Why Do We Make Decisions That Don't Pan Out?
Many of us have trouble making decisions
- Some of us ignore the issue hoping it will go away or solve itself of its own accord
- Some of us allow our emotions to escalate till we are exhausted
- Some of us get anxious to the point of paralysis or emotional and physical illness
- Still others of us procrastinate till we are stuck with no way out
But there's no reason for doing any of these things to ourselves
Especially not if we entertain the idea that we have a CHOICE
It’s surprising how many people don’t even consider that they might have CHOICE
Decision making is about CHOICE
Not thinking, feeling or doing (although these may be part of the process)
But about CHOICE
THEN it’s about Motivation to make the CHOICE
Explore the options available
Decide on positive & negative outcomes
then
CHOOSE what’s best for you either in the short term or the long term whichever is the most workable
The options available may not be all that easy or palatable
but at the very worst we can choose the least invasive
We may have to use steps to reach the actual CHOICE we really want
But if we are motivated, determined and work on each part
in time we can construct the whole
At the very least we can CHOOSE to ACCEPT the best or a not so great option
“I don’t want to do this. But it’s part of my job and I CHOOSE to ACCEPT it”
By making this decision we are calmer.
We can get on with the job, getting it done better and faster as we are not fighting ourselves
or continuing to be angry about the situation
It’s the old grit your teeth, bear it and with just a spoonful of sugar or CHOICE,
the medicine will go down one way or another
What things in your life could you change by deciding to ACCEPT you have a CHOICE?
Louise Smith PSYCHOLOGIST F2F Tele Online Counselling
(Assoc MAPS) (QCT), B. A. (Hons) (Psych) (Japanese & Music), Dip. T. Prim. & Spec. Ed. (Hearing Impaired)
Make Positive Life Changes; Improve Assertiveness and Self Esteem
Deal with Depression, Anxiety, Anger and Stress
Cope with Workplace Issues - Team work, Setting Goals, Problem solving
Enoggera Health Practice Brisbane Queensland Australia
Email: smith.louise@optusnet.com.au
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Comments
Sara Jacobovici
6 years ago #14
Louise Smith
6 years ago #13
Thank you Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven for your comments You've explained so well the development of being able to conquer fear to make a choice in a situation beyond your control. Most people find it hard to come to terms with things that are out of their control and end up making themselves ill as a result. We all like fairy tales even in today's digital world like Cinderella, Snow White, Swan Lake, Sleeping Beauty, Rapunzel, Robin Hood and you know many more. We all know what happens. It starts with Once upon a time there's a beautiful maiden in danger and distress who is saved by a handsome prince on a white stallion and they all live Happily Ever After. It's surprising how this fantasy is still lived out in our everyday life because it's better than stark reality. So making a choice may or may not turn out right but as no one has a crystal ball that really works, we need to step out of our comfort zone to experience something new and to learn even if it's from our mistakes.
Louise Smith
6 years ago #12
John Rylance
6 years ago #11
Louise Smith
6 years ago #10
Louise Smith
6 years ago #9
Louise Smith
6 years ago #8
Randall Burns
6 years ago #7
Pascal Derrien
6 years ago #6
without fuelling clichés I could say almost anything now sometimes the choice has a reduced spectrum , I am diabetic so I can choose to be either a victim or do something positive with it so I lead a Diabetic and Chronic Condition friendly 30K cycle every 8 weeks for example small things like that :-)
Louise Smith
6 years ago #5
What things in your life Pascal Derrien could you change by deciding to ACCEPT you have a CHOICE?
Louise Smith
6 years ago #4
Thanks I understand You make complex decisions including plans for different scenarios The best kind of process !
Pascal Derrien
6 years ago #3
you need to always boundaries or limits to where one can accept to be dragged on once you reach that limit you should made the decision either way... pursue, stop, redefined or dump
Louise Smith
6 years ago #2
Hi Pascal Derrien Could you please explain this a bit more ?
Pascal Derrien
6 years ago #1