Lyon Brave in Lifestyle, Professions, Workers, Careers, College Website Developer, Influencer, Content Creator, Advertisement, Marketing • Brave's World Jun 16, 2017 · 2 min read · 1.8K



Realistically,  it’s not possible to always be happy and always think positively, nor is that an honest way to interpret information. With that being said, when we are angry and crying, that is what privacy is for. Even when we strongly disagree with something we need to disagree with it in a calm manner. Anger will only lead to an explosion because you can’t fight gasoline with fire. 

Contrary to popular belief, other people matter just as much as you. As mentioned in my mindful memo, it is not our right to create drama and holler just because we are upset. In fact, this is the behavior of a child. As adults, we need to conduct ourselves with a certain amount of restraint at all times. This restraint not only means controlling our actions but our words.

We teach our children to be congenial and polite for a reason, which is to maintain harmony. It’s a social responsibility to be happy and harmonious when we enter the public space. It’s a social responsibility to cultivate and encourage positive thinking in others and ourselves.

Controlling our tempers is a social responsibility. As individuals we should control our wrath as best we can. If we let an enemy provoke us, it will cause more injury to us and others. The feeling of revenge is powerful and motivating, but it is wise to let these feelings die, so we can keep our life’s intact and not be consumed by hatred in one quick moment. If we allow someone to provoke us at a bar, the next thing we know our life is ruined, for one brief moment of anger. Keeping calm is always the best option because it guarantees us the most long-term freedom.

The human race is only as strong as our weakest point. Humans forget they are a hive group or a herd. Humans are part of a pack. 

Humans are individuals second and members of greater civilization first. If humans are to be perfectly honest, we hate being alone. It’s unnatural for us and I say this as a huge introvert and someone who has spent most of my time alone. I love my alone time, but too much seclusion creates a misunderstanding of almost all information interpreted because when we are analyzing it alone we have no checks and balance system. We have nothing to indicate we have lost our minds and our completely delusional or wrong in our thinking.

The more we isolate ourselves and claim to have introverted preferences as a reason to do so, the more we become disconnected from humanity and reality. The more disconnected from humanity we become, the more we distrust people and the world around us. The more we isolate, the less we know how to engage and be human. Too much alone time leads to depression because it’s antisocial and antisocial behavior can lead to hate for the fellow man.

This is of course, a two-sided coin, as spending too much time with other people can create its own problems and delusions. To walk the middle path, there has to be a balance in all things. We need to talk to people. They help us understand ourselves and the situations we are in. How we talk to ourselves is crucial in our development and how we talk to other people is crucial to our development and theirs. Words matter. What we say has an impact. What we say has ramifications. We can shape others mental landscapes by how we speak to them, which is a great power to be aware of. If we are charismatic and influential in our speech we can shape countless people’s behavior just by having a conversation with them.

In the same vain if we are rude and judgmental, we could cause someone to become anxious, stressed and to ill-behaved. People are in control of themselves, but how we treat them affects them, and we need to take responsibility for this chain reaction that occurs within human interaction. A terrorist is made, not born.

Tricia Mitchell Jun 19, 2017 · #21

#9 I enjoyed reading your reply @Harvey Lloyd. You're absolutely right about the degree of trust missing in society & globally. I was a sign language interpreter for many years and that placed me in a privileged place of being privy to information not normally available to those outside of certain professions. At times, it also created professional dilemmas e.g. during a hospital appointment, being briefed by the doctor that a Deaf patient was dying, the doctor shared information with me that I'd rather she'd shared with her colleagues.

As a linguistic & cultural mediator, I would normally ask that things be made explicit (e.g. when they make somebody "comfortable", you know they mean that the end is near). Yet, by the bedside, this doctor did not use any euphemism that I could ask to be unpacked in the name of cross-cultural mediation. The patient's daughter & wife, both Deaf also, never got the chance to say goodbye. I knew he was dying, so did the doctor. That weighed heavy on me for a long time. Was trust eroded? Misplaced? I know it's not strictly related to your reply, but definitely, like you say, "We do need to rebuild that trust where boundaries can once again be fortified and trusted."

I agree about being cautious, especially reading stories of 1 punch fatalities or fights leaving people paralysed. Yet, what we put out, in terms of our vibration, we will energetically attract. I'm not saying anybody is to blame, at all, but I'm not thinking "the world's a dangerous place" because I don't want to court that. Thanks for responding to my comments, Harvey.

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Tricia Mitchell Jun 18, 2017 · #20

#13 Hi @Lyon Brave I appreciate the follow and have reciprocated. Thank you for agreeing with many of the points I expressed. When I first entered the world of personal development and I would complain about how somebody was behaving, the trainer would challenge me by saying it wasn't necessarily what the other person was doing, but how I was see, hearing and perceiving it, according to my map of the world. It certainly didn't feel like it at the time.

But, yes, what one person says, and how another person filters that information, attaching meaning to it can lead to altercations - both verbal and physical! We're not in control of how another person perceives us, but we can try to articulate ourselves in a way that minimises ambiguity & be willing to repair miscommunications, working towards a shared understanding of meaning, even if we do not share the other person's view.


Great article

Harvey Lloyd Jun 18, 2017 · #18


Risk management is a multi dimensional field. The field that i am referring too, that has taught me well, is the ability to understand the risk in moving forward with deals, people or situations. In essence leadership. I am still an understudy and work hard each day to learn more.

Our actions, words and body language demonstrate to others our intentions. Roger Dawson (The Link above.) opens with everything is controlled or owned by someone else. If you want something, then it is best to understand the person who has what you want. For me this is the risk management aspect of social interaction. If you don't want anything then just be you. If you want something then one should measure the cost of win-win on both sides and present accordingly.

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Cyndi wilkins Jun 18, 2017 · #17

"Truth is whatever we don't face up within ourselves and the flaws are deeper within us when we have not learned to handle our own selves, for if we can't be at one with our own selves how the heck do we expect to do that for others?"

Thank you @CityVP 🐝 Manjit...nailed it;-)

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Yogesh Sukal Jun 18, 2017 · #15

Nice points @Lyon Brave, this atticle reminds me the animation movie inside out. Which depicts always happy or joy is the solution. Movie was fun and cleverly explained emotions.

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Lyon Brave Jun 18, 2017 · #14

@Harvey Lloyd i would like to learn more about you small business. I would like to learn more about risk management.

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