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It's Holiday Party Time. 3 Tips To Be Ready For Informal Networking

It's Holiday Party Time. 3 Tips To Be Ready For Informal Networking

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The holiday season is upon us and with it office parties, gatherings of friends and family, charity events, volunteer opportunities, and more. While we all like to kick back and relax it's also a time when we get to meet people in a casual context. And when you meet someone, what is the first question you are inevitably asked? As natural as can be you have an opportunity that may turn into your next job or a business deal with a little time. 

Holiday parties give you the opportunity to talk with people you would not normally meet. In networking language these people are called weak connections because you don't have a solid relationship with them yet. Weak connections are the most likely place you will find someone who can help you. There are many reasons for this but one to think about is that if your close connections could help you they already would have. So what should you be doing now to be ready?

Here are Three Tips to Help You Be Ready

1. Know What You Want

The place to start is: knowing what it is you want next. Are you looking for an opportunity to develop and demonstrate new skills? Are you looking to move to a higher level? Perhaps your want to change careers all together? Start a part time business? Increase your income? Or perhaps you don’t know what you want next but you know you want something different or more.

Take some time now, not in January, to reflect on where you are in your career. Are you satisfied with how it’s developing? Most people are disappointed with their year end evaluations, how will you want to respond if you are disappointed?

2. Prepare for the Inevitable Question

When you attend any event the inevitable first question asked is:

“What do you do?”

Are you ready to answer that question in a way that moves your career forward?

This is where most people tell you to come up with some sort of corny elevator pitch. The idea is right, but most elevator pitches are obviously that and just fail to engage and a make a connection with the person you are talk with. Yes, you want to be prepared with something short that describes what you do but don’t make it a “pitch”. What is it that you find fascinating about your work and the work you want to be doing? If you find it fascinating you’ll probably get someone else interested too. And remember to incorporate where you are going, not just what you did in the past and are doing currently. For example:

I lead a team the sets up computer systems that record credit card transactions and look for fraud before it happens. I am looking for new areas where I can apply what I've learned to help improve a company’s financial performance.

3. Have a Clear and Powerful Ask

If you really know what you want next, ask for it. Not necessarily directly from the people you talk to but rather ask them if they know someone who can help. Whether you are looking to serve on a board, learn a new skill, find a mentor or even looking for someone to fill an opening, ask others for what you need. If you never ask the answer is always no. Here is an example:

Just keep in mind, you're networking any time you are meeting people and to keep it appropriate for the context you are in. No one wants to be at a party with someone trying to close a sale. But, best of all it is a time to begin and develop a genuine relationship. 


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About the Author

41f9f386.jpgLarry Boyer is a beBee Ambassador and helps people and businesses prepare for the changing and evolving economy of the 21st Century. He does this through combining his work with advanced analytics, business strategy and personal development, changing emphasis to meet the specific needs of his clients. He founded Success Rockets LLC in 2009 in the shadow of the financial crisis to address the career development needs of people in a rapidly shifting economy. Success Rockets(R) evolved to include the evolving challenges from the 4th Industrial Revolution, disruptive technologies and the business models of the Gig Economy. He is both a Certified Business Economist (TM) and  Associate Accredited Coach, providing a truly unique set skills to help his clients succeed. He is a recognized leader in both analytics and coaching, speaking and writing on both topics. 

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Larry Boyer

7 years ago #11

#16
Thanks for sharing your article Sushmita Thakare Jain! I left a comment and shared it too.

Larry Boyer

7 years ago #10

#15
Thanks Franci\ud83d\udc1d Eugenia Hoffman. Hopefully more people will give this some thought before the time comes so they can make a powerful connection.

Sarah Elkins

7 years ago #9

#8
I know exactly what you mean, Larry Boyer. When I was lamenting my lack of local opportunities in comparison to my global network, my friend reminded me of this saying: "You cannot be a prophet in your own town." It's hard for people who know you well to see you from a different perspective.

Lisa Gallagher

7 years ago #8

#9
Exactly Larry Boyer, there are so many interesting topics to talk about or questions to ask, that the dreaded question doesn't even need to come up. I have to admit, there are some people I know fairly well on here (virtually) and I haven't looked at their profiles in ages, so I don't know what they do. I won't ask either. I guess to the point, we have more interesting things to talk about. I hate to admit this out loud but when I was new to the town I live in I was asked at different Women's Club meetings, "Sooo, what does your husband do?" I got so tired of that question I finally blurted out to one woman, he picks up garbage. I'm not saying that's a bad job but in the minds of many of those women if your husband wasn't in an Executive Role you weren't 'one of them.' Guess what... I figured out fairly quick I didn't want to be one of them. I found other groups and causes with people I enjoyed. At the time he was the Director of IT at our Hospital. I was young and a bit spunkier then ;-)

Larry Boyer

7 years ago #7

#10
I look forward to seeing it @SushmitaThakareJain. Be sure to share it!

Larry Boyer

7 years ago #6

#3
Lisa Gallagher has a great idea too, come up with a different question you can ask others. Whether you're answering or asking a question, if you want a more interesting result prepare ahead of time. Otherwise you get the standard answers that have little thought and don't advance the relationship.

Larry Boyer

7 years ago #5

#7
Sarah Elkins Strong connectins - those who you are closest to - can be problematic for a number of reasons. Often, they don't really understand what you do (unlike someone else in your profession). As an example, a while back my wife (at the time) excitedly told me about a type of job I should look into - decision analytics - after talking with someone about it that day. I had to show her my business card (again) with the title of "Director of Decision Analytics". Unless you've got a real powerful personal brand, often those closest to you see you in a particular way that's hard to break out of.

Sarah Elkins

7 years ago #4

Good ideas here, Larry Boyer, for any time of year. I never thought about the "weak" connections in relation to strong ones in that way, and that definitely makes sense - if strong connections could help, they probably would have already. It's hard to know, though, if you don't ask. I find that some strong connections simply don't know what we want, which makes it harder to help. Lisa Gallagher, that question is so common, so I try to mix things up when I meet people. I might ask: "Did you grow up here?" or "What are you reading these days?" Another good one is "what do you do in your spare time?" Eventually we might get around to the what do you do question, but many times I never get there. My husband will ask me later and I'll say: "Huh. We never talked about that!"

Lisa Gallagher

7 years ago #3

Excellent suggestions Larry Boyer. I always hated the dreaded question, "So what do you do, or what does your husband do?" I know many ask that because they aren't sure what else to say when they first meet someone but it comes off as pretentious. You wrote, "Whether you are looking to serve on a board, learn a new skill, find a mentor or even looking for someone to fill an opening, ask others for what you need." These are great questions to bring up in the proper manner.

Larry Boyer

7 years ago #2

#1
Thanks . It's easy to end up missing opportunities at this time of year. We just have to aware of our situational context and not be over the top. Thanks for your support!

David B. Grinberg

7 years ago #1

Larry, these are spectacular tips which should be leveraged by all those seeking to improve their networking abilities during the holiday season and beyond. Very nice buzz!

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