Mark Anthony en Dr. Margaret Aranda: Stirring Authors Along, Inspiration, beBee in English Team Manager • Evolve Housing + Support 10/11/2016 · 1 min de lectura · +800

Non -Judgemental Or Judging

 Non -Judgemental Or Judging

For those who work in a variety of social care professions, you would no doubt have come across this word.The number of times it appears on application forms is said at interviews and the many that proclaim " I have a non-judgemental attitude when working with vulnerable adults" are countless. However , is it possible the claim to be non-judgemental  received in the correct context of what the deliverer intended

What does it mean? 

Non-judgmental implies open-mindedness, rejection of uninformed assumptions, and avoidance of blame. It may also suggest a capacity for compassion and empathy.

Non-judgmental is a descriptor that conveys the opposite meaning to the pejorative sense of value judgment: it expresses avoidance of personal opinion and reflex "knee-jerk" reactions.

The above are two descriptions of the word descriptions that fit nicely with what I think being non-judgemental entails. However , I know that being non-judgemental is a challenge and, some would say not possible. 

I recently attended some training on group facilitation and one of the words that came up a lot in response to the attributes needed for effective group facilitation was objective.It was mooted that we cannot be completely objective there will always be an element of subjective .I always thought being objective was in some  way connected to being non-judgemental. Then I found this description

(of a person or their judgment) not influenced by personal feelings or opinions in considering and representing facts

impartial, unbiased, unprejudiced, non-partisan, disinterested, non-discriminatory, neutral, uninvolved, even-handed, equitable, fair, fair-minded, just, open-minded, dispassionate, detached, impersonal, unemotional, clinical

I particularly list the above descriptions of objective as I am considering the word  in terms "of a person", relationships, opinions and judgment made in relation to what a person say's, does, behaves, chooses to live their life and write, for instance. Rather than in a grammatical sense.

And, all the above got me really thinking about the complexities of language and the words we use, the meanings we attribute to them and how they might have very different meanings for different people from different fields of thought and , indeed different memes and cultures.

If I were to say I strive to be non-judgemental and objective with my clients would that be understood as I intended? Would it actually mean anything? And, most importantly for me is there a contradiction here?

Is it something we can turn on and off?

For me when I use the word non-judgemental I am intending to convey the following

 Open-mindedness, rejection of uninformed assumptions,  avoidance of blame and a capacity for compassion and empathy.

This is the description that best suits what I intend to convey when I say it. The assumed fact that objective involves  "impersonal & unemotional" cannot, therefore, fit alongside my use of non-judgemental.

Which leads me to the views, opinions, critique, debate and anything else we apply  when commenting on people's posts. If these comments are applied in a non-judgemental manner according to the above then this is A-OK.

Yes we are judging, commenting and offering critique but that does not make us judgemental

Get to the point 

There is no point unless you wanna point a finger. As someone said to me once, though, " when you're pointing a finger there are two pointing right back at you" Or maybe it was three pointing back at you

Mark Anthony 11/11/2016 · #10

#4 Thank you for reading and commenting Ben, you make a good point :)

Mark Anthony 11/11/2016 · #9

I like Discernment Harvey as it implies the ability to judge well. However, does discernment leave room for compassion and empathy? Or, is discernment more akin the ability to be astutely objective?Thank you very much for taking the time to read and comment, thank you all, much appreciated​. #5

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Mark Anthony 11/11/2016 · #7

This, I think is the complexity of words and the varying definitions attached to them, IMO. Actually, the definition I choose is " the capacity for compassion and empathy" not compassion alone, just for the sake of being compassionate.Thank you for reading and commenting Aurorasa.#2

Mark Anthony 11/11/2016 · #6

Thank you for reading and commenting Julie, a good point I think.#1

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Harvey Lloyd 11/11/2016 · #5

@Mark Anthony you bring up two excellent points, judgement and the differences professionals have concerning definitions. The word judgement can be confined to a Solomon styled definition or can be used in the professional world to display an expertise upon a situation or goal. "In my judgement, i think this is a great idea". I found that words i have defined and used are not necessarily the same definition to the ears i speak. This can cause misdirection or apathy at its extreme end.

Judgement implies, "through my wisdom and experiences", something is wrong or right. In the past in order to judge one had to be able to support their judgement with sound facts and experiences. Not that agreement would be held by those in the group but you had to withstand inquiry. This is not necessarily so in today's very fast pace media cycles.

Today's definition of judgement implies a right/wrong styled evaluation by an individual without consideration of outcome. "The new goals are great or they are impossible", with full explanation of personal limitations. Discernment on the other hand, implies the seeking of information towards the outcome. Both words in definition speak to a process of seeking an outcome. My thoughts are, discernment allows me to communicate in such a way to seek understanding first. Judgement shuts everyone out as the view or comments are final.

We can all seek discernment up until the point we cant. No need to start with judgement.

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Ben Pinto 11/11/2016 · #4

#1 and #2 - GOOD POINTS

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Aurorasa Sima 11/11/2016 · #2

Interesting definition. Thank you for sharing! I would probably not use the term compassion to describe non-judgemental, as it implies you judged a situation.

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Julie Hickman 11/11/2016 · #1

I often have no point and now I feel good about it :-) Thank you @Mark Anthony for the food for thought!

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