Why you should get comfortable with being 'an outsider'
Do you consider yourself a rule follower or rule maker?
Most people would like to think of themselves as an independent, or influential rule maker. But the truth is that most of us a are very compliant rule followers of other peoples' ideas.
The reason for this stems from way-back.... long, long ago.
From earliest of times, people have huddled together in caves, lived in villages or towns and congregated with those who share a common view on life.
Our lives can be described by the social structures we create:
Social groups; etc...
It’s fair to say that people have become expert at coexisting with others. Even if it’s painful, we can find ourselves suppressing ideas, thoughts, preferences that are different from those around us.
The mindset that has been handed down to us by our ancestors is one of ‘fitting-in’ with the social norms instead of risking being rejected.
The point is that "being different" = "an being an outsider."
“As long as you are alive, you will either live to accomplish your own goals and dreams or be used as a resource to accomplish someone else's.” - Grant Cardone
If you want to influence others, to make change and 'get your way' - you will need to face a hard truth.... It's impossible to be a rule creator and a rule follower at the same time. You will need to accept that what comes with leading change and getting your own way, is a level of discomfort from being the person who steps out-of-line, bucks the trend or goes against social norms.
The good news is that with the right preparation 'being different' can get easier. All you need is the right mindset - a change-ready mindset. In fact, with the right mindset, 'being different' can become strangely exciting - even fun! All you have got to do is take that first step and say, "I am a prepared to develop myself - to become a rule maker - to acquire a new and empowered mindset".