12 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR TALK MORE VALUABLE

1.) DON’T EXAGGERATE YOUR CONNECTIONS: Don’t tell people you have abundant resources and capabilities to get people to like you. This is a very manipulative thing to do, and you are also attracting people for the wrong reasons.

2.) AVOID TELLING BLATANT LIES: Sometimes we make promises we know we won’t keep. Instead of breaking promises, just don’t promise people things and keep your mouth shut.

3.) LET YOUR ACTIONS SPEAK: Instead of promising people things just do it. If you want to take someone to a concert, just show up with tickets one day, and keep your mouth shut rather than promising them. Promises that remain unfulfilled can be very hurtful.

4.) KEEP YOUR SECRET:  Lose lips sink ships. We can reveal too much when we talk and this alone can sabotage our plans. Discretion is a strength and much different than telling a lie. You don’t have to reveal everything about yourself to the world.

5.) CHANGE THE SUBJECT: You don’t want to always talk about yourself and you certainly don’t want to be gossiping about other people. Nobody trusts a gossip and gossips are usually liars. There are so many topics to discuss, that only talking about yourself is rather vain and destructive.

6.) SPEAK FROM YOUR HEART: When you do talk be sincere, be genuine. Don’t say what you think people want to hear. Say what you mean.

7.) DON’T BE A PEOPLE PLEASER: Don’t use your words to give out fake compliments and to suck up. People pleasers aren‘t cool…

8.) BE INTERESTING: If you are going to talk, have something to say that peaks people’s interest. Don’t bore people with your conversational skills.

10.) LISTEN TO YOURSELF: Sometimes, what we say is greatly altered by the influence of others.We might not talk at all in the presence of others. However, it’s important to have a dialog with ourselves, because we have no reason to be dishonest with ourselves. When we talk to ourselves, it’s therapeutic, like praying.

11.) TALK IS CHEAP: Talk means nothing if we don’t follow through with what we say. We have to walk the walk or we are just a big mouth liar and a failure.

12.) DON’T BE A BUSYBODY: If you are not a part of the problem or a part of the solution, stay out of it.