Lada 🏡 Prkic en Lifestyle, beBee in English, Social Media Head of Technical Development Department • University of Split 7/3/2018 · 1 min de lectura · 2,4K

Why Exposing Your Private Life to Virtual Strangers?

Why Exposing Your Private Life to Virtual Strangers?

Being a regular user of beBee and LinkedIn, and occasionally Twitter, I lately caught myself thinking about how I less and less understand the whole world of social media and people doing things the purpose of which is difficult to comprehend

Maybe it is because I am firmly grounded in reality and never think of doing things on social media I wouldn't do in real life

Before acting comes thinking. 

One of such things that puzzle me is when people write about and share every intimate detail of their private life.

Private lives are more than ever exposed to the public eye, gradually losing the boundaries between the public and the private. The Internet and social media have introduced a revolution with incalculable consequences for all relationships including the most intimate, transforming not only an individual but also society. Somebody said that privacy became a lost art. 

Have you ever asked yourself what it would look like if you stand on a street corner telling passers-by every possible detail of your life and showing them a handful of photos of yourself, your family and friends, no matter how bizarre?

Is there any difference between this act and sharing online the most intimate details of your life. I've been reading such posts even on this platform which included details about author's sex life. Why would anybody care about it? Some things in one's life are much too personal to be made public.

We share details of our lives even when we comment on blogs. When I share some facts about my life through commenting, the reason is to foster bonding and a sense of community. But also, I have to feel comfortable with what I have written before pushing the comment button.  

I stick firmly to this rule:

Never say anything in social media that you don’t want to see on a billboard with your name, logo, face, and phone number attached, with your client/boss/mother driving by.
Scott Stratten

What information about one's personal life make sense or have a purpose to share? 

If I ever decide to share personal stories on social media, the first question would be how will it affect people around me who are involved in these stories. How will they accept the idea of writing about their health issues or any other intimate information, including mine?

Would my writing help or inspire someone else or I write for cathartic purposes, to get the problem off my chest? Why would I talk about myself and expose my life to virtual strangers in order to feel better and not to people closest to me in real life?  Is there a reason that something private and personal become public?

I would also ask myself, do I share meaningful information? Although, what is meaningful for me doesn't have to be for someone else. 

We are owners of our stories but not every story merit sharing. 

It is not my intention, nor am I in the position to share tips. It is a personal choice. These are just my thoughts and understanding the purpose of exposing private life on social media. I have a lot to figure out why people tell such stories online.

To me, there is always a line between public and private. I am voicing my private life, but not on social media. 

What is your answer to the question written in bold?

Louise Smith 22/6/2018 · #48

Thanks @Lada 🏡 Prkic I didn't see this buzz originally.

I think it is one of the best I have read.

I like to read beBee Buzzes particularly by the people who have commented on this buzz (including you the writer)
I think we are all considerate of each other even if we have different opinions
Also I like the authenticity & honesty consistently reflected by these bees
I occasionally post on other platforms but find they lack something - the honey maybe?

Honey is not just sweet
Some varieties are stronger tasting

In Aus, we have a unique honey called Leatherwood from Tasmania - the bottom island state that often gets left off the map !
It's very strong almost bitter
I don't like it
I think it's an acquired taste like single malt whisky

But I hope you understand why I mentioned it here.

This link is included only for information not for sales

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Louise Smith 22/6/2018 · #47

#33 This made me laugh "I can't even understand why people do some stuff in real life. "

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Louise Smith 22/6/2018 · #46

#16 @Chris 🐝R Guest
You might be surprised at the age range of people who are upset by Social Media comments &/or bullying
The oldest person I counsel for this is 75yo

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Louise Smith 22/6/2018 · #45

#2 This is something I struggle with when counselling every day

Louise Smith 22/6/2018 · #44

#2 @Harvey Lloyd "we each have our box of rocks that represent who we are" in general terms what are each these rocks called ? Success? Pride? Happiness? Illness? or "Harvey" "Louise" ? Just curious as this sounds like a useful counselling metaphor

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Brian McKenzie 18/4/2018 · #43

Everyone wants you to share your life and be 'authentic' .......just as long as it matches their comfortable corner with kittens, rainbows and inpirational memes......otherwise - shut the fuck up.

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Lada 🏡 Prkic 17/4/2018 · #42

#41 I also feel the same, Franci. It seems like beBee is getting out of lethargy. :)

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#39 I will be featuring our fantastic beBee women in my upcoming Hive Talks and have one partially done. I gather all my information and put it in a Word doc and then transfer it to Producer.

I feel a sense of new excitement on beBee!!

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