To Be or Not to Be Praised for a Job Well Done
A few years ago, while managing one construction project, I saved a considerable amount of money for my current employer. Except for the praise thrown in passing, “Good job!”, I wasn’t given more commendations for what I have successfully done.
Until last year, I didn’t get the chance to talk to my employer about this matter. Having a difficult conversation with my superior about another construction project, I mentioned the said savings. I told him that my efforts and results seemed to have gone unnoticed at that time.
He answered, "This is what we expected of you. It’s your job."
His response really surprised me. It seemed that I was expecting a lot of praise for doing the job I was supposed to do. He showed a different approach to this subject from my previous employer who has often praised people. I felt a bit confused and didn’t want to discuss it further.
Then a moment of clarity happened!
Even though I knew I did a good job, I wanted to be patted on the back by the upper management for my positive performance.
I remembered a quote I read once. It says that the deepest principle of human nature is a craving to be appreciated. It’s so true! To be honest, we all need and want to be praised, accepted and appreciated. The praise makes us feel that our work is valued.
But we cannot be praised constantly or always praise others.
That conversation opened my eyes. I’ve learned not to expect applause for everything I do. I've always tried to do my work the best I can and for its own sake. A job well done makes me feel so good on the inside because my efforts have yielded positive results.
I lowered my expectations. The “good job” praise, if or when I get it is enough for me now.
But I still have a habit to praise and give positive feedback to the people I work with. We all need positive incentives to perform at our best, at least from time to time.
I am aware that both positive and negative feedback is important for continuous improvement. In work and life, there is a time and a place for both. It took me time to learn how to accept negative feedback and see value in it for me.
Despite the fact that I changed my expectations, I still think that people should be praised for a job well done. Or even for putting extra efforts into doing their tasks, no matter what the outcome. But not all the time! It devalues the praise and its purpose.
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Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #35
What a great story, Jerry. More than once, I experienced being overwhelmed by the extraordinary performance and joined the audience in giving a standing ovation to performers. But being patted on the back for doing a good job is more like tepid applause. :)
Jerry Fletcher
prije 5 godina #34
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 5 godina #33
Ali Anani
prije 5 godina #32
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #31
Thank you for commenting, my fellow countrywoman.:-) The constant and regular feedback is an important part of the construction management. "Praise for well done job can motivate and improve performance." This particularly applies to the construction industry where keeping projects on budget (and time) is essential.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #30
Sorry for typos! :-)
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #29
"For a skilled person his ability to actually realize his potential is probably worth more than any praise he receives." I agree with you, Vincent Andrew. Every project I've managed was a kind of "training ground" where I was able to express my full potential. Indeed, a well-done job when accomplish that way is a reward in itself. It makes me feel good and proud of myself, but it doesn't hurt if my superior shows appreciation for what I do, from time to time. What I need more than any 'praise' is a relevant feedback about my performance. I'm not the only one responsible for the success of the project. Every member of a team should be recognized and praised for their contribution and effort, but also to identify what can be done to improve our performance in future. Sorry for the late respones. :-)
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #28
#31 Dear Fatima, thank you for joining the conversation. It's indeed a topic that causes heated discussions at every employer's cafeteria. Just this morning I had a conversation with my girlfriend about her superior and a lack of open communication, which affects the performance.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #27
Ian, I like your definition of 'praise' - the expression of the acknowledgement of all 5 factors, from having a purpose and giving meaning to the goals, to the value of our contribution to self and to the environment. Thanks for pointed out the issue of sustained performance.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #26
"Every employee needs regular feedback, whether positive or negative, and the obvious time is when work is being done (or not)." I couldn't agree more! As I said, I'm not addicted to praise but I need to know whether my work meets the expectations and set goals, or there is still room for improvement. Thank you for reading and commenting, Ken. I always enjoy interacting with you.😊 I like well done, not too well done. 😂
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #25
"Every employee needs regular feedback, whether positive or negative, and the obvious time is when work is being done (or not)." I couldn't agree more! As I said, I'm not praise-addicted but I need to know whether my work meets the expectations and set goals, or there is still room for improvements. Obviously, a well-done job was not so well. :-)) Thanks for reading and commenting, Ken. I always enjoy in our interaction. 😊
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #24
It sounds like a good practice, Franci, but it's not the case in my workplace. It shows the importance of open communication between employer and employees, as well as getting effective feedback on a regular basis. Thank you very much for reading and contributing to the discussion. Thanks for sharing. :-)
🐝 Fatima G. Williams
prije 6 godina #23
🐝 Fatima G. Williams
prije 6 godina #22
🐝 Fatima G. Williams
prije 6 godina #21
These 5 elements are spot on and so is this buzz Lada. A discussion that takes place at every employer's cafeteria. Why can't managers go one step ahead to show their appreciation. #25 Ken I share your sentiments on the comments and honestly it ticks me off sometimes.
Ian Weinberg
prije 6 godina #20
Ken Boddie
prije 6 godina #19
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #18
Michael, I couldn't agree more! You've described the exact difference between these sectors as I've experienced first-hand, particularly the lack of management-to-employees communication. The other problem in public sector, at least in Croatia, is the loss of motivation because there is no system of employee performance evaluations and contribution rewarding.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #17
Tausif, thank you my friend for sharing your work experience. You mentioned one reason that some bosses use as an excuse not to praise their employees – that praising make us overconfident. For me, it's just a bad excuse that is given by people who don't know how to acknowledge good work and how to motivate employees.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #16
Thanks dear Julio for the positive feedback. Much appreciated!
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #15
Thanks Paul! I’m trying my best but sometimes it isn’t enough. This is the first time I write about specific work experience. I’ve tried to express my point of view on the topic I find very intriguing. I bet you are a great boss who rather rewards than criticizes. 😉
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #14
I completely agree, Chris. A sincere non-monetary based praise is a powerful motivator. Thanks for commenting.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #13
Thanks for such an eloquent comment, Praveen. Unfortunately, we live in outcome oriented society. The focus is mainly on the results. I would like that employers appreciate the extra efforts putting into doing the tasks. Sometimes the outcome doesn’t depend on an employee but on a higher power and various circumstances. I agree that how, whom and when to praise is an art itself. Those who have mastered that art are successful bosses who build up others.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #12
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #11
I forgot to thank you for sharing and for your continued support. 😊
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #10
I know that, Milos, and I understand your point of view. Although I work at University my job is related to construction industry. I’m involved in the development and construction of the University Campus. I worked previously at a construction firm, so I have experienced the difference between public and private sector on this matter.
Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez
prije 6 godina #9
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #8
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment, Michael. It sounds like a cliché. But isn't. :-) Indeed, there is a big difference between the hollow praise in passing and an authentic appreciation communicated in a meaningful way. Ongoing communication between management and employees is essential. As an employee, I need to know whether my work meets the expectations and set goals. When giving a bonus or raising the wage is not an option, as at my current workplace, then the praise in a form of detailed and encouraging feedback is very important.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #7
Thank you so much on your thoughtful comment, Michael. It sounds like a cliché. But isn't. :-) Indeed, there is a big difference between the hollow praise in passing and an authentic appreciation communicated in a meaningful way. Ongoing communication between management and employees is essential. As an employee, I need to know whether my work meets the expectations and set goals. When giving a bonus or raising the wage is not an option, as at my current workplace, then the praise in a form of detailed and encouraging feedback is very important.
Paul Walters
prije 6 godina #6
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #5
As I mentioned ones, your comments are more than welcome, Phil. And it’s not excessive praising because they are meaningful, eloquent and on topic. You are a driving force behind many comments threads. This is a short explanation for my saying “Great comment!”. :-) Your comment on my post is just a kind of positive feedback I meant when I wrote the final thought. The post topic is something that many employees (if not all) talk about. My previous employer knew how to reward extra efforts that in turn led to positive outcomes. Besides pay raise, the employee of the month plaque sometimes was more than enough reward that showed his appreciation for employee’s hard work. I don’t expect to be constantly patted on the back, but occasionally received specific feedback is more than welcome. Thanks for the kind words. And thanks for sharing, too. Much appreciated!
Lada 🏡 Prkic
prije 6 godina #4
Jerry, you're right. The problem with expectations is they are mostly at odds with reality. But how and when to give praise is something that distinguishes good from bad bosses.
Milos Djukic
prije 6 godina #3
Phil Friedman
prije 6 godina #2
Jerry Fletcher
prije 6 godina #1