Did Femminism Kill Feminine?

A lot of men don’t understand why feminism is necessary and that is because they haven’t been made to feel fear on a daily basis. They have never been sexually violated after having a few too many drinks, or touched inappropriately in an elevator, where a man thinks it’s fine to just spank a strange woman's ass. Men don’t get rejected from jobs for having tits, or excluded from conversations for having pussies.  

Women have to have feminism because men have machismo, which is a strong or exaggerated sense of traditional masculinity placing great value on physical virility, domination of women, and aggressiveness. Basically,macho attitudes are things like men are superior to women, women should be seen and not heard, a woman's place is in the kitchen not the courtroom, and all women are really good for is sucking dick not conversation or friendship and certainly not engineering,technology, construction, mathematics or business. .

Our fellow bee Irene 🐝 Rodriguez Escolar said,“People with macho attitudes and behaviors regard women as inferior beings, with fewer rights than men. The feminist movement, on the other hand, tries to achieve an egalitarian society, in which there is an equal opportunity for women and men.”It’s clear we need a strong feminist women to elevate the status of women globally, but that doesn’t mean we have to lose our Femininity to do it.

With that being said, is Feminism Killing Feminine?

Though feminist come in all shapes and sizes, I have been running into the manly feminist frequently. The manly feminist can easily be mistaken for a man, is likely to wear oversized clothes not to show her shape off and may have a thin mustache under her lower lip. One of the most complicated sectors of feminism to navigate is beauty. Beauty is a standard. Beauty has it’s criteria and beauty is something not every woman has, though the majority do.To be honest like my male counterparts, I find it nasty when another woman does not shave her body hair and her armpit hair gets so long she starts to look like a gorilla. Men even shave their legs rather frequently in Asia as a beauty aesthetic.

In present times, women have been fired from their jobs for not wearing makeup. Melanie Stark was forced from her job in sales at Harrods in for refusing to wear make-up.Even in the 21st century women have been expected to adhere to extreme standards of thinness, blonde-ness and hairlessness in order to keep our jobs. Whether or not women should have to wear makeup or not at a job, really depends on the job. There are many industries that focus on beauty, entertainment, and are excessively catering to men. It is not easy to simply say it is wrong to fire a woman for not wearing makeup.It really depends on what industry she works in.

Though some people say we force women into these conceptualizations of beauty, I want to remind women that it is okay to like facials and the color pink. Getting your nails done doesn’t make you any less strong. And spending an hour in the bathroom on your hair and makeup doesn’t make you any less smart, capable or concerned about society.

We often talk about that dangers of shaming people for being their authentic self, but it seems to me unenlightened feminists shame feminine women for being feminine and that is counter-intuitive. Being a feminist does not mean trying to become a man. Ironically, especially in the lesbian community, I see women mimicking macho attitudes.

I don’t know how to say this politely or in an educated manner, so I will just say it. I am sick of the bull dyke feminist making me feel bad for desiring heterosexual normative behavior like the desire to date a good looking man, getting married and having a baby together. There is nothing wrong with women wanting to have babies with men.Women are designed to have babies and the penis was designed to go into the vagina.

Irene Rodriguez Escolar said, “Within feminism there are different currents of thought and ways of approaching the discrimination situation of women.”I guess just as men need to keep in mind how they talk to women, women need to keep in mind how they talk to women about their identities as women  are vastly different from one another.