Kwesi Millington en Public Speaking, Coaching and Mentoring, Coaching 23/9/2016 · 1 min de lectura · +400

The 2 Magic Words in Speaking

There are 2 motivating factors that get people to do ANYTHING. The desire to obtain pleasure and the desire to avoid pain.

The more powerful motivator is the desire to AVOID PAIN.

If you understand this and use this factor when you speak, you will be miles ahead of most speakers. You will often hear speakers say “Do this... to get this...” They tell their audiences to take an action or follow a piece of advice, to get a desired outcome. What you will see less often is a speaker that says, “If you don't do this....this will happen...”

What is the difference? The first statement appeals to the listener's desire to obtain pleasure. The second appeals to the listener's desire to avoid pain. Most speakers appeal to the first. If you appeal to the second as well, you will be far ahead of the game.

So how do you do that easily? Use 2 words...Most People”. Listen to the first minute of this clip from one of my favourite speakers, Les Brown.

The 2 Magic Words in Speaking

In the first minute of this clip, Les Brown uses the words “Most People” 3 times. Why? Because it appeals to the desire to avoid pain. When people hear “Most People” then a negative action, they think “I don't want to be like Most People! I want to be different!”

Speaker Les Brown is masterful at this skill. He often uses the 2 magic words, “Most People” to instil fear into people. Most people don't take action. Most people never set goals. Most people never pursue their dreams.

Most people often think of motivating people only in the positive sense - “I must motivate them to DO something.” Remember that people will move mountains to avoid pain as well – sometimes more readily than to acquire pleasure.

So remember the power of pain, and that you need to remind people of the negative consequences of NOT doing something as well.

Kwesi Sekou Millington

Speaker, Mentor, Coach

Sara Jacobovici 23/9/2016 · #3

Let me take this opportunity and welcome you as a new Bee @Kwesi Millington!!

I appreciate your Buzz, well written and insightful. (I hope you don't hear the "but...") From my perspective, however, this may feed into the "illusion" that I am not like most people when in reality I have done everything that most people have done. I may not want to continue to do those things because when most people do them it doesn't turn out well. That is why I am trying to learn how to do it differently. So the pain I am trying to avoid is the pain I have already been most people. Why can't we focus on the fact that all people go through pain, even the successful ones and it is this experience that enables us to persevere and succeed. I see pain as a communication, our body or psyche is letting us know something is happening, alerting us, bringing our attention to something. It may not feel good, or we may not like it but, in many ways, thank goodness for it. Thanks for the opportunity to take part in this discussion Kwesi.

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Renée 🐝 Cormier 23/9/2016 · #2

You've given us a great way to start the day. Thank you, Kwesi.

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Donna-Luisa Eversley 23/9/2016 · #1

I like Les Brown, he is quite an inspirational speaker with great stories and advice. Thanks for sharing the magic words @Kwesi Millington

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