through cupped hands at the top of my lungs "SOUND, SOUND, SOUND!" Which was standard procedure in the culture from which I came. Everyone in the theater --- all Canadians I presumed --- turned to stare at me as if I were absolutely crazy. Of course, when the sound came on very shortly thereafter, they all gave me a standing ovation. Polite in their personal deportment at all times. Cheers!
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #37
Thanks Phil. You are as polite as a Canadian.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #36
Yes, Alexa, one of the tip offs of a simile is the word "like", as in "People are like tea bags". But I wasn't going to point that out to our host, for I am too polite. :-)
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #35
Thanks Jim. I'm having some fun at your expense on the Twitter Chat tonight...
Jim Murray
7 years ago #34
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #33
Shhhh., They are having fun Irene. We'll correct them later...
Ken Boddie
7 years ago #32
for sure, Kev, but then the world would be as quiet as a nun at a strip show. 😂
Randy Keho
7 years ago #31
Every name in the book.
Wayne Yoshida
7 years ago #30
Funny. I realized I didn't actually answer your question for favorite metaphors. Here's one from my infamous boss long ago: "He doesn't know his ass from a hole in the ground." I always hope those guys don't play golf.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #29
Gee... I wonder if the Producers of that movie got the jump on their competition?
Wayne Yoshida
7 years ago #28
#31 Mad rabbits? Like this movie? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Night_of_the_Lepus
Harvey Lloyd
7 years ago #27
Yes the day i new i was old.....i repeated that "metaphor" to my own children. As i remember the whole family fell on the floor laughing during a very serious disciplinary hearing. Maybe we will find that preverbal bridge one day and meet our friends and have a drink or two. Lift our mugs to mom!
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #26
Thanks Erroll, I'm sure we have enough material for several posts on the concept of 'true flavour'.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #25
Thanks for reminding me Ken that if the Aussies didn't have colloquialisms, they'd have nothing to say.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #24
You are welcome Sharon.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #23
Thanks Praveen.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #22
Mad as a rabbit? Perhaps it is all the 'hops' in the fine craft beer I indulge in on occasion Pascal. Where I grew up we used "Mad as a mother bear"... most of us knew exactly what that meant.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #21
Your mother and my mother must have gone to the same school. I can't tell you how many times I heard "If Michael jumped off a bridge..?"
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #20
I don't need to use my Canadian imagination Randy... I have UrbanDictionary.com to explain things to me... You are right, the definition is best not posted here. What did she call you?
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #19
Thanks Franci! Javier does appear to have enjoyed himself coming up with his comments.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #18
Sweet T'underin Jesus! Thanks Renée. In my draft version I had reference to both Canada's East coast and the US's Deep South and their use of idioms. Thanks for bringing some of them to the forefront.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #17
Thank you Don for allowing this post to get by the NSFW filters...
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #16
You are welcome Laurent.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #15
Thank you Ali. Your compliments are always so flavourful.
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #14
I had forgotten that one Wayne. My mind is like a steel trap... rusted shut.
Ken Boddie
7 years ago #13
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #12
Harvey Lloyd
7 years ago #11
Randy Keho
7 years ago #10
don kerr
7 years ago #9
Laurent Boscherini
7 years ago #8
Ali Anani
7 years ago #7
Wayne Yoshida
7 years ago #6
Or, like we said when we were kids -- what's worse than seeing a worm in your apple? Seeing half a worm.
Phil Friedman
7 years ago #5
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #4
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #3
#2 It would seem Javier beBee that we share a love of metaphors, like two peas in a pod, or bees in a hive.
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
7 years ago #2
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
7 years ago #1