How do I deal with situations out of my comfort zone without ending up CRAB MEAT?

Pascal Derrien wrote about confronting 2 very uncomfortable situations.

It’s very well written. I could feel his distress. I recommend you read it !

Here’s the Link
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@pascal-derrien-leinster/random-thoughts-about-crab-meat-the-dimness-of-life

When you are first confronted with situations of death and dying for the very first time, you will be at a loss and in shock

You may then be dealing with

* Feelings of helplessness and inadequacy which can become anger and and guilt

* Anticipatory grief: a grief reaction that occurs before an impending loss.

Typically, the impending loss is a death of someone close due to illness

but it can also be experienced by dying individuals themselves.

Can you remember the first funeral you went to? What did you do? How did you feel?

And fast forward to a time when you had been to a number of funerals.

What was different?

It's like anything, the first time is the hardest but then you establish coping strategies.

So even if the event is terrible, you are as much at a loss even if you have strong feelings.

Often what to do is really simple.

Just be there. You don’t need to talk all the time, it’s the companionship that is most appreciated.

This is helpful:

https://www.cancercouncil.com.au/96305/cancer-information/general-information-cancer-information/advanced-cancer-general-information-cancer-information/end-of-life-advanced-cancer-general-information-cancer-information/providing-emotional-support-for-someone-dying-with-cancer/